4 Signs You're Being Controlled By Others
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Date: 2023-08-20
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THESLAYEMMETT
I had a friend at the beginning of 5th grade and at first, she was nice, caring, and a nice person. But then after winter break, she started to ask me for food all the time and started to say that i was spending more time with other even tho we did partner group, hanged out on the bus, sat at lunch together, and called. My other friends were saying that not to be friends with her, but I didn't want to heart her felling. Then she began to have conversations with me every single week and it was really draining me, then at the last day of school I told her that I did not want to be friends with her, and she didn't believe me, and she wanted to be friends with me and cried about it, I don't think I will ever trust another person again with food or having conversations with our friendship. I really hope in 6th grade I will be able to find funds that will love me and care about my feelings and not be a bad influence on me like she did no one should ever go through that no one and I think people like her need help she also was terrible to other people what do I do I don't want to hang out with her or see her in 6th grade please tell me what I should do please, and I also want to say no one should ever be controlled or be manipulated to give food because it's not right to do another person like that.
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I had a friend at the beginning of 5th grade and at first, she was nice, caring, and a nice person. But then after winter break, she started to ask me for food all the time and started to say that i was spending more time with other even tho we did partner group, hanged out on the bus, sat at lunch together, and called. My other friends were saying that not to be friends with her, but I didn't want to heart her felling. Then she began to have conversations with me every single week and it was really draining me, then at the last day of school I told her that I did not want to be friends with her, and she didn't believe me, and she wanted to be friends with me and cried about it, I don't think I will ever trust another person again with food or having conversations with our friendship. I really hope in 6th grade I will be able to find funds that will love me and care about my feelings and not be a bad influence on me like she did no one should ever go through that no one and I think people like her need help she also was terrible to other people what do I do I don't want to hang out with her or see her in 6th grade please tell me what I should do please, and I also want to say no one should ever be controlled or be manipulated to give food because it's not right to do another person like that.
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Andre
Another type: All knowing
i feel tired today
Could have told you from your sleeping shedule
i lost my favorite pen: (
could have told you. you are always so careless with your stuff
I feel sick
could have told you that wouls happen, you always dress so light
i feel depressed
oh i could have told you, from how you were acting
The point is, they only tell you when its to late. You get more and more the feeling that they are more capable than you at handling your life. You ask them more and more trivial questions, because hey. Its cute that she is concerned about me loosing my pens again. right? It means i can trust her/him witg more important matters as well.
It may even come with some infused playfullness or love
i could have told you that would happen, dummy. But thats the way i love you
And while you feel more secure everyday as you finaly found someone that cares so much abaut your everyday life. you dont actually improve. They never tell you beforehand. They use your mistakes against you in order to make you dependent.
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Another type: All knowing
i feel tired today
Could have told you from your sleeping shedule
i lost my favorite pen: (
could have told you. you are always so careless with your stuff
I feel sick
could have told you that wouls happen, you always dress so light
i feel depressed
oh i could have told you, from how you were acting
The point is, they only tell you when its to late. You get more and more the feeling that they are more capable than you at handling your life. You ask them more and more trivial questions, because hey. Its cute that she is concerned about me loosing my pens again. right? It means i can trust her/him witg more important matters as well.
It may even come with some infused playfullness or love
i could have told you that would happen, dummy. But thats the way i love you
And while you feel more secure everyday as you finaly found someone that cares so much abaut your everyday life. you dont actually improve. They never tell you beforehand. They use your mistakes against you in order to make you dependent.
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FirstClassWaffles
These videos in an ideal world could help everyone but the issue in my opinion is people usually have horrible discernment. These videos do help you see things from a different general perspective which is crucial. But it cannot be applied to reality as THE solution unless it is obvious which involves extreme cases. A teen may think they are in love and will be a great parent and interpret everyone discouraging them as gaslighting, manipulative, etc. and watching these videos may reinforce how they feel. When they get older they will realize too late the people who were encouraging them to enter into a pregnancy they were not actually ready for were the actual manipulative gaslighters. What's worse, those very same people who encouraged the pregnancy may not be even self aware they are toxic.
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These videos in an ideal world could help everyone but the issue in my opinion is people usually have horrible discernment. These videos do help you see things from a different general perspective which is crucial. But it cannot be applied to reality as THE solution unless it is obvious which involves extreme cases. A teen may think they are in love and will be a great parent and interpret everyone discouraging them as gaslighting, manipulative, etc. and watching these videos may reinforce how they feel. When they get older they will realize too late the people who were encouraging them to enter into a pregnancy they were not actually ready for were the actual manipulative gaslighters. What's worse, those very same people who encouraged the pregnancy may not be even self aware they are toxic.
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Pata
Can you please make a video of anxiety or panic attack? I don't actually know what my condition is, Im not looking for help, I just want to know what problem is this. I used to have a boss who would constantly harass me by humiliating me, threaten me, yell at me, intimidate me and stalk me in my socisl media just to mention whatever i said or did to use against me and lie about me so I think I may have gotten PTSD or something. Now I cant speak to any authority figure like my new boss, or my kid's school principal, or cops, doctors etc wihtout crying uncontrollably, shaking, stuttering, feeling dizzy or like i am about to pass out, feeling scared, almost tobthe point of throwing up, I cant control it, so extremely embarrassing i wanna dissapear
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Can you please make a video of anxiety or panic attack? I don't actually know what my condition is, Im not looking for help, I just want to know what problem is this. I used to have a boss who would constantly harass me by humiliating me, threaten me, yell at me, intimidate me and stalk me in my socisl media just to mention whatever i said or did to use against me and lie about me so I think I may have gotten PTSD or something. Now I cant speak to any authority figure like my new boss, or my kid's school principal, or cops, doctors etc wihtout crying uncontrollably, shaking, stuttering, feeling dizzy or like i am about to pass out, feeling scared, almost tobthe point of throwing up, I cant control it, so extremely embarrassing i wanna dissapear
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GG
Hi! I need some help. So theres this girl I like at school (Im in middle school) and I really wanna go out with her, so I put a note in her locker saying that I have a crush on her. She texted me after school and we became friends. This was a few months ago and now were super close. Shes thinking about dating and I would love to but to be honest I dont know whether or not shes leading me on. We are only friends via text message and sometimes calls because my friends know I have a crush on her and would make a big deal out of me talking to her. Plus I cant work up the courage to talk to her. Can someone help please?
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Hi! I need some help. So theres this girl I like at school (Im in middle school) and I really wanna go out with her, so I put a note in her locker saying that I have a crush on her. She texted me after school and we became friends. This was a few months ago and now were super close. Shes thinking about dating and I would love to but to be honest I dont know whether or not shes leading me on. We are only friends via text message and sometimes calls because my friends know I have a crush on her and would make a big deal out of me talking to her. Plus I cant work up the courage to talk to her. Can someone help please?
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Rise
About the 4th point, sometimes the partner could be suffering from some trauma and anxiety disorder in personal life, which could make them call and text us several times if we didn't respond, specially when we normally gladly respond them.
However, they wouldn't behave that way once their traumatic phase of life is passed.
If we drift away from them when they need us the most by calling them manipulative, then that means we only signed up for sharing good times with them, not difficult times.
In that case, our relationship with them is void since the beginning itself.
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About the 4th point, sometimes the partner could be suffering from some trauma and anxiety disorder in personal life, which could make them call and text us several times if we didn't respond, specially when we normally gladly respond them.
However, they wouldn't behave that way once their traumatic phase of life is passed.
If we drift away from them when they need us the most by calling them manipulative, then that means we only signed up for sharing good times with them, not difficult times.
In that case, our relationship with them is void since the beginning itself.
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Jonathan
I like your videos a lot, and this one was no exception! The only thing I was to comment on is section two, specifically from an autistic perspective; it's extremely common for autistic people to become agitated when people interrupt our routines. While it may seem irrational and disproportionate, these routines are often a crucial part of how we process and relate to the world around us, and when they are disrupted we can get overwhelmed or feel very uncomfortable. Again, I really like your videos, but just wanted to add that context
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I like your videos a lot, and this one was no exception! The only thing I was to comment on is section two, specifically from an autistic perspective; it's extremely common for autistic people to become agitated when people interrupt our routines. While it may seem irrational and disproportionate, these routines are often a crucial part of how we process and relate to the world around us, and when they are disrupted we can get overwhelmed or feel very uncomfortable. Again, I really like your videos, but just wanted to add that context
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Kiley
I was a bit worried when I saw the just look on the bright side part but then I realized that that's not what I do I find the silver lining and then I point it out to them to try to help them feel better instead of being an ass about it. I realized that the difference between me and manipulators in this case is instead of making it about them being negative so of course things aren't going right I try to find the positives to help them see that hey some things aren't so bad or maybe (in my case) heck it could be worse
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I was a bit worried when I saw the just look on the bright side part but then I realized that that's not what I do I find the silver lining and then I point it out to them to try to help them feel better instead of being an ass about it. I realized that the difference between me and manipulators in this case is instead of making it about them being negative so of course things aren't going right I try to find the positives to help them see that hey some things aren't so bad or maybe (in my case) heck it could be worse
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Atheistbatman
I finally saw just this year that I have ran directly toward these types of people my entire life and ran away from genuinely nice good people that would have been good decent people and good friends. Instead I ran toward everything but. I can look back and remember the sweetness and pity in their eyes when I would turn them down or make excuses on why I quit hanging out. I always wanted to be around ppl that treated me badI always wanted to be around people like my FAMILY
No mas no mas
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I finally saw just this year that I have ran directly toward these types of people my entire life and ran away from genuinely nice good people that would have been good decent people and good friends. Instead I ran toward everything but. I can look back and remember the sweetness and pity in their eyes when I would turn them down or make excuses on why I quit hanging out. I always wanted to be around ppl that treated me badI always wanted to be around people like my FAMILY
No mas no mas
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Caline
I love all you videos Psych2go. This reminds me of my family who don't accept my westernised views and LGBT identity. Family members should love us, give us a hug whenever we need one; not be our downfall but sadly a lot of people are torn between their family choices and their own. I'm just 15 and so can't be an independent adult just yet but I'll be 16 next month. Since I live in the UK, the laws there, I'll get my first set of rights against my parents but still won't be an adult till 18.
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I love all you videos Psych2go. This reminds me of my family who don't accept my westernised views and LGBT identity. Family members should love us, give us a hug whenever we need one; not be our downfall but sadly a lot of people are torn between their family choices and their own. I'm just 15 and so can't be an independent adult just yet but I'll be 16 next month. Since I live in the UK, the laws there, I'll get my first set of rights against my parents but still won't be an adult till 18.
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Lauren
I remeber i had a classmate whi invited me to a party in which i didnt want to go but bc of social anxiety but went anyway just to make them happy and the day of the party was kinda rough on me i go to the party anyway and talked to a few freinds about how bad the day wad and this classmate walks up to me and said Girl get your life in order you need to be happy to have happy i didnt reaspond and kept talking to my friends just ingoring her so she knows what it feels like to be mad
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I remeber i had a classmate whi invited me to a party in which i didnt want to go but bc of social anxiety but went anyway just to make them happy and the day of the party was kinda rough on me i go to the party anyway and talked to a few freinds about how bad the day wad and this classmate walks up to me and said Girl get your life in order you need to be happy to have happy i didnt reaspond and kept talking to my friends just ingoring her so she knows what it feels like to be mad
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Lotus
I remember when i was at hogh school ( i a 20 i got out of it back 2019 i was being online manipulated i didn't know what it meant because i was born with a. Disability call development delay but the school that said i have it called it mental retardation ( i hate that word) because i was slow when it came to learning anyway back to 2019 I didn't thought it was manipulative because i was a follower? Like an ant but i didn't know why i did certain things which i regret ever doing so
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I remember when i was at hogh school ( i a 20 i got out of it back 2019 i was being online manipulated i didn't know what it meant because i was born with a. Disability call development delay but the school that said i have it called it mental retardation ( i hate that word) because i was slow when it came to learning anyway back to 2019 I didn't thought it was manipulative because i was a follower? Like an ant but i didn't know why i did certain things which i regret ever doing so
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Totally
My current partner who I recently got back with used to dm me good morning _everyday_ and it was sweet
But when I disappeared for a little while bc I need a break I come back to 13 missed messages and them saying to other people how they dont know what theyll do and that they might hurt themself if I dont come back soon
I know theyre genuinely just worried but the last point made me think of if theyll start doing that again and if Ill be able to take mental health breaks
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My current partner who I recently got back with used to dm me good morning _everyday_ and it was sweet
But when I disappeared for a little while bc I need a break I come back to 13 missed messages and them saying to other people how they dont know what theyll do and that they might hurt themself if I dont come back soon
I know theyre genuinely just worried but the last point made me think of if theyll start doing that again and if Ill be able to take mental health breaks
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Orion
Observing the storm of a narcissist as they gradually lose control in a given moment is a fascinating, unnerving, horrific experience to those subjugated few who are regularly exposed to their usual state of mind.
In the event their perfect world gets back to normal (aka they once again regain control of their life as though nothing had happened, its a similarly bittersweet blend of familiarity, stability, and the tension that goes with their regaining authority once again
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Observing the storm of a narcissist as they gradually lose control in a given moment is a fascinating, unnerving, horrific experience to those subjugated few who are regularly exposed to their usual state of mind.
In the event their perfect world gets back to normal (aka they once again regain control of their life as though nothing had happened, its a similarly bittersweet blend of familiarity, stability, and the tension that goes with their regaining authority once again
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Geoff
I dunno about this one boss. This is starting to veer into the territory of Are they trying to be a friend to you? If so they're manipulating you to be friends with them!
A friend saying, Try to see it on the bright side - interrupt your anxiety and ask yourself - 'What if it does work out? ' And then look for evidence that supports this! - which is straight advice taken right from a therapist. And this video would make that advice sound like manipulation instead.
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I dunno about this one boss. This is starting to veer into the territory of Are they trying to be a friend to you? If so they're manipulating you to be friends with them!
A friend saying, Try to see it on the bright side - interrupt your anxiety and ask yourself - 'What if it does work out? ' And then look for evidence that supports this! - which is straight advice taken right from a therapist. And this video would make that advice sound like manipulation instead.
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Camillia
Yup. All of those key points hit too close to home. On a personal note, it all started a the mid to late stages of my childhood, all the way up to adulthood. Nowadays, I'm taking some time to reflect on the times when I have been manipulated or being the manipulative type in various, past (or present) situations. Also, I'm taking the time to figure out what I can do differently to prevent those situations from happening.
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Yup. All of those key points hit too close to home. On a personal note, it all started a the mid to late stages of my childhood, all the way up to adulthood. Nowadays, I'm taking some time to reflect on the times when I have been manipulated or being the manipulative type in various, past (or present) situations. Also, I'm taking the time to figure out what I can do differently to prevent those situations from happening.
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education
I feel scared. I relate to being the manipulator. I don't like manipulating anybody. I just sometimes hate it when people interupt my schedule, I hate it. I like my schedule like this and that, and when people change it, it annoys me. To the point I lash out. But, I hold it when I have patience. However, in this video, it's just a question. I don't think I'd get mad on a certain question unless I'm having a bad day.
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I feel scared. I relate to being the manipulator. I don't like manipulating anybody. I just sometimes hate it when people interupt my schedule, I hate it. I like my schedule like this and that, and when people change it, it annoys me. To the point I lash out. But, I hold it when I have patience. However, in this video, it's just a question. I don't think I'd get mad on a certain question unless I'm having a bad day.
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Apple-O's
ive gotta point out that w/ the last one it's very common for those with bpd or certain other mental illnesses to do that - it doesnt necessarily mean it's manipulation by default, someone might just be really needy/going thru an episode
it's rlly important to set boundaries in these situations
depending on how the person reacts, you may be able to tell if they're actively manipulating you or not
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ive gotta point out that w/ the last one it's very common for those with bpd or certain other mental illnesses to do that - it doesnt necessarily mean it's manipulation by default, someone might just be really needy/going thru an episode
it's rlly important to set boundaries in these situations
depending on how the person reacts, you may be able to tell if they're actively manipulating you or not
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CCChesterC
Yea nah this video is part of the problem. You're basically saying because someone didn't send a response back of a usual pattern that when the person reaches out which more than often is obviously genuine concern is manipulation? That advice will keep you paranoid and always on the defensive for no reason.
P. S I'm not responding to any backlash either I said what I said
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Yea nah this video is part of the problem. You're basically saying because someone didn't send a response back of a usual pattern that when the person reaches out which more than often is obviously genuine concern is manipulation? That advice will keep you paranoid and always on the defensive for no reason.
P. S I'm not responding to any backlash either I said what I said
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Atheistbatman
I should send you pics of my family because you just portrayed each of them
After breaking contact just last year Im finally feeling better
One clue is when I start singing in the shower and I cuss less much lessunless its part of the song
Sometimes u got to cut off a part of yourself to be able to grow (to survive)
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I should send you pics of my family because you just portrayed each of them
After breaking contact just last year Im finally feeling better
One clue is when I start singing in the shower and I cuss less much lessunless its part of the song
Sometimes u got to cut off a part of yourself to be able to grow (to survive)
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Case
Manipulation isn't always bad. Only the manipulation that people CALL manipulation.
When a parent explains the consequences to their child, they're manipulating. To watch this video, you have to manipulate your device. Making this video is manipulation.
Having proper cognition keeps from making these mistakes.
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Manipulation isn't always bad. Only the manipulation that people CALL manipulation.
When a parent explains the consequences to their child, they're manipulating. To watch this video, you have to manipulate your device. Making this video is manipulation.
Having proper cognition keeps from making these mistakes.
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Maryluvs2draw
One way an old friend manipulated everyone into staying his friend was tell everyone his child hood trauma so they would feel bad and excuse his awful behavior. He would bash at people's religions and he make fun of me for being skinny and White. But I forgave him cause I felt bad.
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One way an old friend manipulated everyone into staying his friend was tell everyone his child hood trauma so they would feel bad and excuse his awful behavior. He would bash at people's religions and he make fun of me for being skinny and White. But I forgave him cause I felt bad.
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tokii
I really needed this video: ( Ive been going through a hard time where I confided in someone about some bullying that traumatized me, this person snitched on me and my two mutual best friends just tell me I need to get over it and move on because it was years ago: ( Im now going to therapy
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I really needed this video: ( Ive been going through a hard time where I confided in someone about some bullying that traumatized me, this person snitched on me and my two mutual best friends just tell me I need to get over it and move on because it was years ago: ( Im now going to therapy
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Amay
Can you please do a video on how to tackle manipulation and gaslighting at work? Yes, I have been at work my former boss manipulated me by getting away with sleeping with some of the girls. The staff were equally as bad controlling my confidence levels and draining me of energy.
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Can you please do a video on how to tackle manipulation and gaslighting at work? Yes, I have been at work my former boss manipulated me by getting away with sleeping with some of the girls. The staff were equally as bad controlling my confidence levels and draining me of energy.
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Tony
Being someones puppet is a very scary experience. Youre being controlled by people who dont care what happens to you or your life. I should know because I was the family puppet for years. My mother and two siblings did the most damage to me and it almost killed me.
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Being someones puppet is a very scary experience. Youre being controlled by people who dont care what happens to you or your life. I should know because I was the family puppet for years. My mother and two siblings did the most damage to me and it almost killed me.
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