9 Uncomfortable Truths That Will Make You Stronger Part 1
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Keen
These are very. safe uncomfortable truths. here's 4 right bangers unsafe for public view (Oh dear. Viewer discretion is advised:
1. You're not special.
2. You won't be famous.
3. Most of your friends are not your friends.
4. The one doesn't exist.
These dreary truths are called life. So what do we do about them? In order:
1. Stop trying to be something you're not, and instead do something that matters to YOU and gives YOUR life meaning. You will be happier for it. But hey, at least your mom thinks you're special.
2. Fame's closest allies are chance and time. Trying to manufacture fame will make you infamous instead, and gaining honest fame relies on being born at the right time in history, at the right place in geography and being attributed with the right social qualities and mental faculties at those precise geo-temporal moments. So do you want a lifetime of infamy? A lifetime of frustration and waiting? Or a life worth living? See above how to be happier.
3. Friend has become synonymous with acquaintance and I'm here to remind you of that. A friend doesn't ask for anything in return for services rendered, is loyal and wants what's best for you.
4. The one is a romanticised construct meant to be perfect; and human beings are flawed. Ergo, the one only exists on paper and on the silver/gold screens, and the sooner you realise this, the sooner you can find yourself an actual partner.
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These are very. safe uncomfortable truths. here's 4 right bangers unsafe for public view (Oh dear. Viewer discretion is advised:
1. You're not special.
2. You won't be famous.
3. Most of your friends are not your friends.
4. The one doesn't exist.
These dreary truths are called life. So what do we do about them? In order:
1. Stop trying to be something you're not, and instead do something that matters to YOU and gives YOUR life meaning. You will be happier for it. But hey, at least your mom thinks you're special.
2. Fame's closest allies are chance and time. Trying to manufacture fame will make you infamous instead, and gaining honest fame relies on being born at the right time in history, at the right place in geography and being attributed with the right social qualities and mental faculties at those precise geo-temporal moments. So do you want a lifetime of infamy? A lifetime of frustration and waiting? Or a life worth living? See above how to be happier.
3. Friend has become synonymous with acquaintance and I'm here to remind you of that. A friend doesn't ask for anything in return for services rendered, is loyal and wants what's best for you.
4. The one is a romanticised construct meant to be perfect; and human beings are flawed. Ergo, the one only exists on paper and on the silver/gold screens, and the sooner you realise this, the sooner you can find yourself an actual partner.
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endworldhunger
Ok so here goes this amazing story I want to share; and this has nothing to do with regret or unfortunate experiences (especially in the past, and I'm not calling out any specific person; I just don't understand why people these days are so apprehensive. I realize everyone thinks differently. And it's not to say that no one should ignore bad habits or forget about defense mechanisms; but I sure as heck want there to be peace and civility in the world. If anything, I'm sure those are personal deep truths most everyone can relate with. It's like with me being a sports fan (especially about the phila. Eagles and Phillies, how I don't want to feel anxious; but I realize it is a part of being human, and it's sort of like how my grandfather couldn't stand going to school (but valued strong work ethic and loved to draw - much like me. One key difference is that I always looked forward to going to school, even on my darkest days (especially when my dad was battling bipolar depression. And there are always concerns I (and many others) will have, but all anyone can do is to keep going and realize there will always be obstacles and challenges to be conquered, depending on the situation, place of refuge, or spectrum.
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Ok so here goes this amazing story I want to share; and this has nothing to do with regret or unfortunate experiences (especially in the past, and I'm not calling out any specific person; I just don't understand why people these days are so apprehensive. I realize everyone thinks differently. And it's not to say that no one should ignore bad habits or forget about defense mechanisms; but I sure as heck want there to be peace and civility in the world. If anything, I'm sure those are personal deep truths most everyone can relate with. It's like with me being a sports fan (especially about the phila. Eagles and Phillies, how I don't want to feel anxious; but I realize it is a part of being human, and it's sort of like how my grandfather couldn't stand going to school (but valued strong work ethic and loved to draw - much like me. One key difference is that I always looked forward to going to school, even on my darkest days (especially when my dad was battling bipolar depression. And there are always concerns I (and many others) will have, but all anyone can do is to keep going and realize there will always be obstacles and challenges to be conquered, depending on the situation, place of refuge, or spectrum.
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Nicolas
You probably could have added that if the cheater is a pleaser then you might as well consider everything that happened to make the right call. I'm still in a relationship with a person that cheated on me once, but because he was raised by his parents to be a pleaser, and the one I got cheated on with kept threatening with hurting himself or even taking his own life, so my partner got desperate because of his pleaser side and tried to help by making him forget about it through pleasure even if it was wrong, he told me he realized what he did but was scared and didn't know what to do to stop it. I ended up taking full responsibility for it as I've already dealt with plenty of cases like these in the past, it took me about 9 months to forgive my partner as well, and I'm making sure I'm helping him to get rid of his pleaser side because he asked for it, he told me he doesn't want to be a cruel person anymore and stop hurting people like that. Also just a reminder for y'all, if you can judge and see the whole picture, don't make the same mistake as me, let go of the past and move on, don't live in it, it'll only cause you more harm than it's already done.
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You probably could have added that if the cheater is a pleaser then you might as well consider everything that happened to make the right call. I'm still in a relationship with a person that cheated on me once, but because he was raised by his parents to be a pleaser, and the one I got cheated on with kept threatening with hurting himself or even taking his own life, so my partner got desperate because of his pleaser side and tried to help by making him forget about it through pleasure even if it was wrong, he told me he realized what he did but was scared and didn't know what to do to stop it. I ended up taking full responsibility for it as I've already dealt with plenty of cases like these in the past, it took me about 9 months to forgive my partner as well, and I'm making sure I'm helping him to get rid of his pleaser side because he asked for it, he told me he doesn't want to be a cruel person anymore and stop hurting people like that. Also just a reminder for y'all, if you can judge and see the whole picture, don't make the same mistake as me, let go of the past and move on, don't live in it, it'll only cause you more harm than it's already done.
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Liah
3: 25 this is why it's important to have a plan b, when your goal doesn't work you just need to change your strategy or pov and know that you will move on from this. Also, before switching things up just take a day off to reset. You can spend the day catching up on sleep or just watching TV. Just take a self-care day, (or week+, whatever works for you) then after that figure out what needs to change. There are many choices in life, the reason you feel like you're stuck is because you feel discouraged. Take some time and focus on what you can do, what you're in control of. Accept that there are things you can't control, and that since they're out of your control, it's not your job to worry about them, it's someone else's. You can move on from this, but, you have to move.
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3: 25 this is why it's important to have a plan b, when your goal doesn't work you just need to change your strategy or pov and know that you will move on from this. Also, before switching things up just take a day off to reset. You can spend the day catching up on sleep or just watching TV. Just take a self-care day, (or week+, whatever works for you) then after that figure out what needs to change. There are many choices in life, the reason you feel like you're stuck is because you feel discouraged. Take some time and focus on what you can do, what you're in control of. Accept that there are things you can't control, and that since they're out of your control, it's not your job to worry about them, it's someone else's. You can move on from this, but, you have to move.
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Chi
Life is long but when it ends it ends people will stop remembering about you one day we don't know what will happens after you die we will all die and we will have no purpose at all our life doesn't matter there's 8 billion people one life doesn't matter your life is just a spec if we are alone in this universe and we go extinct it doesn't matter we are just one planet of billions and no other things will know that we existed at all we are just a history of lost of events and do you ever wonder why we can think see and be self awere is wierd other animals don't have it if they do we won't know they can't speak or we can't know what their saying at all so the point is our life doesn't exist if other things exist so our lives doesn't matter that's a sad truth
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Life is long but when it ends it ends people will stop remembering about you one day we don't know what will happens after you die we will all die and we will have no purpose at all our life doesn't matter there's 8 billion people one life doesn't matter your life is just a spec if we are alone in this universe and we go extinct it doesn't matter we are just one planet of billions and no other things will know that we existed at all we are just a history of lost of events and do you ever wonder why we can think see and be self awere is wierd other animals don't have it if they do we won't know they can't speak or we can't know what their saying at all so the point is our life doesn't exist if other things exist so our lives doesn't matter that's a sad truth
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0: 59 yes if you remove all the distraction out of the picture only then you realize how long is life actually.
2: 22 hmm. let's do the math, 3 times more likely to cheat, 1 duck in the hand equals 2. 5 in the bush, well it almost evens out, that may explain why people give chances to someone that cheated on them, they put too much value on them.
4: 44 well how about instead of thinking Could have I done better, you think I could have done this, this and this better and next if I get in such a situation I'll do it that way. Or to give an example use the way the immune system works that after you recover from a illness it creates something like a minefield that triggers if it detects the same illness, but then again try not to get autoimmune XD.
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0: 59 yes if you remove all the distraction out of the picture only then you realize how long is life actually.
2: 22 hmm. let's do the math, 3 times more likely to cheat, 1 duck in the hand equals 2. 5 in the bush, well it almost evens out, that may explain why people give chances to someone that cheated on them, they put too much value on them.
4: 44 well how about instead of thinking Could have I done better, you think I could have done this, this and this better and next if I get in such a situation I'll do it that way. Or to give an example use the way the immune system works that after you recover from a illness it creates something like a minefield that triggers if it detects the same illness, but then again try not to get autoimmune XD.
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Matt
Eat shit and die
Whatever negative/bad experience/horrible circumstance you find yourself in, EAT IT. It wont taste good, it will take time to consume it all. You'll want to clean yourself up after.
One day you'll look back and be glad to have eaten it because who wants second helpings? But then you might find yourself with a second serving and atleast you can look back and no what to expect. It dont taste good, hard to digest, takes time to eat. etc
Who knows, You could be on your 4 plate already.
Eat shit, and let that you die. Be reborn again. Just dont go around telling people you ate shit. they wont understand, even if you try to get them to understand, they wont until they have to eat as well.
Stay shitty.
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Eat shit and die
Whatever negative/bad experience/horrible circumstance you find yourself in, EAT IT. It wont taste good, it will take time to consume it all. You'll want to clean yourself up after.
One day you'll look back and be glad to have eaten it because who wants second helpings? But then you might find yourself with a second serving and atleast you can look back and no what to expect. It dont taste good, hard to digest, takes time to eat. etc
Who knows, You could be on your 4 plate already.
Eat shit, and let that you die. Be reborn again. Just dont go around telling people you ate shit. they wont understand, even if you try to get them to understand, they wont until they have to eat as well.
Stay shitty.
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ayoubex19
I just talked to my brother about this idea of life is long and life is short depends what you wanna show based on that not the idea on itself, they are both true in their context but they still both serve the idea of making the best out of it try stuff and grow and live it in a good situation, for short cause it's like an opportunity better do it well and long cause you'll probably prefer to live it well and build stuff, example life is too short to not do and strive for what you wanna do and too long to not do and strive for what you wanna do they work both
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I just talked to my brother about this idea of life is long and life is short depends what you wanna show based on that not the idea on itself, they are both true in their context but they still both serve the idea of making the best out of it try stuff and grow and live it in a good situation, for short cause it's like an opportunity better do it well and long cause you'll probably prefer to live it well and build stuff, example life is too short to not do and strive for what you wanna do and too long to not do and strive for what you wanna do they work both
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videakias3000
I am not sure about the part about cheaters.
it kinda depends on the context.
I watched once a video where reddit users explained why they cheated.
many of them were stuck in toxic relationships.
in some cases cheating was easier than breaking up.
one extreme case was a guy who was stuck dating some mentally ill girl who threatened to kill herself if he broke up with her.
I wouldn't blame those who are stuck in abusive relationships for cheating, their abuser does not deserve a loyal partner.
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I am not sure about the part about cheaters.
it kinda depends on the context.
I watched once a video where reddit users explained why they cheated.
many of them were stuck in toxic relationships.
in some cases cheating was easier than breaking up.
one extreme case was a guy who was stuck dating some mentally ill girl who threatened to kill herself if he broke up with her.
I wouldn't blame those who are stuck in abusive relationships for cheating, their abuser does not deserve a loyal partner.
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Fallen
I just hope I can actually improve myself. I feel like I've reached a peak with the hobbies I love, and it's so abysmal compared to anyone else's peak. I have such big dreams, but I've yet to truly accomplish anything big after years of working. I may just have to give up and leave what I currently love behind. It may be time to just work on new things. I may not like them now, but I'll probably like them later.
It's such a weird conflict I have. Should I keep chasing my dreams or change targets?
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I just hope I can actually improve myself. I feel like I've reached a peak with the hobbies I love, and it's so abysmal compared to anyone else's peak. I have such big dreams, but I've yet to truly accomplish anything big after years of working. I may just have to give up and leave what I currently love behind. It may be time to just work on new things. I may not like them now, but I'll probably like them later.
It's such a weird conflict I have. Should I keep chasing my dreams or change targets?
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JohnRedWolf87
There is no best choice - What helps bring me peace on my past choices is telling myself that every choice I've made, good or bad, was the right one. They were the choices I was meant to make. Bad choices might have negative consequences, but they allow you to grow and might just set you up for even better opportunities further down the line!
I'm not saying to go out and purposely do things you know are bad for you. Just that you shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes, as point 1 states!
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There is no best choice - What helps bring me peace on my past choices is telling myself that every choice I've made, good or bad, was the right one. They were the choices I was meant to make. Bad choices might have negative consequences, but they allow you to grow and might just set you up for even better opportunities further down the line!
I'm not saying to go out and purposely do things you know are bad for you. Just that you shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes, as point 1 states!
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Neo
Psych2Go No no more mistakes, I made far to many and missed to many chances in life for more mistakes. without telling the full story here, I missed alot of opportunities to get in a relationship allowing me to feel defeated by bullies and others who use me for my kindness that I ended up gaming many hours and hiding from the world in my room. Now I am 36 years old and still alone without someone special in my life. My 20's was nearly completely wasted.
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Psych2Go No no more mistakes, I made far to many and missed to many chances in life for more mistakes. without telling the full story here, I missed alot of opportunities to get in a relationship allowing me to feel defeated by bullies and others who use me for my kindness that I ended up gaming many hours and hiding from the world in my room. Now I am 36 years old and still alone without someone special in my life. My 20's was nearly completely wasted.
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guess
for me life is too short. i can't believe im in my 30s for what? lol i still party like a 20. im screwed
i've cheated once. and it's tempting to do it again because i think there's someone better then who i currently with only to find this new person are like my exs xD or they're worse lol
i stopped dreaming lol too many disappointments, too tired. i just wanna retire thats my dream xD
hmm choices. they haunt me. so many regrets.
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for me life is too short. i can't believe im in my 30s for what? lol i still party like a 20. im screwed
i've cheated once. and it's tempting to do it again because i think there's someone better then who i currently with only to find this new person are like my exs xD or they're worse lol
i stopped dreaming lol too many disappointments, too tired. i just wanna retire thats my dream xD
hmm choices. they haunt me. so many regrets.
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The
I made that mistake. She cheated on me on my birthday. She was my fiancee. It was with her best friend. We ultimately broke up and she went with him. And when that didn't work out, she tried to be my friend. I tried to be, but she only compared me to him unfavorably. I had to walk away. I did everything right and did all I could and it wasn't enough. Some people will not care what you do for them. Choose your partner very carefully.
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I made that mistake. She cheated on me on my birthday. She was my fiancee. It was with her best friend. We ultimately broke up and she went with him. And when that didn't work out, she tried to be my friend. I tried to be, but she only compared me to him unfavorably. I had to walk away. I did everything right and did all I could and it wasn't enough. Some people will not care what you do for them. Choose your partner very carefully.
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Corey
Ive been in a mental hospital for the last seven years. Sometimes I drown in angst about the choices that got me here; what if, should I have, whos fault. But in the end I wouldnt trade it for anything, theres been just as much beauty as pain. Met good friends. Fell in love for the first time. Found my calling. Signed my first autograph. Its not MY life; its just life, and its wonderful
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Ive been in a mental hospital for the last seven years. Sometimes I drown in angst about the choices that got me here; what if, should I have, whos fault. But in the end I wouldnt trade it for anything, theres been just as much beauty as pain. Met good friends. Fell in love for the first time. Found my calling. Signed my first autograph. Its not MY life; its just life, and its wonderful
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psych2go
2: 54 this is very relatable. My performing arts group goes to a yearly competition every year called access broadway and in 2021 me and my sister did a duet scene and we ended up scoring gold (Theres silver, high silver, gold, high gold, and platinum) And Gold is considered a low score which meant that I couldnt place for an overall award. I was so sad cause in 2020 I did so good.
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2: 54 this is very relatable. My performing arts group goes to a yearly competition every year called access broadway and in 2021 me and my sister did a duet scene and we ended up scoring gold (Theres silver, high silver, gold, high gold, and platinum) And Gold is considered a low score which meant that I couldnt place for an overall award. I was so sad cause in 2020 I did so good.
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Bene
I, once I had cheat on someone. I was on holiday, I fell in love and I wanted to wait to break up the previous relationship, in order to do it not by messages but in person, so I cheated. I didn't want to lose such a beautiful thing for a relationship that needed to end, my mistake was not kissing the other boy but not ending the relationship before holidays.
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I, once I had cheat on someone. I was on holiday, I fell in love and I wanted to wait to break up the previous relationship, in order to do it not by messages but in person, so I cheated. I didn't want to lose such a beautiful thing for a relationship that needed to end, my mistake was not kissing the other boy but not ending the relationship before holidays.
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Bugsmasherr
I feel like I'm the weakest, dumbest, amd most useless shit on earth. I didnt know that it's possible to not beat myself up for every single mistake I made. I didnt know that it's normal to experience series of disappointments and still dream.
Life is indeed long, waaaay too long for me. I've always wished it could be shorter.
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I feel like I'm the weakest, dumbest, amd most useless shit on earth. I didnt know that it's possible to not beat myself up for every single mistake I made. I didnt know that it's normal to experience series of disappointments and still dream.
Life is indeed long, waaaay too long for me. I've always wished it could be shorter.
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metilda
Greetings Team Psych2Go,
Concern:
- Redundancy in mistakes in Social & Personal Relationships.
- Cheaters contribute to worst mindset but also bring out the best with mature thoughts in every aspects.
Good, Meaningful inputs. Thanks. Take Care.
With regards,
RanjithJoseph (R. J)
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Greetings Team Psych2Go,
Concern:
- Redundancy in mistakes in Social & Personal Relationships.
- Cheaters contribute to worst mindset but also bring out the best with mature thoughts in every aspects.
Good, Meaningful inputs. Thanks. Take Care.
With regards,
RanjithJoseph (R. J)
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Ritinha
I have never been cheated on but if that happens and if the person says they want to continue the relationship and try to change I would say this:
If you think you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first, you wouldn't have a second - Johnny Depp
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I have never been cheated on but if that happens and if the person says they want to continue the relationship and try to change I would say this:
If you think you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first, you wouldn't have a second - Johnny Depp
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lerneanlion
So in the end, we're being forced by reality to accept to live in the world where there is no Tsardom of Alaska and the Middle East is a mess because the Ottoman Empire is no longer around to keep everyone in the Middle East in line? Oh my, this is so harsh and quite personally unacceptable.
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So in the end, we're being forced by reality to accept to live in the world where there is no Tsardom of Alaska and the Middle East is a mess because the Ottoman Empire is no longer around to keep everyone in the Middle East in line? Oh my, this is so harsh and quite personally unacceptable.
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Ives
Food For Thought: The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it, and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, loneliness, hesitation, fear, or anger; but in wisdom, understanding, enthusiasm, freedom, passion and love.
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Food For Thought: The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it, and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, loneliness, hesitation, fear, or anger; but in wisdom, understanding, enthusiasm, freedom, passion and love.
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. When I look at my life the truth's seem to be blended in with the hurt's, harm's, and trauma's. Rumination on past mistake's are always in my path of progression. Do your best. The indication is It's easier to learn something new than to forget something old.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. When I look at my life the truth's seem to be blended in with the hurt's, harm's, and trauma's. Rumination on past mistake's are always in my path of progression. Do your best. The indication is It's easier to learn something new than to forget something old.
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Abdelrahman
It's hard when you do your Best and yet fail i have been like this almost all my life the higher you climb the harder you fall having someone beside you should help s lot in this situations but sadly I don't hope you all doing well and is not at the moment get better very soon
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It's hard when you do your Best and yet fail i have been like this almost all my life the higher you climb the harder you fall having someone beside you should help s lot in this situations but sadly I don't hope you all doing well and is not at the moment get better very soon
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Jackson
Thank you so much for these insightful tips!
Your words of encouragement really do help us to keep going.
I hope everyone here in the comments is hanging in there and that we all continue pushing on into the new year towards a better future with less pain and struggle
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Thank you so much for these insightful tips!
Your words of encouragement really do help us to keep going.
I hope everyone here in the comments is hanging in there and that we all continue pushing on into the new year towards a better future with less pain and struggle
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