5 Ways Unhealed Trauma Affects Us
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Alex
My childhood was not easy. I will spare the details not to write many more lines and going directly to the point. But during many years I have kept my feelings bottled up. What happened around me was not normal, but I didn't realize it when I was young. My brain protect itself from the trauma by creating an illusion of a fairy tail and ignoring all the bad points. When I was 16, this psychological pain transformed into physical pain. An unbearable chronic pain in all my body which last eight years, during this eight years I walked with a clutch during five years. It took me all this time to do an introspection and to know why I was suffering.
Your emotions can also affect you physically. So if you don't feel well don't wait, and find a way or someone to express how you feel. Being abused physically or mentally is not normal! Don't let this become a routine! There will be always someone to listen to you, and there is always a solution. Do not despair and keep hope. Sun always raised even in the darkest nights.
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My childhood was not easy. I will spare the details not to write many more lines and going directly to the point. But during many years I have kept my feelings bottled up. What happened around me was not normal, but I didn't realize it when I was young. My brain protect itself from the trauma by creating an illusion of a fairy tail and ignoring all the bad points. When I was 16, this psychological pain transformed into physical pain. An unbearable chronic pain in all my body which last eight years, during this eight years I walked with a clutch during five years. It took me all this time to do an introspection and to know why I was suffering.
Your emotions can also affect you physically. So if you don't feel well don't wait, and find a way or someone to express how you feel. Being abused physically or mentally is not normal! Don't let this become a routine! There will be always someone to listen to you, and there is always a solution. Do not despair and keep hope. Sun always raised even in the darkest nights.
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missstellacat
In February 4th 2016 I lost my Daddy, after surgery for stomach cancer. That September found out my mom has a rare blood cancer. 2017 Spring she had an amputation of her left leg above the knee. I moved in with her. She got shingles on her stump. Had trouble with using the artificial leg. January 9th of 2018 I lost my 13 year old Siamese, he grieved himself for me. October 27th of 2018 I lost me Mama. Just cannot get over it. Mama and I never cut the apron strings. My husband said he had never seen a child so close to her parents. I was Daddy's girl and Mama's world. I only have my husband and son and his wife and child. Too many toxic people in my family, brother hates me, Mama's sister is a taker and attention seeker. Have not talked to my brother since my Daddy passed away. Not talked to aunt for over a year. Oh I forgot to mention this, I was Estranged from my son over his wife's pregnancy emotions Summer 2017. I was a target of human traffickers in August 2017
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In February 4th 2016 I lost my Daddy, after surgery for stomach cancer. That September found out my mom has a rare blood cancer. 2017 Spring she had an amputation of her left leg above the knee. I moved in with her. She got shingles on her stump. Had trouble with using the artificial leg. January 9th of 2018 I lost my 13 year old Siamese, he grieved himself for me. October 27th of 2018 I lost me Mama. Just cannot get over it. Mama and I never cut the apron strings. My husband said he had never seen a child so close to her parents. I was Daddy's girl and Mama's world. I only have my husband and son and his wife and child. Too many toxic people in my family, brother hates me, Mama's sister is a taker and attention seeker. Have not talked to my brother since my Daddy passed away. Not talked to aunt for over a year. Oh I forgot to mention this, I was Estranged from my son over his wife's pregnancy emotions Summer 2017. I was a target of human traffickers in August 2017
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Mr.
When I was little and growing into my teens, my dad had really bad anger issues. I think he mostly took it out on me. He sometimes would insult me for little mistakes or even big mistakes I made. He even spanked me until the age of 10.
So whenever I hear someone yelling I just want to get away from them or get as far as possible. I sadly got some anger issues too to the point where a few times when my girlfriend and I argued and I yelled, I swear I almost sounded like him. Since then Ive been learning how to listen and think when in an argument.
I feel like I also was terrible in relationships because I only really cared about a few people but others, I just wanted to boast that I had a girlfriend because I had very low self esteem.
In a way, I hate myself for a lot of things Ive done. Im joining a support group soon and going to therapy for my past trauma. Thanks for reading of anyone reads this!
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When I was little and growing into my teens, my dad had really bad anger issues. I think he mostly took it out on me. He sometimes would insult me for little mistakes or even big mistakes I made. He even spanked me until the age of 10.
So whenever I hear someone yelling I just want to get away from them or get as far as possible. I sadly got some anger issues too to the point where a few times when my girlfriend and I argued and I yelled, I swear I almost sounded like him. Since then Ive been learning how to listen and think when in an argument.
I feel like I also was terrible in relationships because I only really cared about a few people but others, I just wanted to boast that I had a girlfriend because I had very low self esteem.
In a way, I hate myself for a lot of things Ive done. Im joining a support group soon and going to therapy for my past trauma. Thanks for reading of anyone reads this!
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Kool
My mother said to me over the 60 years that I tolerated it;
Hey buck up stop crying.
Get over it. Boys dont cry.
just stop stuttering and say it
You wait till your dad gets home
Your bed pissing is, pure dammed laziness
Go, I dont want to hear it
Were not resentful but we think that youre arrogant because you act like youre better than the rest of the kids
Serves you right you shouldve kept your mouth shut.
Youve always been so dammed selfish and such a smartalic
No contact now for almost 5 years.
And it stopped.
I vowed to never intentionally, be in the same room with either parent or siblings ever again!
So far so good.
They buried the oldest golden, flying monkey, gossiping sister last fall, WITHOUT me.
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My mother said to me over the 60 years that I tolerated it;
Hey buck up stop crying.
Get over it. Boys dont cry.
just stop stuttering and say it
You wait till your dad gets home
Your bed pissing is, pure dammed laziness
Go, I dont want to hear it
Were not resentful but we think that youre arrogant because you act like youre better than the rest of the kids
Serves you right you shouldve kept your mouth shut.
Youve always been so dammed selfish and such a smartalic
No contact now for almost 5 years.
And it stopped.
I vowed to never intentionally, be in the same room with either parent or siblings ever again!
So far so good.
They buried the oldest golden, flying monkey, gossiping sister last fall, WITHOUT me.
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Isaac
I believe my ex has very bad trauma from her past in ways that I never learned. Her anxiety would sometimes eat her up at night and she forged a very strong and confident social mask. Now that Ive started looking back, I have found that she did lie a lot, and she was a very proficient manipulator. Now that Im starting to get over her, finally, I dont really want to look for vengeance for her mistreating me and abandoning me like I used to. I really want to help her and it hurts me to see her all-too-familiar social mask smiling at others. Its really too bad that shell likely never want to see me again, all I can do for her is be open to if she ever wants a buddy shrug. Too many symptoms in this video reminded me of her.
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I believe my ex has very bad trauma from her past in ways that I never learned. Her anxiety would sometimes eat her up at night and she forged a very strong and confident social mask. Now that Ive started looking back, I have found that she did lie a lot, and she was a very proficient manipulator. Now that Im starting to get over her, finally, I dont really want to look for vengeance for her mistreating me and abandoning me like I used to. I really want to help her and it hurts me to see her all-too-familiar social mask smiling at others. Its really too bad that shell likely never want to see me again, all I can do for her is be open to if she ever wants a buddy shrug. Too many symptoms in this video reminded me of her.
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Icy
I think another thing I always forget is that not only have I experienced physical and emotional abuse, I was ALMOST raped TWICE by the same person. I am lucky I knew how to outsmart them. It doesn't make it any less scary. He got really close to doing stuff. I just watched a lot of special victims unit so I understood exactly what was going on. It's something this is bad, even if it didn't affect me as much as the other too, but it was still traumatic. The person was a family member of one of my mom's friends, but all of them look alike and I can't remember any of the guy names. I never said anything. The good thing is that he stopped. I'm pretty sure he got help. It didn't make it any better to know that though.
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I think another thing I always forget is that not only have I experienced physical and emotional abuse, I was ALMOST raped TWICE by the same person. I am lucky I knew how to outsmart them. It doesn't make it any less scary. He got really close to doing stuff. I just watched a lot of special victims unit so I understood exactly what was going on. It's something this is bad, even if it didn't affect me as much as the other too, but it was still traumatic. The person was a family member of one of my mom's friends, but all of them look alike and I can't remember any of the guy names. I never said anything. The good thing is that he stopped. I'm pretty sure he got help. It didn't make it any better to know that though.
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ee
I guess this is a good place to ask. I dont know how to get away from my anxiety, Ive tried a lot of things but nothing seems to work: /
So, backstory, a year ago I broke it off with my ex, he got angry because of something he found out about me and threatened to kill me (I know what I did was bad so. I understand his reaction, I called the cops on him because I was genuinely scared. Though that made him more angry, so angry that he threatened me even more and made me more scared, and now Im too scared to even go outside alone where I live (he lives like 200meters away. I dont know how to get better. please help me: /
Thank you for taking time to read this. it means a lot for me
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I guess this is a good place to ask. I dont know how to get away from my anxiety, Ive tried a lot of things but nothing seems to work: /
So, backstory, a year ago I broke it off with my ex, he got angry because of something he found out about me and threatened to kill me (I know what I did was bad so. I understand his reaction, I called the cops on him because I was genuinely scared. Though that made him more angry, so angry that he threatened me even more and made me more scared, and now Im too scared to even go outside alone where I live (he lives like 200meters away. I dont know how to get better. please help me: /
Thank you for taking time to read this. it means a lot for me
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Somya
Hey psych2Go need your help.
I was in 5th standard when my best friend died in a road accident protecting me. This made me believe I was unlucky. I had a habit of pushing people away due to this. Sat quietly in a corner of class. Not interacting much. Not making friends. I did not tell about this to my family thinking it would only make them worry. Even now when someone says they're going to leave me I go back to that person again. I just have those nervous feeling. with shaking hands and am afraid of road accidents.
Please I beg you.
Help me.
Please
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Hey psych2Go need your help.
I was in 5th standard when my best friend died in a road accident protecting me. This made me believe I was unlucky. I had a habit of pushing people away due to this. Sat quietly in a corner of class. Not interacting much. Not making friends. I did not tell about this to my family thinking it would only make them worry. Even now when someone says they're going to leave me I go back to that person again. I just have those nervous feeling. with shaking hands and am afraid of road accidents.
Please I beg you.
Help me.
Please
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Dee
Just wondering, does anyone have really bad memory? like, I can remember a feeling, somewhat, like a certain colour, when i try, but I can't remember anything else. A teacher mentioned a question once, and I knew what it was but only 3 seconds later I completely forgot, it's just not there. It's also like that but long term as well, like tests and assignment due dates. I have diagnosed ADHD, so I always thought it was because I wasn't trying to remember stuff, but I've been trying for the past month and I have the same gaps. anywho hope you have a good day: D
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Just wondering, does anyone have really bad memory? like, I can remember a feeling, somewhat, like a certain colour, when i try, but I can't remember anything else. A teacher mentioned a question once, and I knew what it was but only 3 seconds later I completely forgot, it's just not there. It's also like that but long term as well, like tests and assignment due dates. I have diagnosed ADHD, so I always thought it was because I wasn't trying to remember stuff, but I've been trying for the past month and I have the same gaps. anywho hope you have a good day: D
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Olena
I had a green check conure (a parrot) which I loved very dearly, he was everything to me but one day after a owning him for 5 month I came home and he was moving weirdly, he just froze. in my hands. I will never forget that. Fast forward a few weeks later I got another green check conure, after I came home from a sleepover at my friends house my parents told me that he died at night. that was in January 2020 and I still cry myself to sleep almost every night, I tried to talk to parents but they brush this off as everyone needs to cry sometimes.
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I had a green check conure (a parrot) which I loved very dearly, he was everything to me but one day after a owning him for 5 month I came home and he was moving weirdly, he just froze. in my hands. I will never forget that. Fast forward a few weeks later I got another green check conure, after I came home from a sleepover at my friends house my parents told me that he died at night. that was in January 2020 and I still cry myself to sleep almost every night, I tried to talk to parents but they brush this off as everyone needs to cry sometimes.
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Juno
I learned to forgive who abused me, not becaus he ask for forgiveness but for me to forgive myself and not to carry the heavy burden of trauma. I know my parents love me (not as what I expected them to be) however they did their best though sometimes they fail. I know they are not perfect but I healed thanks to all the people that helped me and even those who I helped. I healed my trauma when I spoke to my younger version and become a parent to myself, to reassure her that I am strong and will protect her no matter what.
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I learned to forgive who abused me, not becaus he ask for forgiveness but for me to forgive myself and not to carry the heavy burden of trauma. I know my parents love me (not as what I expected them to be) however they did their best though sometimes they fail. I know they are not perfect but I healed thanks to all the people that helped me and even those who I helped. I healed my trauma when I spoke to my younger version and become a parent to myself, to reassure her that I am strong and will protect her no matter what.
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education
I lie to my husband. I'm a dedicated wife and mom but out of nowhere I suddenly become self destructive. I make poor decisions and lie to my husband about going out without telling him. I never cheated and just hang out with co-workers. I betrayed his trust and always feel bad and I can't figure out why I betray the trust of the ones who love me making me like a piece of shit. I'm struggling and I have vivid dreams of the past. I go in a dark place and no one can understand me.
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I lie to my husband. I'm a dedicated wife and mom but out of nowhere I suddenly become self destructive. I make poor decisions and lie to my husband about going out without telling him. I never cheated and just hang out with co-workers. I betrayed his trust and always feel bad and I can't figure out why I betray the trust of the ones who love me making me like a piece of shit. I'm struggling and I have vivid dreams of the past. I go in a dark place and no one can understand me.
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Angellbunny_
I have PTSD and I am a HSP. Ive dealt with this since 2013. Ive had lots of family problems since then. Throughout these -7-8 years Ive struggled of how to over come my fears and depression every time this person comes around. I get anxiety hearing her name I get anxiety when shes around me and my family. All I do is think about specific days or words that have been said by this certain person years ago. I dont know how to stop it. I dont wanna go into therapy either.
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I have PTSD and I am a HSP. Ive dealt with this since 2013. Ive had lots of family problems since then. Throughout these -7-8 years Ive struggled of how to over come my fears and depression every time this person comes around. I get anxiety hearing her name I get anxiety when shes around me and my family. All I do is think about specific days or words that have been said by this certain person years ago. I dont know how to stop it. I dont wanna go into therapy either.
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Elephanty
I was abused by a female school friend. My mom shared all the trauma that she was feeling when she went thru her divorce and her dealing with her boyfriends. I never told anyone about this stuff, till I met my husband. Hes the only one I told. I think because of these events, and possibly others, I have trust issues. And i react either boiling over with rage or shutting myself off from everyone cause it hurts too much.
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I was abused by a female school friend. My mom shared all the trauma that she was feeling when she went thru her divorce and her dealing with her boyfriends. I never told anyone about this stuff, till I met my husband. Hes the only one I told. I think because of these events, and possibly others, I have trust issues. And i react either boiling over with rage or shutting myself off from everyone cause it hurts too much.
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Annabella
Oh, You are so very right in what You explain about how trauma works inside us! Thank You so much! I am 71' now and wish there were somebody as clever as You here in Denmark, who wpuld help me! I am still suffering from a 25 year old trauma and trhough the years I have had freeze and fleece attacks many times according to ceartain outside noise, related to my first experience!
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Oh, You are so very right in what You explain about how trauma works inside us! Thank You so much! I am 71' now and wish there were somebody as clever as You here in Denmark, who wpuld help me! I am still suffering from a 25 year old trauma and trhough the years I have had freeze and fleece attacks many times according to ceartain outside noise, related to my first experience!
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Mason
Around a year ago my friend ended our relationship in a very cruel way. I still hurt from it. I think about her every day. Flashbacks of her smiling face laughing at me. at the fact that I havent moved on. I became a violent person as you mentioned. Always getting mad at the little things. So anyway thats all I have to say. These videos help. So thanks and keep making them
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Around a year ago my friend ended our relationship in a very cruel way. I still hurt from it. I think about her every day. Flashbacks of her smiling face laughing at me. at the fact that I havent moved on. I became a violent person as you mentioned. Always getting mad at the little things. So anyway thats all I have to say. These videos help. So thanks and keep making them
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Patrick
This video was incredibly eye opening for me on what trauma does to the body - having lost my Dad, gone through a divorce and lost my job all in a span of two years, I have a ton of trauma that I just realized maybe about a month ago - strange and scary body pains, cannot sleep, cry uncontrolably out of nothing - yep - I'm dealing with trauma.
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This video was incredibly eye opening for me on what trauma does to the body - having lost my Dad, gone through a divorce and lost my job all in a span of two years, I have a ton of trauma that I just realized maybe about a month ago - strange and scary body pains, cannot sleep, cry uncontrolably out of nothing - yep - I'm dealing with trauma.
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Jawhara
Actually, my trauma started since I was child, I can not forget, my siblings and the rest of my aunties who always want me seeing crying they always told bad words to me and I never forget that, in my heart the pain stay still, thats why I am avoiding talking bad things to others because I dont want to hurt others like what they do to me.
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Actually, my trauma started since I was child, I can not forget, my siblings and the rest of my aunties who always want me seeing crying they always told bad words to me and I never forget that, in my heart the pain stay still, thats why I am avoiding talking bad things to others because I dont want to hurt others like what they do to me.
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Psych2Go
Do any of you suffer from Unhealed trauma and how long have you allowed this trauma to be stuck with you? Remember one thing, everything starts with the mind and on the inside, if you cant grow out of it or learn to overcome it itll always be here. Comment below and tell us what is the cause of holding on to the trauma?
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Do any of you suffer from Unhealed trauma and how long have you allowed this trauma to be stuck with you? Remember one thing, everything starts with the mind and on the inside, if you cant grow out of it or learn to overcome it itll always be here. Comment below and tell us what is the cause of holding on to the trauma?
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Melinda
One thing I don't know my mom is cheating or what I can see how he acts I think he is how it treats me not very good anymore like he did I don't know what's going on anymore and I said thank you 10 times I don't know why I think I don't place him or enough or something I don't know I've been nice I can't please them
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One thing I don't know my mom is cheating or what I can see how he acts I think he is how it treats me not very good anymore like he did I don't know what's going on anymore and I said thank you 10 times I don't know why I think I don't place him or enough or something I don't know I've been nice I can't please them
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samvit
Hi!
I had a bout of random dizziness at the age of 13. That has stuck with me for 7+ years, leaving me feeling really stressed and frustrated. Is anyone else here dealing with something similar? Psychosomatic disorders some people called it while others said it was dissociation/ anxiety
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Hi!
I had a bout of random dizziness at the age of 13. That has stuck with me for 7+ years, leaving me feeling really stressed and frustrated. Is anyone else here dealing with something similar? Psychosomatic disorders some people called it while others said it was dissociation/ anxiety
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Mxrcuriie
hehe. intense emotions passing down to their children? how do i fix that when my dad has had unhealed trauma (the german air show disaster of 88) for 22 years and has had children for 16? (; -; ) and all this time he was hiding it from me. (sorry this comment makes no sense)
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hehe. intense emotions passing down to their children? how do i fix that when my dad has had unhealed trauma (the german air show disaster of 88) for 22 years and has had children for 16? (; -; ) and all this time he was hiding it from me. (sorry this comment makes no sense)
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buckylovesplums_
Don't mind me I almost started crying while watching this because of dealing with two years of depression after losing my baby brother and that was very traumatizing for me. All that trauma caused my mental health to go out of control and it still hurts
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Don't mind me I almost started crying while watching this because of dealing with two years of depression after losing my baby brother and that was very traumatizing for me. All that trauma caused my mental health to go out of control and it still hurts
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Smolmush
Can I have trauma from seeing my mom & someone shes dating in a toxic relationship and she always forgives him, but he doesnt do anything to make change? And I have to see all of that, Im only a teen its been happening sense I was younger
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Can I have trauma from seeing my mom & someone shes dating in a toxic relationship and she always forgives him, but he doesnt do anything to make change? And I have to see all of that, Im only a teen its been happening sense I was younger
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_James
I have nightmares about it, I cant even begin to talk about it without choking up and crying. I started to think it was my fault, thats something that you should never do, thats what they want, for you to think its your fault.
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I have nightmares about it, I cant even begin to talk about it without choking up and crying. I started to think it was my fault, thats something that you should never do, thats what they want, for you to think its your fault.
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