5 Warning Signs of Online Grooming
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Date: 2024-12-17
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sarahglasspool2379
Hate to say, but it does hit home. In some cases the abuser can also be the same age as you.
Had this happen when I was around 14/15 years old. After being free from the situation I gradually started to realise. But it probably wasn't until I was 22 and coincidentally being diagnosed neurodivergent (nearly two years ago, 24 now, that I could grasp the reality of the situation, haunts me still that I just couldn't get out or see it sooner.
I know it's always better late than never, but it's never pleasant when the only way of being free is just when they get bored of the control or find themselves an outlet to absolve themselves from any sense of responsibility. In my case, my abuser found himself in God. I'm trying not to hold any disrespect for religion but when others also seem to have excused it after finding himself, I became a devout non-believer/Atheist pretty much immediately, wanting to disassociate from the monster as much as I could. Even if I was nice to them years later, I figured whatever I said or did must've been out of a trauma response.
But just know that abusers never change, they just find new ways of hiding it, or just hiding their horrible ways better in general.
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Hate to say, but it does hit home. In some cases the abuser can also be the same age as you.
Had this happen when I was around 14/15 years old. After being free from the situation I gradually started to realise. But it probably wasn't until I was 22 and coincidentally being diagnosed neurodivergent (nearly two years ago, 24 now, that I could grasp the reality of the situation, haunts me still that I just couldn't get out or see it sooner.
I know it's always better late than never, but it's never pleasant when the only way of being free is just when they get bored of the control or find themselves an outlet to absolve themselves from any sense of responsibility. In my case, my abuser found himself in God. I'm trying not to hold any disrespect for religion but when others also seem to have excused it after finding himself, I became a devout non-believer/Atheist pretty much immediately, wanting to disassociate from the monster as much as I could. Even if I was nice to them years later, I figured whatever I said or did must've been out of a trauma response.
But just know that abusers never change, they just find new ways of hiding it, or just hiding their horrible ways better in general.
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Sanji321
As a former discord catfish who's age (the catfish accs) was 15 stay away from anyone who asks you weird questions doesn't matter if it's from someone your age or older. I once got a friend request from a 26 yr old (on my catfish acc) who was friendly at first but started asking weird questions after few days of chatting one day he asked me for my picture and I sent him a picture of a random girl I found on insta then he asked me Are you single I said yes and he started showing his true colours he said I'm surprised a cute girl like you is single then I ghosted him for like 2 hours and sent him a hello he said yo can I ask you a question real quick I said yes and bro asked me to be his gf I said but I'm just 15 he said it's fine keep it a secret till you're 18 I took the screenshot of the message I sent it in the server where I found him and he left the group and blocked me. (I can't remember the actual messages this was the most accurate I could make because I lost my old phone)
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As a former discord catfish who's age (the catfish accs) was 15 stay away from anyone who asks you weird questions doesn't matter if it's from someone your age or older. I once got a friend request from a 26 yr old (on my catfish acc) who was friendly at first but started asking weird questions after few days of chatting one day he asked me for my picture and I sent him a picture of a random girl I found on insta then he asked me Are you single I said yes and he started showing his true colours he said I'm surprised a cute girl like you is single then I ghosted him for like 2 hours and sent him a hello he said yo can I ask you a question real quick I said yes and bro asked me to be his gf I said but I'm just 15 he said it's fine keep it a secret till you're 18 I took the screenshot of the message I sent it in the server where I found him and he left the group and blocked me. (I can't remember the actual messages this was the most accurate I could make because I lost my old phone)
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WsdomCapsuleUS
Watching this video made me realize that I was also once a victim of online grooming. Overrall, I was not deceived in any major way. He met me during my high school years. We played in a chat group. We were far apart and had never met in person, nor had we ever done video calls or heard each other's voices. We only exchanged image (just regular ones, not explicit. He manipulated me into seeing him as someone special and placing my feelings in him. And then, boommmm. He disappeared. Later, I found out that he was actually a girl. Yahhhh I am also a straight girl and she used the excuse of having metal health issues. But in reality, she was using another account to deceive more people emotionally. It was really painful.
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Watching this video made me realize that I was also once a victim of online grooming. Overrall, I was not deceived in any major way. He met me during my high school years. We played in a chat group. We were far apart and had never met in person, nor had we ever done video calls or heard each other's voices. We only exchanged image (just regular ones, not explicit. He manipulated me into seeing him as someone special and placing my feelings in him. And then, boommmm. He disappeared. Later, I found out that he was actually a girl. Yahhhh I am also a straight girl and she used the excuse of having metal health issues. But in reality, she was using another account to deceive more people emotionally. It was really painful.
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aracelymeza340
I was 17 years old when I got groomed by a 26 year old. It was lonely these 4 years where did everything go wrong. When I was in college the second year, the college required to take a communications class and honesty at the time I didn’t understand that gaslighting and manipulating was a thing I didn’t think people would actually do that. People don’t understand that we live in a harsh cruel world. It’s not rainbows and cupcakes anymore. I didn’t pass my class because I went to the wrong person for help and I failed that class badly, I dropped out of college and I’m already afraid of men. They play their games and they enjoy playing the victim. I honesty been far too hurt.
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I was 17 years old when I got groomed by a 26 year old. It was lonely these 4 years where did everything go wrong. When I was in college the second year, the college required to take a communications class and honesty at the time I didn’t understand that gaslighting and manipulating was a thing I didn’t think people would actually do that. People don’t understand that we live in a harsh cruel world. It’s not rainbows and cupcakes anymore. I didn’t pass my class because I went to the wrong person for help and I failed that class badly, I dropped out of college and I’m already afraid of men. They play their games and they enjoy playing the victim. I honesty been far too hurt.
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114tl
I’m not really a victim of online grooming, but I think I have been a victim of scamming, lol, I basically learned my lesson from that day. It was a video game where I sort of got scammed, but, I’m alright now lol. Besides, I don’t like that video game on the platform anymore. I’m more into strategy games that fit my personal brain challenges and overcoming obstacles, one of my favorites is Tower Defense. I also did not have any social media platforms, and I never really liked myself in pictures, and the other social media apps, forget it, it was too risky for young me to avoid the picture taking on these other social media apps anyways.
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I’m not really a victim of online grooming, but I think I have been a victim of scamming, lol, I basically learned my lesson from that day. It was a video game where I sort of got scammed, but, I’m alright now lol. Besides, I don’t like that video game on the platform anymore. I’m more into strategy games that fit my personal brain challenges and overcoming obstacles, one of my favorites is Tower Defense. I also did not have any social media platforms, and I never really liked myself in pictures, and the other social media apps, forget it, it was too risky for young me to avoid the picture taking on these other social media apps anyways.
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user-fo3ez8mk4h
Weirdly enough, there was a groom attempt against me by someone who turned out to be younger than me. She thought I was a young boy, but I was an older girl. I went into psychotherapy mode, and now she is no longer doing these things, as far as I am aware. Our last conversation was about her finally getting a bursary to further her education. We had searched for months and applied for many. So I'm very happy for her now.
So essentially, what I am saying is, AGE AND MATURITY DIFFERENCE IS ABSOLUTELY A FACTOR IN POWER DYNAMICS!
If I had been younger than her, this story would've gone differently.
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Weirdly enough, there was a groom attempt against me by someone who turned out to be younger than me. She thought I was a young boy, but I was an older girl. I went into psychotherapy mode, and now she is no longer doing these things, as far as I am aware. Our last conversation was about her finally getting a bursary to further her education. We had searched for months and applied for many. So I'm very happy for her now.
So essentially, what I am saying is, AGE AND MATURITY DIFFERENCE IS ABSOLUTELY A FACTOR IN POWER DYNAMICS!
If I had been younger than her, this story would've gone differently.
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rookiecookie723
Well this feels like a safe space to share this story so, Yeah its not just children its new adults too. I had just turned 18 and was singing in a vtuber sort of streaming app when someone approached me in dms and tried to be friendly. 2 days later I was hit with we should be an item. I said no, thank goodness. I was friends with them for months after still. later found out they were 30 and a serial dater, they date barely legals then dump them by the time theyre 21, and this is perfectly acceptable in the eyes of the law because both parties are consenting adults
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Well this feels like a safe space to share this story so, Yeah its not just children its new adults too. I had just turned 18 and was singing in a vtuber sort of streaming app when someone approached me in dms and tried to be friendly. 2 days later I was hit with we should be an item. I said no, thank goodness. I was friends with them for months after still. later found out they were 30 and a serial dater, they date barely legals then dump them by the time theyre 21, and this is perfectly acceptable in the eyes of the law because both parties are consenting adults
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Binxedragontribe
I wish I had this video sooner. I was a victim of it and realized a few months ago that I was being digitally groomed by someone, three out of five warning signs you talked about had appeared. They skipped any type of calls, talked about something xxx to me, and they kept complimenting me even though they didn’t know me well. One thing is that when we were rping (how me and them unfortunately met) they asked me to date them, of course I said yes because I thought it was Rp, soon I found it was deeper than that and then they started communicating less and less.
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I wish I had this video sooner. I was a victim of it and realized a few months ago that I was being digitally groomed by someone, three out of five warning signs you talked about had appeared. They skipped any type of calls, talked about something xxx to me, and they kept complimenting me even though they didn’t know me well. One thing is that when we were rping (how me and them unfortunately met) they asked me to date them, of course I said yes because I thought it was Rp, soon I found it was deeper than that and then they started communicating less and less.
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USER_S4V4NT
some years ago this one girl who my friend knew shared a screenshot of someone dming her trying to groom her, he would send long messages talking about how he will change her life and she changed his and that their meant for each other and they need to meet up, she brought up that she was uncomfortable and they should stop talking and then all the toxicity poured out, i think she was a freshman at the time and the guy was in his 20s. it was cringe reading that dm but these things can quickly go from cringe to a nightmare especially if a meetup or extortion happens.
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some years ago this one girl who my friend knew shared a screenshot of someone dming her trying to groom her, he would send long messages talking about how he will change her life and she changed his and that their meant for each other and they need to meet up, she brought up that she was uncomfortable and they should stop talking and then all the toxicity poured out, i think she was a freshman at the time and the guy was in his 20s. it was cringe reading that dm but these things can quickly go from cringe to a nightmare especially if a meetup or extortion happens.
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marilynlucero9363
Like I say in one of my interests /taglines on a site I've been on for over 12 years, I've seen and experienced a lot there for better or for worse:
The internet makes it way too easy for people to act like complete scumbags and suffer no repercussions for it. Absolutely disgusting!
Now comes my most likely 'unpopular opinion'
This is why doxxing is for me a grey area. what matters more, is who you've doxxed and why. Exposing predators for predatory behavior I am all for it.
Doxxing because you disagree about something or a fight Disgusting.
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Like I say in one of my interests /taglines on a site I've been on for over 12 years, I've seen and experienced a lot there for better or for worse:
The internet makes it way too easy for people to act like complete scumbags and suffer no repercussions for it. Absolutely disgusting!
Now comes my most likely 'unpopular opinion'
This is why doxxing is for me a grey area. what matters more, is who you've doxxed and why. Exposing predators for predatory behavior I am all for it.
Doxxing because you disagree about something or a fight Disgusting.
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Dakoda-Scarlett
Agreed. Protect Yourself, though I have been accused of this things almost my entire life, because I'm almost entirely silent naturally, and I speak and understand very directly. I can't understand why people want to make up meaning for my words other then the words I use. So I stay completely away from people because I can't stand all the accusations, and then they start acussing me of other things for minding my own business. /s
I'm So done with people, it's about time to just move off into the woods alone/hj
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Agreed. Protect Yourself, though I have been accused of this things almost my entire life, because I'm almost entirely silent naturally, and I speak and understand very directly. I can't understand why people want to make up meaning for my words other then the words I use. So I stay completely away from people because I can't stand all the accusations, and then they start acussing me of other things for minding my own business. /s
I'm So done with people, it's about time to just move off into the woods alone/hj
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psych2go
Ah! Chlorine, we should’ve seen the signs. If we weren’t so young we would’ve. (Chlorine is a code name for our very first groomer) after her the signs should’ve been more obvious, but they weren’t. It was probably our fault the 2nd time tho. Online or not grooming is not ok and it SUCKS (we can only speak from the victim’s perspective) trust us, we would know (sadly. Thank you for making this video, it makes us feel more seen: ) also we love your content in general. Just a reminder that you are great!
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Ah! Chlorine, we should’ve seen the signs. If we weren’t so young we would’ve. (Chlorine is a code name for our very first groomer) after her the signs should’ve been more obvious, but they weren’t. It was probably our fault the 2nd time tho. Online or not grooming is not ok and it SUCKS (we can only speak from the victim’s perspective) trust us, we would know (sadly. Thank you for making this video, it makes us feel more seen: ) also we love your content in general. Just a reminder that you are great!
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fairy_butterflies
I'm a victim of online grooming since i was 8, he always said innapropriate jokes and he always said stuff to me by keep it a secret don't tell alice since it was a group chat, my bestie didn't notice i was struggling with a literal groomer, he told me he loved me, it was very suspicious since it was online and i was 10, plus im not healed by this trauma, since i didn't told my parents, he also made me having mental health problems, the video made me realize i was a victim of way more stuff, thank you
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I'm a victim of online grooming since i was 8, he always said innapropriate jokes and he always said stuff to me by keep it a secret don't tell alice since it was a group chat, my bestie didn't notice i was struggling with a literal groomer, he told me he loved me, it was very suspicious since it was online and i was 10, plus im not healed by this trauma, since i didn't told my parents, he also made me having mental health problems, the video made me realize i was a victim of way more stuff, thank you
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EpsilonBlue-c7b
Thank you for this. I was sucked into an online cult 4 years ago by the content creator doing some of these things. They developed a parasocial relationship with their fans and groomed us by the dozen to pledge allegiance to them and have us all pay their rent for them. This is the long story short version, but it's important for people to recognize when they are being manipulated for the sole benefit of someone else, especially if they are being told that they are doing it for the benefit of humanity.
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Thank you for this. I was sucked into an online cult 4 years ago by the content creator doing some of these things. They developed a parasocial relationship with their fans and groomed us by the dozen to pledge allegiance to them and have us all pay their rent for them. This is the long story short version, but it's important for people to recognize when they are being manipulated for the sole benefit of someone else, especially if they are being told that they are doing it for the benefit of humanity.
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Apprecihateu
I think online u just gotta be careful I been online since I was 7 and never encountered anything dangerous or that weird. Ppl always warned me and I even played club penguin late at night as a kid and got grounded cus they were scared I was talking to a pred. But it was so uncommon I think this shit is so rare or a reach at that. And I’ve had ppl younger than me treat me the way the person in the video is described so what’s the point here
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I think online u just gotta be careful I been online since I was 7 and never encountered anything dangerous or that weird. Ppl always warned me and I even played club penguin late at night as a kid and got grounded cus they were scared I was talking to a pred. But it was so uncommon I think this shit is so rare or a reach at that. And I’ve had ppl younger than me treat me the way the person in the video is described so what’s the point here
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DR4G0N3SS
This is how new adults and younger generations of kids end up losing their much-needed childhoods, it’s always best for parents too to watch what their kids do online and try to protect them. Groomers will always try to get what they want, and they’ll always find a way to make it happen. This is how self-esteem issues come into play, paranoia and anxiety also happens after being subjected to grooming behavior.
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This is how new adults and younger generations of kids end up losing their much-needed childhoods, it’s always best for parents too to watch what their kids do online and try to protect them. Groomers will always try to get what they want, and they’ll always find a way to make it happen. This is how self-esteem issues come into play, paranoia and anxiety also happens after being subjected to grooming behavior.
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c4kiee
This same thing happened to me but they would threaten me with SH, saying this was my fault when I refused their proposal to MARRY me when they said they already mentioned they were in the middle of a messy divorce and had 2 kids, eventually leading up to the day he asked me if I wanted to be his new wife. I was so terrified to tell anyone because I was born a people pleaser
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This same thing happened to me but they would threaten me with SH, saying this was my fault when I refused their proposal to MARRY me when they said they already mentioned they were in the middle of a messy divorce and had 2 kids, eventually leading up to the day he asked me if I wanted to be his new wife. I was so terrified to tell anyone because I was born a people pleaser
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timothylopez8572
Gotta ask Republicans, since it was worth killing us in a few days. WHY DID YOU KEEP SENDING YOUR KIDS TO SCHOOL IF THEY WERE BEING GROOMED also, 124 million people didn't vote period, you didn't win the popular vote, those migrants didn't vote, but we also exercise our second amendment rights. You are about to blind side them and unleash NATIONWIDE PANIC
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Gotta ask Republicans, since it was worth killing us in a few days. WHY DID YOU KEEP SENDING YOUR KIDS TO SCHOOL IF THEY WERE BEING GROOMED also, 124 million people didn't vote period, you didn't win the popular vote, those migrants didn't vote, but we also exercise our second amendment rights. You are about to blind side them and unleash NATIONWIDE PANIC
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education
One time i caught a furry groomer on roblox that sent me rose emojis and a chat saying will you be my furrita and this was his first time chat to me. he didnt know me or anything. The account he sent it to had no bio whatsoever so he made a dumb decision and went all in not knowing of my age or anything. I reported him and he got terminated thankfully.
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One time i caught a furry groomer on roblox that sent me rose emojis and a chat saying will you be my furrita and this was his first time chat to me. he didnt know me or anything. The account he sent it to had no bio whatsoever so he made a dumb decision and went all in not knowing of my age or anything. I reported him and he got terminated thankfully.
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maybekye
I swear that came in the best moment possible. My sister's E-dating on roblox and my mom's realising she's always hiding when playing and I was just now thinking of a way to just tell her to stop talking to that guy or straight up just tell her the dude's definetly NOT her age, but Idk how to say it in a way she'd understand since she's like, 11
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I swear that came in the best moment possible. My sister's E-dating on roblox and my mom's realising she's always hiding when playing and I was just now thinking of a way to just tell her to stop talking to that guy or straight up just tell her the dude's definetly NOT her age, but Idk how to say it in a way she'd understand since she's like, 11
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