Top 10 Unrealistic Expectations We Got from Rom-Coms
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Date: 2023-11-20
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Jace
Yes, thank you. One of the things about 80s and 90s movies is they taught me and my friends that if we want a girl we just don't give up. And big silly or assertive unwanted gestures are romantic. It's silver screen poison. But we were taught that this is what girls respond to. Movies, books, songs, almost all forms of art reward persistence and not taking no for an answer and somehow it's suppose to work out. When you're a little kid and have no experience at all, movies & TV were all we had to learn from. So. it wasn't helpful. And it warped our views on how to express interest in others.
ALSO. movie and TV taught females that men are supposed to do the initial pursuing and be INSTANTLY funny, charming, clever, attractive, witty, original, assertive, sensitive, strong, and confident. Does anyone remember how hard it was to approach a female before we all had cell phones? The expectations these movies placed in the heads of women who would be approached by men is crazy impossible to meet.
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Yes, thank you. One of the things about 80s and 90s movies is they taught me and my friends that if we want a girl we just don't give up. And big silly or assertive unwanted gestures are romantic. It's silver screen poison. But we were taught that this is what girls respond to. Movies, books, songs, almost all forms of art reward persistence and not taking no for an answer and somehow it's suppose to work out. When you're a little kid and have no experience at all, movies & TV were all we had to learn from. So. it wasn't helpful. And it warped our views on how to express interest in others.
ALSO. movie and TV taught females that men are supposed to do the initial pursuing and be INSTANTLY funny, charming, clever, attractive, witty, original, assertive, sensitive, strong, and confident. Does anyone remember how hard it was to approach a female before we all had cell phones? The expectations these movies placed in the heads of women who would be approached by men is crazy impossible to meet.
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Halie
I disagree with one of these. I think the girl usually chooses the asshole or rude guy more than they choose the nice one. Like in The Wedding Planner she chooses the guy who was flirting with her while he was already engaged to another women. Another example is Pretty in Pink, she rejects Duckie who is nothing but sweet to her and chooses a guy who is embarrassed to even be seen with her because she's not a part of his rich society. I really do blame movies for people staying in toxic relationships.
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I disagree with one of these. I think the girl usually chooses the asshole or rude guy more than they choose the nice one. Like in The Wedding Planner she chooses the guy who was flirting with her while he was already engaged to another women. Another example is Pretty in Pink, she rejects Duckie who is nothing but sweet to her and chooses a guy who is embarrassed to even be seen with her because she's not a part of his rich society. I really do blame movies for people staying in toxic relationships.
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Steezeeyy
One that annoys me is when one of the main characters cheats on a boyfriend/girlfriend or just flirts with the other lead and it's made OK by the boyfriend/girlfriend being a secret scumbag. In fact any situation where someone has to choose between two potential partners and the deciding factor is always that one of them is a completely terrible person. Like the audience has to know who the right choice is.
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One that annoys me is when one of the main characters cheats on a boyfriend/girlfriend or just flirts with the other lead and it's made OK by the boyfriend/girlfriend being a secret scumbag. In fact any situation where someone has to choose between two potential partners and the deciding factor is always that one of them is a completely terrible person. Like the audience has to know who the right choice is.
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Carolina
I have seen so many of my female friends falling for these things, I even tried to help one of them to get out of a terrible relationship but well. and some male friends that I have also have this feeling that they deserve something in return for being good with someone, especially a girl, of course, not everyone is like this but you know, maybe its just a cultural thing at this point, I don't know
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I have seen so many of my female friends falling for these things, I even tried to help one of them to get out of a terrible relationship but well. and some male friends that I have also have this feeling that they deserve something in return for being good with someone, especially a girl, of course, not everyone is like this but you know, maybe its just a cultural thing at this point, I don't know
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Chrissie
I think number one should be (though I agree with all of the list) that People NEED to Wind Up With Someone. I think that is SO incredibly toxic! Or the person who doesn't want a relationship is a convert by the end.
A romcom I want to see is where a girl dumps her fiance because she realizes that she actually isn't ready for marriage, and commits to herself. Show me THAT, Hollywood!
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I think number one should be (though I agree with all of the list) that People NEED to Wind Up With Someone. I think that is SO incredibly toxic! Or the person who doesn't want a relationship is a convert by the end.
A romcom I want to see is where a girl dumps her fiance because she realizes that she actually isn't ready for marriage, and commits to herself. Show me THAT, Hollywood!
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Clint
How would you feel if you were Keira Knightley's hubby in Love, Actually? .What Andrew Lincoln did. as opposed to discuss his feelings in a mature way, is actually pretty. under-handed? Like, even if he says he knew she wouldn't reciprocate. if she jumped into his arms then and there, he wouldn't complain. And then would leave her now single husband with issues for life.
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How would you feel if you were Keira Knightley's hubby in Love, Actually? .What Andrew Lincoln did. as opposed to discuss his feelings in a mature way, is actually pretty. under-handed? Like, even if he says he knew she wouldn't reciprocate. if she jumped into his arms then and there, he wouldn't complain. And then would leave her now single husband with issues for life.
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Amanda
My best friend told me that she approved of my late husband when we started dating because she'd catch him watching me and smiling to himself frequently (obviously not in a creepy way. It's not the only reason but it was one, for sure. He's the only man I was ever with who she truly approved of and we've been besties since 3 years of age!
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My best friend told me that she approved of my late husband when we started dating because she'd catch him watching me and smiling to himself frequently (obviously not in a creepy way. It's not the only reason but it was one, for sure. He's the only man I was ever with who she truly approved of and we've been besties since 3 years of age!
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Mr.
People tend to overlook the comedy aspect in romantic comedies. Thats because these situations are created to be laughed at and entertain than actually inspire real life relationship and social skills. If you ever wondered why there are comedy movies and romantic comedy movies but NO ROMANTIC MOVIES, now you know why.
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People tend to overlook the comedy aspect in romantic comedies. Thats because these situations are created to be laughed at and entertain than actually inspire real life relationship and social skills. If you ever wondered why there are comedy movies and romantic comedy movies but NO ROMANTIC MOVIES, now you know why.
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Thikra
1- Be different and the most wanted guy in school will fall for u.
2- get in danger and the Golden boy will save you.
3- Dress differently and people won't have a thing to do other than stare at u.
4- love is all sunshine and butterflies.
5- Even when he treats you badly he still secretly loves you.
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1- Be different and the most wanted guy in school will fall for u.
2- get in danger and the Golden boy will save you.
3- Dress differently and people won't have a thing to do other than stare at u.
4- love is all sunshine and butterflies.
5- Even when he treats you badly he still secretly loves you.
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Natalie
I've had to put up with creeps who couldn't take no for an answer. Also guy who loved me from afar I had a stalker for 3 years. No matter where I worked or lived, he'd follow me. It really freaked me out. My husband had to fight him to get rid of him. We all had to go to court. The ended up going to jail.
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I've had to put up with creeps who couldn't take no for an answer. Also guy who loved me from afar I had a stalker for 3 years. No matter where I worked or lived, he'd follow me. It really freaked me out. My husband had to fight him to get rid of him. We all had to go to court. The ended up going to jail.
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Connie
I know a guy in his 60s, and hes constantly saying on FB how amazing his wife is, and how much she does for him, he apparently gushed about her decorating their front porch for Xmas. People mention how OTT it is. I think grand gestures are OK in moderation, otherwise it could become embarrassing?
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I know a guy in his 60s, and hes constantly saying on FB how amazing his wife is, and how much she does for him, he apparently gushed about her decorating their front porch for Xmas. People mention how OTT it is. I think grand gestures are OK in moderation, otherwise it could become embarrassing?
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Bryn
'EVERYBODY IS ATTRACTIVE'? Really? Another trope may be that males get women who ought to be way out of their league (Seth Rogen syndrome. Characters played by Woody Allen do at least seem to be aware of this, in their unspoken manner if not stated outright.
ROMEO + JULIET is not a rom-com.
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'EVERYBODY IS ATTRACTIVE'? Really? Another trope may be that males get women who ought to be way out of their league (Seth Rogen syndrome. Characters played by Woody Allen do at least seem to be aware of this, in their unspoken manner if not stated outright.
ROMEO + JULIET is not a rom-com.
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Sara
I see nothing wrong with the big gesture trope. especially if people have done it in real life. Its show casing the love someone feels for the other. I dont like being the center of attention but the grand proposals are so cute and wh are you to claim no one wants that in real life?
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I see nothing wrong with the big gesture trope. especially if people have done it in real life. Its show casing the love someone feels for the other. I dont like being the center of attention but the grand proposals are so cute and wh are you to claim no one wants that in real life?
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Radka
Soooo trueee! Especially the part where u HAVE TO like the guy, just cause he is nice to you and the creepy part! Totally agree with your list and number one is really disturbing because its so on point, what happened to society, its like being stalker is ok even though its so not
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Soooo trueee! Especially the part where u HAVE TO like the guy, just cause he is nice to you and the creepy part! Totally agree with your list and number one is really disturbing because its so on point, what happened to society, its like being stalker is ok even though its so not
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MM
The guy in rom coms arent the man of every girls dreams. They are the best buddy of every girl's dreams. That is the guy in their friend zone they love so much and hope stays in their life forever but would never go any further than a high five of a one-armed bestie hug with them.
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The guy in rom coms arent the man of every girls dreams. They are the best buddy of every girl's dreams. That is the guy in their friend zone they love so much and hope stays in their life forever but would never go any further than a high five of a one-armed bestie hug with them.
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Paulo
And the classic, when a perfectly explainable misunderstood happens, someone runs away without the other person having tim to explain that it wasn't what it seemed. Like X sees Y from afar with Z, X thinks Y is cheating or that Y likes Z and X never stood a chance.
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And the classic, when a perfectly explainable misunderstood happens, someone runs away without the other person having tim to explain that it wasn't what it seemed. Like X sees Y from afar with Z, X thinks Y is cheating or that Y likes Z and X never stood a chance.
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Alicia
Sorry but for anyone remotely attractive, the friends thing is real. If you are friends with someone and you are both otherwise committed, I get it. But if you are both single, you can't be friends. Also friends with the exes isn't a thing either.
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Sorry but for anyone remotely attractive, the friends thing is real. If you are friends with someone and you are both otherwise committed, I get it. But if you are both single, you can't be friends. Also friends with the exes isn't a thing either.
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Chris
Makeup does wonders it can make Sandra bullock look eh when she is already naturally gorgeous. She never looks bad, but makeup can make her look just ok. I fell in love with someone at first sight. I fall more and more in love with him every day.
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Makeup does wonders it can make Sandra bullock look eh when she is already naturally gorgeous. She never looks bad, but makeup can make her look just ok. I fell in love with someone at first sight. I fall more and more in love with him every day.
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Elizabeth
Ms Mojo: love at first sight doesn't really happen in real life
My dad (in '92 or '93): falls in love with my mom at first sight
Ms Mojo: generally love at first sight relationships dont work out
My parents: been married for 22 years
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Ms Mojo: love at first sight doesn't really happen in real life
My dad (in '92 or '93): falls in love with my mom at first sight
Ms Mojo: generally love at first sight relationships dont work out
My parents: been married for 22 years
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Josef
500 Days of Summer is good for this list because it is about some loser who has all the unrealistic expectations from rom coms and he gets punished for it. It seems like that movie is a warning not to get your romantic ideas from Rom Coms.
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500 Days of Summer is good for this list because it is about some loser who has all the unrealistic expectations from rom coms and he gets punished for it. It seems like that movie is a warning not to get your romantic ideas from Rom Coms.
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Sting
the reason why the nice guy or nerd usually gets the girl in movies is because THAT IS WHO WROTE THE MOVIE. majority of hollywood writers were awkward socially inept geeks in school. thus these movies often act as wish fulfillment.
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the reason why the nice guy or nerd usually gets the girl in movies is because THAT IS WHO WROTE THE MOVIE. majority of hollywood writers were awkward socially inept geeks in school. thus these movies often act as wish fulfillment.
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OldKitten85
To be fair, While You Were Sleeping hits on a lot of these tropes to make the same points of this video. In the end, Sandra Bullock didn't end up with the guy she was pining after at the beginning of the movie.
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To be fair, While You Were Sleeping hits on a lot of these tropes to make the same points of this video. In the end, Sandra Bullock didn't end up with the guy she was pining after at the beginning of the movie.
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Spiked
Rom-coms and Disney movies in general had our perception of love really screwed up and askew. I've learned this the hard way many times. However ironically, my marriage with my wife feels like a fairy tail.
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Rom-coms and Disney movies in general had our perception of love really screwed up and askew. I've learned this the hard way many times. However ironically, my marriage with my wife feels like a fairy tail.
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Cupcake
Number 3 is what Im guilty of. I usually fell for bad boys thinking it would be a romantic movie that I can change them. It lead to abusive, unhealthy and toxic relationships. Ive grown from it since then.
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Number 3 is what Im guilty of. I usually fell for bad boys thinking it would be a romantic movie that I can change them. It lead to abusive, unhealthy and toxic relationships. Ive grown from it since then.
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George
That relationships aren't about mutual love and respect or shared interests or any of that nonsense; but instead about changing or fixing your partner and molding them into what you think they should be.
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That relationships aren't about mutual love and respect or shared interests or any of that nonsense; but instead about changing or fixing your partner and molding them into what you think they should be.
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fanjoy
My entire life has been a tragic romantic comedy. in 2020 alone I've had about 6 different boyfriends and 6 different breakups, a makeover, chance meetings and soundtrack to my own sections of NYC
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My entire life has been a tragic romantic comedy. in 2020 alone I've had about 6 different boyfriends and 6 different breakups, a makeover, chance meetings and soundtrack to my own sections of NYC
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Somber
How many people do you know have undergone a complete makeover? We hate these tropes but make idiots like Kylie Jenner a billionaire because she had a glow up with a good plastic surgeon.
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How many people do you know have undergone a complete makeover? We hate these tropes but make idiots like Kylie Jenner a billionaire because she had a glow up with a good plastic surgeon.
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fanjoy
No one should ever have to say, no thanks more than once to an unwanted overture.
The correct follow up is okay have a good day/night then move the heck on. Anything more is CREEPY.
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No one should ever have to say, no thanks more than once to an unwanted overture.
The correct follow up is okay have a good day/night then move the heck on. Anything more is CREEPY.
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Michael
As to number 7 it's also extremely toxic because romcoms teach women that they deserve to have a man spend an obscene amount of time wooing her if they're going to get any of her time.
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As to number 7 it's also extremely toxic because romcoms teach women that they deserve to have a man spend an obscene amount of time wooing her if they're going to get any of her time.
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Somber
Not gonna lie I spent my early 90's childhood expecting Leonardo Dicaprio to see me and immediately fall in love. Of course they're had to be appropriate music playing.
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Not gonna lie I spent my early 90's childhood expecting Leonardo Dicaprio to see me and immediately fall in love. Of course they're had to be appropriate music playing.
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