5 Habits That Blocks Intimacy
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Date: 2024-01-30
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CrimsonLotus1895
I do definitely have a fear of being vulnerable whenever I'm in a relationship as I don't want to be judged for my past in which I used to be a bad person.
A relationship I was pursuing failed because I didn't want to show who was under the metaphorical mask and I didn't give her the respect and consideration she needed when my own emotional desperation took over.
I recently went through a breakup (different person) and one thing that's been consistent is my obsession for the person who I failed, I even dreamt of being with her while I was in my most recent relationship.
I'd had other dreams of being with her prior as well, and a part of me still deeply desires to have another chance.
All I did was voice my needs and desires when I should have placed hers first.
Now I'm a borderline emotionless husk who can't feel genuine love, care, compassion, empathy or happiness in his heart because of my selfish pursuits.
Even though I really want to make things right, even though I really desire one more chance it'll never happen and I have to live with the deep scars in my heart.
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I do definitely have a fear of being vulnerable whenever I'm in a relationship as I don't want to be judged for my past in which I used to be a bad person.
A relationship I was pursuing failed because I didn't want to show who was under the metaphorical mask and I didn't give her the respect and consideration she needed when my own emotional desperation took over.
I recently went through a breakup (different person) and one thing that's been consistent is my obsession for the person who I failed, I even dreamt of being with her while I was in my most recent relationship.
I'd had other dreams of being with her prior as well, and a part of me still deeply desires to have another chance.
All I did was voice my needs and desires when I should have placed hers first.
Now I'm a borderline emotionless husk who can't feel genuine love, care, compassion, empathy or happiness in his heart because of my selfish pursuits.
Even though I really want to make things right, even though I really desire one more chance it'll never happen and I have to live with the deep scars in my heart.
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wolfshadow2418
I believe that I have this same issue; i was talking to a girl since 2022 and she said that she wanted something serious but in 2023 she was dry and showed no love for me. Now in 2024 i was planning to move on and she started to want something serious, she wanted to go intimate even do we never went on dates nor spend time together. I told her I wanted to go out separate ways and that hurt her a lot (her words. Ever since last Thursday, she wanted to see if she wanted to keep going but haven't heard from her ever since. We were planning to be intimate but I mostly think I told her that because i didn't feel right to go intimate. She left me on read and dont know if i should text her and fix things or keep moving forward.
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I believe that I have this same issue; i was talking to a girl since 2022 and she said that she wanted something serious but in 2023 she was dry and showed no love for me. Now in 2024 i was planning to move on and she started to want something serious, she wanted to go intimate even do we never went on dates nor spend time together. I told her I wanted to go out separate ways and that hurt her a lot (her words. Ever since last Thursday, she wanted to see if she wanted to keep going but haven't heard from her ever since. We were planning to be intimate but I mostly think I told her that because i didn't feel right to go intimate. She left me on read and dont know if i should text her and fix things or keep moving forward.
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yuu_miran
Theres some contradiction with this list. The title itself implies that there are some tendencies in a person’s behaviour that prevent them from having and maintaining meaningful genuine relationships with all due desire to have those relationships, am I getting it right If 1st and 3rd could be considered a thing of a presumably traumatized but genuine person due to past experiences, in my opinion all the other points are attributes to cluster B personalities which shouldnt be mixed up in here. Because remember, cluster B people hate intimacy and they dont care to put in the effort.
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Theres some contradiction with this list. The title itself implies that there are some tendencies in a person’s behaviour that prevent them from having and maintaining meaningful genuine relationships with all due desire to have those relationships, am I getting it right If 1st and 3rd could be considered a thing of a presumably traumatized but genuine person due to past experiences, in my opinion all the other points are attributes to cluster B personalities which shouldnt be mixed up in here. Because remember, cluster B people hate intimacy and they dont care to put in the effort.
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psych2go
I think I've been manipulated my entire life. I honestly believe there have been unseen forces working against me getting in my way at every turn since I've been out in the world by myself. I always find a way around them or I'll go through them, but I think I recently played into their hands for the last time. I fear things may change drastically for me soon, and I may be on my way to place far darker than I have ever experienced to which there isn't a return from. I would say wish me luck but I know there is no luck in this life. It's just your skills showing, it's not luck.
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I think I've been manipulated my entire life. I honestly believe there have been unseen forces working against me getting in my way at every turn since I've been out in the world by myself. I always find a way around them or I'll go through them, but I think I recently played into their hands for the last time. I fear things may change drastically for me soon, and I may be on my way to place far darker than I have ever experienced to which there isn't a return from. I would say wish me luck but I know there is no luck in this life. It's just your skills showing, it's not luck.
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MrBlx4life
I've seen myself constantly fearing opening myself, and having my vulnerability used against me. Keeping secrets for decades and then sharing your life with a. For lack of a better term, gossip. Not encouraging for openness. It's difficult to expose your nature to someone who is aggressively condescending to your daily habits
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I've seen myself constantly fearing opening myself, and having my vulnerability used against me. Keeping secrets for decades and then sharing your life with a. For lack of a better term, gossip. Not encouraging for openness. It's difficult to expose your nature to someone who is aggressively condescending to your daily habits
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psych2go
Sometimes critizing and judgment are the most dangerous, because it's so normal at school, social media etc. Even if we think we're free from these behaviours it's a good idea to check it. A few years ago I noticed I'm too judgmental, and I've changed my mindset to loving-kindness. It's much healthier and happier
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Sometimes critizing and judgment are the most dangerous, because it's so normal at school, social media etc. Even if we think we're free from these behaviours it's a good idea to check it. A few years ago I noticed I'm too judgmental, and I've changed my mindset to loving-kindness. It's much healthier and happier
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damnablethief
I don't think my problem is all women by ANY means. but all the women I have gone for or been with have been really bad for me, and treated me really badly. Not that I am an angel in any way, I have made mistakes in relarionships. But intamacy is something that I am being DEPRIVED of entirely rn. just sucks.
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I don't think my problem is all women by ANY means. but all the women I have gone for or been with have been really bad for me, and treated me really badly. Not that I am an angel in any way, I have made mistakes in relarionships. But intamacy is something that I am being DEPRIVED of entirely rn. just sucks.
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belliott88
It took me and my GF 4 years of extremely painful patience with each other to even begin practicing authentic intimacy and honest communication. It took a ton of patience, forgiveness, communication, resilience, persistence, and refusing to attack or sabotage each other in immature or petty ways.
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It took me and my GF 4 years of extremely painful patience with each other to even begin practicing authentic intimacy and honest communication. It took a ton of patience, forgiveness, communication, resilience, persistence, and refusing to attack or sabotage each other in immature or petty ways.
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Absolhunter251
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I have these signs.
I told my biggest vulnerability and it was used against meI’m being hurt by it by someone special to me
I guess I can’t have intimacy.
But I have these signs, I don’t think I can get cured by it.
This video came just in time thank you
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I have these signs.
I told my biggest vulnerability and it was used against meI’m being hurt by it by someone special to me
I guess I can’t have intimacy.
But I have these signs, I don’t think I can get cured by it.
This video came just in time thank you
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UrgentCabbage99
For those who need a quick time jump:
1. Avoiding Important Conversations: 0: 44
2. Lack of Active Listening: 1: 16
3. Failure to Express Needs: 1: 56
4. Criticism and Judgment: 2: 29
5. Neglecting Quality Time: 3: 01
And remember, to love and be kind to yourself
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For those who need a quick time jump:
1. Avoiding Important Conversations: 0: 44
2. Lack of Active Listening: 1: 16
3. Failure to Express Needs: 1: 56
4. Criticism and Judgment: 2: 29
5. Neglecting Quality Time: 3: 01
And remember, to love and be kind to yourself
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Avoiding important conversations 0: 43
2. Lack of active listening 1: 15
3. Failure to express needs 1: 54
4. Criticism and judgment 2: 28
5. Neglecting quality time 3: 00
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Avoiding important conversations 0: 43
2. Lack of active listening 1: 15
3. Failure to express needs 1: 54
4. Criticism and judgment 2: 28
5. Neglecting quality time 3: 00
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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iiglicylyn197
Suddenly I’ve been feeling weird with my boyfriend hugging me or being intimate with me, I used to love these things with him but recently I’ve had a lack of interest with these things even though I still love him a lot
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Suddenly I’ve been feeling weird with my boyfriend hugging me or being intimate with me, I used to love these things with him but recently I’ve had a lack of interest with these things even though I still love him a lot
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MorgueInTheVoid
This is so important. And it's essential to remember that physical intimacy is not enjoyable unless emotional intimacy is the foundation and its strong enough to make both people feel comfortable getting physical.
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This is so important. And it's essential to remember that physical intimacy is not enjoyable unless emotional intimacy is the foundation and its strong enough to make both people feel comfortable getting physical.
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luketurner314
What I struggle with is between working full-time, working on my own projects, and responsibilities from being an adult, I don't make the time to focus on me, to analyze/process my emotions/feelings
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What I struggle with is between working full-time, working on my own projects, and responsibilities from being an adult, I don't make the time to focus on me, to analyze/process my emotions/feelings
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TaforSmth
Im in the state of wanting intimacy but is terrified of it due to how much ive been hurt over and over again to the point of numbness, idk if i can ever try to open up due to just the fear of it all
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Im in the state of wanting intimacy but is terrified of it due to how much ive been hurt over and over again to the point of numbness, idk if i can ever try to open up due to just the fear of it all
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anophoria
Sometimes i feel like i dont know why i feel incapable of getting emotionally (romantically) close to someone, also physically. Its like i dont wanna admit that my childhood is at fault for that
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Sometimes i feel like i dont know why i feel incapable of getting emotionally (romantically) close to someone, also physically. Its like i dont wanna admit that my childhood is at fault for that
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pobl6650
Gotta say, the mind reading is a easy trap to fall into, I find taking a step back and breathing to be a go to strategy, but the hardest part is admitting you might be doing something wrong
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Gotta say, the mind reading is a easy trap to fall into, I find taking a step back and breathing to be a go to strategy, but the hardest part is admitting you might be doing something wrong
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krane7888
0: 43 - Avoiding important conversations
1: 14 - Lack of active listening
1: 55 - Failure to express needs
2: 29 - Criticism and judgement
3: 01 - Neglecting quality time
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0: 43 - Avoiding important conversations
1: 14 - Lack of active listening
1: 55 - Failure to express needs
2: 29 - Criticism and judgement
3: 01 - Neglecting quality time
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douglaskaplon2595
When you say about needs. To me, it sounds more of like a want that people are having these desires. To me, a need is what to drink, food to eat and a roof over your head.
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When you say about needs. To me, it sounds more of like a want that people are having these desires. To me, a need is what to drink, food to eat and a roof over your head.
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casey2401
I guess the thumbnail’s from a fairly popular show but it made me extremely uncomfortable. The positions & expressions made me think it was a woman being SA in a workplace.
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I guess the thumbnail’s from a fairly popular show but it made me extremely uncomfortable. The positions & expressions made me think it was a woman being SA in a workplace.
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