Flirting vs. Being Friendly: How to Tell the Difference
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Date: 2025-03-05
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dymoure
Humor really solves everything in this department. You just have to come up with some creative, flirty jokes and gauge the reaction. Humor is really the problem solver here. Extra tip for people with the is it really flirting issue, if someone is being TOO friendly, try to have some creative, flirty humor ready. With my ex, she was definitely too friendly when we were just friends. There was a time when we were texting about physical touch, and she would talked about how her teeth would ache when she wanted to be touchy or kiss someone. And I told her not to worry, because I would take her on a date. And my next message was sent with invisible ink saying, to the dentist. I was cackling the whole way home after work. She was the type of person who never responded immediately, but she definitely did that time. If you feel like someone is teasing you, tease them back. If they were just leading you on, you can walk away quicker. But chances are that if the way you tease is creative, funny, and harmless, your crush will see you in a different, better way. ;)
Is she flirting used to be a big problem for me. Now, after six months since I was in a relationship, I think the problem is just finding someone who fits my standards, who’s interested in me, and I’m interested in her. In my experience, finding a girl who'll commit is pretty difficult. I usually end up being the guy your girl tells you not to worry about. I just wanna be the guy. It’s taken a while, but my last relationship taught me that I shouldn’t settle, tho. If you find the person who makes you feel alive, it’ll definitely be worth it. :) Just be funny. That’s really all you need to do. A sense of humor measures so much more than I thought. It's subtle when done right, but it can stealthily compare values, chemistry, interest, and more.
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Humor really solves everything in this department. You just have to come up with some creative, flirty jokes and gauge the reaction. Humor is really the problem solver here. Extra tip for people with the is it really flirting issue, if someone is being TOO friendly, try to have some creative, flirty humor ready. With my ex, she was definitely too friendly when we were just friends. There was a time when we were texting about physical touch, and she would talked about how her teeth would ache when she wanted to be touchy or kiss someone. And I told her not to worry, because I would take her on a date. And my next message was sent with invisible ink saying, to the dentist. I was cackling the whole way home after work. She was the type of person who never responded immediately, but she definitely did that time. If you feel like someone is teasing you, tease them back. If they were just leading you on, you can walk away quicker. But chances are that if the way you tease is creative, funny, and harmless, your crush will see you in a different, better way. ;)
Is she flirting used to be a big problem for me. Now, after six months since I was in a relationship, I think the problem is just finding someone who fits my standards, who’s interested in me, and I’m interested in her. In my experience, finding a girl who'll commit is pretty difficult. I usually end up being the guy your girl tells you not to worry about. I just wanna be the guy. It’s taken a while, but my last relationship taught me that I shouldn’t settle, tho. If you find the person who makes you feel alive, it’ll definitely be worth it. :) Just be funny. That’s really all you need to do. A sense of humor measures so much more than I thought. It's subtle when done right, but it can stealthily compare values, chemistry, interest, and more.
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melaniescribbles
As an autistic lady with social anxiety; Honestly, I'm kind of forever alone with little to no interest in me, but on the rare occasion that the flirting DOESN'T go over my head Then it helps me to imagine what I'd say to a friend who's experiencing the same thing. Would I say 'he/she is into you', or would I say 'nah, it's just a general people person friendliness thing' I mean, from there, people in general usually can decide whether that interest is requited or not. I'm just here to give them the lowdown of how things simply are, and to remind them that they're under absolutely no obligation to reciprocate if that spark just ain't there. I'm just oddly enough kind of used to giving advice on that one, lol. And I often hear that I sound kind of real and relatable on that one despite my lack of personal experience on that one. So I'm just like 'what would I say if someone online would be asking this same thing' But usually, I have to tell people 'This alone isn't enough to call it here, but it's enough reason to keep an eye out for their behavior patterns on that one'. And it's usually what I tell myself since I'm like really good at pattern recognition.
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As an autistic lady with social anxiety; Honestly, I'm kind of forever alone with little to no interest in me, but on the rare occasion that the flirting DOESN'T go over my head Then it helps me to imagine what I'd say to a friend who's experiencing the same thing. Would I say 'he/she is into you', or would I say 'nah, it's just a general people person friendliness thing' I mean, from there, people in general usually can decide whether that interest is requited or not. I'm just here to give them the lowdown of how things simply are, and to remind them that they're under absolutely no obligation to reciprocate if that spark just ain't there. I'm just oddly enough kind of used to giving advice on that one, lol. And I often hear that I sound kind of real and relatable on that one despite my lack of personal experience on that one. So I'm just like 'what would I say if someone online would be asking this same thing' But usually, I have to tell people 'This alone isn't enough to call it here, but it's enough reason to keep an eye out for their behavior patterns on that one'. And it's usually what I tell myself since I'm like really good at pattern recognition.
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psych2go
As a bi woman who's also an introvert, I have a hard time with this too sometimes, even though I've gotten pretty decent at reading body language over the years for safety reasons.
Not all of us have good gaydar.
A woman has to be more obvious with me, for me to know if she might be interested, instead of just friendly.
Men's body language tends to be easier for me to figure out, but not always.
Women tend to touch my arm a lot, if they seem interested in talking more intimately with me. (But some women are just more touchy feely in general, and that means nothing)
Men's entire bodies tend to lean in or open up more to women they seem interested in (but they may also cross their arms to signify safety)
But that's not always accurate either, since that's just the way some men stand.
I think its getting harder in general for us to read other people's body language these days, because no one wants to come across as overly intense, needy, or even threatening to anyone.
I think we are all holding back more, due to perception by others, especially online.
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As a bi woman who's also an introvert, I have a hard time with this too sometimes, even though I've gotten pretty decent at reading body language over the years for safety reasons.
Not all of us have good gaydar.
A woman has to be more obvious with me, for me to know if she might be interested, instead of just friendly.
Men's body language tends to be easier for me to figure out, but not always.
Women tend to touch my arm a lot, if they seem interested in talking more intimately with me. (But some women are just more touchy feely in general, and that means nothing)
Men's entire bodies tend to lean in or open up more to women they seem interested in (but they may also cross their arms to signify safety)
But that's not always accurate either, since that's just the way some men stand.
I think its getting harder in general for us to read other people's body language these days, because no one wants to come across as overly intense, needy, or even threatening to anyone.
I think we are all holding back more, due to perception by others, especially online.
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3llie-Kay
I thinks it’s so funny that yes girls will play with and flip there hair when they are trying to flirt but at the same time we just do it on our own. I also think it’s funny that yes with physical touch it is flirting but with our best friends (usually just girls) we will sit close etc. I personally feel likes it’s pretty hard to tell with girls as one. If they dislike you there going to be mean, if they like you there going to be mean, if they are just kind they are going to be nice to you, and if they do like like you they are going to be nice to you. I feel like it all depends on how they act around others that is probably one of the easiest ways to tell. And I’m just going to you boys right here right now, all girls have a different love language you just need to figure it out.
DISCLAIMER- I am not saying what was said in this video is any way wrong I’m just saying it’s hard to tell and that there are more than one way to tell. Have a great day
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I thinks it’s so funny that yes girls will play with and flip there hair when they are trying to flirt but at the same time we just do it on our own. I also think it’s funny that yes with physical touch it is flirting but with our best friends (usually just girls) we will sit close etc. I personally feel likes it’s pretty hard to tell with girls as one. If they dislike you there going to be mean, if they like you there going to be mean, if they are just kind they are going to be nice to you, and if they do like like you they are going to be nice to you. I feel like it all depends on how they act around others that is probably one of the easiest ways to tell. And I’m just going to you boys right here right now, all girls have a different love language you just need to figure it out.
DISCLAIMER- I am not saying what was said in this video is any way wrong I’m just saying it’s hard to tell and that there are more than one way to tell. Have a great day
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jarmoliebrand2005
Thanks for the explanation. Now I kind of know in theory. but probably won't know in practice.
I mean, genuinely. social cues could mean anything to my autistic brain. _Sublte_ hints are very hard to pick up on. I'm usually just kept guessing and then assume it's not flirtatious.
I'm kind of oblivious to the outside world and do need to train a bit in not being in fantasy land _all_ the time. Even when a fleeting flirty moment happened recently (two girls on a bike passed me by and were so clear in their intent that even I picked up on it, I was kind of pulled out of my head, having to transition from thing to thing. And that means I'm really slow to react in such an instance.
This video does give some guidelines as to what to look out for. Not just in the moment, but after the moment has passed as well. To kind of do some emotional analysis and take that into the future.
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Thanks for the explanation. Now I kind of know in theory. but probably won't know in practice.
I mean, genuinely. social cues could mean anything to my autistic brain. _Sublte_ hints are very hard to pick up on. I'm usually just kept guessing and then assume it's not flirtatious.
I'm kind of oblivious to the outside world and do need to train a bit in not being in fantasy land _all_ the time. Even when a fleeting flirty moment happened recently (two girls on a bike passed me by and were so clear in their intent that even I picked up on it, I was kind of pulled out of my head, having to transition from thing to thing. And that means I'm really slow to react in such an instance.
This video does give some guidelines as to what to look out for. Not just in the moment, but after the moment has passed as well. To kind of do some emotional analysis and take that into the future.
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Amphibilaterz
im just afraid im just making my friends uncomfortable, I don't want a relationship yet and don't want to be yknow romantic with people yet, and my friend is the same way but even more not wanting that, (im a guy shes a girl) but im afraid because of how much im friendly to her and the words I'm saying to her I'm scared im pushing her away but shes one of my only friends so shes gonna mean alot to me. I just overthink alot, like her normally replying with a heart to things and me saying something yesterday and her instead just giving me a thumbs up as if I made her uncomfortable, I just overthink alot.
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im just afraid im just making my friends uncomfortable, I don't want a relationship yet and don't want to be yknow romantic with people yet, and my friend is the same way but even more not wanting that, (im a guy shes a girl) but im afraid because of how much im friendly to her and the words I'm saying to her I'm scared im pushing her away but shes one of my only friends so shes gonna mean alot to me. I just overthink alot, like her normally replying with a heart to things and me saying something yesterday and her instead just giving me a thumbs up as if I made her uncomfortable, I just overthink alot.
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tigerx36
Not one to talk but I'm still working on it. But body language is something I noticed. Despite being among our friend circle I see the attempts. I've gone over the touch situations but just my shoulder brushing hers or her hands reaching for mine. Can't even remember what I said the first time I flirted but I have an idea what to say this time. Chances are I get to see her today so I'll have to see if it works. We just get nervous around each other a bit and have heard so many comments from our circle lol
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Not one to talk but I'm still working on it. But body language is something I noticed. Despite being among our friend circle I see the attempts. I've gone over the touch situations but just my shoulder brushing hers or her hands reaching for mine. Can't even remember what I said the first time I flirted but I have an idea what to say this time. Chances are I get to see her today so I'll have to see if it works. We just get nervous around each other a bit and have heard so many comments from our circle lol
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KyanoAng3l0
Spent much of my childhood up to my high school years thinking I was utterly unattractive. All the bullying and peer rejection gave me that impression. My social anxiety and low self-esteem only made it worse. But later I've realized that was never the case. I had schoolmates who were literally flirting, incl. the touching stuff, and it all just went over my head. Then again, even if I knew, I wouldn't know what to do with that kind of information, lol. How I was treated as a kid took its toll on me.
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Spent much of my childhood up to my high school years thinking I was utterly unattractive. All the bullying and peer rejection gave me that impression. My social anxiety and low self-esteem only made it worse. But later I've realized that was never the case. I had schoolmates who were literally flirting, incl. the touching stuff, and it all just went over my head. Then again, even if I knew, I wouldn't know what to do with that kind of information, lol. How I was treated as a kid took its toll on me.
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Myoitich
I was kinda argueing with a friend sayng she needs therapy, and then she said im the one who needs therapy bc i like gore, so i was like why not both of us And she said ye i coud hold your hand there and laughed like she was brobebly jokeng but still it felt so out of no where. And she has given me other signs she likes me back so that woud make me think she is flirting but i realy dont want to make an mistake asuming that
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I was kinda argueing with a friend sayng she needs therapy, and then she said im the one who needs therapy bc i like gore, so i was like why not both of us And she said ye i coud hold your hand there and laughed like she was brobebly jokeng but still it felt so out of no where. And she has given me other signs she likes me back so that woud make me think she is flirting but i realy dont want to make an mistake asuming that
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RandallDown
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationships and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she still insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her
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Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationships and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she still insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her
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psych2go
To the presentation thing, I can remember a fellow classmate who was staring at me the whole time during my presentation & in the reflection phase, he seriously said: I think she did a great presentation with her lips & mouth. The teacher, our class & me were speechless. So my nice advice to the youth: be careful with your words, especially when you want to impress your crush. x3
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To the presentation thing, I can remember a fellow classmate who was staring at me the whole time during my presentation & in the reflection phase, he seriously said: I think she did a great presentation with her lips & mouth. The teacher, our class & me were speechless. So my nice advice to the youth: be careful with your words, especially when you want to impress your crush. x3
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SeelenTaucher
Especially friendly Infj s or more open natured Enfp can be missunderstood. I give presents and compliments to all my fammembers and friends and sometimes strangers. Who else got that experience, that people thought u are flirty or into the person u gave attention/compliment/presentsAre u as well the one who not gets it if one is flirting with you
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Especially friendly Infj s or more open natured Enfp can be missunderstood. I give presents and compliments to all my fammembers and friends and sometimes strangers. Who else got that experience, that people thought u are flirty or into the person u gave attention/compliment/presentsAre u as well the one who not gets it if one is flirting with you
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elizabethl6187
When I am an old lady, nobody will care.
That means that I can flirt all I want, and nobody will take it the wrong way. We have anoles and geckos at our house. I flirt with them because then they don’t run away as soon. I flirt with squirrels for the same reason. I’m not sure humans fully understand flirting.
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When I am an old lady, nobody will care.
That means that I can flirt all I want, and nobody will take it the wrong way. We have anoles and geckos at our house. I flirt with them because then they don’t run away as soon. I flirt with squirrels for the same reason. I’m not sure humans fully understand flirting.
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Jacob_Gust
Tfw you thought that your crush is really into you, until you realize they’re like that with everyone. I’ve had many instances where I thought this person really liked me and I’m thinking I’ll have a chance with them, but they acted the same way around others using the same lines and same mannerisms.
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Tfw you thought that your crush is really into you, until you realize they’re like that with everyone. I’ve had many instances where I thought this person really liked me and I’m thinking I’ll have a chance with them, but they acted the same way around others using the same lines and same mannerisms.
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kris_dreemurr_DR
I thankfully know when someone is flirting with me, it's the body language, the eyes, the hands never lie. Because of this, people asks me if someone is flirting with them, so i sometimes become a third wheel.
And it sucks being a third wheel, i hope i get to meet my special someone again.
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I thankfully know when someone is flirting with me, it's the body language, the eyes, the hands never lie. Because of this, people asks me if someone is flirting with them, so i sometimes become a third wheel.
And it sucks being a third wheel, i hope i get to meet my special someone again.
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RobboEntertainment
Interesting how the friendly side references a level of comfort. recently got rejected in a sense, was close with a girl and flirty, then she told me that she's started seeing someone. The kicker- she told me she's flirty with me BECAUSE she's comfortable around me. Like!
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Interesting how the friendly side references a level of comfort. recently got rejected in a sense, was close with a girl and flirty, then she told me that she's started seeing someone. The kicker- she told me she's flirty with me BECAUSE she's comfortable around me. Like!
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TheWreckingball180
Due to my autism these signs are very difficult to notice. I'll most likely fail to realise the difference between flirting and being nice. Since I litteraly see no difference between them. Humans in general are just way too complicated. If only love was easier.
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Due to my autism these signs are very difficult to notice. I'll most likely fail to realise the difference between flirting and being nice. Since I litteraly see no difference between them. Humans in general are just way too complicated. If only love was easier.
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psych2go
I do have terrible difficulty differentiating between these two. My go to state in social situations is being friendly. Flirting to me seems forceful and manipulative and I deem others attempts at being flirty to me as being friendly. This is probably why I'm single
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I do have terrible difficulty differentiating between these two. My go to state in social situations is being friendly. Flirting to me seems forceful and manipulative and I deem others attempts at being flirty to me as being friendly. This is probably why I'm single
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RosesaurusRex
Honestly, this is really helpful, but now I feel like we need something to help with the middle bit because sometimes getting to know a new friend can be super stressful because they wanna get to know you but without the context i sometimes dk what they want
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Honestly, this is really helpful, but now I feel like we need something to help with the middle bit because sometimes getting to know a new friend can be super stressful because they wanna get to know you but without the context i sometimes dk what they want
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needtonone8055
i’m relieved now ppl always claim that me and my guy friend are onto something but we’re not so I stress out that maybe I’m really the problem but all I do is only friendly this proves me and him ty sm
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i’m relieved now ppl always claim that me and my guy friend are onto something but we’re not so I stress out that maybe I’m really the problem but all I do is only friendly this proves me and him ty sm
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