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Why Neurodivergent People Struggle with Loneliness [8D Audio Experience]
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Date: 2025-03-14
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SunsetAllu
There's several reasons I have autism but one is that I am inflexible in changing my views and compromising, and I'm like this until there is evidence, so as a teenager I point things out that people are too scared to admit and they hate me for it, I can't befriend the obscene amount of underage substance abusers because I see what they're doing as horribly wrong and even adults shouldn't do that (adults and children shouldnt get drunk, and kids shouldn't be smoking weed since it can activate schizophrenia, psychosis, and shrink the decision making part of the brain before it finishes developing) and when I say this they get offended, and I feel like throwing up and I get scared for their safety, yet I've been told twice I'm selfish because I can't change others, but why should I be the one to change I also disagree with the LGBTQIA movement on a lot of things, I don't hate gay people though I am a queer person myself, but a lot of the movements opinions I disagree with and in turn lots of the people in my high school. I'm trying to find things outside of that but its not easy, I'm terrified and not only is it autism it's attachment disorder too.
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There's several reasons I have autism but one is that I am inflexible in changing my views and compromising, and I'm like this until there is evidence, so as a teenager I point things out that people are too scared to admit and they hate me for it, I can't befriend the obscene amount of underage substance abusers because I see what they're doing as horribly wrong and even adults shouldn't do that (adults and children shouldnt get drunk, and kids shouldn't be smoking weed since it can activate schizophrenia, psychosis, and shrink the decision making part of the brain before it finishes developing) and when I say this they get offended, and I feel like throwing up and I get scared for their safety, yet I've been told twice I'm selfish because I can't change others, but why should I be the one to change I also disagree with the LGBTQIA movement on a lot of things, I don't hate gay people though I am a queer person myself, but a lot of the movements opinions I disagree with and in turn lots of the people in my high school. I'm trying to find things outside of that but its not easy, I'm terrified and not only is it autism it's attachment disorder too.
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BradyChun
I have epilepsy, autism and ADHD. Epilepsy Harms my brain and makes me fall way behind my peers. Autism makes me have sensory overload. ADHD makes me have high tension energy for example when I’m just sitting there watching something I’m not interested in. I get this strong energy feeling stuck in my body that makes me want to get up and dance and shake awkwardly in front of everyone. Which Psych2Go didn’t mention. The other thing that Psych2go only sort of mentioned is hyper focus which comes from both autism and ADHD. It’s where when you find a certain interest you can lock into it and think about nothing else. Like mine is research I’m an expert in Harry Potter behind the scenes, how the body functions medically, service dogs and right now I’m working on researching how to start a new business. Last I’m going through all the classic things other teens are going through. Like anxiety, depression, puberty, etc. thanks for reading my whole comment.
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I have epilepsy, autism and ADHD. Epilepsy Harms my brain and makes me fall way behind my peers. Autism makes me have sensory overload. ADHD makes me have high tension energy for example when I’m just sitting there watching something I’m not interested in. I get this strong energy feeling stuck in my body that makes me want to get up and dance and shake awkwardly in front of everyone. Which Psych2Go didn’t mention. The other thing that Psych2go only sort of mentioned is hyper focus which comes from both autism and ADHD. It’s where when you find a certain interest you can lock into it and think about nothing else. Like mine is research I’m an expert in Harry Potter behind the scenes, how the body functions medically, service dogs and right now I’m working on researching how to start a new business. Last I’m going through all the classic things other teens are going through. Like anxiety, depression, puberty, etc. thanks for reading my whole comment.
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Lovelypotato2
I've always felt isolated and misunderstood by people no matter how hard I keep trying to fit in, it is draining that it could take me weeks to feel better.
I started to hate explaining myself to people too, as to why I did/said this or that, at some point, I also expect myself to be understood the same way that I spare others the time and energy to be understood.
And no matter how much people keep telling me that i am loved and cared for, i always doubt it (due to past experiences with friends, i always think that they only approached me for a reason and once they have it, they will leave.
And I've been crying about it for the past week since i don't know who to talk to or what to say.
And then I'm like They're also dealing with a lot of problems, don't burden them with yours.
It just hurts to be aware of that conflict within you. When some people praise self-awareness, i just wish to get it off myself.
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I've always felt isolated and misunderstood by people no matter how hard I keep trying to fit in, it is draining that it could take me weeks to feel better.
I started to hate explaining myself to people too, as to why I did/said this or that, at some point, I also expect myself to be understood the same way that I spare others the time and energy to be understood.
And no matter how much people keep telling me that i am loved and cared for, i always doubt it (due to past experiences with friends, i always think that they only approached me for a reason and once they have it, they will leave.
And I've been crying about it for the past week since i don't know who to talk to or what to say.
And then I'm like They're also dealing with a lot of problems, don't burden them with yours.
It just hurts to be aware of that conflict within you. When some people praise self-awareness, i just wish to get it off myself.
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psych2go
I have AuDHD and I come to the realization that I never really had any friends. In fact, I have/had more acquaintances than friends. I hungout with a few in the past, but not anymore. I'm also lonely with my family as well. At this point, I opted to stop making friends because it always feels like nobody is really in my corner. Looking at this video alone, yeah, I've always been misunderstood. Always have and always will be. Like, I'm not really the worst person in the world, but my words and actions can sometimes lead me to being perceived wrongly by others. Sometimes, it always feels like no matter how hard I really try, it's never good enough for anybody and I always end up alone. It's like my life has been nothing but a lie. Look, I don't really care if I'm alone, but I really hate feeling alone when I'm around other people. But you know what Who really needs people Better to be wolf than to be part of the circus.
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I have AuDHD and I come to the realization that I never really had any friends. In fact, I have/had more acquaintances than friends. I hungout with a few in the past, but not anymore. I'm also lonely with my family as well. At this point, I opted to stop making friends because it always feels like nobody is really in my corner. Looking at this video alone, yeah, I've always been misunderstood. Always have and always will be. Like, I'm not really the worst person in the world, but my words and actions can sometimes lead me to being perceived wrongly by others. Sometimes, it always feels like no matter how hard I really try, it's never good enough for anybody and I always end up alone. It's like my life has been nothing but a lie. Look, I don't really care if I'm alone, but I really hate feeling alone when I'm around other people. But you know what Who really needs people Better to be wolf than to be part of the circus.
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hassanaziz2622
Yup. I can see it. Like i have different ways of connecting things which seem unrelatable to many. For example: I lost a game at 404 score so i said that 404 is error of websites not proceeding forward so losing game at 404 means you couldn't play that game anymore. One friend said to me thst i had different ways of seeing the world. Tbh, i also handled rejection while developing friendship like they don't want to be my friends anymore. I don't have fear of rejection as i can understand that we also do tend not like some persons ourselves too. I mostly feel like i have adhd and autism. It does affect my daily routine very much.
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Yup. I can see it. Like i have different ways of connecting things which seem unrelatable to many. For example: I lost a game at 404 score so i said that 404 is error of websites not proceeding forward so losing game at 404 means you couldn't play that game anymore. One friend said to me thst i had different ways of seeing the world. Tbh, i also handled rejection while developing friendship like they don't want to be my friends anymore. I don't have fear of rejection as i can understand that we also do tend not like some persons ourselves too. I mostly feel like i have adhd and autism. It does affect my daily routine very much.
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kayleighdriessen
as someone with early-diagnosed autism, I sometimes wish the world around me would just quiet down for once and stop chasing for the next big thing, sometimes I'm not sure if I've ever truly felt lonely to begin with because I'm more withdrawn, concerned with enjoying and improving my own artistic hobbies and only talking to small groups of people at a time, I've made atleast one true friend during my school-years and that already means more to me than a random bunch of acquaintances who might say I care for you but their actions don't match up
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as someone with early-diagnosed autism, I sometimes wish the world around me would just quiet down for once and stop chasing for the next big thing, sometimes I'm not sure if I've ever truly felt lonely to begin with because I'm more withdrawn, concerned with enjoying and improving my own artistic hobbies and only talking to small groups of people at a time, I've made atleast one true friend during my school-years and that already means more to me than a random bunch of acquaintances who might say I care for you but their actions don't match up
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Lu_882
I have autism and really bad anxiety, so its really hard for me to interact with people. I really want friends and to go out into the world but I am just so scared and overwhelmed most of the time.
I can go days where I am happy to be in my own little bubble, but every now and then I have a few dark days where I realize how lonely I am.
I do have a badminton club that I go to and it does give me a boost in confidence (everyone there is so incredibly lovely) But it would be nice if I can find someone/a group of people that are just like me
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I have autism and really bad anxiety, so its really hard for me to interact with people. I really want friends and to go out into the world but I am just so scared and overwhelmed most of the time.
I can go days where I am happy to be in my own little bubble, but every now and then I have a few dark days where I realize how lonely I am.
I do have a badminton club that I go to and it does give me a boost in confidence (everyone there is so incredibly lovely) But it would be nice if I can find someone/a group of people that are just like me
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KIJYOPSO
My experience/advice:
Start by enjoying your own company, finding what you enjoy alone helps.
Choose the ones that can be done alone, but in crowded environments; gym (weights, free run, tampoline, other, range (golf, bow, other, museums, or even specialty stores when upgrading your hobby's equipment and tools.
Do these alone or with friends, but use them to create a drop of the hat community; like one where you can interact with the people when there with no outside commitment; its unspoken that venue relationships can remain that.
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My experience/advice:
Start by enjoying your own company, finding what you enjoy alone helps.
Choose the ones that can be done alone, but in crowded environments; gym (weights, free run, tampoline, other, range (golf, bow, other, museums, or even specialty stores when upgrading your hobby's equipment and tools.
Do these alone or with friends, but use them to create a drop of the hat community; like one where you can interact with the people when there with no outside commitment; its unspoken that venue relationships can remain that.
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Jacob_Gust
I wish I had known about neurodivergent brains a lot sooner because it would’ve made sense why I always felt isolated and like I never fit in. Whenever I’m in a group, I always struggled to keep up, like everyone else was speaking a secret language I couldn’t understand. It felt like they all spoke in code which I could never understand. Like if everyone is laughing at a scene in a movie, I could not see why it’s so funny. Now as an adult, learning about all this helped me see that my brain just works differently, and that’s okay.
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I wish I had known about neurodivergent brains a lot sooner because it would’ve made sense why I always felt isolated and like I never fit in. Whenever I’m in a group, I always struggled to keep up, like everyone else was speaking a secret language I couldn’t understand. It felt like they all spoke in code which I could never understand. Like if everyone is laughing at a scene in a movie, I could not see why it’s so funny. Now as an adult, learning about all this helped me see that my brain just works differently, and that’s okay.
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moonwalker5557
I have ADHD, but in general feel like I'm on a different wavelength than most. Having a different and way deeper thought process and also feeling and experiences emotions in way deeper ways. This makes me feel very alone, despite having many people that love me and vice versa. I'm a man and it just seems like a lot of people (not all) can't understand a man being more sensitive and caring. It's also just realy difficult knowing that you don't fit into ''normal society'' (9-5 etc, but always getting pushed in that direction by others
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I have ADHD, but in general feel like I'm on a different wavelength than most. Having a different and way deeper thought process and also feeling and experiences emotions in way deeper ways. This makes me feel very alone, despite having many people that love me and vice versa. I'm a man and it just seems like a lot of people (not all) can't understand a man being more sensitive and caring. It's also just realy difficult knowing that you don't fit into ''normal society'' (9-5 etc, but always getting pushed in that direction by others
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bing_crystal4831
I mean this in the nicest way possible. It feels like if someone is an introvert, there’s at least a 70% chance they’re also neurodivergent. I have autism and adhd, and while I also have social anxiety, I think the main problem is that socializing is not something I really seek out. Like I can compliment people or say something in a classroom, but that’s about it. While it is nice to have friends, I just do not really incentivize doing so. (Or maybe that’s just what my personality is, I don’t know)
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I mean this in the nicest way possible. It feels like if someone is an introvert, there’s at least a 70% chance they’re also neurodivergent. I have autism and adhd, and while I also have social anxiety, I think the main problem is that socializing is not something I really seek out. Like I can compliment people or say something in a classroom, but that’s about it. While it is nice to have friends, I just do not really incentivize doing so. (Or maybe that’s just what my personality is, I don’t know)
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Xolcor
I keep seeing that every step forward, no matter how small is progress. But at a point, you realize you're still going at less then a snails pace to feel like you are where you need to be. I always feel like I'm not going fast enough, I'm already so far behind that even the tiny steps I'm taking now will hardly make a difference in the long run. How do you reconcile with the fact that you might never be able to fix yourself if you can't make progress on yourself at a reasonable rate
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I keep seeing that every step forward, no matter how small is progress. But at a point, you realize you're still going at less then a snails pace to feel like you are where you need to be. I always feel like I'm not going fast enough, I'm already so far behind that even the tiny steps I'm taking now will hardly make a difference in the long run. How do you reconcile with the fact that you might never be able to fix yourself if you can't make progress on yourself at a reasonable rate
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halland25
TIMESTAMPS:
0: 00 Intro
0: 35 Sensory Overload
0: 52 Difficulty with social cues
1: 06 Feeling misunderstood
1: 20 Fear of rejection
1: 45 Start small and safe
2: 09 Find your niche
2: 27 Set boundaries
2: 42 Practice self-compassion
2: 57 Seek neurodivergent - Friendly support
3: 13 A word of encouragement
3: 32 Outro
If anything to ask for me, let a comment in below. Thank you!
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TIMESTAMPS:
0: 00 Intro
0: 35 Sensory Overload
0: 52 Difficulty with social cues
1: 06 Feeling misunderstood
1: 20 Fear of rejection
1: 45 Start small and safe
2: 09 Find your niche
2: 27 Set boundaries
2: 42 Practice self-compassion
2: 57 Seek neurodivergent - Friendly support
3: 13 A word of encouragement
3: 32 Outro
If anything to ask for me, let a comment in below. Thank you!
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samrobbins7695
I have autism and I’m glad that this is being recognized more. I totally relate as social events, loud environments, crowded places, or even just having a conversation with someone can be draining and overstimulating. Even when I do put myself out there socially it does feel like it’s ineffective and that it almost feels pointless putting myself out there. It’d be nice to find people I can totally relate to.
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I have autism and I’m glad that this is being recognized more. I totally relate as social events, loud environments, crowded places, or even just having a conversation with someone can be draining and overstimulating. Even when I do put myself out there socially it does feel like it’s ineffective and that it almost feels pointless putting myself out there. It’d be nice to find people I can totally relate to.
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psych2go
I have yet to find any social situation where I feel safe. I've been wandering around trying to find something but it never works. There has even been times that I feel ok but as soon as I try to build on that it suddenly reverses and the fear comes right back. Its been so long that I don't know if I should keep thinking there's a chance. I've learned to live with it, thats that. No reason to fight anymore. Just live on.
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I have yet to find any social situation where I feel safe. I've been wandering around trying to find something but it never works. There has even been times that I feel ok but as soon as I try to build on that it suddenly reverses and the fear comes right back. Its been so long that I don't know if I should keep thinking there's a chance. I've learned to live with it, thats that. No reason to fight anymore. Just live on.
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andrewkful
I again thank Psych2Go for giving me the opportunity to animate another video! I talked with the Psych2Go crew and we evolved my contributions to up the quality a bit and to alter some things in production to improve the experience. You may notice that the look and format is a tiny bit different than in my first video, notably that this one's shorter in length. I hope you all enjoy!
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I again thank Psych2Go for giving me the opportunity to animate another video! I talked with the Psych2Go crew and we evolved my contributions to up the quality a bit and to alter some things in production to improve the experience. You may notice that the look and format is a tiny bit different than in my first video, notably that this one's shorter in length. I hope you all enjoy!
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Dawn-s3v
It's sometimes hard to understand myself. People around me keep shouting at me for not socializing with people who constantly calls me and asks me to go on an outing with them. This leads to arguments and makes me feel even worse. Honestly I didn't know that there is something called neurodivergent loneliness. Thanks for the video!
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It's sometimes hard to understand myself. People around me keep shouting at me for not socializing with people who constantly calls me and asks me to go on an outing with them. This leads to arguments and makes me feel even worse. Honestly I didn't know that there is something called neurodivergent loneliness. Thanks for the video!
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winkyben69
Thank you for this! I wish you made this video years earlier. The advices you gave I already tried and they really do work! For me it's impossible to connect with strangers I know nothing about, but it's so easy to do it in groups with shared interests. Good luck fellow neuro-spicy people!
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Thank you for this! I wish you made this video years earlier. The advices you gave I already tried and they really do work! For me it's impossible to connect with strangers I know nothing about, but it's so easy to do it in groups with shared interests. Good luck fellow neuro-spicy people!
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coppersssnek9619
i think a big reason for difficulty socialising, that you haven't mentioned, is other people perceiving you as weird subconsciously before you even approach them. people fear what they don't understand, so if you give them a weird feeling they tend to go fight or flight pretty fast.
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i think a big reason for difficulty socialising, that you haven't mentioned, is other people perceiving you as weird subconsciously before you even approach them. people fear what they don't understand, so if you give them a weird feeling they tend to go fight or flight pretty fast.
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DJ-iu5bb
Grandma and Grandpa want me to find a girl well she Died Rip and my Grandfather has Cancer im really trying to figure out how it seems like back then it was easier but i dont think they understand how hard it really is to get one with my Mental Handicap it feels impossible
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Grandma and Grandpa want me to find a girl well she Died Rip and my Grandfather has Cancer im really trying to figure out how it seems like back then it was easier but i dont think they understand how hard it really is to get one with my Mental Handicap it feels impossible
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