7 Green Flags Someone Is Emotionally Safe In A Relationship
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Date: 2024-12-17
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Dorothy35
Emotional safety is the security you feel with someone who allows you to express your feelings freely and be who you are.
1) Consistency- Emotionally safe person will be consistent. They will follow up on their promises. This means you won't have to worry about their moods or second guess their responses. On the other hand, with an emotionally unsafe person, you will have to walk on eggshells. Its difficult to be constantly second guessing and worrying about your partner' s words and responses.
2) Responsibility. They will take responsiblity for their actions. They will own upto mistakes and know when to apologize and seek to repair any harm they caused. They value accountability and responsibility, nurturing a safe and trusting relationship dynamic.
3) Vulnerability.
4) Listen without judgment. An emotionally safe person will not jump to conclusions or criticise your feelings. They wont dismiss your feelings or get defensive. Rather they will listen attentively, validate your feelings, and express their own thoughts and emotions in a respectful manner.
5) Support. Aceesibility, Responsibility, Engagement. The right person will make it very clear that they are there for you.
6) Respect and boundaries. A safe person will honour your boundaries, both physical and emotional. You know they wont pressure you into doing things you are not comfortable with interacting when you are not ready.
7) Empathy. An emotionally safe person
Celebrate your successes creating a safe environment where you feel accepted.
Self- reflection. Are YOU being emotionally safe Communication, respect and empathy are two way streets in an emotionally safe relationahip.
Emotional safety is the cornerstone for a long and lasting relationship.
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Emotional safety is the security you feel with someone who allows you to express your feelings freely and be who you are.
1) Consistency- Emotionally safe person will be consistent. They will follow up on their promises. This means you won't have to worry about their moods or second guess their responses. On the other hand, with an emotionally unsafe person, you will have to walk on eggshells. Its difficult to be constantly second guessing and worrying about your partner' s words and responses.
2) Responsibility. They will take responsiblity for their actions. They will own upto mistakes and know when to apologize and seek to repair any harm they caused. They value accountability and responsibility, nurturing a safe and trusting relationship dynamic.
3) Vulnerability.
4) Listen without judgment. An emotionally safe person will not jump to conclusions or criticise your feelings. They wont dismiss your feelings or get defensive. Rather they will listen attentively, validate your feelings, and express their own thoughts and emotions in a respectful manner.
5) Support. Aceesibility, Responsibility, Engagement. The right person will make it very clear that they are there for you.
6) Respect and boundaries. A safe person will honour your boundaries, both physical and emotional. You know they wont pressure you into doing things you are not comfortable with interacting when you are not ready.
7) Empathy. An emotionally safe person
Celebrate your successes creating a safe environment where you feel accepted.
Self- reflection. Are YOU being emotionally safe Communication, respect and empathy are two way streets in an emotionally safe relationahip.
Emotional safety is the cornerstone for a long and lasting relationship.
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tamirisgaelzer1902
These characteristics are really important in any kind of relationship (romantic, friendship, familial etc)
However, i think something that could be added to the video is that: we are human, so we're not perfect all the time.
All of us have some sort of trauma from our life and no one has the obligation to always be The Best Person Ever or the Most Mature Person Ever, because it just wouldn't be a real relationship (because we wouldn't be expressing our humanity)
Aside from verbal and physical abuse, it's normal for anyone to have days where they're not the stable, secure and emotionally mature rock they usually are. There will be disagreements, misunderstandings or even fights (sans the abuse mentioned before) AND there will be times when your partner simply won't be able to be there for your, emotionally and/or physically, either due to previous conflict or due to other innumerous reasons. And that's ok, that's why we need a support system that's more than just our romantic partner.
There can also be long periods of strife/difficulty in relationships, for example: health/mental health issues, financial stress, sickness in the family or even kids. And during these periods, one might not be able to be the living supporting person they usually are for some time.
The key thing is balance. To check with yourself and your partner what's the most common m. o. between you and if they/you actually try to better them/yourself whenever (physically and emotionally) possible even if not always. It's not about we're fine when we're both happy but both of us try to put in REAL effort on our relationship most of the time.
Great video and I hope you guys might explore more of this in future ones!
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These characteristics are really important in any kind of relationship (romantic, friendship, familial etc)
However, i think something that could be added to the video is that: we are human, so we're not perfect all the time.
All of us have some sort of trauma from our life and no one has the obligation to always be The Best Person Ever or the Most Mature Person Ever, because it just wouldn't be a real relationship (because we wouldn't be expressing our humanity)
Aside from verbal and physical abuse, it's normal for anyone to have days where they're not the stable, secure and emotionally mature rock they usually are. There will be disagreements, misunderstandings or even fights (sans the abuse mentioned before) AND there will be times when your partner simply won't be able to be there for your, emotionally and/or physically, either due to previous conflict or due to other innumerous reasons. And that's ok, that's why we need a support system that's more than just our romantic partner.
There can also be long periods of strife/difficulty in relationships, for example: health/mental health issues, financial stress, sickness in the family or even kids. And during these periods, one might not be able to be the living supporting person they usually are for some time.
The key thing is balance. To check with yourself and your partner what's the most common m. o. between you and if they/you actually try to better them/yourself whenever (physically and emotionally) possible even if not always. It's not about we're fine when we're both happy but both of us try to put in REAL effort on our relationship most of the time.
Great video and I hope you guys might explore more of this in future ones!
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joshclark44
I have never been in a relationship partly because I cannot be emotionally mature enough to take care of someone else emotionally. I do try, extremely hard, but its inherently difficult with autism and I end up behaving like a 5 year old getting upset when I don't get my way and not respecting others boundaries. How do you give someone space when they need it when they honestly would never message you back when they're done taking a break I always have to be the one to message first and I feel undervalued. I tried expressing this but they insist that they don't need to return anything because they're not attracted to me. I want to be someone that people can rely on to share what they're going through to receive support, but I suck at it, and I never get it in return, not from the ones I'm attracted to.
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I have never been in a relationship partly because I cannot be emotionally mature enough to take care of someone else emotionally. I do try, extremely hard, but its inherently difficult with autism and I end up behaving like a 5 year old getting upset when I don't get my way and not respecting others boundaries. How do you give someone space when they need it when they honestly would never message you back when they're done taking a break I always have to be the one to message first and I feel undervalued. I tried expressing this but they insist that they don't need to return anything because they're not attracted to me. I want to be someone that people can rely on to share what they're going through to receive support, but I suck at it, and I never get it in return, not from the ones I'm attracted to.
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nickjee
Amazing video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosy, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
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Amazing video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosy, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
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psych2go
I've never felt emotionally safe around other people. Well except when I was too young, like less than 5 years old. Thats why I gave up on friendship, I was always on edge and it was never anything but draining. The only time I can unmask a fraction of my autism is when I'm super drunk, and thats why as soon as I drank with my friend for the first time I wanted to most time we hung out. Its a lot more fun when I'm not in constant panic mode. I haven't drank anything since he left. And I don't plan too again. Its a social activity after all, and social activitys are not a part of my life anymore.
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I've never felt emotionally safe around other people. Well except when I was too young, like less than 5 years old. Thats why I gave up on friendship, I was always on edge and it was never anything but draining. The only time I can unmask a fraction of my autism is when I'm super drunk, and thats why as soon as I drank with my friend for the first time I wanted to most time we hung out. Its a lot more fun when I'm not in constant panic mode. I haven't drank anything since he left. And I don't plan too again. Its a social activity after all, and social activitys are not a part of my life anymore.
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roguespectator70
It is also important to take a moment for self reflection Oh. I was already considering if all these things applied to myself from the get go, moreso than if it applied to people I've been with previously. I think I find myself being quite critical/reflective of myself more often than considering if I'm being treated properly by someone else. I think I'm very much in the habit of thinking a lot about if I'm doing enough in a relationship or being a good partner, which means I probably abandon my own wellbeing frequently. It's something I need to work on.
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It is also important to take a moment for self reflection Oh. I was already considering if all these things applied to myself from the get go, moreso than if it applied to people I've been with previously. I think I find myself being quite critical/reflective of myself more often than considering if I'm being treated properly by someone else. I think I'm very much in the habit of thinking a lot about if I'm doing enough in a relationship or being a good partner, which means I probably abandon my own wellbeing frequently. It's something I need to work on.
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FairyFoxPrincess
It hurts a bit to watch this. I have never met anyone like this. I’m the one doing everything even in friendships and family. Do these people actually exist I thought I was the crazy one not understanding human interaction by giving my all to be a kind, gentle person who makes others feel safe, fulfilled, happy and encouraged, and then never getting it back. Like I was always wondering am I doing it wrong Should I not be this kind’
I guess this is my answer. I’m doing it right but I haven’t found others who are doing it right back for me.
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It hurts a bit to watch this. I have never met anyone like this. I’m the one doing everything even in friendships and family. Do these people actually exist I thought I was the crazy one not understanding human interaction by giving my all to be a kind, gentle person who makes others feel safe, fulfilled, happy and encouraged, and then never getting it back. Like I was always wondering am I doing it wrong Should I not be this kind’
I guess this is my answer. I’m doing it right but I haven’t found others who are doing it right back for me.
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dymoure
I was in a relationship earlier this year. She was fantastic, bust she wasn’t there for me completely. She wasn’t willing to fully commit. And that hurt. I know it wasn’t fully her fault because she has a lot of stuff she’s going through, but I do wish she had been willing to hold on like she said she would. I wasn’t really sure for a long time. It’s pretty funny that we ended things shortly after I let my guard down completely and started fully loving and dedicating myself to her.
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I was in a relationship earlier this year. She was fantastic, bust she wasn’t there for me completely. She wasn’t willing to fully commit. And that hurt. I know it wasn’t fully her fault because she has a lot of stuff she’s going through, but I do wish she had been willing to hold on like she said she would. I wasn’t really sure for a long time. It’s pretty funny that we ended things shortly after I let my guard down completely and started fully loving and dedicating myself to her.
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TheWreckingball180
These people must be extremely lucky. I don't feel emotionally safe with anyone. Yet I'm desperate for a girlfriend who will hold me in her arms and tell me that everything will be okay. I don't get it. What have I done to be 26 and still never have had a girlfriend before I'm better than all those jerks who constantly belittle women. Yet they're the one's who get the girl and I'm left to die alone. Life is so unfair. It's honestly disgusting.
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These people must be extremely lucky. I don't feel emotionally safe with anyone. Yet I'm desperate for a girlfriend who will hold me in her arms and tell me that everything will be okay. I don't get it. What have I done to be 26 and still never have had a girlfriend before I'm better than all those jerks who constantly belittle women. Yet they're the one's who get the girl and I'm left to die alone. Life is so unfair. It's honestly disgusting.
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JessicaAnotii
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
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Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
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MrsSonic91
Does this go on with friendships too Because most red flags fits with what is going on my relationship with one of my friends. I have feel unsafe with them over 2 years and tried avoid them pretty must this whole year. We tried to talk about it but they weren't willing to end with good terms with both ends, just try to brush it off. We haven't talk couple of months now and I'm scared to start talking
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Does this go on with friendships too Because most red flags fits with what is going on my relationship with one of my friends. I have feel unsafe with them over 2 years and tried avoid them pretty must this whole year. We tried to talk about it but they weren't willing to end with good terms with both ends, just try to brush it off. We haven't talk couple of months now and I'm scared to start talking
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hassanalzaher3893
The irony, when the bonus segment popped up and suggested the viewer to self-reflect to see whether he was emotionally safe for the partner, I said shit, I was already watching the video as it was asking me whether I am being safe for my girl or not. I never even thought of her being safe for me. I guess at least that shows how much responsibility I place onto myself in a relationship.
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The irony, when the bonus segment popped up and suggested the viewer to self-reflect to see whether he was emotionally safe for the partner, I said shit, I was already watching the video as it was asking me whether I am being safe for my girl or not. I never even thought of her being safe for me. I guess at least that shows how much responsibility I place onto myself in a relationship.
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draygunnz
This actually helps me a lot right now. Had an argument with someone I was dating(past tense now, and I was wondering if maybe I was actually doing everything wrong. Turns out I was giving green flags left right and centre, and they were gaslighting me. At least this validates me a bit and helps me not feel like I was in the wrong. Still kinda scared they might harras me further, though.
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This actually helps me a lot right now. Had an argument with someone I was dating(past tense now, and I was wondering if maybe I was actually doing everything wrong. Turns out I was giving green flags left right and centre, and they were gaslighting me. At least this validates me a bit and helps me not feel like I was in the wrong. Still kinda scared they might harras me further, though.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Consistency 0: 42
2. Responsiblity 1: 21
3. Vulnerability 2: 05
4. They listen without judgement 2: 34
5. They support you 3: 09
6. Respect and boundaries 3: 43
7. Empathy 4: 11
8. Bonus thought: self-reflection 4: 33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Consistency 0: 42
2. Responsiblity 1: 21
3. Vulnerability 2: 05
4. They listen without judgement 2: 34
5. They support you 3: 09
6. Respect and boundaries 3: 43
7. Empathy 4: 11
8. Bonus thought: self-reflection 4: 33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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florianlaur5300
Never really had those in any partner: . They always just think me, me, me. I've been the one who usually gave most of these or tried, although I won't lie and say I am flawless or won't make mistakes. But it's really difficult if people aren't willing to acknowledge that they make mistakes too or are willing to fix them.
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Never really had those in any partner: . They always just think me, me, me. I've been the one who usually gave most of these or tried, although I won't lie and say I am flawless or won't make mistakes. But it's really difficult if people aren't willing to acknowledge that they make mistakes too or are willing to fix them.
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christianponce4836
Oof I'd trust this video but I've literally had a woman tell me she loves someone so much but cheated like a week ago. she exhibits many of these traits outwardly but is nastier underneath the built up personality. Remember people, just because they're like this most of the time doesn't mean you're safe.
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Oof I'd trust this video but I've literally had a woman tell me she loves someone so much but cheated like a week ago. she exhibits many of these traits outwardly but is nastier underneath the built up personality. Remember people, just because they're like this most of the time doesn't mean you're safe.
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Dexter333-m7t
Who else watched this to make sure they were emotionally safe I went through my first break up a little bit ago, her reason was she couldn’t handle my childhood trauma and things that were happening in my life. So I wanted to make sure I can be better for future relationships, self improvement is important!
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Who else watched this to make sure they were emotionally safe I went through my first break up a little bit ago, her reason was she couldn’t handle my childhood trauma and things that were happening in my life. So I wanted to make sure I can be better for future relationships, self improvement is important!
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MegaManNeo
Very interesting things you shared with us there
I think I persoanlly have the easiest time noticing whether someone supports me and is honest about their words. Still hoping to find the one (since the one I like is unavailable, this is kinda weird) but when I do, I think this makes pretty good guidelines
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Very interesting things you shared with us there
I think I persoanlly have the easiest time noticing whether someone supports me and is honest about their words. Still hoping to find the one (since the one I like is unavailable, this is kinda weird) but when I do, I think this makes pretty good guidelines
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little_lord_tam
Ive seen a perfect relationship like that and she cheated on him. Can we get a video on the psychology of cheating Because society treats it like only bad people do it, because its such a hurtful thing, but its so much more complicated. I think a real discussion about it would be important to have
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Ive seen a perfect relationship like that and she cheated on him. Can we get a video on the psychology of cheating Because society treats it like only bad people do it, because its such a hurtful thing, but its so much more complicated. I think a real discussion about it would be important to have
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Monkeyness-qu1oz
I love this video because it made me realize how good of a partner I would be because I never thought these traits I have are good but now I am starting to realize that they are good. The only thing I would struggle with is vulnerability because I have a very hard time trusting people
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I love this video because it made me realize how good of a partner I would be because I never thought these traits I have are good but now I am starting to realize that they are good. The only thing I would struggle with is vulnerability because I have a very hard time trusting people
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