9 Common Life Regrets of Older People
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Date: 2023-08-20
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AquilaCat
It was good to watch this. At 33 years old I'm looking to make a huge switch. I love my current job and area, but I've longed to be in Ireland ever since I was a kid and I feel more drawn toward it now than ever. Aaaaand I realized that $40k isn't a livable wage anymore and if I stick with the safe comfy job and region I'm currently at, I will never have enough money for retirement. So I'm giving in to the longing and aiming to go to Ireland. Going back to school for a STEM degree and after a year of planning I finally got up the courage to apply to a somewhat nearby university's e-campus so I can study while continuing to work full time and once I have my bachelor's from that, then I'll aim to get a master's degree in Ireland to get my foot in the door to start networking for jobs later OR get a master's degree in Belgium or Germany and then find work with some international business or organization to slowly inch my way over to Ireland with the end goal of obtaining citizenship and living there forever.
Moving a few states away from friends and family was difficult a decade ago, but I did it. The greater distance away from loved ones will be difficult, but manageable with phones and internet to keep in contact and I'm doing as much research as possible to better set myself up for success to boost my confidence enough to keep on taking these leaps of faith and just being determined to make it work out one way or another.
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It was good to watch this. At 33 years old I'm looking to make a huge switch. I love my current job and area, but I've longed to be in Ireland ever since I was a kid and I feel more drawn toward it now than ever. Aaaaand I realized that $40k isn't a livable wage anymore and if I stick with the safe comfy job and region I'm currently at, I will never have enough money for retirement. So I'm giving in to the longing and aiming to go to Ireland. Going back to school for a STEM degree and after a year of planning I finally got up the courage to apply to a somewhat nearby university's e-campus so I can study while continuing to work full time and once I have my bachelor's from that, then I'll aim to get a master's degree in Ireland to get my foot in the door to start networking for jobs later OR get a master's degree in Belgium or Germany and then find work with some international business or organization to slowly inch my way over to Ireland with the end goal of obtaining citizenship and living there forever.
Moving a few states away from friends and family was difficult a decade ago, but I did it. The greater distance away from loved ones will be difficult, but manageable with phones and internet to keep in contact and I'm doing as much research as possible to better set myself up for success to boost my confidence enough to keep on taking these leaps of faith and just being determined to make it work out one way or another.
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Indrid
I regret having survived a very serious accident the 16th of June 1986. I should have died. I wish I had died. Someone did not mind their own business and called an ambulance. What followed were five agonizing years of recovery, followed by ten years of social failures due to being isolated too long, followed by six years of becoming the victim to social predators because I was clueless how to tell if someone was genuine or just looking for their next victim to take what they can from their victim, followed many yeears of being paranoid about letting anybody come close to me because I do not want to be a victim again. Dying the 16th of June at 20: 44 would have made my existence nearly ideal. Life was ideal until then. It has been a nightmare after that. If death comes for you, do not deny it. Embrace death. Your time to die is a good thing, not a bad thing.
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I regret having survived a very serious accident the 16th of June 1986. I should have died. I wish I had died. Someone did not mind their own business and called an ambulance. What followed were five agonizing years of recovery, followed by ten years of social failures due to being isolated too long, followed by six years of becoming the victim to social predators because I was clueless how to tell if someone was genuine or just looking for their next victim to take what they can from their victim, followed many yeears of being paranoid about letting anybody come close to me because I do not want to be a victim again. Dying the 16th of June at 20: 44 would have made my existence nearly ideal. Life was ideal until then. It has been a nightmare after that. If death comes for you, do not deny it. Embrace death. Your time to die is a good thing, not a bad thing.
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Congruent
I often get scared of pursuing my dreams. They are literally out of this world. I want to go into a field that doesnt exactly exist yet, but I want to pioneer in. Itd be something along the lines of Multi-Terrestrial Civil Architectural and Mechanical Engineering.
To break it down: multi-terrestrial mean planets Mercury to Mars, Civil- structures (road ways, buildings, dams, etc) Architectural- Housing for people to live in, Mechanical- Using machines to assist in in things.
Pretty much, I want to help build buildings on other planets. On mars Id want to use large 3D printers that can print out structures. I also wouldnt mind in dabbling in some asteroid mining using mini robots, or by recorrecting the trajectory to impact unused area so we can then collect the rare metals on the asteroid.
Very ambitious, and I often feel its too ambitious.
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I often get scared of pursuing my dreams. They are literally out of this world. I want to go into a field that doesnt exactly exist yet, but I want to pioneer in. Itd be something along the lines of Multi-Terrestrial Civil Architectural and Mechanical Engineering.
To break it down: multi-terrestrial mean planets Mercury to Mars, Civil- structures (road ways, buildings, dams, etc) Architectural- Housing for people to live in, Mechanical- Using machines to assist in in things.
Pretty much, I want to help build buildings on other planets. On mars Id want to use large 3D printers that can print out structures. I also wouldnt mind in dabbling in some asteroid mining using mini robots, or by recorrecting the trajectory to impact unused area so we can then collect the rare metals on the asteroid.
Very ambitious, and I often feel its too ambitious.
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jec0514
I totally agree with everything said in this video. I like these videos and find they really do help improve my life. Im in my 50s (still cant believe it lol) and I have LOTS of regrets. But Im leaning how to let go and forgive myself; and Im trying to find a way to live and do my passions, and how to be happy and enjoy life. I love to write, and am SLOWLY working on my memoir, and want to write childrens books, but I never seem to have the time or money to do them. I let fear stop me. Its always been difficult for me to relax and to just have fun, because Im always worried about what people are thinking about me. I also think I might have Aspergers, which would explain a lot about why I am the way I am. Im still getting to know who I really am, since I was always told who I should be or what I should do. But its a process and unfortunately takes time.
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I totally agree with everything said in this video. I like these videos and find they really do help improve my life. Im in my 50s (still cant believe it lol) and I have LOTS of regrets. But Im leaning how to let go and forgive myself; and Im trying to find a way to live and do my passions, and how to be happy and enjoy life. I love to write, and am SLOWLY working on my memoir, and want to write childrens books, but I never seem to have the time or money to do them. I let fear stop me. Its always been difficult for me to relax and to just have fun, because Im always worried about what people are thinking about me. I also think I might have Aspergers, which would explain a lot about why I am the way I am. Im still getting to know who I really am, since I was always told who I should be or what I should do. But its a process and unfortunately takes time.
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cheri
heres my advice and what ive learned over the years:
1. get used to being alone and become comfortable with it. people will be moving in and out of your life.
2. appreciate and cherish the memories you have with family and friends, soon enough youll see your dad is too old to climb a mountain with you, and that itself is heartbreaking.
3. experiment with things. try a new style, a new activity, or expose yourself to a different environment. it helps you find out who you truly are and what you want in life.
4. dont beat yourself up over every little mistake, or something bad is happening in your life. IT WILL PASS. it always does! i know in the moment, its horrible, but you will have a day where no worries will be on your mind anymore.
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heres my advice and what ive learned over the years:
1. get used to being alone and become comfortable with it. people will be moving in and out of your life.
2. appreciate and cherish the memories you have with family and friends, soon enough youll see your dad is too old to climb a mountain with you, and that itself is heartbreaking.
3. experiment with things. try a new style, a new activity, or expose yourself to a different environment. it helps you find out who you truly are and what you want in life.
4. dont beat yourself up over every little mistake, or something bad is happening in your life. IT WILL PASS. it always does! i know in the moment, its horrible, but you will have a day where no worries will be on your mind anymore.
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gene108
As someone in the older generation (nooo, regrets are unavoidable.
The people who are content with themselves get more satisfaction from what theyve done than what they havent done and regret not doing.
I find as I go through my 40s, I become more content with myself, despite having more regrets than things Im satisfied with. I have to make peace with the fact I cant redo the past, and I need to find what makes me happy now.
The 9 points in this video are great. Ill add another way to look at these points is do not fear failure and do not think failure closes all future opportunities. Life keeps providing opportunities.
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As someone in the older generation (nooo, regrets are unavoidable.
The people who are content with themselves get more satisfaction from what theyve done than what they havent done and regret not doing.
I find as I go through my 40s, I become more content with myself, despite having more regrets than things Im satisfied with. I have to make peace with the fact I cant redo the past, and I need to find what makes me happy now.
The 9 points in this video are great. Ill add another way to look at these points is do not fear failure and do not think failure closes all future opportunities. Life keeps providing opportunities.
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Zhi
Good content The first hit me hard, overthinking and always care on what others think on me. Its hard to be my true self and act without thinking so much as might hurt or offended others as mostly due to my personalities and I think so much even before a trivial question or matter thus I even act like by others in order to like by othersand YES we cant please everyone to like us however for me work it is important to work on my weakness to become better version of myself and live for myself and be myself and of course less OVERTHINKING when I around with my friends and others
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Good content The first hit me hard, overthinking and always care on what others think on me. Its hard to be my true self and act without thinking so much as might hurt or offended others as mostly due to my personalities and I think so much even before a trivial question or matter thus I even act like by others in order to like by othersand YES we cant please everyone to like us however for me work it is important to work on my weakness to become better version of myself and live for myself and be myself and of course less OVERTHINKING when I around with my friends and others
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J.
Don't care about what people think,
honestly it really doesn't matter in the long run. Don't trust other people too much, The constant let down can be detrimental to your own health over time. Work smart and if you 'really' don't feel comfortable doing something, simply don't do it and move on. Always make time for loved ones, friends, family and neighbours the real strength and bonding over the years will serve you better mentally than 1000s of likes or followers ever will. (although it won't seem like it right now) find balance.
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Don't care about what people think,
honestly it really doesn't matter in the long run. Don't trust other people too much, The constant let down can be detrimental to your own health over time. Work smart and if you 'really' don't feel comfortable doing something, simply don't do it and move on. Always make time for loved ones, friends, family and neighbours the real strength and bonding over the years will serve you better mentally than 1000s of likes or followers ever will. (although it won't seem like it right now) find balance.
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sidechick
Im not even old yet I already regret my whole life. I embarrassed myself several times over the span of two weeks, I accidentally ran over a dog(not the entire dog just its legs, I broke two bags as I was helping my aunt carry groceries, I waved at someone who I thought was waving at me, I was talking to someone who I thought was talking to me, I broke a large bag of water after I tried putting it in the truck, and many more. Im isolating myself in the crawlspace
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Im not even old yet I already regret my whole life. I embarrassed myself several times over the span of two weeks, I accidentally ran over a dog(not the entire dog just its legs, I broke two bags as I was helping my aunt carry groceries, I waved at someone who I thought was waving at me, I was talking to someone who I thought was talking to me, I broke a large bag of water after I tried putting it in the truck, and many more. Im isolating myself in the crawlspace
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FoxNamedAndrea
From the moment the Big Bang happened, to the creation of earth, to humanity, those all needed unbelievably unlikely coincidences to happen. Then we think about how even on the brink of humanitys death, a few people survived, and those happened to be your ancestors. You have very narrowly avoided death so many many times before you were even born, and youre still here. Use it. The chances are so unlikely its almost impossible. Use it.
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From the moment the Big Bang happened, to the creation of earth, to humanity, those all needed unbelievably unlikely coincidences to happen. Then we think about how even on the brink of humanitys death, a few people survived, and those happened to be your ancestors. You have very narrowly avoided death so many many times before you were even born, and youre still here. Use it. The chances are so unlikely its almost impossible. Use it.
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B.
+Psych2GoTv Thanks for the list of common life regrets:
0: 41(1) Caring too much about others' thoughts
1: 09(2) Not following one's passions
1: 44(3) Working too much
2: 07(4) Keeping true feelings to oneself
2: 35(5) Not standing up more frequently for oneself
2: 57(6) Insufficient belief in oneself
3: 18(7) Not caring better for oneself
3: 42(8) Not taking more risks
4: 05(9) Not living in the moment
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+Psych2GoTv Thanks for the list of common life regrets:
0: 41(1) Caring too much about others' thoughts
1: 09(2) Not following one's passions
1: 44(3) Working too much
2: 07(4) Keeping true feelings to oneself
2: 35(5) Not standing up more frequently for oneself
2: 57(6) Insufficient belief in oneself
3: 18(7) Not caring better for oneself
3: 42(8) Not taking more risks
4: 05(9) Not living in the moment
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Doc
Well. Its never good enough.
I took risks. I followed my passion. I spent great family time. I had a rewarding career.
Ive come out of retirement to do a job I enjoy. Im being as financially responsible as I can.
I really have a nice life.
But its never enough. I could have been better, more successful, less prone to the passions.
Its never really enough.
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Well. Its never good enough.
I took risks. I followed my passion. I spent great family time. I had a rewarding career.
Ive come out of retirement to do a job I enjoy. Im being as financially responsible as I can.
I really have a nice life.
But its never enough. I could have been better, more successful, less prone to the passions.
Its never really enough.
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education
I felt attacked as I finished the video. I am not way too old since I'm a teenager, however, I'm starting to reflect on my previous actions. And I feel like I have to let myself breathe for a while. I always pressure myself because I feel like I am living for academic validation, I almost forgot that I had a rough start but was still able to survive. Thank you Psych2Go!
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I felt attacked as I finished the video. I am not way too old since I'm a teenager, however, I'm starting to reflect on my previous actions. And I feel like I have to let myself breathe for a while. I always pressure myself because I feel like I am living for academic validation, I almost forgot that I had a rough start but was still able to survive. Thank you Psych2Go!
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Dr.
1 Caring too much about what other people think
2 Not following their passion in life
3 Working too much
4 Not saying how they truly feel
5 Not standing up for themselves more
6 Not believing in themselves enough
7 Not taking better care of yourself
8 Not taking more risks
9 Not living in the moment more
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1 Caring too much about what other people think
2 Not following their passion in life
3 Working too much
4 Not saying how they truly feel
5 Not standing up for themselves more
6 Not believing in themselves enough
7 Not taking better care of yourself
8 Not taking more risks
9 Not living in the moment more
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Cristina
This video really helped me with a current dilemma that I'm in. I have a huge opportunity ahead of me but because I'm so used to my comfort zone, I almost refused the opportunity I was given. Fear is natural and so is regretting, but regretting something can be avoided if you're down to take risk. Thank you for this video!
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This video really helped me with a current dilemma that I'm in. I have a huge opportunity ahead of me but because I'm so used to my comfort zone, I almost refused the opportunity I was given. Fear is natural and so is regretting, but regretting something can be avoided if you're down to take risk. Thank you for this video!
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Spentrav
Some of these are definitely lessons I wish a younger me had learned, though I am not too worried, as hopefully 40 is not quite the middle of my life.
Picard: What we leave behind is not as important as how we lived. After all, Number One, we're only mortal.
Riker: Speak for yourself, sir. I plan to live forever.
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Some of these are definitely lessons I wish a younger me had learned, though I am not too worried, as hopefully 40 is not quite the middle of my life.
Picard: What we leave behind is not as important as how we lived. After all, Number One, we're only mortal.
Riker: Speak for yourself, sir. I plan to live forever.
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Varshitha
Thank you for this video. This made me pause and think about myself and the things are around me. I ll make sure to correct things before they are too late. I'm very grateful for watching your video today. Learnt something which can surely help me.
Thank you
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Thank you for this video. This made me pause and think about myself and the things are around me. I ll make sure to correct things before they are too late. I'm very grateful for watching your video today. Learnt something which can surely help me.
Thank you
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SarahBeYou88
i told someone i worked with them
that they were cute and i like them and
they said sorry i'm not looking for a relationship at this time. we
can be friends. Ever since that time he doesn't say hi or anything to me. it's rude and i feel ugly
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i told someone i worked with them
that they were cute and i like them and
they said sorry i'm not looking for a relationship at this time. we
can be friends. Ever since that time he doesn't say hi or anything to me. it's rude and i feel ugly
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redred222
so what im getting out of this is life sucks, it sucks now for me and i dont see it getting any better living with mental illness and not being able to do the job you loved because your brain cant handle the stress anymore
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so what im getting out of this is life sucks, it sucks now for me and i dont see it getting any better living with mental illness and not being able to do the job you loved because your brain cant handle the stress anymore
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Morgan
I never know that 1/4 of my life is already wasted. But I know better and I can do better! Even though my hands will be sweaty and trembling so much, I know I will be happy and there will be no future regrets for me.
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I never know that 1/4 of my life is already wasted. But I know better and I can do better! Even though my hands will be sweaty and trembling so much, I know I will be happy and there will be no future regrets for me.
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Basasa
I had some regrets but the thing is I'm a Gen Z but earlier in my life I regretted some things but now I'm sure to take the risk to the unknown, even it's scary like a business or passion
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I had some regrets but the thing is I'm a Gen Z but earlier in my life I regretted some things but now I'm sure to take the risk to the unknown, even it's scary like a business or passion
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Melly
This video was so valuable I am a workaholic I have no days off so I requested some weekends off and I have a birthday coming up I'm going to enjoy myself I'm going to have a Me-Day
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This video was so valuable I am a workaholic I have no days off so I requested some weekends off and I have a birthday coming up I'm going to enjoy myself I'm going to have a Me-Day
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education
I needed this video even though I am a teenager. I just hate myself and dont feel enough. I want to be something and be number 1 but sometimes it is tiring. I hate myself.
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I needed this video even though I am a teenager. I just hate myself and dont feel enough. I want to be something and be number 1 but sometimes it is tiring. I hate myself.
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education
I can already relate to at least 4 of these, although I am not that old (only 28. I really want to have faith that I will be able to fix some of them before it's too late.
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I can already relate to at least 4 of these, although I am not that old (only 28. I really want to have faith that I will be able to fix some of them before it's too late.
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Star
I try to live my life with no regrets currently 19 and following my dream so far of to a good start but I want to quit everyday but I stay on even if it's a lot of work
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I try to live my life with no regrets currently 19 and following my dream so far of to a good start but I want to quit everyday but I stay on even if it's a lot of work
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