8 Things Not To Say To Someone With Suicidal Thoughts
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Date: 2025-03-08
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psych2go
my comment has sensitive words, sorry for my bad english or anything else.
Thank you for helping me. I have always been fascinated by psychology and since I was 11 years old I have watched podcasts with mental health professionals. I have always loved the human mind and the brain too. I have a friend who has suicidal thoughts and I feel like I am helping him because I try to do the same as psychologists and just listen. I avoid giving advice or comforting him because I know it can be a trap and I have the chance of saying something that makes him feel worse. So I try to listen and your videos among many others have helped me. It made me want to work at the center for the valorization of life even though I identify with people with depression more than I would like. I think that maybe the fact that I identify intensely with people with suicidal thoughts makes me a good listener too, because contrary to what most people think, I don't see suicide as immoral, selfish, cowardly, or anything like that. I remember that since I was little I knew many suicidal people. When I was 9 years old, I had a friend who took his own life. I remember looking at the photo of the body with curiosity. My mother tried to convince her not to hurt herself when she was 16, but unfortunately I made a mistake and called her selfish. Now I see that I was wrong, but I didn't mean any harm. I myself, there was a time when I thought the world would be a better place without me, that people would be happy if I were gone. Today I know they would feel bad, but I still think it would be better if I had never been born. But I have no plans to hurt myself or take my life, and I say this with all due respect to those who do so. As I said, I don't see suicide as immoral. I don't condemn suicide, but I don't encourage the act. I believe that people have the right to decide what happens in their own lives, but that doesn't mean I would tell someone to do it. When I meet someone going through this, I try to help them so they don't do it, but I would never force someone to stay here. I would never admit them against their will to a psychiatric hospital, because even with good intentions, I see that as inhumane. When I hear people say that people who commit suicide go to hell or that it's selfish, I remember the suicidal people I've known and how they were all selfless and kind people. This makes me feel very bad when I hear this. Telling a suicidal person that they are selfish is the biggest selfishness because it is like saying that you want the person to continue suffering so that you do not suffer the pain of grief and loss. and I say this without wanting to offend because I know that many people have serious trauma from losing someone to suicide. I'm just saying that it's not the suicide's fault but that doesn't mean it's yours fault
Ps: Sorry for my English, I'm from Brazil and I'm learning the language.
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my comment has sensitive words, sorry for my bad english or anything else.
Thank you for helping me. I have always been fascinated by psychology and since I was 11 years old I have watched podcasts with mental health professionals. I have always loved the human mind and the brain too. I have a friend who has suicidal thoughts and I feel like I am helping him because I try to do the same as psychologists and just listen. I avoid giving advice or comforting him because I know it can be a trap and I have the chance of saying something that makes him feel worse. So I try to listen and your videos among many others have helped me. It made me want to work at the center for the valorization of life even though I identify with people with depression more than I would like. I think that maybe the fact that I identify intensely with people with suicidal thoughts makes me a good listener too, because contrary to what most people think, I don't see suicide as immoral, selfish, cowardly, or anything like that. I remember that since I was little I knew many suicidal people. When I was 9 years old, I had a friend who took his own life. I remember looking at the photo of the body with curiosity. My mother tried to convince her not to hurt herself when she was 16, but unfortunately I made a mistake and called her selfish. Now I see that I was wrong, but I didn't mean any harm. I myself, there was a time when I thought the world would be a better place without me, that people would be happy if I were gone. Today I know they would feel bad, but I still think it would be better if I had never been born. But I have no plans to hurt myself or take my life, and I say this with all due respect to those who do so. As I said, I don't see suicide as immoral. I don't condemn suicide, but I don't encourage the act. I believe that people have the right to decide what happens in their own lives, but that doesn't mean I would tell someone to do it. When I meet someone going through this, I try to help them so they don't do it, but I would never force someone to stay here. I would never admit them against their will to a psychiatric hospital, because even with good intentions, I see that as inhumane. When I hear people say that people who commit suicide go to hell or that it's selfish, I remember the suicidal people I've known and how they were all selfless and kind people. This makes me feel very bad when I hear this. Telling a suicidal person that they are selfish is the biggest selfishness because it is like saying that you want the person to continue suffering so that you do not suffer the pain of grief and loss. and I say this without wanting to offend because I know that many people have serious trauma from losing someone to suicide. I'm just saying that it's not the suicide's fault but that doesn't mean it's yours fault
Ps: Sorry for my English, I'm from Brazil and I'm learning the language.
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psych2go
(Alternatively) Based on psychological understanding of naturally optimistic personalities here are 15 things you should avoid saying to them, as these can be particularly damaging or frustrating:
1. You're not being realistic - This dismisses their natural ability to see possibilities and hope in situations. 2. Stop being so cheerful all the time - This criticizes their authentic personality and natural state of being.
3. You're naive - This undermines their conscious choice to focus on positivity while often being fully aware of negatives. 4. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows - They usually know this but choose to focus on the bright side.
5. You need to be more serious - This suggests their optimistic approach to life is somehow less valid. 6. Your positivity is toxic - This weaponizes their natural disposition against them.
7. You're just avoiding reality - Most optimistic people aren't avoiding reality; they're choosing how to interpret it.
8. Wait until life hits you hard - This patronizes their life experience and suggests their optimism comes from inexperience
9. You can't always be happy - They know this; they're choosing to maximize happiness when possible.
10. That's just your privileged perspective - This diminishes their conscious effort to maintain positivity. 11. You need to grow up and face facts - This incorrectly equates optimism with immaturity.
12. Stop trying to find the good in everything - This criticizes one of their core strengths.
13. Your happiness makes others uncomfortable - This tries to make them responsible for others' insecurities. 14. You're just wearing a mask - This questions the authenticity of their natural disposition.
15. Life will eventually break that spirit of yours - This shows a desire to see their optimism fail.
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(Alternatively) Based on psychological understanding of naturally optimistic personalities here are 15 things you should avoid saying to them, as these can be particularly damaging or frustrating:
1. You're not being realistic - This dismisses their natural ability to see possibilities and hope in situations. 2. Stop being so cheerful all the time - This criticizes their authentic personality and natural state of being.
3. You're naive - This undermines their conscious choice to focus on positivity while often being fully aware of negatives. 4. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows - They usually know this but choose to focus on the bright side.
5. You need to be more serious - This suggests their optimistic approach to life is somehow less valid. 6. Your positivity is toxic - This weaponizes their natural disposition against them.
7. You're just avoiding reality - Most optimistic people aren't avoiding reality; they're choosing how to interpret it.
8. Wait until life hits you hard - This patronizes their life experience and suggests their optimism comes from inexperience
9. You can't always be happy - They know this; they're choosing to maximize happiness when possible.
10. That's just your privileged perspective - This diminishes their conscious effort to maintain positivity. 11. You need to grow up and face facts - This incorrectly equates optimism with immaturity.
12. Stop trying to find the good in everything - This criticizes one of their core strengths.
13. Your happiness makes others uncomfortable - This tries to make them responsible for others' insecurities. 14. You're just wearing a mask - This questions the authenticity of their natural disposition.
15. Life will eventually break that spirit of yours - This shows a desire to see their optimism fail.
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Awdreejahslin
As someone who has had 4 attempts and is in my heart of hearts fully believes that one day will be successful this is so important I don’t know why I have these thoughts and don’t know why I’m convinced I will one day be successful in fact I’m hoping when i am successful it is because of some terminal illness and not because of my struggle with depression and impulse control even in the past few months it’s been at the forefront of my mind to the point that just 8-9 days ago I thought that day was the day. Between the world going down the toilet from our President my being LGBTQ, and struggles with my marriage and home life my bucket is almost always full if not overflowing taking everything day by day the struggle is real and I am grateful for my therapist and I would like to add something to this list don’t say just give me a call or reach out to someone when you have these thoughts and maybe this just applies to me but when I there I am numb checked out if you well at times it is existential as I am watching myself from outside my body going through those motions not really realizing what I am doing I’m not thinking of calling someone I am focused on what I need to do to end this suffering so I’ll see myself just hanging places lifeless pain free or if I’m driving lll see cars coming at me and colliding with me or just there with a bottle of pills all over the place it makes me feel like it’s outta my control so to hear I should call someone it’s not even a thought that comes to mind someone would need to physically be there to intervene and I am fortunate that my dogs ands cats have been lately cause right now life feels hopeless at so many times that all it needs is one thing to happen and boom I’m there whether I want to happen or not and my therapist and doctors and spouse are all aware and a
It makes me feel horrible because of what does to them too I don’t want to manipulate or hurt anyone and I’m not trying to seek attention it’s something I live with and I try to be aware of and that struggle is so hard
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As someone who has had 4 attempts and is in my heart of hearts fully believes that one day will be successful this is so important I don’t know why I have these thoughts and don’t know why I’m convinced I will one day be successful in fact I’m hoping when i am successful it is because of some terminal illness and not because of my struggle with depression and impulse control even in the past few months it’s been at the forefront of my mind to the point that just 8-9 days ago I thought that day was the day. Between the world going down the toilet from our President my being LGBTQ, and struggles with my marriage and home life my bucket is almost always full if not overflowing taking everything day by day the struggle is real and I am grateful for my therapist and I would like to add something to this list don’t say just give me a call or reach out to someone when you have these thoughts and maybe this just applies to me but when I there I am numb checked out if you well at times it is existential as I am watching myself from outside my body going through those motions not really realizing what I am doing I’m not thinking of calling someone I am focused on what I need to do to end this suffering so I’ll see myself just hanging places lifeless pain free or if I’m driving lll see cars coming at me and colliding with me or just there with a bottle of pills all over the place it makes me feel like it’s outta my control so to hear I should call someone it’s not even a thought that comes to mind someone would need to physically be there to intervene and I am fortunate that my dogs ands cats have been lately cause right now life feels hopeless at so many times that all it needs is one thing to happen and boom I’m there whether I want to happen or not and my therapist and doctors and spouse are all aware and a
It makes me feel horrible because of what does to them too I don’t want to manipulate or hurt anyone and I’m not trying to seek attention it’s something I live with and I try to be aware of and that struggle is so hard
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Awdreejahslin
As someone who has had 4 attempts and is in my heart of hearts fully believes that one day will be successful this is so important I don’t know why I have these thoughts and don’t know why I’m convinced I will one day be successful in fact I’m hoping when i am successful it is because of some terminal illness and not because of my struggle with depression and impulse control even in the past few months it’s been at the forefront of my mind to the point that just 8-9 days ago I thought that day was the day. Between the world going down the toilet from our President my being LGBTQ, and struggles with my marriage and home life my bucket is almost always full if not overflowing taking everything day by day the struggle is real and I am grateful for my therapist and I would like to add something to this list don’t say just give me a call or reach out to someone when you have these thoughts and maybe this just applies to me but when I there I am numb checked out if you well at times it is existential as I am watching myself from outside my body going through those motions not really realizing what I am doing I’m not thinking of calling someone I am focused on what I need to do to end this suffering so I’ll see myself just hanging places lifeless pain free or if I’m driving lll see cars coming at me and colliding with me or just there with a bottle of pills all over the place it makes me feel like it’s outta my control so to hear I should call someone it’s not even a thought that comes to mind someone would need to physically be there to intervene and I am fortunate that my dogs ands cats have been lately cause right now life feels hopeless at so many times that all it needs is one thing to happen and boom I’m there whether I want to happen or not and my therapist and doctors and spouse are all aware and a
It makes me feel horrible because of what does to them too I don’t want to manipulate or hurt anyone and I’m not trying to seek attention it’s something I live with and I try to be aware of and that struggle is so hard
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As someone who has had 4 attempts and is in my heart of hearts fully believes that one day will be successful this is so important I don’t know why I have these thoughts and don’t know why I’m convinced I will one day be successful in fact I’m hoping when i am successful it is because of some terminal illness and not because of my struggle with depression and impulse control even in the past few months it’s been at the forefront of my mind to the point that just 8-9 days ago I thought that day was the day. Between the world going down the toilet from our President my being LGBTQ, and struggles with my marriage and home life my bucket is almost always full if not overflowing taking everything day by day the struggle is real and I am grateful for my therapist and I would like to add something to this list don’t say just give me a call or reach out to someone when you have these thoughts and maybe this just applies to me but when I there I am numb checked out if you well at times it is existential as I am watching myself from outside my body going through those motions not really realizing what I am doing I’m not thinking of calling someone I am focused on what I need to do to end this suffering so I’ll see myself just hanging places lifeless pain free or if I’m driving lll see cars coming at me and colliding with me or just there with a bottle of pills all over the place it makes me feel like it’s outta my control so to hear I should call someone it’s not even a thought that comes to mind someone would need to physically be there to intervene and I am fortunate that my dogs ands cats have been lately cause right now life feels hopeless at so many times that all it needs is one thing to happen and boom I’m there whether I want to happen or not and my therapist and doctors and spouse are all aware and a
It makes me feel horrible because of what does to them too I don’t want to manipulate or hurt anyone and I’m not trying to seek attention it’s something I live with and I try to be aware of and that struggle is so hard
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MMSkittles-zw7zn
As a 17 year old who has been suicidal since I was 13 (yup, 4 whole years & I’m still alive. Am I a coward or what. When I was 13, while I was on a walk with my mom, I hinted at my suicidal tendencies by asking her How would you feel if I died suddenly She calmly responded I would be a little sad if you died, but I’d get over it. It hurt. Burnt my soul and tore my heart into pieces. But I was always good at putting on a mask; Oh. Ok. I said. My brother was right next to me, and he didn’t care. Then, at 16, when I outright told my mom I was suicidal (after 3 whole years of hesitation, she laughs at me and says You guys (me and my bro) make me feel suicidal all the time! So what At that point, I’m already crying. I usually cry in empty, locked rooms, like my bedroom, or outside in the backyard, but I couldn’t hold in all those years of pain, loneliness, and that gaping hole in my heart anymore. I just cried. Like a mess. My mom laughed at me even more and said OhYou’re gonna _cry_ now Aren’t you too old for that Of course, she’s right, but I couldn’t stop crying. It’s been a year since then, and 4 years since my mom told me she wouldn’t care if I died, but I still remember it as if it happened yesterday. Sorry; I just needed to vent.
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As a 17 year old who has been suicidal since I was 13 (yup, 4 whole years & I’m still alive. Am I a coward or what. When I was 13, while I was on a walk with my mom, I hinted at my suicidal tendencies by asking her How would you feel if I died suddenly She calmly responded I would be a little sad if you died, but I’d get over it. It hurt. Burnt my soul and tore my heart into pieces. But I was always good at putting on a mask; Oh. Ok. I said. My brother was right next to me, and he didn’t care. Then, at 16, when I outright told my mom I was suicidal (after 3 whole years of hesitation, she laughs at me and says You guys (me and my bro) make me feel suicidal all the time! So what At that point, I’m already crying. I usually cry in empty, locked rooms, like my bedroom, or outside in the backyard, but I couldn’t hold in all those years of pain, loneliness, and that gaping hole in my heart anymore. I just cried. Like a mess. My mom laughed at me even more and said OhYou’re gonna _cry_ now Aren’t you too old for that Of course, she’s right, but I couldn’t stop crying. It’s been a year since then, and 4 years since my mom told me she wouldn’t care if I died, but I still remember it as if it happened yesterday. Sorry; I just needed to vent.
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Moon_cherrytea
I had told someone I was suicidal yesterday, it was a teacher. I didn't know why, I had cried in the bathroom. And my mind was on autopilot. I was considered the ideal student, straight A's, polite, respectful, always representing in competitions. But no one knew what was going on, I was disassociating, couldn't concentrate. I had told my best friend, she avoided the topic since then, even avoiding me. I felt this massive stone within me, and felt 'well it is her life, she can't focus on me' so I watched as she prepared for the final exams, while everyone prepared for the final exams while I drowned deeper. And even now I told him, I didn't want to believe he'd be different. I just told myself keep going, just keep going, do it alone, you have always done it alone. And it is hard. I feel like I'm falling. Four attempts at the age of sixteen, wow. Who would have thought
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I had told someone I was suicidal yesterday, it was a teacher. I didn't know why, I had cried in the bathroom. And my mind was on autopilot. I was considered the ideal student, straight A's, polite, respectful, always representing in competitions. But no one knew what was going on, I was disassociating, couldn't concentrate. I had told my best friend, she avoided the topic since then, even avoiding me. I felt this massive stone within me, and felt 'well it is her life, she can't focus on me' so I watched as she prepared for the final exams, while everyone prepared for the final exams while I drowned deeper. And even now I told him, I didn't want to believe he'd be different. I just told myself keep going, just keep going, do it alone, you have always done it alone. And it is hard. I feel like I'm falling. Four attempts at the age of sixteen, wow. Who would have thought
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oko7390
I am asking myself more about what I should say, how I can express in a right and comforting way that I'm here for them instead of what I shouldn't.
I have been in bad places myself and somehow found a way out on my own but now I have a friend of mine with dark thoughts from time to time.
Told me, I told her I am there for her, showed her by being at her side and helping with basic tasks that sometimes are to much to complete for her or by just listening and being there, talking to her and doing stuff.
I just think to myself that there has to be something I can do, maybe that's just a naive thought amd I should just do it as I do now, but I can't help myself when I see that she's getting worse and I'am feeling like I can't do anything about it.
I once lost someone to suicide, it may sound selfish, but I don't want to let another person down and go that way
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I am asking myself more about what I should say, how I can express in a right and comforting way that I'm here for them instead of what I shouldn't.
I have been in bad places myself and somehow found a way out on my own but now I have a friend of mine with dark thoughts from time to time.
Told me, I told her I am there for her, showed her by being at her side and helping with basic tasks that sometimes are to much to complete for her or by just listening and being there, talking to her and doing stuff.
I just think to myself that there has to be something I can do, maybe that's just a naive thought amd I should just do it as I do now, but I can't help myself when I see that she's getting worse and I'am feeling like I can't do anything about it.
I once lost someone to suicide, it may sound selfish, but I don't want to let another person down and go that way
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psych2go
As someone with CPTSD who had their fair share of grief-related depression growing up, I think perhaps the best approach when broaching sombre subjects in general is a calm, honest, objective, approach:
not acting shocked or the like, not blathering trite toxic positivity phrases, and listening to what the person has to say without making the matter about oneself.
Therapy certainly can help, as, crucially, can finding some meaning, however small, for one to continue.
For me, it was knowing that the loved ones I’d lost would want me to be happy once more and to therein keep living that got me through the darkest part of my life.
Anyhow, that’s just my ten cents on the matter. Gothic culture and music was another thing I found useful, but it’s not of appeal to all pallets.
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As someone with CPTSD who had their fair share of grief-related depression growing up, I think perhaps the best approach when broaching sombre subjects in general is a calm, honest, objective, approach:
not acting shocked or the like, not blathering trite toxic positivity phrases, and listening to what the person has to say without making the matter about oneself.
Therapy certainly can help, as, crucially, can finding some meaning, however small, for one to continue.
For me, it was knowing that the loved ones I’d lost would want me to be happy once more and to therein keep living that got me through the darkest part of my life.
Anyhow, that’s just my ten cents on the matter. Gothic culture and music was another thing I found useful, but it’s not of appeal to all pallets.
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KittyUnicorn56XD
It hurts when those friends that are hurting themselves live nowhere near me. The only thing that helps me is that I know where one of them lives and could call the police if needed.
I try and not do any of these things because I know what it was like to think about these things myself. I calculate everything I try to say, so I don't further their struggles.
I'm so happy one of them has gotten to be put in therapy and she sees that she needs it. My other friend is in a terrible position where she can't leave it or get help. And recently she's been getting worse and I'm terrified something will happen to her. I feel like they both are ticking time bombs waiting to explode with how much they struggle and will deal with.
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It hurts when those friends that are hurting themselves live nowhere near me. The only thing that helps me is that I know where one of them lives and could call the police if needed.
I try and not do any of these things because I know what it was like to think about these things myself. I calculate everything I try to say, so I don't further their struggles.
I'm so happy one of them has gotten to be put in therapy and she sees that she needs it. My other friend is in a terrible position where she can't leave it or get help. And recently she's been getting worse and I'm terrified something will happen to her. I feel like they both are ticking time bombs waiting to explode with how much they struggle and will deal with.
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psych2go
As someone who has and had had suicidal thoughts for a few years now, saying you should see a doctor doesn't help. I knew I needed to see a doctor, but if I'm not ready, it doesn't really help, if not at all. I experienced seeing someone when I was so down that it began an emergency and I had to go to the hospital, and then had to see a psychiatrist, but they couldn't bring anything useful because I didn't want to see them and couldn't open to them. Now, a few years later, I finally decided on my own to see someone, without anybody telling me to do it, and it reaaalllly helps! Yes, I think the new doctor has a methodology that suits me better than the previous one, but that's also because I could choose where I wanted to seek help.
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As someone who has and had had suicidal thoughts for a few years now, saying you should see a doctor doesn't help. I knew I needed to see a doctor, but if I'm not ready, it doesn't really help, if not at all. I experienced seeing someone when I was so down that it began an emergency and I had to go to the hospital, and then had to see a psychiatrist, but they couldn't bring anything useful because I didn't want to see them and couldn't open to them. Now, a few years later, I finally decided on my own to see someone, without anybody telling me to do it, and it reaaalllly helps! Yes, I think the new doctor has a methodology that suits me better than the previous one, but that's also because I could choose where I wanted to seek help.
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Diiixiiinormus
At the end of the day there’s nothing we’re responsible for. Everyone’s different. My close friend of 18 years committed 2 years ago on March 9th. I miss him everyday. The last thing I said to him was I love you man, drive safe. Gave him a hug, and then never saw him again.
Also one that’s important to note, was BIG in my hometown: happiness is a choice
Absolutely the last thing anyone in the trenches wants to hear.
You literally can’t control your emotions. You can control your attitude. But the initial feeling you get by reacting to something, is well out of your control. I couldn’t control the sadness I felt about my buddy’s death. All I could control was my attitude about how I grief about it.
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At the end of the day there’s nothing we’re responsible for. Everyone’s different. My close friend of 18 years committed 2 years ago on March 9th. I miss him everyday. The last thing I said to him was I love you man, drive safe. Gave him a hug, and then never saw him again.
Also one that’s important to note, was BIG in my hometown: happiness is a choice
Absolutely the last thing anyone in the trenches wants to hear.
You literally can’t control your emotions. You can control your attitude. But the initial feeling you get by reacting to something, is well out of your control. I couldn’t control the sadness I felt about my buddy’s death. All I could control was my attitude about how I grief about it.
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JohnSmith-cw7hb
PLEASE reconsider associating with BetterHelp, considering how horrible they've been to customers and also selling their data.
Touchy subject, mostly good advice.
Unfortunately there are no hard-and-fast rules about conversations with someone, but the key point here is to listen (while taking care of yourself, and if you have a reaction resulting in one of those 8 phrases, you may be in over your head and need to take a break.
I wanted to reverse it for each phrase include something to say instead - but the helpful part may be more about what to consider (instead of saying canned phrases) because only natural responses will be helpful to someone being vulnerable by admitting these things.
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PLEASE reconsider associating with BetterHelp, considering how horrible they've been to customers and also selling their data.
Touchy subject, mostly good advice.
Unfortunately there are no hard-and-fast rules about conversations with someone, but the key point here is to listen (while taking care of yourself, and if you have a reaction resulting in one of those 8 phrases, you may be in over your head and need to take a break.
I wanted to reverse it for each phrase include something to say instead - but the helpful part may be more about what to consider (instead of saying canned phrases) because only natural responses will be helpful to someone being vulnerable by admitting these things.
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ryeguy2745
Suicidal thoughts are serious. You start to question everything about your existence when life shits on you. I struggle with these thoughts occasionally even though I sometimes wonder if I deserve to have these thoughts. I try to convince myself that I can give something good to a person or the world so I should stop feeling sorry for myself. I also tell myself I'm at fault for not trying hard enough or just being good enough. Unfortunately, we can only be as good as the effort we put into our life and we should avoid self-comparison if we can help it. I can sort of relate of feeling worthless or a nobody especially if you have depression or mental illness. You aren't alone.
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Suicidal thoughts are serious. You start to question everything about your existence when life shits on you. I struggle with these thoughts occasionally even though I sometimes wonder if I deserve to have these thoughts. I try to convince myself that I can give something good to a person or the world so I should stop feeling sorry for myself. I also tell myself I'm at fault for not trying hard enough or just being good enough. Unfortunately, we can only be as good as the effort we put into our life and we should avoid self-comparison if we can help it. I can sort of relate of feeling worthless or a nobody especially if you have depression or mental illness. You aren't alone.
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gthepomki
I once had a friend that later on came out as suicidal. Every time they started talking about it i tried to help them. I found myself saying few of those things that were mentioned in this video such as dont say that. Im not very social and im easily stressed out so i really didnt know what to do. Over time those conversations became more frequent, but the person always tried to change the subject afterwards and ignored my attempts at help, they also began super randomly. Not too long ago i realised that i was being used for attention and i ended the friendship. It left a huge scar on me. Maybe if you have some tips on how to spot these kinds of situations
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I once had a friend that later on came out as suicidal. Every time they started talking about it i tried to help them. I found myself saying few of those things that were mentioned in this video such as dont say that. Im not very social and im easily stressed out so i really didnt know what to do. Over time those conversations became more frequent, but the person always tried to change the subject afterwards and ignored my attempts at help, they also began super randomly. Not too long ago i realised that i was being used for attention and i ended the friendship. It left a huge scar on me. Maybe if you have some tips on how to spot these kinds of situations
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Shrewbee
Make sure you not only tell them that you are there for them, but that you SHOW them that your there to. Sometimes when someone is so deep in/stuck in their thoughts, it takes more for them realize the support that they have. Don't try to help their thoughts go away, you aren't a mental professional and could easily give the wrong advice/say the wrong things. Instead, you should just listen, offer support, and be there for them as they recover and go through this difficult time. Give them resources if they ask for it, offer to be there if they feel nervous or scared, and take the effort to be more mindful in the way you talk and act around them.
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Make sure you not only tell them that you are there for them, but that you SHOW them that your there to. Sometimes when someone is so deep in/stuck in their thoughts, it takes more for them realize the support that they have. Don't try to help their thoughts go away, you aren't a mental professional and could easily give the wrong advice/say the wrong things. Instead, you should just listen, offer support, and be there for them as they recover and go through this difficult time. Give them resources if they ask for it, offer to be there if they feel nervous or scared, and take the effort to be more mindful in the way you talk and act around them.
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psych2go
One of the worst things you can say to someone who has suicidal thoughts is that you are thinking about suicide because the other person has suicidal thoughts. Mom said to me that she was considering suicide when I opened up to her about having suicidal thoughts, and I couldn’t stop crying when she said that. I stopped talking about having suicidal thoughts with her after that. I used to have suicidal thoughts, but I don’t anymore. Luckily, this year I haven’t had any thoughts of suicide, which is a relief! I told myself that I don’t want to hurt the people who love me, which is why I can’t afford to think that way anymore
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One of the worst things you can say to someone who has suicidal thoughts is that you are thinking about suicide because the other person has suicidal thoughts. Mom said to me that she was considering suicide when I opened up to her about having suicidal thoughts, and I couldn’t stop crying when she said that. I stopped talking about having suicidal thoughts with her after that. I used to have suicidal thoughts, but I don’t anymore. Luckily, this year I haven’t had any thoughts of suicide, which is a relief! I told myself that I don’t want to hurt the people who love me, which is why I can’t afford to think that way anymore
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crocoshark4097
8 Things not to say to a suicidal person:
1. I bet you're too chicken. Buc-buc-BUCKAW!
2. Don't kill yourself. .. 'cause I WANT to kill you!
3. If you kill yourself, you let those who hurt you win. Kill THEM. KILL THEM ALL!
4. May I interest you in auto-erotic asphyxiation
5. You're gonna do it in, like, a FUN way, right Are you gonna livestream it
6. Does this make you wanna kill yourself more Loud, annoying noises
7. Just don't think about how you'll never afford a house as you slowly watch everything beautiful be destroyed by government incompetence and climate change.
8. DO IT! DO IT NOW!
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8 Things not to say to a suicidal person:
1. I bet you're too chicken. Buc-buc-BUCKAW!
2. Don't kill yourself. .. 'cause I WANT to kill you!
3. If you kill yourself, you let those who hurt you win. Kill THEM. KILL THEM ALL!
4. May I interest you in auto-erotic asphyxiation
5. You're gonna do it in, like, a FUN way, right Are you gonna livestream it
6. Does this make you wanna kill yourself more Loud, annoying noises
7. Just don't think about how you'll never afford a house as you slowly watch everything beautiful be destroyed by government incompetence and climate change.
8. DO IT! DO IT NOW!
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RandomAnagram.
The You need help, you should see a doctor. one hits me in the gut even when I'm not actively feeling dark thoughts.
Mainly because many of the healthcare professionals I had encountered don't really care, it's just a business to them.
They only want to throw pills at you and shove you out the door without listening or caring if youre hit with detrimental side effects of the rx.
At least it had been that way for me, so if I was on the edge that definitely would have really hurt even more.
I've been fortunate to find helpful doctors though so I'm not saying never go to the doctor.
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The You need help, you should see a doctor. one hits me in the gut even when I'm not actively feeling dark thoughts.
Mainly because many of the healthcare professionals I had encountered don't really care, it's just a business to them.
They only want to throw pills at you and shove you out the door without listening or caring if youre hit with detrimental side effects of the rx.
At least it had been that way for me, so if I was on the edge that definitely would have really hurt even more.
I've been fortunate to find helpful doctors though so I'm not saying never go to the doctor.
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yashgupta2912
Hey psych2go i need help!
So i am very emotional intelligent person and since i helped my one of the female friend with her hard time, many women have noticed it and they are constantly bringing their problem and complications,
They are so slow at self esteem that they need constant reassurance and validation from me, I can't handle them.
Sometimes i wish i cpuld just shout at them that it's their problem, grow up, face it. I am not your bf or something, their is nothing in return for me, so why should i help you
Help me plz psych2goers
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Hey psych2go i need help!
So i am very emotional intelligent person and since i helped my one of the female friend with her hard time, many women have noticed it and they are constantly bringing their problem and complications,
They are so slow at self esteem that they need constant reassurance and validation from me, I can't handle them.
Sometimes i wish i cpuld just shout at them that it's their problem, grow up, face it. I am not your bf or something, their is nothing in return for me, so why should i help you
Help me plz psych2goers
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AvacadoPerson
But Uk I can’t be everyone’s therapist anymore I’ve been helping them since I can count and they don’t do it back, ever
I am done with it if I say anything about su! c! de the only real tension they have is who will listen to me next
And our school has councils but they say they can’t
U CAN is what I tell them but Uk they guilt trip me
I’m not okay and will probably never be, the trauma dumping never stops and I can’t just tell them to not trauma dump otherwise they wont trust me with anything it’s rude
I AM DONE
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But Uk I can’t be everyone’s therapist anymore I’ve been helping them since I can count and they don’t do it back, ever
I am done with it if I say anything about su! c! de the only real tension they have is who will listen to me next
And our school has councils but they say they can’t
U CAN is what I tell them but Uk they guilt trip me
I’m not okay and will probably never be, the trauma dumping never stops and I can’t just tell them to not trauma dump otherwise they wont trust me with anything it’s rude
I AM DONE
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