6 Things You Do That Are Ruining Your Life
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Date: 2023-08-20
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KitKat_Kitty
2# is something that I need to work on because my ex BFF keeps trying to reconnect with me even if she is really rude to me just because our bully in school tells her to. Idc if she is being manipulated or something but a better friend would stand up for me instead of being horrible too. I dont want to dump her bc she is really kind and has been my best friend for 5yrs. This has been causing me to cry every evening because of stress. I am worried if my friend is ok + angry that she could be mean to her bestie just like that. I have tried talking t o my bully but she always says something rude to me. She is only being mean to ME. And none of my friends. She is perfectly kind to all of them making me feel excluded. What should I do?
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2# is something that I need to work on because my ex BFF keeps trying to reconnect with me even if she is really rude to me just because our bully in school tells her to. Idc if she is being manipulated or something but a better friend would stand up for me instead of being horrible too. I dont want to dump her bc she is really kind and has been my best friend for 5yrs. This has been causing me to cry every evening because of stress. I am worried if my friend is ok + angry that she could be mean to her bestie just like that. I have tried talking t o my bully but she always says something rude to me. She is only being mean to ME. And none of my friends. She is perfectly kind to all of them making me feel excluded. What should I do?
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Mike
Great video. I can relate to these things. First I think being stuck in a relationship is one way that I stopped socializing outside of the relationship and contributed to being more alone. Meeting new people has helped me see the world differently and realize that I can grow and change. I have been stuck in my ways and routines and falsely assume what I am capable of and my limits. I have done so many things that I thought that I would never do. Mainly watching other groups of people do things like parties, events, concerts, group rides/hikes. I am choosing to be more social with my people and am enjoying it. I have come a long way this past 18 months and I have learned to celebrate and savior my growth.
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Great video. I can relate to these things. First I think being stuck in a relationship is one way that I stopped socializing outside of the relationship and contributed to being more alone. Meeting new people has helped me see the world differently and realize that I can grow and change. I have been stuck in my ways and routines and falsely assume what I am capable of and my limits. I have done so many things that I thought that I would never do. Mainly watching other groups of people do things like parties, events, concerts, group rides/hikes. I am choosing to be more social with my people and am enjoying it. I have come a long way this past 18 months and I have learned to celebrate and savior my growth.
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MikeAnn193
I'm glad you mentioned the sunk cost fallacy and I'd like to see a whole video about that. I'd heard of it before but don't think I gave it a lot of thought. I suspect I'm guilty of thinking that way, and that it might affect not just my relationships but also clutter, unfinished projects, and maybe other things I'm not aware of!
I guess I mostly want some clues to help me be aware of when I'm using that kind of irrational thinking, so I can more easily let go -- AND/OR -- is there a way to tell when _continuing_ to invest time and effort in a project or thing or relationship might bear fruit? Thanks for considering it.
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I'm glad you mentioned the sunk cost fallacy and I'd like to see a whole video about that. I'd heard of it before but don't think I gave it a lot of thought. I suspect I'm guilty of thinking that way, and that it might affect not just my relationships but also clutter, unfinished projects, and maybe other things I'm not aware of!
I guess I mostly want some clues to help me be aware of when I'm using that kind of irrational thinking, so I can more easily let go -- AND/OR -- is there a way to tell when _continuing_ to invest time and effort in a project or thing or relationship might bear fruit? Thanks for considering it.
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SleppySnek
Is being physically alone, but frequently chat with friends online, still considered solitude?
I don't really go out anymore, because every time I do, I get mentally (socially) exhausted quickly and things just generally turn into a bad time for me. But I still daily chat with people I know, ranging from people who are part of the same online community to close friends that I've known my entire life.
Maybe I'm biased, but I don't _feel_ like I'm lonely, despite being physically alone most of the time. I just know that I feel a lot better than I do if I force myself to go out
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Is being physically alone, but frequently chat with friends online, still considered solitude?
I don't really go out anymore, because every time I do, I get mentally (socially) exhausted quickly and things just generally turn into a bad time for me. But I still daily chat with people I know, ranging from people who are part of the same online community to close friends that I've known my entire life.
Maybe I'm biased, but I don't _feel_ like I'm lonely, despite being physically alone most of the time. I just know that I feel a lot better than I do if I force myself to go out
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Sumitra
After seeing this video i realise most of the points matches with mine. I have been feeling depressed from quite a long time though I don't try to express it infront of anyone n if at all i do. people fail to understand. Doing this my desire to work n study is going. I can no more focus. i always have a fear of losing. n if I do something wrong. what will happen. this is causing a lot of anxiety. I don't know what to do. n be out of this. but I really wanna be happy and have a balanced life. Plzz help
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After seeing this video i realise most of the points matches with mine. I have been feeling depressed from quite a long time though I don't try to express it infront of anyone n if at all i do. people fail to understand. Doing this my desire to work n study is going. I can no more focus. i always have a fear of losing. n if I do something wrong. what will happen. this is causing a lot of anxiety. I don't know what to do. n be out of this. but I really wanna be happy and have a balanced life. Plzz help
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Sienna
Trying to be perfect. This is something I can relate to. I expect myself to get things right on the first try. And if I dont, I get so hard on myself. But, I do keep trying the task. I also feel like I should have it all figured out being that Ive been working on my healing, and Ive found peace, happiness and joy. So I dont allow myself to express that Im sad or anything like that, because I feel like I should have it all figured out. I wonder if perfection can make you limit yourself.
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Trying to be perfect. This is something I can relate to. I expect myself to get things right on the first try. And if I dont, I get so hard on myself. But, I do keep trying the task. I also feel like I should have it all figured out being that Ive been working on my healing, and Ive found peace, happiness and joy. So I dont allow myself to express that Im sad or anything like that, because I feel like I should have it all figured out. I wonder if perfection can make you limit yourself.
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Lone
i am guilty if having a fixed mindset, being lonely most of the time and doing nothing to changing cuz i believ i can't be changed, otherwise i'll lose what makes me myself. i also feel like i have nothing in commom with my friends which some are religious, some are hard workers and some are adults with either work, family or both. i feel like they're all different compared to me, an alien and a nobody in this crazy world which keeps burning every single day.
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i am guilty if having a fixed mindset, being lonely most of the time and doing nothing to changing cuz i believ i can't be changed, otherwise i'll lose what makes me myself. i also feel like i have nothing in commom with my friends which some are religious, some are hard workers and some are adults with either work, family or both. i feel like they're all different compared to me, an alien and a nobody in this crazy world which keeps burning every single day.
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Nate
I spend a lot of time alone because Im not really interested in big crowds and I dont really feel lonely my parents sometimes think Im shy and not interested but me being alone is because Im an introvert and as a guy who is a farmer I get really stressed out easily and I feel like I should just walk away from farming because Im not really interested in it anymore but I try to do what I can do and if I screw up I just keep going no matter how steep the hill is
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I spend a lot of time alone because Im not really interested in big crowds and I dont really feel lonely my parents sometimes think Im shy and not interested but me being alone is because Im an introvert and as a guy who is a farmer I get really stressed out easily and I feel like I should just walk away from farming because Im not really interested in it anymore but I try to do what I can do and if I screw up I just keep going no matter how steep the hill is
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Phoenix
I relate to most of these. For quite a long time, I was in a toxic friendship where the other person stuck me in a cage, not allowing me to change or really be myself - like a flower covered in frost hindering it from blossoming. They then dumped me like a sack of rotten potatoes and I arrived in a very, very dark place.
Ive been trying to work on myself for a while and especially have been trying to raise my self-esteem.
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I relate to most of these. For quite a long time, I was in a toxic friendship where the other person stuck me in a cage, not allowing me to change or really be myself - like a flower covered in frost hindering it from blossoming. They then dumped me like a sack of rotten potatoes and I arrived in a very, very dark place.
Ive been trying to work on myself for a while and especially have been trying to raise my self-esteem.
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Created
Hi I just watched your signs you are an ambivert not an introvert video and I was wondering if you could make a video for signs you are an extrovert not an ambivert because im wondering which one I am and it would be interesting if you made more videos comparing different personality types to extroverts because it would make it more clear how they are different from other personality types like ambiverts/shy extroverts.
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Hi I just watched your signs you are an ambivert not an introvert video and I was wondering if you could make a video for signs you are an extrovert not an ambivert because im wondering which one I am and it would be interesting if you made more videos comparing different personality types to extroverts because it would make it more clear how they are different from other personality types like ambiverts/shy extroverts.
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Shiny
Trying to be perfect
Being stuck in relationships (I struggle with boundaries and getting rid of toxic friendships)
Negative work environment (unemployed)
Maintaining a fixed mindset (always learning and growing)
Excessive time alone (I struggle with depression and anxiety)
Not changing (I only struggle with my diet because I live with ARFID)
Hopefully this list will be changing for better!
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Trying to be perfect
Being stuck in relationships (I struggle with boundaries and getting rid of toxic friendships)
Negative work environment (unemployed)
Maintaining a fixed mindset (always learning and growing)
Excessive time alone (I struggle with depression and anxiety)
Not changing (I only struggle with my diet because I live with ARFID)
Hopefully this list will be changing for better!
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abruh
I just wanna say that I realized that when I hang out with people, I need to initiate the hangout all the time and none of my friends actually wants to hang out with me because I'm the only one that's initiate the hang out and even conversations (most of the time) so now I'm thinking if there is even a friend that likes me
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I just wanna say that I realized that when I hang out with people, I need to initiate the hangout all the time and none of my friends actually wants to hang out with me because I'm the only one that's initiate the hang out and even conversations (most of the time) so now I'm thinking if there is even a friend that likes me
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Flamegamer
The first thing that I need to change spending a lot of time alone. Ive been like that since I graduated from high school. I was nervous to connect with people irl and I got used to being myself. As of now, I can become an outgoing person and Im doing better when it comes to interacting with people this year.
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The first thing that I need to change spending a lot of time alone. Ive been like that since I graduated from high school. I was nervous to connect with people irl and I got used to being myself. As of now, I can become an outgoing person and Im doing better when it comes to interacting with people this year.
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Straight
You don't happen to have a video on signs that your friends and family don't actually care when they say they do? Like does it mean something when a friend hears that you feel depressed and immediately defaults to saying try antidepressants instead of trying to help you through it or wanting to talk about it?
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You don't happen to have a video on signs that your friends and family don't actually care when they say they do? Like does it mean something when a friend hears that you feel depressed and immediately defaults to saying try antidepressants instead of trying to help you through it or wanting to talk about it?
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Jrspesh
I think I've been doing all of these! At one some point of my life. These video was really helpful. Thank you so much. I've beem feeling a little lost since the start of this year and the advent of turning 30. The advice here has been really useful. I just have to apply it.
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I think I've been doing all of these! At one some point of my life. These video was really helpful. Thank you so much. I've beem feeling a little lost since the start of this year and the advent of turning 30. The advice here has been really useful. I just have to apply it.
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Gio's
1: 02 OMG horrible. No perfectionist; )
1: 26 difficult? ULTRA MEGA SUPER VERY DIFFICULT
2: 10 work environment: 3
4: 20 Expend excessive amounts of time alone? :( auch
5: 20 scrolling posts + than having conversations auch you touched me girl
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1: 02 OMG horrible. No perfectionist; )
1: 26 difficult? ULTRA MEGA SUPER VERY DIFFICULT
2: 10 work environment: 3
4: 20 Expend excessive amounts of time alone? :( auch
5: 20 scrolling posts + than having conversations auch you touched me girl
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Khoiruunisa
Well, I probably enjoy my me time too much sometimes, to the extent I forgot that I also should socialize once in a while. Oopsie. Thank you for reminding me of that
The doll is cute, but offering it as a companion. Hmmm. A bit odd, I should say.
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Well, I probably enjoy my me time too much sometimes, to the extent I forgot that I also should socialize once in a while. Oopsie. Thank you for reminding me of that
The doll is cute, but offering it as a companion. Hmmm. A bit odd, I should say.
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Krisztina
How's about allowing irrealistic expectations to be pushed on you. Like expectation: you should be able multitask. Paying attention to 3-4 things at the time with 100. Reality: you are able to pay 100% atzention to 1 thing only at the time.
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How's about allowing irrealistic expectations to be pushed on you. Like expectation: you should be able multitask. Paying attention to 3-4 things at the time with 100. Reality: you are able to pay 100% atzention to 1 thing only at the time.
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EpicMaybe
the perfection part is really funny because it destroys your life but it's also what schools want you to shoot for. and then they get surprised when people are depressed about how they aren't doing good enough. nice work schools! /j
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the perfection part is really funny because it destroys your life but it's also what schools want you to shoot for. and then they get surprised when people are depressed about how they aren't doing good enough. nice work schools! /j
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Unknownweirdo
thank you for this! I thought being lonely all the time was fine for me. But now that I watched this video I realized its not good for my mental health. I have socialized more now and it does feel nice!
Thank u again
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thank you for this! I thought being lonely all the time was fine for me. But now that I watched this video I realized its not good for my mental health. I have socialized more now and it does feel nice!
Thank u again
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Curtis
At the young age of 63 I just graduated from Missouri State University. Get my bachelors degree in psychology. My ex is a psychiatrist. You guys are awesome. I love your voice its so nice to listen to keep up the good work.
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At the young age of 63 I just graduated from Missouri State University. Get my bachelors degree in psychology. My ex is a psychiatrist. You guys are awesome. I love your voice its so nice to listen to keep up the good work.
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seongsang
For some how i change some mini things in my life like being more open or end toxic relations but for some reason i think i can just try new things like trying not to be that much shy
1, 5 and 6 can be my problems
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For some how i change some mini things in my life like being more open or end toxic relations but for some reason i think i can just try new things like trying not to be that much shy
1, 5 and 6 can be my problems
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Average
Yes, but 3 of these are physically impossible to change for me. (Either because i like them, or i just cant due to life)
-Your work enviroment
-Spending excessive amounts of time alone
-not changing
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Yes, but 3 of these are physically impossible to change for me. (Either because i like them, or i just cant due to life)
-Your work enviroment
-Spending excessive amounts of time alone
-not changing
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education
I am sure accepting and tolerating all manner of things go here. Like allowing toxic, immoral, and ignorant people to be around you. A great way to ruin one's outlook in the working and social world.
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I am sure accepting and tolerating all manner of things go here. Like allowing toxic, immoral, and ignorant people to be around you. A great way to ruin one's outlook in the working and social world.
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Star_YT
Fith one hit me hard. I had such a bad past with being alone, I'm terrified to the point of screaming. Usually I'm fine in the day. It's nighttime that scares me.
(Sorry for the mini vent btw TvT)
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Fith one hit me hard. I had such a bad past with being alone, I'm terrified to the point of screaming. Usually I'm fine in the day. It's nighttime that scares me.
(Sorry for the mini vent btw TvT)
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