Why Letting Them Go Is Your Best Decision Ever
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Date: 2024-07-12
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LanasTutoring
I had a bad experience with a toxic friend. I had to get out of that friendship. At the time, I had no friends other than her. She was the one who introduced me to her own group of friends. But she would treat me horribly. She would say horrible things about me, make me do all the assignments, make threats if I did anything wrong, purposefully exclude me out of group activities after all I’d do, and many more things that still hurt to this day. The rest of her friends in the group would just follow along with her. I was afraid for about 4 years to end our friendship, because I felt that I’d be all alone, no more friends. I never told anyone about how bad my experience was with her. It felt like a trap sometimes. I’m happy that I found the courage to get out of it. But even though she treated me horribly, I struggled with letting it go, and I still did care about her for some reason. I guess this kind of friendship was all I knew about friendship. I never had many friends before this, so it kind of made me believe that this was normal. I also tried to emphasize with her that maybe she was going through a lot, but she would dismiss it whenever i tried to ask and just make fun of me more, so in the end, it was all just harming me too much. I had to get out. I hope she is a better person now and if she was struggling with anything, I hope everything is alright now. Wishing anyone else that had a bad experience in a friendship or relationship all the best
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I had a bad experience with a toxic friend. I had to get out of that friendship. At the time, I had no friends other than her. She was the one who introduced me to her own group of friends. But she would treat me horribly. She would say horrible things about me, make me do all the assignments, make threats if I did anything wrong, purposefully exclude me out of group activities after all I’d do, and many more things that still hurt to this day. The rest of her friends in the group would just follow along with her. I was afraid for about 4 years to end our friendship, because I felt that I’d be all alone, no more friends. I never told anyone about how bad my experience was with her. It felt like a trap sometimes. I’m happy that I found the courage to get out of it. But even though she treated me horribly, I struggled with letting it go, and I still did care about her for some reason. I guess this kind of friendship was all I knew about friendship. I never had many friends before this, so it kind of made me believe that this was normal. I also tried to emphasize with her that maybe she was going through a lot, but she would dismiss it whenever i tried to ask and just make fun of me more, so in the end, it was all just harming me too much. I had to get out. I hope she is a better person now and if she was struggling with anything, I hope everything is alright now. Wishing anyone else that had a bad experience in a friendship or relationship all the best
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LisaAndrew-m7m
The thing with narcs is that it's all about having someone they own (someone who's in love with them) but it's never enough. They get another supply and start to maltreat their lover, when that happens they are no longer interested in owning you so they fall out of love and you become a burden on them. Typically even when they get the new supply they don't discard us cause new supply might leave and their back to needing someone to own again. That's when they return with the love bombing. Really it's all about infidelity for them. I went back to my ex 4 times before I was able to learn and understand their disorder cause before going back again after my last separation my senior sister got me an infidelity investigator ( cyber_spytrackz ) to confirm to me that I was just a soft landing for him and nothing more (that's what we all are to narcs.
The infidelity investigator helped me get all sorts of infos from my ex's phone without his knowledge. I went through all of it and I found a sequence of how he get new supplies then loses them cause of his narcissist nature, I find out in between and run off to my parent's house then he comes back after a while with his really impressive tricks, gets me back, look for another supply and leaves me again. That's the circle of life for narcissists. So sad
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The thing with narcs is that it's all about having someone they own (someone who's in love with them) but it's never enough. They get another supply and start to maltreat their lover, when that happens they are no longer interested in owning you so they fall out of love and you become a burden on them. Typically even when they get the new supply they don't discard us cause new supply might leave and their back to needing someone to own again. That's when they return with the love bombing. Really it's all about infidelity for them. I went back to my ex 4 times before I was able to learn and understand their disorder cause before going back again after my last separation my senior sister got me an infidelity investigator ( cyber_spytrackz ) to confirm to me that I was just a soft landing for him and nothing more (that's what we all are to narcs.
The infidelity investigator helped me get all sorts of infos from my ex's phone without his knowledge. I went through all of it and I found a sequence of how he get new supplies then loses them cause of his narcissist nature, I find out in between and run off to my parent's house then he comes back after a while with his really impressive tricks, gets me back, look for another supply and leaves me again. That's the circle of life for narcissists. So sad
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seltascare4713
It shows you have a high level of self awareness, self love and responsibility.
Let’s take this example: your partner is extremely hurt by your previous actions. - needs time to heal! Now and this may cause some difficult situations.
In this case all of what you said in the video applies.
(You invest and sacrifice much of your time (Something you actually must do in a relationship, it’s currently not really doing anything good (since you have to care for them (they also care-but they just can’t care as much right now since they have a hard time- but they do as much as they can) -they currently behave childish (since people tend to behave increasingly emotional towards specific behaviors while being extremely hurt)
So this means you should let go a person, that you caused harm and instead of helping them- you say: hey bro, I think our relationship isn’t good for me anymore.
PLEASE, PLEASE! - it’s not a rare case that people do that- and this is not the art of letting go, no, it’s the art of leaving as soon as you have to put a little effort into a relationship.
AND SO PLEASE psych2go, address this subject! This is NOT okay to leave people when they need you the most.
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It shows you have a high level of self awareness, self love and responsibility.
Let’s take this example: your partner is extremely hurt by your previous actions. - needs time to heal! Now and this may cause some difficult situations.
In this case all of what you said in the video applies.
(You invest and sacrifice much of your time (Something you actually must do in a relationship, it’s currently not really doing anything good (since you have to care for them (they also care-but they just can’t care as much right now since they have a hard time- but they do as much as they can) -they currently behave childish (since people tend to behave increasingly emotional towards specific behaviors while being extremely hurt)
So this means you should let go a person, that you caused harm and instead of helping them- you say: hey bro, I think our relationship isn’t good for me anymore.
PLEASE, PLEASE! - it’s not a rare case that people do that- and this is not the art of letting go, no, it’s the art of leaving as soon as you have to put a little effort into a relationship.
AND SO PLEASE psych2go, address this subject! This is NOT okay to leave people when they need you the most.
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orvinsoslawdod
i need help about this since as for me, when it comes to real life, it's very easy for me to let go, espc when it involved toxic people ofc, i can move on from them right away even we've spent lots of time tgthr because i know i deserve better (and ive done this lots of time ngl. but when it comes to the book im reading, it's so hard to do so. my ship always sank and i often get 2nd lead syndrome to the point it depressed me, yet i still cant let them go and it hurt me even more. i need help with this. it truly affect my life that sometimes i got nightmare about it. (the reason why i watch this vid was just to help ease my 2nd lead syndrome pain, but since it's more for real life, i can't find the answer. when irl, whenever people i confessed to, reject me, i can move on from them less than a week, cause i accept that they're not the best for me & the what-ifs (example: he feels the same way about me) doesn't mean the situation will be better
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i need help about this since as for me, when it comes to real life, it's very easy for me to let go, espc when it involved toxic people ofc, i can move on from them right away even we've spent lots of time tgthr because i know i deserve better (and ive done this lots of time ngl. but when it comes to the book im reading, it's so hard to do so. my ship always sank and i often get 2nd lead syndrome to the point it depressed me, yet i still cant let them go and it hurt me even more. i need help with this. it truly affect my life that sometimes i got nightmare about it. (the reason why i watch this vid was just to help ease my 2nd lead syndrome pain, but since it's more for real life, i can't find the answer. when irl, whenever people i confessed to, reject me, i can move on from them less than a week, cause i accept that they're not the best for me & the what-ifs (example: he feels the same way about me) doesn't mean the situation will be better
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Multifandomfan1225
I have a friend. We met at our practice at school. The friendship started great! We were talking and it was a normal and healthy friendship! Though. things started to get weird.
(Btw they are non-binary so)
They started to get even MORE clingy. They were following me around and i ended up spending more time with them than i wanted to. They always wanted to hang out with me and it made me feel. pressured. I wanted to hang out with my other friends more.
Now i'm graduating and moving to different schools, so i wont see them more often.
But they still keeps chatting me and that stuff. And idk. it just feels so suffocating yk
I tried to talk to them about it multiple times but. why does it still feel so. uncomfortable for me Maybe i should be MORE straightforward abt it
I would appreciate advice. Do you think i should cut them off or do you think theres still a chance to fix the relationship
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I have a friend. We met at our practice at school. The friendship started great! We were talking and it was a normal and healthy friendship! Though. things started to get weird.
(Btw they are non-binary so)
They started to get even MORE clingy. They were following me around and i ended up spending more time with them than i wanted to. They always wanted to hang out with me and it made me feel. pressured. I wanted to hang out with my other friends more.
Now i'm graduating and moving to different schools, so i wont see them more often.
But they still keeps chatting me and that stuff. And idk. it just feels so suffocating yk
I tried to talk to them about it multiple times but. why does it still feel so. uncomfortable for me Maybe i should be MORE straightforward abt it
I would appreciate advice. Do you think i should cut them off or do you think theres still a chance to fix the relationship
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reneanderson8225
I agree with distractionsI, for one have been distracted by family members that have no sense of boundaries they often take advantage of your generous nature. When you see your reflection and you don’t realise that you’re health, Your money, your time, Social life, mental health, your bills, your house, is being neglected because you’ve invested all into looking after family members, who don’t appreciate your sacrifice. This has happened to me. I was trying so hard 100% focused other family members that I forgot myself now I’m on track of fixing what I neglected crediting my bills and home now mental health and physical health I know I’ll see myself again living my comfortable lifestyle my way. I hope other people can do the same. Take one step at a time. This can save your life.
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I agree with distractionsI, for one have been distracted by family members that have no sense of boundaries they often take advantage of your generous nature. When you see your reflection and you don’t realise that you’re health, Your money, your time, Social life, mental health, your bills, your house, is being neglected because you’ve invested all into looking after family members, who don’t appreciate your sacrifice. This has happened to me. I was trying so hard 100% focused other family members that I forgot myself now I’m on track of fixing what I neglected crediting my bills and home now mental health and physical health I know I’ll see myself again living my comfortable lifestyle my way. I hope other people can do the same. Take one step at a time. This can save your life.
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d1l4te43
I had a special friend who originally shared a lot of the same romantic feelings that I had for her. Unfortunately, she fell on hard times a year ago, and despite my best efforts to be understanding and supportive of her, she’s been avoiding me ever since and refuses to speak with me anymore.
It’d be so much easier to move on if she at least said goodbye or explained why she specifically avoided me, but I’ve got no real closure from this whole thing. I’d like to believe she had good intentions that I just don’t know about, but I can’t help but feel completely betrayed. I’m in the process of trying to let her go just for my own mental health, but it’s hard to tell if someday she’ll just pop back into my life out of nowhere. It’s such a conflicting feeling.
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I had a special friend who originally shared a lot of the same romantic feelings that I had for her. Unfortunately, she fell on hard times a year ago, and despite my best efforts to be understanding and supportive of her, she’s been avoiding me ever since and refuses to speak with me anymore.
It’d be so much easier to move on if she at least said goodbye or explained why she specifically avoided me, but I’ve got no real closure from this whole thing. I’d like to believe she had good intentions that I just don’t know about, but I can’t help but feel completely betrayed. I’m in the process of trying to let her go just for my own mental health, but it’s hard to tell if someday she’ll just pop back into my life out of nowhere. It’s such a conflicting feeling.
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laurasohn8332
I've been in a relationship where. A lot of the time, I've felt used. He would Always put me in situations where. He would ask So much of me and he would get upset at me if I didn't live up to what he wanted. He asked me to do things that. May have seemed ok, but. I always got hurt from listening to him. I don't want to give too much information because it's too personal, but. There are things I've done in this relationship that I'm Not proud of and. I know I have to cut ties with him, but. I also feel like I need a support group that I can talk to so I Don't try to go back to him again.
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I've been in a relationship where. A lot of the time, I've felt used. He would Always put me in situations where. He would ask So much of me and he would get upset at me if I didn't live up to what he wanted. He asked me to do things that. May have seemed ok, but. I always got hurt from listening to him. I don't want to give too much information because it's too personal, but. There are things I've done in this relationship that I'm Not proud of and. I know I have to cut ties with him, but. I also feel like I need a support group that I can talk to so I Don't try to go back to him again.
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RaidenHusky
Just let go of someone yesterday. Realized I should have done so quite a long time ago but I cant blame myself, they were so tied to our mutual friend group, there was always this pressure to work it out or just be chill and I thought the problem was me. Only until others started to see his issues more recently did people say Oh, man, its okay you feel this way, I didnt know this side to him a side I saw years ago. I shouldve trusted myself enough to do it, but I might have lost other friends at the time. Who knows. Im not sure whats next. But felt good to finally let go.
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Just let go of someone yesterday. Realized I should have done so quite a long time ago but I cant blame myself, they were so tied to our mutual friend group, there was always this pressure to work it out or just be chill and I thought the problem was me. Only until others started to see his issues more recently did people say Oh, man, its okay you feel this way, I didnt know this side to him a side I saw years ago. I shouldve trusted myself enough to do it, but I might have lost other friends at the time. Who knows. Im not sure whats next. But felt good to finally let go.
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christscrackers647
I feel like this with one of my supposed best friends in a Discord server I’m in. I come online all the time too role play with him and others but I never get a chance to do what I want to do nor do I get to develop or advance my own stories, it feels more like a distraction from what’s really important in my own life every time I go online and RP whatever HE wants to do.
Often times I think this isn’t working for me but I try to go with it anyway because I don’t have too many friends in real life. So should I cut him loose and let him go anyway
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I feel like this with one of my supposed best friends in a Discord server I’m in. I come online all the time too role play with him and others but I never get a chance to do what I want to do nor do I get to develop or advance my own stories, it feels more like a distraction from what’s really important in my own life every time I go online and RP whatever HE wants to do.
Often times I think this isn’t working for me but I try to go with it anyway because I don’t have too many friends in real life. So should I cut him loose and let him go anyway
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Queen_Supreme
This is great timing for me personally. I broke up with my first boyfriend yesterday, and the pain I feel is immense. I've never loved anyone like I love him, but he wasn't ready to let go of his past relationship to be with me, and I know I deserve better than that. This decision was the hardest decision I ever made, but it was the right one, even though it hurts the both of us. My love for him won't go away anytime soon but I know I did what was right for myself and for him. Be strong and do right by yourself even when its difficult. You can do it
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This is great timing for me personally. I broke up with my first boyfriend yesterday, and the pain I feel is immense. I've never loved anyone like I love him, but he wasn't ready to let go of his past relationship to be with me, and I know I deserve better than that. This decision was the hardest decision I ever made, but it was the right one, even though it hurts the both of us. My love for him won't go away anytime soon but I know I did what was right for myself and for him. Be strong and do right by yourself even when its difficult. You can do it
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Lu1u_si11y
Before my school year (I was in 5th grade at the time) ended I was in a friend group (the kids in the group where in the same grade as me) that had the same interests as me and they would always make jokes that I didn't like and they would always be mean to me as well so on the week that my school year was gonna end I got mad and left the group and now when I look at the drawings they made I feel guilty that I left the group but I feel glad at the same time.
(Now I have nothing else to say so ya-)
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Before my school year (I was in 5th grade at the time) ended I was in a friend group (the kids in the group where in the same grade as me) that had the same interests as me and they would always make jokes that I didn't like and they would always be mean to me as well so on the week that my school year was gonna end I got mad and left the group and now when I look at the drawings they made I feel guilty that I left the group but I feel glad at the same time.
(Now I have nothing else to say so ya-)
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plasmaowl5281
I had a crush on a girl who liked me back, but we never said anything. Her family moved out of state, and my crush mutated into an unhealthy obsession. It took me over 10 years to get over her while she (thankfully) didn't even know and long moved on.
17 years later I ran into her 2 weeks ago. I didn't tell her every single thing I thought up, but I finally got to say the important stuff to her face. She gave me hugs, and I broke down in her arms. I'm exhausted
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I had a crush on a girl who liked me back, but we never said anything. Her family moved out of state, and my crush mutated into an unhealthy obsession. It took me over 10 years to get over her while she (thankfully) didn't even know and long moved on.
17 years later I ran into her 2 weeks ago. I didn't tell her every single thing I thought up, but I finally got to say the important stuff to her face. She gave me hugs, and I broke down in her arms. I'm exhausted
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Tofu_shrimp
holy crappp the timing is impeccable. im trying to let him go after a mutual friend told me hes talking to another girl, which he had been keeping a secret from me despite my attempts to get him to mention her. just now the mutual friend sent me a screenshot of their texts, and that loyal boy thinks its my fault we've stopped talking, when it was him who started getting dry and lost interest. good luck to the people who are also trying to let someone go!
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holy crappp the timing is impeccable. im trying to let him go after a mutual friend told me hes talking to another girl, which he had been keeping a secret from me despite my attempts to get him to mention her. just now the mutual friend sent me a screenshot of their texts, and that loyal boy thinks its my fault we've stopped talking, when it was him who started getting dry and lost interest. good luck to the people who are also trying to let someone go!
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nsimard4749
So I really need some advice on this.
I went back with my ex months ago after he broke no contact. The relationship was toxic but I couldn't help it because I am so attached and he did an amazing apology.
He wanna get back into a relationship but I'm not sure if I like him and he keeps pushing me. For now it's fine but he's starting to leave me on seen/delivered after giving me so much love and it's confusing.
I have no idea what to do.
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So I really need some advice on this.
I went back with my ex months ago after he broke no contact. The relationship was toxic but I couldn't help it because I am so attached and he did an amazing apology.
He wanna get back into a relationship but I'm not sure if I like him and he keeps pushing me. For now it's fine but he's starting to leave me on seen/delivered after giving me so much love and it's confusing.
I have no idea what to do.
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kamkutekxd6036
(sorry for bad english its not my first language) I have a girl i'm in love with and we are very great friends but i fell i can't have her and i know i need to let go but i don't know how i he 2 years untlil the end of high school so i know i gonna see her 5 times in a week after summer break and i don't know what to do and how to do anything simmilar to leting go of this felling
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(sorry for bad english its not my first language) I have a girl i'm in love with and we are very great friends but i fell i can't have her and i know i need to let go but i don't know how i he 2 years untlil the end of high school so i know i gonna see her 5 times in a week after summer break and i don't know what to do and how to do anything simmilar to leting go of this felling
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psych2go
Initiated a breakup going on 6 years ago for all the right reasons (personal growth, mostly) but never let them go truly. Wasted time on other relationships in the meanwhile and grew up, then our paths crossed again. Now I can say I'm happily together with them again AND prepared to be an adult. Sometimes it's the timing, not the person or relationship itself that's wrong.
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Initiated a breakup going on 6 years ago for all the right reasons (personal growth, mostly) but never let them go truly. Wasted time on other relationships in the meanwhile and grew up, then our paths crossed again. Now I can say I'm happily together with them again AND prepared to be an adult. Sometimes it's the timing, not the person or relationship itself that's wrong.
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psych2go
I know you must have alot of video ideas. Buut I have another one if it will be possible.
Love guide for INFP.
Since that is one of personality types that have the biggest problem looking for love. Most of the time they are just dreaming about love wishing it will come true. And after watching your videos about love me infp person still don't get it.
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I know you must have alot of video ideas. Buut I have another one if it will be possible.
Love guide for INFP.
Since that is one of personality types that have the biggest problem looking for love. Most of the time they are just dreaming about love wishing it will come true. And after watching your videos about love me infp person still don't get it.
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MindBuddies
This video beautifully emphasizes the strength and empowerment that come from making difficult decisions for personal growth and well-being. Given that many relationships require effort and compromise, do you think the advice to let go when values or goals don't align might sometimes lead people to give up too easily on potentially valuable relationships
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This video beautifully emphasizes the strength and empowerment that come from making difficult decisions for personal growth and well-being. Given that many relationships require effort and compromise, do you think the advice to let go when values or goals don't align might sometimes lead people to give up too easily on potentially valuable relationships
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JustinJulian-bq8vm
Yeah l even become friendless because there beliefs and values are different not having the same chemistry as before and even outgrown or even becoming detach from people and I'm not trying to hate anyone I just easily become detached people as soon as their values change or don't even try to pay attention to what I am saying anyway
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Yeah l even become friendless because there beliefs and values are different not having the same chemistry as before and even outgrown or even becoming detach from people and I'm not trying to hate anyone I just easily become detached people as soon as their values change or don't even try to pay attention to what I am saying anyway
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