Do You Love Them Or Just Attached
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Date: 2024-02-02
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kevyready2194
Relationships or love are such a mystery. It honestly feels like people need to be in a relationship because it's an accommodation and a supposed safe haven for a person.
Like if someone sees their ex get into a relationship, then they feel the need to be into one because they feel vulnerable. Perphaps they see their ex know their worth, moved on, realized they are more fish in the sea-- and that other person fewls jealous, exposed and tries hastily get into a new relationship they try to recreate the lovey dovey feelings they had with their ex then get attached.
Honestly it's kinda frustrating to see this happen to your friends and family.
I've seen this happened. Two friends of mine dated for a year and it seemed they were soul mates but I guess they didn't know the ropes of being in a relationship because well. it was their first time being in one. Years passed by and one of them got into a relationship then that other person seemed to panicked because she moved one and so on. It was like who could outdo each other and try to have the most fun and be the most happy without each other. To this day they looked hurt and honestly miserable when going on and off the dating market
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Relationships or love are such a mystery. It honestly feels like people need to be in a relationship because it's an accommodation and a supposed safe haven for a person.
Like if someone sees their ex get into a relationship, then they feel the need to be into one because they feel vulnerable. Perphaps they see their ex know their worth, moved on, realized they are more fish in the sea-- and that other person fewls jealous, exposed and tries hastily get into a new relationship they try to recreate the lovey dovey feelings they had with their ex then get attached.
Honestly it's kinda frustrating to see this happen to your friends and family.
I've seen this happened. Two friends of mine dated for a year and it seemed they were soul mates but I guess they didn't know the ropes of being in a relationship because well. it was their first time being in one. Years passed by and one of them got into a relationship then that other person seemed to panicked because she moved one and so on. It was like who could outdo each other and try to have the most fun and be the most happy without each other. To this day they looked hurt and honestly miserable when going on and off the dating market
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pokidotgamer6318
Mines more of he doesn't follow through when he says he wants to hang out. Usually when it comes to hanging out in person he'll say I'll get back to you on that or I'll let you know when i can go and then never gets back to me. But when it comes to playing video games with me, I'll have to ask him to play video games with me if i want to hang out with him and then we'll play together. He'll sometimes ask me how I'm doing, how I'm feeling, what I'm up to, ect. But it's mostly us texting non stop and then he'll suddenly disappear and then come back again to try to start up a conversation with me without even responding to my last message I sent. So idk what's going on, he hard to read.
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Mines more of he doesn't follow through when he says he wants to hang out. Usually when it comes to hanging out in person he'll say I'll get back to you on that or I'll let you know when i can go and then never gets back to me. But when it comes to playing video games with me, I'll have to ask him to play video games with me if i want to hang out with him and then we'll play together. He'll sometimes ask me how I'm doing, how I'm feeling, what I'm up to, ect. But it's mostly us texting non stop and then he'll suddenly disappear and then come back again to try to start up a conversation with me without even responding to my last message I sent. So idk what's going on, he hard to read.
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eeyoregirl622
I had it all. Then 6 months in he started to change and in that I instinctively pulled away and my drive was less. Hard to want it with someone yelling at you. It got worse and worse. From lots of education therapy I believe he was a narcissist, the true kind not just some tendencies like his ex wife from 20 years ago thinks. He was arrested on domestic abuse charges. No contact order. He did not care anymore about me, just packed up everything and moved out. No looking back. He considered I kicked him out by calling 911, no accountability for his actions leading up to it.
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I had it all. Then 6 months in he started to change and in that I instinctively pulled away and my drive was less. Hard to want it with someone yelling at you. It got worse and worse. From lots of education therapy I believe he was a narcissist, the true kind not just some tendencies like his ex wife from 20 years ago thinks. He was arrested on domestic abuse charges. No contact order. He did not care anymore about me, just packed up everything and moved out. No looking back. He considered I kicked him out by calling 911, no accountability for his actions leading up to it.
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psych2go
Love is something given freely with nothing wanted in return. Love is unconditional it does not disappear because of one misunderstanding or a few arguments. Love is kind, love is honest, love is.
Attachment on the other hand is an intense suffocating feeling mistaken for love. Attachment does not trust easily, It’s controlling. When you become attached to someone anxiety grows and the fear of losing them sets in which stops you from living in the moment and enjoying each other. Instead of loving each other time is spent on pointless arguments mainly caused by insecurities.
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Love is something given freely with nothing wanted in return. Love is unconditional it does not disappear because of one misunderstanding or a few arguments. Love is kind, love is honest, love is.
Attachment on the other hand is an intense suffocating feeling mistaken for love. Attachment does not trust easily, It’s controlling. When you become attached to someone anxiety grows and the fear of losing them sets in which stops you from living in the moment and enjoying each other. Instead of loving each other time is spent on pointless arguments mainly caused by insecurities.
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joshgreer3527
I love my girlfriend miss her every day shes in another state taking care of her 71 year old friend with cancer it kinda like her grandma she had stage 3 cancer and really didn't get better my girlfriend has been taking care of her for a year its put a strain on are relationship we still see each other and talk every day but its been really hard wish she was here we only get to see each other about once a month we're only about 100 miles from each other but it's taken a toll on me i just want her to come back or im going to have to move up there with her but im scared to
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I love my girlfriend miss her every day shes in another state taking care of her 71 year old friend with cancer it kinda like her grandma she had stage 3 cancer and really didn't get better my girlfriend has been taking care of her for a year its put a strain on are relationship we still see each other and talk every day but its been really hard wish she was here we only get to see each other about once a month we're only about 100 miles from each other but it's taken a toll on me i just want her to come back or im going to have to move up there with her but im scared to
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chromaticdragon
Thank you for another amazing video. My last visit home, between deployments, felt a lot like this. there was always criticism and I could never do anything right. There was always criticism and it was rarely favorable criticism. My wife has been my center of focus and our kids have been points of focus for me over the last 20 years. but it's all gone now. I feel it's my fault because I had to travel overseas for work to make ends meet and they grew up with out me. now I'm not a part of their lives. It hurts.
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Thank you for another amazing video. My last visit home, between deployments, felt a lot like this. there was always criticism and I could never do anything right. There was always criticism and it was rarely favorable criticism. My wife has been my center of focus and our kids have been points of focus for me over the last 20 years. but it's all gone now. I feel it's my fault because I had to travel overseas for work to make ends meet and they grew up with out me. now I'm not a part of their lives. It hurts.
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anasiaj4569
I noticed that I do some of the things wrong like criticize and disregard his dreams and I have noticed that I am becoming controlling and that is not the person that I want to be. There are things that he does wrong, but I do wrong to we definitely care for each other. We talked and we set boundaries so hopefully we can fix our relationship. I want to be better and he wants to be better so we are working together to make it work.
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I noticed that I do some of the things wrong like criticize and disregard his dreams and I have noticed that I am becoming controlling and that is not the person that I want to be. There are things that he does wrong, but I do wrong to we definitely care for each other. We talked and we set boundaries so hopefully we can fix our relationship. I want to be better and he wants to be better so we are working together to make it work.
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jeffwhite1334
My therapist has done a great job helping me understand my divorce and why I wanted it, but this video was a great reminder to me of some of the feelings (or lack thereof) that led me to realize I wasn’t in love and probably hadn’t been. I’ve struggled with the guilt, but this video helped remind me of some of the reasons why my divorce was justified. I still wish I had realized it much sooner, but better late than never.
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My therapist has done a great job helping me understand my divorce and why I wanted it, but this video was a great reminder to me of some of the feelings (or lack thereof) that led me to realize I wasn’t in love and probably hadn’t been. I’ve struggled with the guilt, but this video helped remind me of some of the reasons why my divorce was justified. I still wish I had realized it much sooner, but better late than never.
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psych2go
I have a healthy relatiomship! This made me worry a lot since we started dating in high school (now we're married) I always felt like we just depended on each other too emotionally, because of how our parents were. But, it turns out we're normal. We do have our fights and all, but wow we're actually normal. thank you for the video!
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I have a healthy relatiomship! This made me worry a lot since we started dating in high school (now we're married) I always felt like we just depended on each other too emotionally, because of how our parents were. But, it turns out we're normal. We do have our fights and all, but wow we're actually normal. thank you for the video!
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picklefingers1502
Ive been dating my bf for 1 year (yay) But hes so sweet and caring, but im distant and scared. Ive been in many relationships that havent ended well but with my bf now, im so dead to feelinga that i just sigh whenever he talks to me, i also have BPD, i love him so so much and hes so cool but im scared for our future.
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Ive been dating my bf for 1 year (yay) But hes so sweet and caring, but im distant and scared. Ive been in many relationships that havent ended well but with my bf now, im so dead to feelinga that i just sigh whenever he talks to me, i also have BPD, i love him so so much and hes so cool but im scared for our future.
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ArtsyCraftYT
Thanks this helps me know that i truly am in love with my crushes (we can't be together right now cause we haven't meet in person, they're too busy and they never said if they like me back or not and a bunch of other stuff) their celebrities and my soulmates
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Thanks this helps me know that i truly am in love with my crushes (we can't be together right now cause we haven't meet in person, they're too busy and they never said if they like me back or not and a bunch of other stuff) their celebrities and my soulmates
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psych2go
I told my crush I loved them about 2 weeks ago now and they rejected me. Although that wasn’t my favoured outcome, we’ve still remained friends. This is best case scenario. I’d rather be rejected and keep a friend than be rejected and lose that friend
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I told my crush I loved them about 2 weeks ago now and they rejected me. Although that wasn’t my favoured outcome, we’ve still remained friends. This is best case scenario. I’d rather be rejected and keep a friend than be rejected and lose that friend
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arnoldxd
I had the bad habit of invalidating the other persons feelings trying to help her gain perspective and to see the good in things or be more understandable. Next time ill just shut up and nod and affirm her feelings. if i get the chance again : '3
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I had the bad habit of invalidating the other persons feelings trying to help her gain perspective and to see the good in things or be more understandable. Next time ill just shut up and nod and affirm her feelings. if i get the chance again : '3
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zachscully
Healthy love should add value and meaning to your life. Healthy lovegives us a feeling of being understood, and accepted, feeling safe and secure, as well as a strong sense of belonging, and a significant improvement in our overall wellbeing.
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Healthy love should add value and meaning to your life. Healthy lovegives us a feeling of being understood, and accepted, feeling safe and secure, as well as a strong sense of belonging, and a significant improvement in our overall wellbeing.
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user-jj2gs3lo7i
Hey guys Jason Ethier the guys who played as Jay station I'll see if he wift a kid that still in school and Monday I'll prove it to you guys I promise you guys will be hurt me he will hurt back he will see the true fax I promise you guys
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Hey guys Jason Ethier the guys who played as Jay station I'll see if he wift a kid that still in school and Monday I'll prove it to you guys I promise you guys will be hurt me he will hurt back he will see the true fax I promise you guys
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Saaki_Khily
My relationship with my husband passed these checks mentioned in the video. The checks hardly matched in my relationship with my supposed crush. I often felt him too cold/ lack of warmth or affection in his approach!
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My relationship with my husband passed these checks mentioned in the video. The checks hardly matched in my relationship with my supposed crush. I often felt him too cold/ lack of warmth or affection in his approach!
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psych2go
The girl who was kind to me and i was inrtrested in is now someone's girlfriend. Yeh it's uncomfortable but i accepted the truth. That after giving my everything, someone took her by just shaming her but doing nothing.
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The girl who was kind to me and i was inrtrested in is now someone's girlfriend. Yeh it's uncomfortable but i accepted the truth. That after giving my everything, someone took her by just shaming her but doing nothing.
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user-ry5vz2iw7p
What if i never even spoke to them! Its so frustrating because i loved them really really hard at first, but I was sooo anxious to speak to them, now i feel like its been too long; I dont know what to do!
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What if i never even spoke to them! Its so frustrating because i loved them really really hard at first, but I was sooo anxious to speak to them, now i feel like its been too long; I dont know what to do!
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kiraelizdeleon6643
Explains my last relationship with my ex; with me being the person who didn't care as much as I thought. Unhealthy attachments growing up led me to hurt a person who never deserved it
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Explains my last relationship with my ex; with me being the person who didn't care as much as I thought. Unhealthy attachments growing up led me to hurt a person who never deserved it
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