6 Signs You Have High Social Intelligence
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Date: 2023-08-20
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0: 51 well so far it fits with me being able to tell in what mood a person is just by their expression, well maybe most people don't bother actually seeing the expression they just look at it.
0: 54 on the other side effective communication comes from experience and knowing how to approach a person while also considering their mood, so observing and reacting are two different things, well in my case I'm quite good at observing and quite awful at reacting unless I have been in the situation before, well even then it's not a guarantee it will turn out for the better.
1: 19 well if empathy is feeling what other feel I'm quite bad at it. but I have the imagination to put my self in the place of someone else and try to see the situation from their view, I wouldn't really call this empathy because it won't allow me to feel how hurt they are be it emotional or physical pain, on the other hand if I felt what I presume they feel right now considering that I tried to put my self in their shoes, I can remember how I felt in a similar situation and well it gives me a rough idea of how they are feeling, but I wouldn't call this empathy.
2: 20 reading the room is easy for me, acting accordingly is the hard part.
2: 51 no. I like talking to people, well talking is not the word it's more like I like to discuss philosophical topics, I really dislike small talk. well most people are not interested in such discussions, considering that it should not make any difference if you are making small talk or talking about deep topics, well maybe small talk is more enjoyable to them just like I enjoy more to discuss the universe or the possibility of afterlife.
4: 35 you know one reason to avoid conversation would be because the conversation is on an emotional topic. and if you are an emotionally unavailable person, well you would rather have an excuse to not have the conversation than engage in it, why is that. don't know ask someone that is EU if you manage to make them talk about such things.
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0: 51 well so far it fits with me being able to tell in what mood a person is just by their expression, well maybe most people don't bother actually seeing the expression they just look at it.
0: 54 on the other side effective communication comes from experience and knowing how to approach a person while also considering their mood, so observing and reacting are two different things, well in my case I'm quite good at observing and quite awful at reacting unless I have been in the situation before, well even then it's not a guarantee it will turn out for the better.
1: 19 well if empathy is feeling what other feel I'm quite bad at it. but I have the imagination to put my self in the place of someone else and try to see the situation from their view, I wouldn't really call this empathy because it won't allow me to feel how hurt they are be it emotional or physical pain, on the other hand if I felt what I presume they feel right now considering that I tried to put my self in their shoes, I can remember how I felt in a similar situation and well it gives me a rough idea of how they are feeling, but I wouldn't call this empathy.
2: 20 reading the room is easy for me, acting accordingly is the hard part.
2: 51 no. I like talking to people, well talking is not the word it's more like I like to discuss philosophical topics, I really dislike small talk. well most people are not interested in such discussions, considering that it should not make any difference if you are making small talk or talking about deep topics, well maybe small talk is more enjoyable to them just like I enjoy more to discuss the universe or the possibility of afterlife.
4: 35 you know one reason to avoid conversation would be because the conversation is on an emotional topic. and if you are an emotionally unavailable person, well you would rather have an excuse to not have the conversation than engage in it, why is that. don't know ask someone that is EU if you manage to make them talk about such things.
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Chris
I think I can improve on active listening and conflict management.
While I try to actively listen, it often happens that a certain thing they say causes an association and then Im suddenly following my thoughts. I am then completely missing what else the other person is saying. If it is a one on one conversation I usually tell them that I went into a thought process and ask them if they can repeat what they just said. Im not sure yet how I can avoid following my own thoughts, but maybe it isnt always too bad either since the other person usually responds positively when I try to get back to listening.
On conflict management: when a conflict occurs, mostly between two other people, Im usually freezing and not sure what to do to de-escaluate the situation. These situations happen when Im with a friend that gets into a conflict with someone we meet. I often feel somewhat bad that I do nothing and let just everything happen - even if the two persons hurt eachother (physically or verbally.
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I think I can improve on active listening and conflict management.
While I try to actively listen, it often happens that a certain thing they say causes an association and then Im suddenly following my thoughts. I am then completely missing what else the other person is saying. If it is a one on one conversation I usually tell them that I went into a thought process and ask them if they can repeat what they just said. Im not sure yet how I can avoid following my own thoughts, but maybe it isnt always too bad either since the other person usually responds positively when I try to get back to listening.
On conflict management: when a conflict occurs, mostly between two other people, Im usually freezing and not sure what to do to de-escaluate the situation. These situations happen when Im with a friend that gets into a conflict with someone we meet. I often feel somewhat bad that I do nothing and let just everything happen - even if the two persons hurt eachother (physically or verbally.
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Soonie
I kinda used to be like that with my friends in school but ended up having no friends cuz they just want someone who judges them
I know this sounds weird but I think they see people like me are trying to please people and have a weak personality, My teacher at school told me that the problem in my personality that I express my love to everyone which makes me look like I have a weak personality, I was really disappointed by that, I do that cuz I hate the feeling of being judged and I don't want other people to feel like that around me
All popular students at my school are hard to be friends with and judge you so hard when u talk to them, other students tend to them cuz they find it difficult to win their friendship
So recently I lost a lot of my social and empathizing skills and just became suspicious of my own personality
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I kinda used to be like that with my friends in school but ended up having no friends cuz they just want someone who judges them
I know this sounds weird but I think they see people like me are trying to please people and have a weak personality, My teacher at school told me that the problem in my personality that I express my love to everyone which makes me look like I have a weak personality, I was really disappointed by that, I do that cuz I hate the feeling of being judged and I don't want other people to feel like that around me
All popular students at my school are hard to be friends with and judge you so hard when u talk to them, other students tend to them cuz they find it difficult to win their friendship
So recently I lost a lot of my social and empathizing skills and just became suspicious of my own personality
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Dante
Not sure if anyone else feels this way, but in my case, having high social intelligence actually skyrockets my social anxiety. I am able to read the room quite well, and others tend to feel comfortable talking and confiding in me. However, I pick up on others' moods and nonverbals to such a painstaking degree, that it makes me terrified to speak and express myself most of the time. I constantly end up self-censoring in order to make others comfortable.
As where, people with a lower social intelligence are often more free to just say what they mean and feel. Thus, they end up coming across much more genuine and authentic than I do. Overall, I just struggle to find the balance.
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Not sure if anyone else feels this way, but in my case, having high social intelligence actually skyrockets my social anxiety. I am able to read the room quite well, and others tend to feel comfortable talking and confiding in me. However, I pick up on others' moods and nonverbals to such a painstaking degree, that it makes me terrified to speak and express myself most of the time. I constantly end up self-censoring in order to make others comfortable.
As where, people with a lower social intelligence are often more free to just say what they mean and feel. Thus, they end up coming across much more genuine and authentic than I do. Overall, I just struggle to find the balance.
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aLPha
It happened just a few hours ago. I got approached twice for directions. I felt like i had an information desk sign above my head. I love to help people and i guess i radiate that. Also at my new job there are some grumpy older guys who visibly lighten up when they talk to me. I'm relatively young in comparison (39. One guy came into my office which i share with an older guy (he's not that grumpy but a bit lazy. he takes a lot of smoke breaks) and said You guys need to do some work now and stop chatting and wipe that dumb grin of your face. i instantly reacted with Look who's talking, going to a tea party. he was carrying a teapot. He started laughing and we joined in. :)
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It happened just a few hours ago. I got approached twice for directions. I felt like i had an information desk sign above my head. I love to help people and i guess i radiate that. Also at my new job there are some grumpy older guys who visibly lighten up when they talk to me. I'm relatively young in comparison (39. One guy came into my office which i share with an older guy (he's not that grumpy but a bit lazy. he takes a lot of smoke breaks) and said You guys need to do some work now and stop chatting and wipe that dumb grin of your face. i instantly reacted with Look who's talking, going to a tea party. he was carrying a teapot. He started laughing and we joined in. :)
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Maniasoker
I mostly find myself having hypothetical ideas that end up being correct but I'm never able to use the right information to do it. I think I relate to maybe being empathetic (EQ, appreciating differences (that one was a natural, active listening is something I try my best to do and maybe the understanding a little. So about half?
That's just me though. Maybe people perceive me a different way. Infact, I had problems of people NOT talking to me at a point where I cared about it. I love my alone time but it started going over what I wanted it to. That's why I question if I am or not. Halfly thanks for bringing my thoughts up!
It was useful for sure!
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I mostly find myself having hypothetical ideas that end up being correct but I'm never able to use the right information to do it. I think I relate to maybe being empathetic (EQ, appreciating differences (that one was a natural, active listening is something I try my best to do and maybe the understanding a little. So about half?
That's just me though. Maybe people perceive me a different way. Infact, I had problems of people NOT talking to me at a point where I cared about it. I love my alone time but it started going over what I wanted it to. That's why I question if I am or not. Halfly thanks for bringing my thoughts up!
It was useful for sure!
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martinisawe
You know, growing up with autism and being bullied for being special Ed back in middle school, made me want change for the better.
I started to get out of my comfort zone and try to interact with others. I keep breaking the social rules but adamant to try. After a few years of trial and error, i managed to perfect it. Reading how to win friends and influence people was also a cherry on top to improve it.
I now can go and say hi to anybody and strike a conversation. Plus it makes job interviews and others alot easier. Ironically the ones who called me special Ed made me a social butterfly and made me appreciate the world.
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You know, growing up with autism and being bullied for being special Ed back in middle school, made me want change for the better.
I started to get out of my comfort zone and try to interact with others. I keep breaking the social rules but adamant to try. After a few years of trial and error, i managed to perfect it. Reading how to win friends and influence people was also a cherry on top to improve it.
I now can go and say hi to anybody and strike a conversation. Plus it makes job interviews and others alot easier. Ironically the ones who called me special Ed made me a social butterfly and made me appreciate the world.
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psych2go
Im kind of in the leadership position in my school coding club. I dont know how to be a leader because Im not as much social and because of that May impose sort of weird effect or impression on others. I genuinely care about people and want to help or listen or understand their feelings, but often fail to show that. It usually takes time for them to get comfortable or understand that I dont have any bad intentions
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Im kind of in the leadership position in my school coding club. I dont know how to be a leader because Im not as much social and because of that May impose sort of weird effect or impression on others. I genuinely care about people and want to help or listen or understand their feelings, but often fail to show that. It usually takes time for them to get comfortable or understand that I dont have any bad intentions
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Machiavelrous
If Im right 80 to 90% of actual communication/social interaction is actually through body language, facial expression, eye contact, and etc. Not through speech, although tone is another key factor. Dont just listen to the person talking to you says. You can glean more from the body language, etc, from those around you but not talking to you to get a feel of the social atmosphere.
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If Im right 80 to 90% of actual communication/social interaction is actually through body language, facial expression, eye contact, and etc. Not through speech, although tone is another key factor. Dont just listen to the person talking to you says. You can glean more from the body language, etc, from those around you but not talking to you to get a feel of the social atmosphere.
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Censaf9
In this video I can recognise myself in each sign, i dont think Im very social intelligent but I recognise myself in listening, capability of talking with everyone or adapt to the people with who I talk. The funniest is that few years before I wont recognised myself in the video, meaning we can indeed improve our social intelligence: )
Thanks for the video!
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In this video I can recognise myself in each sign, i dont think Im very social intelligent but I recognise myself in listening, capability of talking with everyone or adapt to the people with who I talk. The funniest is that few years before I wont recognised myself in the video, meaning we can indeed improve our social intelligence: )
Thanks for the video!
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Brad
I consider myself pretty social intelligent but when I feel disrespected, I make them know they are being dummies, maybe not using the best words. Also when there's conflict and the other part is wrong, I stand my position even if that means I gotta beat someone up. I respect myself enough to not be the victim of any kind of situation
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I consider myself pretty social intelligent but when I feel disrespected, I make them know they are being dummies, maybe not using the best words. Also when there's conflict and the other part is wrong, I stand my position even if that means I gotta beat someone up. I respect myself enough to not be the victim of any kind of situation
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Jahnavi
How to differentiate between ADHD and Digital Dementia?
I talked to someone senior about how I show all the symptoms of ADHD and he simply discarded it by saying it's my phone and not a disorder or something, excessive phone usage made me so much unable to focus, distracted, restless.
Ps: I have been like this as a kid too
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How to differentiate between ADHD and Digital Dementia?
I talked to someone senior about how I show all the symptoms of ADHD and he simply discarded it by saying it's my phone and not a disorder or something, excessive phone usage made me so much unable to focus, distracted, restless.
Ps: I have been like this as a kid too
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A.
I have no social intelligence. My brain does NOT process small talk. Ask me how I am, I'll think about it for 3 mins then give an honest answer. I can't do small talk. It's my blind spot. I don't waste time, I'm direct and to the point. I'm not rude, I'm very attentive to how other people feel around me. I just don't do small talk.
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I have no social intelligence. My brain does NOT process small talk. Ask me how I am, I'll think about it for 3 mins then give an honest answer. I can't do small talk. It's my blind spot. I don't waste time, I'm direct and to the point. I'm not rude, I'm very attentive to how other people feel around me. I just don't do small talk.
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PurplePokeman5
People enjoy talking to me but I dont like it when people I dont know walk up to me and try to have a conversation with me it makes me really nervous but I can usually tell if someone is a person who I can be friends with so if they talk to me I will warm up to them eventually
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People enjoy talking to me but I dont like it when people I dont know walk up to me and try to have a conversation with me it makes me really nervous but I can usually tell if someone is a person who I can be friends with so if they talk to me I will warm up to them eventually
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Pro
There is this girl in my clas she stares at me in some classes but I think it as friends as she claims me as here best friend. I still dout it as my firends saw too.
They are saying me they asked her t or d who would you date in the class they said she said my name so.
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There is this girl in my clas she stares at me in some classes but I think it as friends as she claims me as here best friend. I still dout it as my firends saw too.
They are saying me they asked her t or d who would you date in the class they said she said my name so.
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Mentally
Social intelligence isnt easy to masterif it were, there wouldnt ever be another awkward conversation at a party. However, working toward a strong social intelligence can lead to a richer lifeor, at least, an easier time making a few new friends.
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Social intelligence isnt easy to masterif it were, there wouldnt ever be another awkward conversation at a party. However, working toward a strong social intelligence can lead to a richer lifeor, at least, an easier time making a few new friends.
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Kinny682
Hm, seems like Im probably not socially intelligent. I really have a hard time listening, handling my emotions, and knowing when someone has a need that isnt met. Ive been trying to improve but I havent seen much progress in about 2 years
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Hm, seems like Im probably not socially intelligent. I really have a hard time listening, handling my emotions, and knowing when someone has a need that isnt met. Ive been trying to improve but I havent seen much progress in about 2 years
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DEAR
Im autistic, so I lack a little bit in the reading the room aspect of social intelligence, but I do know I have high emotional intelligence and can feel a persons emotions on a deeper level even if I dont know exactly why they feel that way.
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Im autistic, so I lack a little bit in the reading the room aspect of social intelligence, but I do know I have high emotional intelligence and can feel a persons emotions on a deeper level even if I dont know exactly why they feel that way.
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AcidCosti
Hmm, I consider my self a preatty good knowlegeble person, because I know many general things and facts, such as mithology, history, scientific facts, SF, geography, and many not really usefull thing what can help me at all
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Hmm, I consider my self a preatty good knowlegeble person, because I know many general things and facts, such as mithology, history, scientific facts, SF, geography, and many not really usefull thing what can help me at all
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Ilsan
I think everything fits me except people like talking to me? because Im a bit quiet and probably look intimidating. not a lot of people talk to me. But its ok I also dont like to talk a lot
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I think everything fits me except people like talking to me? because Im a bit quiet and probably look intimidating. not a lot of people talk to me. But its ok I also dont like to talk a lot
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Dfd_Free_Speech
Social intelligence is a misleading term.
There is only one type of intelligence and there is NO SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE whatsoever that anything like social intelligence exists.
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Social intelligence is a misleading term.
There is only one type of intelligence and there is NO SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE whatsoever that anything like social intelligence exists.
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Neoideaxd
This is extremely interesting. Being able to know others communication needs is something that is fairly overlooked in our world I feel. Its always good to keep an open mind.
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This is extremely interesting. Being able to know others communication needs is something that is fairly overlooked in our world I feel. Its always good to keep an open mind.
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gacha
Psych2go pls make a video about a friend that don't like ugly girl, who smile eventually I wanna be her friend, but my best friend didn't let me. I was her first friend
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Psych2go pls make a video about a friend that don't like ugly girl, who smile eventually I wanna be her friend, but my best friend didn't let me. I was her first friend
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greyonyx08
It's hard to empathize with a narcissist who constantly expresses anger just to get a rise out of people. So I don't. Other than that I can.
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It's hard to empathize with a narcissist who constantly expresses anger just to get a rise out of people. So I don't. Other than that I can.
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Hassan
yeah that me, but keep acting like that make me feel like i care for others, so much then me, so i just to stop cares from time to time,
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yeah that me, but keep acting like that make me feel like i care for others, so much then me, so i just to stop cares from time to time,
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