5 Ways Narcissistic Abuse Change You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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I am on burnt out on a daily basis, no amount of sleep is ever enough when it comes to living with my narcissistic and toxic masculine younger brother but my mom will not let me kick him out of our apartment. My body muscles and feet are always in pain because I live in such high stress, and even trying to get anything done that I want to do for myself is impossible. When having music played all night long and morning very loudly and even him living in trash and never cleans up after himself. One of our bathrooms smells like a potter potty and our living room looks trashed. His own cats dislike him and we all live on eggshells. Whenever he is hurting emotionally or physically he takes it out of everyone in the apartment, from my mom, me and his cats. He will not feed his cats or clean their littler boxes if he is hurting. He swears at my mom, cuts her off when she tries to help me and even swears at her at times. My mom down plays his behaviour and down plays my feelings about my brother because she just wants peace, but their is no peace when it comes to my brother only using us for his needs. He loves playing the victim, and even acts like he dying of cancer, when my mom is fighting for her life because of cancer. He is a man-child who is always the victim of his life, when really its him that is causing use extra stress that isn't needed. I self-sacrifice and self-sabotage myself because he belittles me all the time, people in our plaza that we shop at are actually worried for my safety because they see how he treats me in public. Sorry for the long post, I have no one to talk to or turn to about this stuff.
In real time right now 4: 19 pm Sunday, July 16th 2023. He is blaming me for him chosing to live in trash and a trashed out room and bathroom that smells like a potter potty. He is also belitting me from another him. He is also yelling that no one should talk to him, he loves playing up the victim stuff. He always finds something to blame on me. He is unbearable to live with.
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I am on burnt out on a daily basis, no amount of sleep is ever enough when it comes to living with my narcissistic and toxic masculine younger brother but my mom will not let me kick him out of our apartment. My body muscles and feet are always in pain because I live in such high stress, and even trying to get anything done that I want to do for myself is impossible. When having music played all night long and morning very loudly and even him living in trash and never cleans up after himself. One of our bathrooms smells like a potter potty and our living room looks trashed. His own cats dislike him and we all live on eggshells. Whenever he is hurting emotionally or physically he takes it out of everyone in the apartment, from my mom, me and his cats. He will not feed his cats or clean their littler boxes if he is hurting. He swears at my mom, cuts her off when she tries to help me and even swears at her at times. My mom down plays his behaviour and down plays my feelings about my brother because she just wants peace, but their is no peace when it comes to my brother only using us for his needs. He loves playing the victim, and even acts like he dying of cancer, when my mom is fighting for her life because of cancer. He is a man-child who is always the victim of his life, when really its him that is causing use extra stress that isn't needed. I self-sacrifice and self-sabotage myself because he belittles me all the time, people in our plaza that we shop at are actually worried for my safety because they see how he treats me in public. Sorry for the long post, I have no one to talk to or turn to about this stuff.
In real time right now 4: 19 pm Sunday, July 16th 2023. He is blaming me for him chosing to live in trash and a trashed out room and bathroom that smells like a potter potty. He is also belitting me from another him. He is also yelling that no one should talk to him, he loves playing up the victim stuff. He always finds something to blame on me. He is unbearable to live with.
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Allie
I found out, after leaving a narc relationship of 15yrs, that i have a lot of demyelination (scarring of the myelin sheaths in your brain, which can sometimes cause multiple sclerosis - if the scarring is in certain areas
My neurologist claims its because i smoke and that i wasnt getting enough oxygen, but beg to differ, as i have never been a pack-a-day smoker. At that point, i was smoking maybe 5 per day. Fun fact about neurology. we haven't been able to fully understand our brains yet, so a lot of what they say is speculation. I asked him if chronic stress could be a factor, and he said maybe, anything is possible which told me he had zero clue why i have these 20+ lesions in my brain. I honeslty think its from chronic stress and emotional trauma from gaslighting, conditioning, downplayjng and degradarion over that long period of time.
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I found out, after leaving a narc relationship of 15yrs, that i have a lot of demyelination (scarring of the myelin sheaths in your brain, which can sometimes cause multiple sclerosis - if the scarring is in certain areas
My neurologist claims its because i smoke and that i wasnt getting enough oxygen, but beg to differ, as i have never been a pack-a-day smoker. At that point, i was smoking maybe 5 per day. Fun fact about neurology. we haven't been able to fully understand our brains yet, so a lot of what they say is speculation. I asked him if chronic stress could be a factor, and he said maybe, anything is possible which told me he had zero clue why i have these 20+ lesions in my brain. I honeslty think its from chronic stress and emotional trauma from gaslighting, conditioning, downplayjng and degradarion over that long period of time.
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Matthew
This video hits hard! My dad and brother were narcissists, and the friend who smeared campaigned me at the beginning of high school was a narcissist. People made fun of me during high school, but what they didnt realize is that I was suffering from years and years of narcissistic abuse. It was a living hell! For example, getting told everything I did was wrong and having everything wrong with me pointed out. I had became so numb from this abuse that my all around health spiraled out of control, especially my dental health.
I was finally diagnosed with PTSD in 2020. When my brother claimed that he did such a great job toughening me up, I finally snapped. While I have not cut them out entirely, I have definitely distanced myself from them. EMDR therapy plus distancing has helped me get my life back.
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This video hits hard! My dad and brother were narcissists, and the friend who smeared campaigned me at the beginning of high school was a narcissist. People made fun of me during high school, but what they didnt realize is that I was suffering from years and years of narcissistic abuse. It was a living hell! For example, getting told everything I did was wrong and having everything wrong with me pointed out. I had became so numb from this abuse that my all around health spiraled out of control, especially my dental health.
I was finally diagnosed with PTSD in 2020. When my brother claimed that he did such a great job toughening me up, I finally snapped. While I have not cut them out entirely, I have definitely distanced myself from them. EMDR therapy plus distancing has helped me get my life back.
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Siphonophore
Okay, this is honestly pissing me off. Narc abuse is not a thing, never has been and never will be. Same with borderline abuse. People really need to stop demonizing people with cluster b personality disorders, and just mental illness in general. Not all people with npd are abusers, and acting like they all are is a real sht move. You're literally ableist if you believe that everyone with npd is abusive. And you aren't responding or listening to people calling you out, which makes me think that you know that you are wrong for making posts like this.
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Okay, this is honestly pissing me off. Narc abuse is not a thing, never has been and never will be. Same with borderline abuse. People really need to stop demonizing people with cluster b personality disorders, and just mental illness in general. Not all people with npd are abusers, and acting like they all are is a real sht move. You're literally ableist if you believe that everyone with npd is abusive. And you aren't responding or listening to people calling you out, which makes me think that you know that you are wrong for making posts like this.
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Carpenter
Hey look another example of the man being the problem instead of the female I'm gonna spend only one more minute and I'm sure I will find over a dozen instances of this without even trying. Once again proving my comment posted on a separate video moments Ago. If you are trying to genuinely help everyone instead of make it seem as though the female is always the victim and they cannot be the perpetrator in any of these scenarios. Then maybe it would be helpful to actually make the female clearly the perpetrator in some of these scenarios.
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Hey look another example of the man being the problem instead of the female I'm gonna spend only one more minute and I'm sure I will find over a dozen instances of this without even trying. Once again proving my comment posted on a separate video moments Ago. If you are trying to genuinely help everyone instead of make it seem as though the female is always the victim and they cannot be the perpetrator in any of these scenarios. Then maybe it would be helpful to actually make the female clearly the perpetrator in some of these scenarios.
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bob_computer
I used to be friends with a narcissist for years until I had finally had enough because I saw that they started to branch off and affect other people. Having an outside view, I could finally see the monster I was friends with and turned it into a big drama resulting in him losing all his 'friends' and me having space to heal. I wouldn't change anything that happened to me in the past though, because then I wouldn't be the person I am now who I've learned to love!
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I used to be friends with a narcissist for years until I had finally had enough because I saw that they started to branch off and affect other people. Having an outside view, I could finally see the monster I was friends with and turned it into a big drama resulting in him losing all his 'friends' and me having space to heal. I wouldn't change anything that happened to me in the past though, because then I wouldn't be the person I am now who I've learned to love!
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msnxs23
I think I have a big sister who is narcissistic. She abused me emotionally since I was 6, 7 and I fcking hate her. She never listened to what I had to say, she made me think that I was fine when I really wasn't, she acts like she she can do whatever she wants to to me, she played with my emotions, she made me believe that my emotions didn't matter and she is one of the people that crushed my confidence. I want to cut ties with her with the first chance I got.
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I think I have a big sister who is narcissistic. She abused me emotionally since I was 6, 7 and I fcking hate her. She never listened to what I had to say, she made me think that I was fine when I really wasn't, she acts like she she can do whatever she wants to to me, she played with my emotions, she made me believe that my emotions didn't matter and she is one of the people that crushed my confidence. I want to cut ties with her with the first chance I got.
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Zebra
I am 26 and I have and my mom is a narcissist and has guardianship of me and I feel trapped and have no idea how to get out of this trap I have called the department of health and senior services and the vulnerable adult abuse hotline to no avail I am treated like a pet will you please do a video about narcissistic abuse and people with developmental disabilities and have narcissistic parents as their guardians
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I am 26 and I have and my mom is a narcissist and has guardianship of me and I feel trapped and have no idea how to get out of this trap I have called the department of health and senior services and the vulnerable adult abuse hotline to no avail I am treated like a pet will you please do a video about narcissistic abuse and people with developmental disabilities and have narcissistic parents as their guardians
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standard
no bcs why do yall be calling it narcissistic abuse like NPD is an actual mental disorder, it doesn't make people inherently abusive or bad, why don't yall call it what it is? It's emotional abuse don't add to the stigma of ppl with NPD. I got abused by a nerd as a kid but I don't go around saying I survived nerd abuse.
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no bcs why do yall be calling it narcissistic abuse like NPD is an actual mental disorder, it doesn't make people inherently abusive or bad, why don't yall call it what it is? It's emotional abuse don't add to the stigma of ppl with NPD. I got abused by a nerd as a kid but I don't go around saying I survived nerd abuse.
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Nevaeh
It's our fault to for still believing that a narcissist will ever change. It means we're dumbasses who are hopelessly optimistic. It's just like when the Cricket wanted to see the good in Jack Horner, even though it was plain obvious he was an irredeemable monster. Narcissists are irredeemable, plain and simple.
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It's our fault to for still believing that a narcissist will ever change. It means we're dumbasses who are hopelessly optimistic. It's just like when the Cricket wanted to see the good in Jack Horner, even though it was plain obvious he was an irredeemable monster. Narcissists are irredeemable, plain and simple.
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User
Finding soap under my bed so funny man get a life you are disgusting for what you have done. And one day all your abuse will come on to you in the worst way possible. Admit it? & contiously. I will literally not let you leave or do anything. I work at work place. Come on who leaves soap under the bed?
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Finding soap under my bed so funny man get a life you are disgusting for what you have done. And one day all your abuse will come on to you in the worst way possible. Admit it? & contiously. I will literally not let you leave or do anything. I work at work place. Come on who leaves soap under the bed?
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Idazmi7
What if you have mental health issues, and no money to pay a professional for anything? What do you do then? I'm a right and proper mess, and I can't even pay someone to help me through it. No one in my social circle takes me seriously. To them, I just need to toughen up and stop complaining.
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What if you have mental health issues, and no money to pay a professional for anything? What do you do then? I'm a right and proper mess, and I can't even pay someone to help me through it. No one in my social circle takes me seriously. To them, I just need to toughen up and stop complaining.
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hairmaxxing
we shouldn't be demonizing mental disorders lmfao a person with NPD can't suddenly change their thought process. yes, they're still bad ppl for abusing u but js call it abuse only.
also the omori thumbnail doesn't even make sense. new omori fans r so obnoxious
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we shouldn't be demonizing mental disorders lmfao a person with NPD can't suddenly change their thought process. yes, they're still bad ppl for abusing u but js call it abuse only.
also the omori thumbnail doesn't even make sense. new omori fans r so obnoxious
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tinykatsuki
there's no such thing as narcissistic abuse. y'all should educate yourselves and stop being ableist and stop stigmatizing people with npd. keep the same energy for every disorder/illness.
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there's no such thing as narcissistic abuse. y'all should educate yourselves and stop being ableist and stop stigmatizing people with npd. keep the same energy for every disorder/illness.
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Yalovychyna
Psych2go, what if you want to find a person to whom you will serve? To someone more wise. Of your own free will. Is such an idea a consequence of something negative or is it the normal?
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Psych2go, what if you want to find a person to whom you will serve? To someone more wise. Of your own free will. Is such an idea a consequence of something negative or is it the normal?
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LyzWyzrd
You know what, I'm fed up, I've just learned that I've been changed by narcissistic abuse and researched what it is. My parents abuse me in this way, I'm done, I'm reaching out for help.
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You know what, I'm fed up, I've just learned that I've been changed by narcissistic abuse and researched what it is. My parents abuse me in this way, I'm done, I'm reaching out for help.
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Warren
I feel the effects for all of them except number 1. My brain got damaged from be exposed to alcohol, beer in particular, when I was a fetus. The result is being born with ADD.
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I feel the effects for all of them except number 1. My brain got damaged from be exposed to alcohol, beer in particular, when I was a fetus. The result is being born with ADD.
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education
Sure narcissistic abuse exist but not all are horrible people, most are probably trying to cope with being a narcissist. Try and think about the narcissists themselves
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Sure narcissistic abuse exist but not all are horrible people, most are probably trying to cope with being a narcissist. Try and think about the narcissists themselves
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Who
Sadly I was raised by both narcissistic parents and Im 24 still living w them and let me just say the abuse is spot on accurate I just dont know how to reach help
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Sadly I was raised by both narcissistic parents and Im 24 still living w them and let me just say the abuse is spot on accurate I just dont know how to reach help
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Resku
Could you make a video about a friend i lost? I need help to get over it. I really miss him man. We used to play gmod together like it was nobodys business.
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Could you make a video about a friend i lost? I need help to get over it. I really miss him man. We used to play gmod together like it was nobodys business.
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MellieMELZ
Really wish I knew of these things earlier in life. I'm glad I did learn about these things. Everything is really validating.
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Really wish I knew of these things earlier in life. I'm glad I did learn about these things. Everything is really validating.
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Ali
1: 41 but to my defense the girl is right but I would be saying! Stop complaining about these CDs you could get it next time
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1: 41 but to my defense the girl is right but I would be saying! Stop complaining about these CDs you could get it next time
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Omney
I have the ptsd diagnose and will get therapy for that soon. It has influenced almost everything my whole life.
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I have the ptsd diagnose and will get therapy for that soon. It has influenced almost everything my whole life.
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NoException
Replace Mari with Hero and Hero with sweetheart in this image and you have a more accurate thumbnail; )
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Replace Mari with Hero and Hero with sweetheart in this image and you have a more accurate thumbnail; )
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