7 Signs You’re More Emotionally Mature Than You Think
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Date: 2025-01-30
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Anthony-c9m4v
For the empathy part I want to share something I thought about.
We can indeed know what effect will have some strong words like insulting, blaming, being agressive etc.
But on the other hand, what we think will be the emotional response to what we said often are projection of our own reactions, especially fears or bad ones.
For exemple if you fear someone might be hurt by something you said about parenthood for example, it might say more about yourself than about what's effectively true about the other one.
Also, a large psrt of how what ones says affects the other is out of our control.
We could for example say something in front of a 10 person audience, 9 being ok, 1 being triggered.
The reason of the trigger then not being in the emetor but in the receptor.
Also, each and everyone of us translate and filter what we hear and see trough our own life, conditioning and present cravings and desires.
A some story has then the possibility to be interpreted, remembered, create different emotions depending of the receptors inner world at the time.
And I say at the time because, we're in a constante change of inner states, so a same story, a some book, or a same film could be interpretated and resonate completely differently according to the moment.
If I wanted to share all of this it is because yes I think that having consideration for the other wellbeing is important but getting more conscious of ourselves is even more important so to be able to see more and more really the other and not just an interpretation of our environment through ourselves.
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For the empathy part I want to share something I thought about.
We can indeed know what effect will have some strong words like insulting, blaming, being agressive etc.
But on the other hand, what we think will be the emotional response to what we said often are projection of our own reactions, especially fears or bad ones.
For exemple if you fear someone might be hurt by something you said about parenthood for example, it might say more about yourself than about what's effectively true about the other one.
Also, a large psrt of how what ones says affects the other is out of our control.
We could for example say something in front of a 10 person audience, 9 being ok, 1 being triggered.
The reason of the trigger then not being in the emetor but in the receptor.
Also, each and everyone of us translate and filter what we hear and see trough our own life, conditioning and present cravings and desires.
A some story has then the possibility to be interpreted, remembered, create different emotions depending of the receptors inner world at the time.
And I say at the time because, we're in a constante change of inner states, so a same story, a some book, or a same film could be interpretated and resonate completely differently according to the moment.
If I wanted to share all of this it is because yes I think that having consideration for the other wellbeing is important but getting more conscious of ourselves is even more important so to be able to see more and more really the other and not just an interpretation of our environment through ourselves.
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Moonchild-g1q
I cry everyday more like weeping and silent yelling. I am unemployed and unmarried. People of my age are travelling working having love life and children. My mother passed away too. I have been a burden for so long to others. I try to succeed but fail miserably. It's been a while. Yesterday was kind of like the last door, it closed too. I failed again. Now I don't have anything more to try. If I weren't ugly atleast some one would have given me a life. I could say I have something to live. Now how can I describe myself. for long its crying pain and ache realising how useless I am. I was really good in studies that's what pains me. Everything was for nothing. Now what is left for me is to start doing menial daily survival jobs but all the study victories mock back at me. Looser it laughs out. My heart is telling me why do I have to fight anymore. Just end this. The thing is I am a coward even afraid to end it. It scares what if I don't die but stay semi dead and struggle again worse than ever. My eyes are burning it doesn't have tears anymore but it still cries and burns me. In a parallel universe I am happy. I have a good job I have a love life. I have kids. They have grandparents and friends. Life has troubles but it will go away. A simple peaceful life which many of you have but haven't realised its worth yet. I am denied living. If you have a simple life be grateful. I am forgotten there is nobody to weep for me when I
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I cry everyday more like weeping and silent yelling. I am unemployed and unmarried. People of my age are travelling working having love life and children. My mother passed away too. I have been a burden for so long to others. I try to succeed but fail miserably. It's been a while. Yesterday was kind of like the last door, it closed too. I failed again. Now I don't have anything more to try. If I weren't ugly atleast some one would have given me a life. I could say I have something to live. Now how can I describe myself. for long its crying pain and ache realising how useless I am. I was really good in studies that's what pains me. Everything was for nothing. Now what is left for me is to start doing menial daily survival jobs but all the study victories mock back at me. Looser it laughs out. My heart is telling me why do I have to fight anymore. Just end this. The thing is I am a coward even afraid to end it. It scares what if I don't die but stay semi dead and struggle again worse than ever. My eyes are burning it doesn't have tears anymore but it still cries and burns me. In a parallel universe I am happy. I have a good job I have a love life. I have kids. They have grandparents and friends. Life has troubles but it will go away. A simple peaceful life which many of you have but haven't realised its worth yet. I am denied living. If you have a simple life be grateful. I am forgotten there is nobody to weep for me when I
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kdp05
Fellow neurodivergents, if you’re feeling upset that you’re not mature/can’t relate to this, it’s okay! These maturity signs are aimed at those who are neurotypical. We express ourselves differently and we’re scientifically more sensitive to criticism/ rejection than neurotypical people. I also want to say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with finding it hard to manage our emotions, it’s just literally how our brains are wired. If it really is distressing for you, I recommend going to see a therapist who is specialised in Neurodivergence and fully understand what you’re going through because of it. I personally have a really difficult time managing my emotions and I get angry really easily, and it has never done me good. So I’m trying my best to take a second to breathe before flying off the handleso far it’s honestly really hard, my family just get me so pissed off often
Anyways, it doesn’t mean that you’re immature, you just have a different way of approaching the problem at hand and there’s nothing wrong with it! Remember, we live in a world that was made to function for neurotypicals.
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Fellow neurodivergents, if you’re feeling upset that you’re not mature/can’t relate to this, it’s okay! These maturity signs are aimed at those who are neurotypical. We express ourselves differently and we’re scientifically more sensitive to criticism/ rejection than neurotypical people. I also want to say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with finding it hard to manage our emotions, it’s just literally how our brains are wired. If it really is distressing for you, I recommend going to see a therapist who is specialised in Neurodivergence and fully understand what you’re going through because of it. I personally have a really difficult time managing my emotions and I get angry really easily, and it has never done me good. So I’m trying my best to take a second to breathe before flying off the handleso far it’s honestly really hard, my family just get me so pissed off often
Anyways, it doesn’t mean that you’re immature, you just have a different way of approaching the problem at hand and there’s nothing wrong with it! Remember, we live in a world that was made to function for neurotypicals.
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nicoweise3992
After 3 years of therapy and 10 years studying psychology I can relate to the comments that say that a lot of people nowadays aren't fully emotionaly mature.
But. nobody is. We all have our own reasons and problems to get too emotional in some situations. But instead of being angry about it I find it most helpful to address it to the other person in the right tone that this behavior bothers you.
Sadly not everyone has access to psychological education or isn't eager enough to look something up by themselves. But on the long run trying to help others to find inner peace actually gives me some too. So that maybe one day we all can behave better and be more kind to our surroundings.
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After 3 years of therapy and 10 years studying psychology I can relate to the comments that say that a lot of people nowadays aren't fully emotionaly mature.
But. nobody is. We all have our own reasons and problems to get too emotional in some situations. But instead of being angry about it I find it most helpful to address it to the other person in the right tone that this behavior bothers you.
Sadly not everyone has access to psychological education or isn't eager enough to look something up by themselves. But on the long run trying to help others to find inner peace actually gives me some too. So that maybe one day we all can behave better and be more kind to our surroundings.
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NickNappi-j5o
Many people lack these skills. I struggle with finding people who are emotionally mature like i am. I think most people rather take an easy way out in general and don’t want to communicate with words because it’s easier to hurt someone online and not have direct communication and be called out politely. And sadly people who take an easy way out do things that are hurtful and hard to understand by the other person and they hurt others in the process. I always rather talk something out instead of ghosting people and being unkind but many others don’t do that.
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Many people lack these skills. I struggle with finding people who are emotionally mature like i am. I think most people rather take an easy way out in general and don’t want to communicate with words because it’s easier to hurt someone online and not have direct communication and be called out politely. And sadly people who take an easy way out do things that are hurtful and hard to understand by the other person and they hurt others in the process. I always rather talk something out instead of ghosting people and being unkind but many others don’t do that.
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MissSirenita
I am getting there. I will be honest, there is so much I must unlearn. Emotional regulation is one of them. I’m a strong feeler, and sometimes it’s hard for me to understand my own emotions. I also grew up with an emotionally immature father. However, I am getting better at catching when I’m going out of control. I can give reason, but a reason isn’t a good excuse when I’m causing harm to others and myself.
So I give myself enough credit that I’m getting there, but I still have a ton of growing up to do.
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I am getting there. I will be honest, there is so much I must unlearn. Emotional regulation is one of them. I’m a strong feeler, and sometimes it’s hard for me to understand my own emotions. I also grew up with an emotionally immature father. However, I am getting better at catching when I’m going out of control. I can give reason, but a reason isn’t a good excuse when I’m causing harm to others and myself.
So I give myself enough credit that I’m getting there, but I still have a ton of growing up to do.
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Mr-Tonk
Hey, I’m looking for advice. I’ve been suspecting I have inattentive ADHD for 2 years now (which is uncommon to find out at my age as it’s usually more visible in people starting college and early adult life, and I am only 13) But my parents don’t believe me as they only know about the impulsive variant. What do I do Do I explain to them what ADHD is, how it works and such, or do I get a diagnosis or sum. Can I talk to a psychiatrist without my parents knowing or sum like that Please help.
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Hey, I’m looking for advice. I’ve been suspecting I have inattentive ADHD for 2 years now (which is uncommon to find out at my age as it’s usually more visible in people starting college and early adult life, and I am only 13) But my parents don’t believe me as they only know about the impulsive variant. What do I do Do I explain to them what ADHD is, how it works and such, or do I get a diagnosis or sum. Can I talk to a psychiatrist without my parents knowing or sum like that Please help.
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psych2go
hey umm psych2go, you might never see this or ever actually answer, but could you ever do a video about how to understand yourself after some incident at school i've been watching more and more psychology related stuff trying to understand why i am who i am right now, and why i do stuff or not do stuff, but every time i feel like i have a lead there's a doubt at the back of my mind, i can't afford to meet a therapist or psychologist so it's videos like yours i turn to.
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hey umm psych2go, you might never see this or ever actually answer, but could you ever do a video about how to understand yourself after some incident at school i've been watching more and more psychology related stuff trying to understand why i am who i am right now, and why i do stuff or not do stuff, but every time i feel like i have a lead there's a doubt at the back of my mind, i can't afford to meet a therapist or psychologist so it's videos like yours i turn to.
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DuaaAziz-h3i
Signs of emotional maturity!
1. High empathy: Kindness and Compassion for others and for yourself
2. High adaptability: Adjust in college life and in aspects of life.
3. Conflict and anger management
4. Communication skills: Avoid bad language, act with cautiousness when resolving conflicts.
5. Accountability: taking full action of responsibilities
6. Honesty.
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Signs of emotional maturity!
1. High empathy: Kindness and Compassion for others and for yourself
2. High adaptability: Adjust in college life and in aspects of life.
3. Conflict and anger management
4. Communication skills: Avoid bad language, act with cautiousness when resolving conflicts.
5. Accountability: taking full action of responsibilities
6. Honesty.
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Chrissy717
Emotional maturity confuses me. Isn't constantly lying to people about your own feelings a bad thing
I'm miserable on the inside, hurt and I don't know where to go, so emotional maturity for me always means do your best to hide your inner feelings
But then again, I think the basis for this analysis is not someone who struggles in their own life.
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Emotional maturity confuses me. Isn't constantly lying to people about your own feelings a bad thing
I'm miserable on the inside, hurt and I don't know where to go, so emotional maturity for me always means do your best to hide your inner feelings
But then again, I think the basis for this analysis is not someone who struggles in their own life.
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MissSparrow. 1
Nice video! I just wanted to add that this kind of emotional maturity is often more achievable for neurotypicals. Many neurodivergent people, like those with autism or ADHD, process emotions and social situations very differently. In their case, it’s not about lacking maturity but having a different way of experiencing and expressing emotions.
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Nice video! I just wanted to add that this kind of emotional maturity is often more achievable for neurotypicals. Many neurodivergent people, like those with autism or ADHD, process emotions and social situations very differently. In their case, it’s not about lacking maturity but having a different way of experiencing and expressing emotions.
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altairmontejero
I can relate to this, that's why my teacher always refer to me as The student who balances in shaky water. First, I don't really know what she meant, not until she said that I always try to understand people and circumstances in different context. Like I don't even notice it until she spoke about it. Now that feels like I'm new to myself
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I can relate to this, that's why my teacher always refer to me as The student who balances in shaky water. First, I don't really know what she meant, not until she said that I always try to understand people and circumstances in different context. Like I don't even notice it until she spoke about it. Now that feels like I'm new to myself
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SandStone_143
Every person who’s older than me constantly tells me that I’m more mature for my age as those around me did not go through half the things that I did when I was younger and sometimes it make me frustrated as those around me often don’t pay attention to things I do or things that are right in front of them
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Every person who’s older than me constantly tells me that I’m more mature for my age as those around me did not go through half the things that I did when I was younger and sometimes it make me frustrated as those around me often don’t pay attention to things I do or things that are right in front of them
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Mandarynus14
I have social anxiety, and don't have good communication skills, but I never get angry when with people. If someone needs help or is feeling down I am good at providing some sort of comfort. I am stoic and have lot's of patience with people. yet normally I can't approach people lol. It's weird.
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I have social anxiety, and don't have good communication skills, but I never get angry when with people. If someone needs help or is feeling down I am good at providing some sort of comfort. I am stoic and have lot's of patience with people. yet normally I can't approach people lol. It's weird.
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Pahiskarkki36
Ooo I wanna KNOW!
Edit: WOW. I did NOT know I had this much emotional intelligence. I’m so glad, I watched this video. I now know more about myself and I wanna be even more trusting and set goals for getting out of pathological lying Thank you as always for the truthful information
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Ooo I wanna KNOW!
Edit: WOW. I did NOT know I had this much emotional intelligence. I’m so glad, I watched this video. I now know more about myself and I wanna be even more trusting and set goals for getting out of pathological lying Thank you as always for the truthful information
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sandiletwala3001
The only emotion mature thing I have out of them all is accountability because everytime I make mistakes, flaws and faults I take full responsibility for my actions and try my best to fix them as much as I can but without caring about what people say or pleasing people at all
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The only emotion mature thing I have out of them all is accountability because everytime I make mistakes, flaws and faults I take full responsibility for my actions and try my best to fix them as much as I can but without caring about what people say or pleasing people at all
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aellalee4767
My mom taught me all of these things growing up. My mom got triggered at times and didn't always embody all of these things 100% of the time. My mom was able to teach me to be capable of being very emotionally mature, and I appreciate that my mom could teach me these skills.
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My mom taught me all of these things growing up. My mom got triggered at times and didn't always embody all of these things 100% of the time. My mom was able to teach me to be capable of being very emotionally mature, and I appreciate that my mom could teach me these skills.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. High empathy 0: 47
2. High adaptability 1: 37
3. Conflict and anger management 2: 16
4. Communication skills 3: 01
5. Accountability 4: 12
6. Honesty 5: 04
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. High empathy 0: 47
2. High adaptability 1: 37
3. Conflict and anger management 2: 16
4. Communication skills 3: 01
5. Accountability 4: 12
6. Honesty 5: 04
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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AnneRGregory
I have high empathy for everyone, unfortunately that's about all. I do my best to stay away from negative words and I'm not that bad at accountability I often apologize for things that I didn't even do. So I'm pretty sure I suffer from a guilt complex.
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I have high empathy for everyone, unfortunately that's about all. I do my best to stay away from negative words and I'm not that bad at accountability I often apologize for things that I didn't even do. So I'm pretty sure I suffer from a guilt complex.
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OcusticClear92
4: 14 Accountability - Someone who believes that All Actions have Consequences. S/He chooses to do only those Actions that result in the Consequences that they Want.
Also, read 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin.
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4: 14 Accountability - Someone who believes that All Actions have Consequences. S/He chooses to do only those Actions that result in the Consequences that they Want.
Also, read 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin.
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