Grieving a Lost Friend
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Date: 2024-10-26
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Quiet_Void
Buddy was not human, but he definitely felt like one.
He was a horse, an elderly one at that. I would visit him almost every week, and we formed a strong bond.
He had the vibe of a calm and friendly grandpa, but he would sometimes be a bit timid.
Occasionally, he would gently press his head into my chest, as if he were trying to give me a hug.
When his hooves would get sore due to his age, I would brush him all over and shower him in affection. He once had to get treatment for one of his hooves, and the hose that was being used frightened him, so I cradled his head and kept reassuring him that everything was ok.
He would also smile a lot (lifting up his lips and showing off his teeth. I would lead him to his stall, where his dinner would be waiting for him, and he once got so excited that he unknowingly ran me right into a tree.
Not to mention I have hay fever, but I didn’t care in the slightest when I was with Buddy and his friends.
Eventually though, Buddy’s age caught up to him. If I had known when would be the last time I was with him, I would have stayed longer.
For about a year, I distanced myself from horses entirely, and if something reminded me of him, I would get defensive and angry, but deep down I knew that I was grieving. I would say that I’m handling it better now, but part of me refuses to accept that he’s gone.
Regardless, I know I’ll see him again one day, and that he will be patiently waiting for me.
I love you, Buddy.
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Buddy was not human, but he definitely felt like one.
He was a horse, an elderly one at that. I would visit him almost every week, and we formed a strong bond.
He had the vibe of a calm and friendly grandpa, but he would sometimes be a bit timid.
Occasionally, he would gently press his head into my chest, as if he were trying to give me a hug.
When his hooves would get sore due to his age, I would brush him all over and shower him in affection. He once had to get treatment for one of his hooves, and the hose that was being used frightened him, so I cradled his head and kept reassuring him that everything was ok.
He would also smile a lot (lifting up his lips and showing off his teeth. I would lead him to his stall, where his dinner would be waiting for him, and he once got so excited that he unknowingly ran me right into a tree.
Not to mention I have hay fever, but I didn’t care in the slightest when I was with Buddy and his friends.
Eventually though, Buddy’s age caught up to him. If I had known when would be the last time I was with him, I would have stayed longer.
For about a year, I distanced myself from horses entirely, and if something reminded me of him, I would get defensive and angry, but deep down I knew that I was grieving. I would say that I’m handling it better now, but part of me refuses to accept that he’s gone.
Regardless, I know I’ll see him again one day, and that he will be patiently waiting for me.
I love you, Buddy.
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tranqui_lil_ie
I never lost someone due to death, but exactly a month ago a friend of a friend lost her brother due to suicide, and even if my friend didn't know him that much, she kinda grieved too I guess, I think because she has two brothers, her boyfriend did SH himself in the past and emphatized with that friend of hers. I felt kinda sad too, even if I met that boy just twice, and because I emphazised with my friend. Now I feel better, I think my friend too. But sometimes, even in the past years, I imagined my close ones dying and felt sad because of that, I'm mostly scared of my bestie because we met online and live far away from each other, I don't think I could discover about her death that soon. at least if I'll die the friend I talked about earlier can tell her about that but what about her How would I find about my bestie's death I hope nothing bad will happen to her or to me, if I have to die young I want AT LEAST meet her in person, it's one of my deepest wishes, or the deepest one.
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I never lost someone due to death, but exactly a month ago a friend of a friend lost her brother due to suicide, and even if my friend didn't know him that much, she kinda grieved too I guess, I think because she has two brothers, her boyfriend did SH himself in the past and emphatized with that friend of hers. I felt kinda sad too, even if I met that boy just twice, and because I emphazised with my friend. Now I feel better, I think my friend too. But sometimes, even in the past years, I imagined my close ones dying and felt sad because of that, I'm mostly scared of my bestie because we met online and live far away from each other, I don't think I could discover about her death that soon. at least if I'll die the friend I talked about earlier can tell her about that but what about her How would I find about my bestie's death I hope nothing bad will happen to her or to me, if I have to die young I want AT LEAST meet her in person, it's one of my deepest wishes, or the deepest one.
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psych2go
Ya it's not that simple and idealistic in my experience. I broke and now I'm learning to live without trust and friendship. It's not something I can just fix with a little time. I don't think friendship will ever be a part of my life again. All the memorys still hurt after 4 long months without him dispite my realization that he wasn't a great friend. He was the only one I was able to connect with so its was special and I'd go so far to say our friendship was required for my mental stability. Now after a lot of greef that wasn't to far from the end, I actually found a way to live. I'm doing ok as I can. I'm not in danger, I'd say I'm actually kinda happy. But ya friendship is a thing of the past now.
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Ya it's not that simple and idealistic in my experience. I broke and now I'm learning to live without trust and friendship. It's not something I can just fix with a little time. I don't think friendship will ever be a part of my life again. All the memorys still hurt after 4 long months without him dispite my realization that he wasn't a great friend. He was the only one I was able to connect with so its was special and I'd go so far to say our friendship was required for my mental stability. Now after a lot of greef that wasn't to far from the end, I actually found a way to live. I'm doing ok as I can. I'm not in danger, I'd say I'm actually kinda happy. But ya friendship is a thing of the past now.
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asriel3564
Funny this came, I recently lost contact with my friends considered My Soul Mate. We were so close, he understood me better than anyone else and we spent so much time together. This is going to sound cliche but There were times where we quite literally read each others minds and instinctively knew what the other was feelings and we were shocked by it but laughed because it made sense. We both expressed that it was like looking it a mirror of our life choices. Both at heart and mentally the extremely similar but just picked the opposite choices.
It feels like it actually lost a part of myself that I had been looking for so long before I met him.
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Funny this came, I recently lost contact with my friends considered My Soul Mate. We were so close, he understood me better than anyone else and we spent so much time together. This is going to sound cliche but There were times where we quite literally read each others minds and instinctively knew what the other was feelings and we were shocked by it but laughed because it made sense. We both expressed that it was like looking it a mirror of our life choices. Both at heart and mentally the extremely similar but just picked the opposite choices.
It feels like it actually lost a part of myself that I had been looking for so long before I met him.
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smokey5995. 1
I lost 2 best friends this year. The 1st was 8 months ago over an argument. I had 2 do what I thought was right at the time & I eventually healed. The 2nd is now my ex-gf. It hurts that while I've been grieving of her & been thinking about her & been getting constant remindings of her, she was able to move on in a week & even tried to have FWB with 1 of our friends. We were together 4 nearly 8 yrs. She wants to still be friends but between everything she's done this I can't. I'm sorry but I feel like it's going 2 take longer than 6 months recover from this. Great timing though, I appreciated it.
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I lost 2 best friends this year. The 1st was 8 months ago over an argument. I had 2 do what I thought was right at the time & I eventually healed. The 2nd is now my ex-gf. It hurts that while I've been grieving of her & been thinking about her & been getting constant remindings of her, she was able to move on in a week & even tried to have FWB with 1 of our friends. We were together 4 nearly 8 yrs. She wants to still be friends but between everything she's done this I can't. I'm sorry but I feel like it's going 2 take longer than 6 months recover from this. Great timing though, I appreciated it.
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lunacat_02
Different kind of loss but Liams death last week broke me so much that I spent the whole week questioning my life and the realisation that I live to work and that was my purpose, broke me so much that I lost all will to live and I thought of what I still want to do before ending myself
I have to say after this week I am better now, but I think I will never get this same will to live ever back again
No I don’t want to end myself because Liam is dead, I considered it because in my life Ive never saw the joy in living so I considered ending it all for once
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Different kind of loss but Liams death last week broke me so much that I spent the whole week questioning my life and the realisation that I live to work and that was my purpose, broke me so much that I lost all will to live and I thought of what I still want to do before ending myself
I have to say after this week I am better now, but I think I will never get this same will to live ever back again
No I don’t want to end myself because Liam is dead, I considered it because in my life Ive never saw the joy in living so I considered ending it all for once
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Eudaimonia7564
I tried reconnecting with a friend back about two months ago who I used to talk to a lot and hung out with a fair bit back when I was living in SoCal. He suddenly vanished on me two years ago so it was our first time talking again in a while. He was friendly but wasn’t interested in reconnecting and told me that he only talks to close friends and his girlfriend now. He and I are cool, but it stung and it still stings. I considered him a little brother, and I don’t think he’ll sadly ever understand how much our friendship meant to me.
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I tried reconnecting with a friend back about two months ago who I used to talk to a lot and hung out with a fair bit back when I was living in SoCal. He suddenly vanished on me two years ago so it was our first time talking again in a while. He was friendly but wasn’t interested in reconnecting and told me that he only talks to close friends and his girlfriend now. He and I are cool, but it stung and it still stings. I considered him a little brother, and I don’t think he’ll sadly ever understand how much our friendship meant to me.
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ParadigmShifted
Oct 21, 2007: : one of my life long friends passed away from an OD: : this destroyed me so badly i had to take a month off from college.
Dec 17, 2007: : ex boyfriend’s best friend (a friend to me also) passed away from a brain aneurysm.
Oct 29, 2010: : very good friend and colleague passed away from leukemia
Oct 1, 2020: : another friend who relapsed & OD
Oct 1, 2022: : brothers best friend since we were all kids; died from cirrhosis of the liver // failed liver and kidneys
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Oct 21, 2007: : one of my life long friends passed away from an OD: : this destroyed me so badly i had to take a month off from college.
Dec 17, 2007: : ex boyfriend’s best friend (a friend to me also) passed away from a brain aneurysm.
Oct 29, 2010: : very good friend and colleague passed away from leukemia
Oct 1, 2020: : another friend who relapsed & OD
Oct 1, 2022: : brothers best friend since we were all kids; died from cirrhosis of the liver // failed liver and kidneys
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MistyandTippy
People I’ve lost:
My mom (Dana)
My Great Grandma (I’m not sure of her name, but I think it’s Patrica)
Pets:
Mom’s cat (Mittens)
Four fish
Grandma’s cat (Cutie)
A whole lot of Cutie’s kittens
Another cat who’s name I can remember
Dog 1 (Bailey)
Dog 2 (Peanut)
Dog 3 (I can’t remember his name)
Another dog who I can’t remember anything about so I usually don’t count her
Same with Cutie’s mom
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People I’ve lost:
My mom (Dana)
My Great Grandma (I’m not sure of her name, but I think it’s Patrica)
Pets:
Mom’s cat (Mittens)
Four fish
Grandma’s cat (Cutie)
A whole lot of Cutie’s kittens
Another cat who’s name I can remember
Dog 1 (Bailey)
Dog 2 (Peanut)
Dog 3 (I can’t remember his name)
Another dog who I can’t remember anything about so I usually don’t count her
Same with Cutie’s mom
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Exo-l12-WAO
This vid was nice. But. i want to get over a friend. But they are near me everyday. what can i do to forget them I just dream and overthink about her that she is also thinking about me when its not true. I really want to get over this girl. She is hating me tho but i couldn't. I couldn't hate. I tell i hate but i am not actually. I laugh at her jokes. I dont want to do so. Please suggest some simple ideas. I dont have more time tho
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This vid was nice. But. i want to get over a friend. But they are near me everyday. what can i do to forget them I just dream and overthink about her that she is also thinking about me when its not true. I really want to get over this girl. She is hating me tho but i couldn't. I couldn't hate. I tell i hate but i am not actually. I laugh at her jokes. I dont want to do so. Please suggest some simple ideas. I dont have more time tho
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skytate3048
Thank you for this video. We all go through so much grief and loss and forget about ourselves in the process, or we feel like there's a set and specific way to do it bars in other people's processes. I love that this focuses on the self-care aspect. And the voice-over was awesome! I love that you could, not only feel empathy in his voice, but also hope and reassurance. Thank you so much for this perfect video.
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Thank you for this video. We all go through so much grief and loss and forget about ourselves in the process, or we feel like there's a set and specific way to do it bars in other people's processes. I love that this focuses on the self-care aspect. And the voice-over was awesome! I love that you could, not only feel empathy in his voice, but also hope and reassurance. Thank you so much for this perfect video.
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MaxwellNovak
I may have not literally lost a friend, none of my closest friends of stopped talking to me or died or anything like that, but one of my friends has changed. Idk what happened, but his personality and hobbies and just how he acts has been slowly changing, and it’s come to the point that when I’m talking to him, it’s like I’m talking to a whole different person. It’s like i lost him. What do I do
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I may have not literally lost a friend, none of my closest friends of stopped talking to me or died or anything like that, but one of my friends has changed. Idk what happened, but his personality and hobbies and just how he acts has been slowly changing, and it’s come to the point that when I’m talking to him, it’s like I’m talking to a whole different person. It’s like i lost him. What do I do
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Fernxia_Official
I lost my cat a couple months ago, his name was Shadow, and I didn't realize he made such a difference in the house, it feels weird without him, two months later, and we're planning on getting a new one soon, my sister's counselor said that we should, so it can fill the void in our hearts, I think I had a dream about him last night, I really miss him, and the grieving got worse again, RIP Shadow.
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I lost my cat a couple months ago, his name was Shadow, and I didn't realize he made such a difference in the house, it feels weird without him, two months later, and we're planning on getting a new one soon, my sister's counselor said that we should, so it can fill the void in our hearts, I think I had a dream about him last night, I really miss him, and the grieving got worse again, RIP Shadow.
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_larchiviste_
I decided to cut ties with my best friend of 6 years because he was trying to get romantically involved with me, and I didn't want it. He was using cheap, toxic tactics for that, and I just decided I had enough. It's been a few months, and I still think of him from time to time. It hurt a lot at the beginning. I was hurting a lot, too. But time heals all things, or at least makes them bearable.
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I decided to cut ties with my best friend of 6 years because he was trying to get romantically involved with me, and I didn't want it. He was using cheap, toxic tactics for that, and I just decided I had enough. It's been a few months, and I still think of him from time to time. It hurt a lot at the beginning. I was hurting a lot, too. But time heals all things, or at least makes them bearable.
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Rexus0705
This happened three times to me and all during between year 7 and y12.
It just ruined school for me and destroyed me mentally, and i went from a straight a disciplined student to a loser that failed his exams.
Being in school, seeing others with their friends and respective friend groups was too much for me, and ever since i dropped out i feel better, by not having the losses reminded
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This happened three times to me and all during between year 7 and y12.
It just ruined school for me and destroyed me mentally, and i went from a straight a disciplined student to a loser that failed his exams.
Being in school, seeing others with their friends and respective friend groups was too much for me, and ever since i dropped out i feel better, by not having the losses reminded
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nylesflagg
Lost my dad, then months later my mother and one of my best friends on the same day. I then separated from my wife and began getting divorced, I’m still in mental recovery from such a heavyweight experience. All I can say is thanks for sharing your experience with a calm cool and collected voice everything you said was on point it takes time and along the way add a little of yourself care
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Lost my dad, then months later my mother and one of my best friends on the same day. I then separated from my wife and began getting divorced, I’m still in mental recovery from such a heavyweight experience. All I can say is thanks for sharing your experience with a calm cool and collected voice everything you said was on point it takes time and along the way add a little of yourself care
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Chrissy717
Why now. I didn't just lose one, I lost over a dozen. Not because they are gone, but because I woke up and realized why I was part of their group. I tortured myself, I wanted them be rude to me because that's how much I hate myself. I loathe myself and that's why I stayed so long.
I wanna move on. But I don't know how. I don't know.
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Why now. I didn't just lose one, I lost over a dozen. Not because they are gone, but because I woke up and realized why I was part of their group. I tortured myself, I wanted them be rude to me because that's how much I hate myself. I loathe myself and that's why I stayed so long.
I wanna move on. But I don't know how. I don't know.
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Posi2Mind
This evening, I sat with my best friend, and we talked about what makes a solid foundation for a meaningful life. We both agreed that if you have these three things, life can truly be beautiful: a great teacher to guide you, inspiring books to learn from, and a genuine friend to share it all with. Your video really touched my heart.
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This evening, I sat with my best friend, and we talked about what makes a solid foundation for a meaningful life. We both agreed that if you have these three things, life can truly be beautiful: a great teacher to guide you, inspiring books to learn from, and a genuine friend to share it all with. Your video really touched my heart.
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jsan8825
Thank you for your videos. Thank you for the reminder that moving forward in grief is possible, that all it takes it time. After 4 family deaths then disconnecting from one of my childhood best friends, I honestly never thought I could keep moving forward. 3 years later, I think I found some peace. It will get better over time
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Thank you for your videos. Thank you for the reminder that moving forward in grief is possible, that all it takes it time. After 4 family deaths then disconnecting from one of my childhood best friends, I honestly never thought I could keep moving forward. 3 years later, I think I found some peace. It will get better over time
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HATERSHAQ
I lost my foster uncle when he passed away in November 2012, he was 90 years old. Gave me the best foster care I could ever afford. Truth is, my mom is all I have, besides I didn't have a single father on my own. As much as I'd like to lose myself over friendships, I'd rather just have hardships instead.
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I lost my foster uncle when he passed away in November 2012, he was 90 years old. Gave me the best foster care I could ever afford. Truth is, my mom is all I have, besides I didn't have a single father on my own. As much as I'd like to lose myself over friendships, I'd rather just have hardships instead.
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