Quiz: How Toxic is Your Communication Style (self test)
video description
Date: 2025-08-02
Related videos
Comments and reviews: 20
9usuck0
1: 30 I just want to say I think this concept, in general, is soft and unhelpful to the problem. The solution isn't coddling people's reactions to speaking types, so they feel safe. That's the opposite of helpful in some cases
There is a time and place for all conversation types, but more importantly, there is a responsibility of your own reactions to them. This softening of aggressors is like increasing the weight capacity of someone's chair instead of helping them lose weight and get stronger. You need to be able to hear someone and not be reactive, not be touched.
This doesn't dismiss that being soft and respectful is also important. It's just annoying that everyone only focuses on the softening and never the victims' responsibility to toughen up. None or our legs or arms were strong enough to stand on before we learned how to walk. Same thing with your emotional stability.
reply
1: 30 I just want to say I think this concept, in general, is soft and unhelpful to the problem. The solution isn't coddling people's reactions to speaking types, so they feel safe. That's the opposite of helpful in some cases
There is a time and place for all conversation types, but more importantly, there is a responsibility of your own reactions to them. This softening of aggressors is like increasing the weight capacity of someone's chair instead of helping them lose weight and get stronger. You need to be able to hear someone and not be reactive, not be touched.
This doesn't dismiss that being soft and respectful is also important. It's just annoying that everyone only focuses on the softening and never the victims' responsibility to toughen up. None or our legs or arms were strong enough to stand on before we learned how to walk. Same thing with your emotional stability.
reply
KameCrush
Whenever I try to get my opinion in, someone either doesn’t hear it and asks me to repeat what I said or they just don’t hear it and don’t want a follow up. Whenever I do try to voice my opinion, I immediately regret saying what I just said, it’s like as if no one wants to hear my opinion, as if I’m disconnected in a world full of connection. Makes sense why I’m now a big time introvert (and a loser) but I don’t think I’m toxic with my communication skills (probably because I rarely talk to anyone. Thanks for the quiz though, it helps a lot of people. Edit: I got 4 D’s, 3 C’s, 2 B’s and 1 E
reply
Whenever I try to get my opinion in, someone either doesn’t hear it and asks me to repeat what I said or they just don’t hear it and don’t want a follow up. Whenever I do try to voice my opinion, I immediately regret saying what I just said, it’s like as if no one wants to hear my opinion, as if I’m disconnected in a world full of connection. Makes sense why I’m now a big time introvert (and a loser) but I don’t think I’m toxic with my communication skills (probably because I rarely talk to anyone. Thanks for the quiz though, it helps a lot of people. Edit: I got 4 D’s, 3 C’s, 2 B’s and 1 E
reply
psych2go
I got half C's and half E's. I noticed I tend to avoid for the most part talking about emotions because numb is my default setting. I am depressed so it doesn't help much. I know some people care about me but part of me is waiting for the person to betray me, screw me over, or get me fired. I went to go to therapy but couldn't today because my insurance isn't working until September 1st. I see it as a sign that the first time I actually go to get help it will not work for me. I am confused because I got my insurance card 2 weeks ago and this happened. I feel like bottling up is the only thing I have to do.
reply
I got half C's and half E's. I noticed I tend to avoid for the most part talking about emotions because numb is my default setting. I am depressed so it doesn't help much. I know some people care about me but part of me is waiting for the person to betray me, screw me over, or get me fired. I went to go to therapy but couldn't today because my insurance isn't working until September 1st. I see it as a sign that the first time I actually go to get help it will not work for me. I am confused because I got my insurance card 2 weeks ago and this happened. I feel like bottling up is the only thing I have to do.
reply
LeBonguFairy
Zoning out isn't just some toxic crap, so to speak, it's related to disassociation that some of us can't control. (My roommate does not even remember half of her life, for example. )Some take accountability and preface a situation or friendship with this knowledge. Just be honest when you do struggle,
Also, only opening up with a few safe people when other trans people are being beaten and arrested for being honest about who they are is more of a safety tactic that should be used right now. Please be careful with this advice, it others a lot of people and assumes deliberate action.
reply
Zoning out isn't just some toxic crap, so to speak, it's related to disassociation that some of us can't control. (My roommate does not even remember half of her life, for example. )Some take accountability and preface a situation or friendship with this knowledge. Just be honest when you do struggle,
Also, only opening up with a few safe people when other trans people are being beaten and arrested for being honest about who they are is more of a safety tactic that should be used right now. Please be careful with this advice, it others a lot of people and assumes deliberate action.
reply
captain_chocolate
For the first one I always ALWAYS start with D, then input anything I might have to say about it which usually isn't much
I know from personal experience that people don't really need someone to solve all their problems for them, they just need someone to listen, someone that gets it
Listening is always the priority and in that situation they should always be doing a LOT more talking then you are because you need to let them get it out without you trying to take over
reply
For the first one I always ALWAYS start with D, then input anything I might have to say about it which usually isn't much
I know from personal experience that people don't really need someone to solve all their problems for them, they just need someone to listen, someone that gets it
Listening is always the priority and in that situation they should always be doing a LOT more talking then you are because you need to let them get it out without you trying to take over
reply
DaveSpectre122
4x D, 3xE, 2xB and 1xA. I am a little bit of everything even with that option already included: D But hey, overall I fit the D category as long as discussed stuff does not include me in an argument. In such cases it can be other categories as I try to defend myself, or avoid doing more damage the best ways I know at the moment, which sometimes isn't too good. I am trying to learn to control myself better in such situations, but so far the anxiety & protectiveness is winning.
reply
4x D, 3xE, 2xB and 1xA. I am a little bit of everything even with that option already included: D But hey, overall I fit the D category as long as discussed stuff does not include me in an argument. In such cases it can be other categories as I try to defend myself, or avoid doing more damage the best ways I know at the moment, which sometimes isn't too good. I am trying to learn to control myself better in such situations, but so far the anxiety & protectiveness is winning.
reply
NullCat15
I got mostly D-. 5D’s, 3C’S 1B and 1E so it’s most likely 5/10 TT I am supportive often and I do show empathy for others, sometimes I cut off people because I have temptations, which I can’t really help-.
I am mostly uncomfortable to make connections due to many fake friends I’ve got through out my life and currently I have 0 friends
But I do feel fine being alone, I don’t like making friends because I want to protect my energy and time mental health.
reply
I got mostly D-. 5D’s, 3C’S 1B and 1E so it’s most likely 5/10 TT I am supportive often and I do show empathy for others, sometimes I cut off people because I have temptations, which I can’t really help-.
I am mostly uncomfortable to make connections due to many fake friends I’ve got through out my life and currently I have 0 friends
But I do feel fine being alone, I don’t like making friends because I want to protect my energy and time mental health.
reply
psych2go
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, l've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why l am saying this here.
reply
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, l've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why l am saying this here.
reply
psych2go
I’ve always felt like people don’t really hear me when I talk, like my words disappear before they land. I often wonder maybe the reason I don’t know how to share my feelings anymore is because I’m so used to hiding them. And maybe I tend to avoid hard conversations because deep down, I really don’t think anyone would care. But learning how I communicate is perhaps a small step toward not feeling invisible all the time.
reply
I’ve always felt like people don’t really hear me when I talk, like my words disappear before they land. I often wonder maybe the reason I don’t know how to share my feelings anymore is because I’m so used to hiding them. And maybe I tend to avoid hard conversations because deep down, I really don’t think anyone would care. But learning how I communicate is perhaps a small step toward not feeling invisible all the time.
reply
faramund9865
Friend of mine seems to rollercoaster through these with me. Then she’s open, then she’s avoidant etc. It’s quite a ride and honestly I’d like her to show some solid signs she wants me to stick around because this is very tiring. I should probably start investing in someone else but I’m very picky and she’s the first person in a long time that made me feel at home/safe, even if it’s not always that way.
reply
Friend of mine seems to rollercoaster through these with me. Then she’s open, then she’s avoidant etc. It’s quite a ride and honestly I’d like her to show some solid signs she wants me to stick around because this is very tiring. I should probably start investing in someone else but I’m very picky and she’s the first person in a long time that made me feel at home/safe, even if it’s not always that way.
reply
Gorilamúsico
Yeah, i figured that one today, i am just trying to communicate to people that don't want to communicate with me. Unfortunately, there are those kinds of people. I usually try to express my self in a way people can understand what i feel or mean while i am talking, but they seem lost in the details even still i am left like the entitled girl who expects its boyfriend to have mind reading. It is frustrating.
reply
Yeah, i figured that one today, i am just trying to communicate to people that don't want to communicate with me. Unfortunately, there are those kinds of people. I usually try to express my self in a way people can understand what i feel or mean while i am talking, but they seem lost in the details even still i am left like the entitled girl who expects its boyfriend to have mind reading. It is frustrating.
reply
TaylorNY02
This quiz really made me stop and reflect communication shapes so much of our relationships and how we show up in the world. I’ve been reading Your Mind Was a Target by Dr. Tessa Voss, and it helped me see how much of our communication habits are influenced by unconscious patterns. If you want to grow and connect more authentically, her book is definitely worth a read.
reply
This quiz really made me stop and reflect communication shapes so much of our relationships and how we show up in the world. I’ve been reading Your Mind Was a Target by Dr. Tessa Voss, and it helped me see how much of our communication habits are influenced by unconscious patterns. If you want to grow and connect more authentically, her book is definitely worth a read.
reply
FurbYhouse24
I dear to bet my mother is the toxicities person on earth. A serpent/ scorpion! Bad luck for me living in a decluded country that she is above your rights and laws. You must always satisfied her. For outdoors at first expression a lovely, warmhearted, social, sympathetic person.
reply
I dear to bet my mother is the toxicities person on earth. A serpent/ scorpion! Bad luck for me living in a decluded country that she is above your rights and laws. You must always satisfied her. For outdoors at first expression a lovely, warmhearted, social, sympathetic person.
reply
craigmerkey8518
Really great. I see the personality patterns here. My share. I have to say my engagement varies with the person! With close people and people who understand reciprocal relationships I am therapeutic. With coworkers and most of my family I am like NO NO NO and GTFO my face!
reply
Really great. I see the personality patterns here. My share. I have to say my engagement varies with the person! With close people and people who understand reciprocal relationships I am therapeutic. With coworkers and most of my family I am like NO NO NO and GTFO my face!
reply
FZERO20
Yoooo I’m a E type communicator. And I definitely have different emotional types depending on what happens around me. I think when I overthink things is when I start getting back to my cold place so usually living in the moment and enjoying it for what it is helps me to stay up
reply
Yoooo I’m a E type communicator. And I definitely have different emotional types depending on what happens around me. I think when I overthink things is when I start getting back to my cold place so usually living in the moment and enjoying it for what it is helps me to stay up
reply
psych2go
I feel confused about everything but also bad about my actions but I still can’t understand
I think I got all of them unanswered and don’t know what to do besides talk but I feel happy or super confused but mostly happy and I don’t know why But I’m just saying things
reply
I feel confused about everything but also bad about my actions but I still can’t understand
I think I got all of them unanswered and don’t know what to do besides talk but I feel happy or super confused but mostly happy and I don’t know why But I’m just saying things
reply
psych2go
I got mostly Es. Mixed. Makes sense. Trying to get better at communicating. Trying to find the right balance between listening and sharing my own experiences to help others. I also have a habit of overexplaining things because I think I'm worried my communication stinks.
reply
I got mostly Es. Mixed. Makes sense. Trying to get better at communicating. Trying to find the right balance between listening and sharing my own experiences to help others. I also have a habit of overexplaining things because I think I'm worried my communication stinks.
reply
maironelfstone896
I got D and honestly, I notice that it's rare all the time. I'm not saying I'm perfect - I've worked really hard to get here. But once you do start communicating in a healthy way, it becomes so obvious that so many people around you don't. It's exhausting
reply
I got D and honestly, I notice that it's rare all the time. I'm not saying I'm perfect - I've worked really hard to get here. But once you do start communicating in a healthy way, it becomes so obvious that so many people around you don't. It's exhausting
reply
OakishAcorn
If anyone is thinking: Wow, I’m really not a good person, just keep in mind, you cared enough to check if you were. And you’re most likely trying to be better. So you cannot be as bad as you think. I hope this helped someone.
reply
If anyone is thinking: Wow, I’m really not a good person, just keep in mind, you cared enough to check if you were. And you’re most likely trying to be better. So you cannot be as bad as you think. I hope this helped someone.
reply
Finnkiller4147
So when finishing the quiz I’m a mix of emotionally safe communicator and mixed. I think it’s because I’ve learned how to treat others in specific ways depending on how they treat me or how they act around others
reply
So when finishing the quiz I’m a mix of emotionally safe communicator and mixed. I think it’s because I’ve learned how to treat others in specific ways depending on how they treat me or how they act around others
reply
Add a review, comment
Other channel videos
