6 Signs You're Overly Attached To Someone
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Date: 2023-10-04
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neowolf09
Interesting. I thought maybe i was overly attached to my new BF. But im not showing many if any of these signs.
Granted, I've been single for a while. I used to be terrible about this kind of stuff. But I'd say I've grown quite a bit after taking some time to do a lot of introspective work and then working on my codependency and other issues. Don't have any of these signs that i can tell. Still a work in progress but i think that shows some healing at least.
I do still have worries sometimes and quality time is one of my main love languages, so it's a process trying to find a balance of still being myself but in a healthy manner.
Also I've been making a point to try to be as kindly and genuinely communicative as possible with my BF. I think it's helping.
I can tell in things like when we argue from completely different perspectives and get a little heated but then calm down and communicate with each other why we got heated in the first place, that it helps tons.
Genuine communication is very important imo, for any healthy relationship.
I try to communicate to my bf not to worry about hurting my feelings if he ever feels he needs like space or something because i know how i am, but without communication on his end its hard for me to tell when I'm getting on his nerves and need to calm down. And it can make my head go crazy with speculation. But i also think his lack of communication on such things comes from his care for me, and i do my best to respond positively to when he does communicate well with me.
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Interesting. I thought maybe i was overly attached to my new BF. But im not showing many if any of these signs.
Granted, I've been single for a while. I used to be terrible about this kind of stuff. But I'd say I've grown quite a bit after taking some time to do a lot of introspective work and then working on my codependency and other issues. Don't have any of these signs that i can tell. Still a work in progress but i think that shows some healing at least.
I do still have worries sometimes and quality time is one of my main love languages, so it's a process trying to find a balance of still being myself but in a healthy manner.
Also I've been making a point to try to be as kindly and genuinely communicative as possible with my BF. I think it's helping.
I can tell in things like when we argue from completely different perspectives and get a little heated but then calm down and communicate with each other why we got heated in the first place, that it helps tons.
Genuine communication is very important imo, for any healthy relationship.
I try to communicate to my bf not to worry about hurting my feelings if he ever feels he needs like space or something because i know how i am, but without communication on his end its hard for me to tell when I'm getting on his nerves and need to calm down. And it can make my head go crazy with speculation. But i also think his lack of communication on such things comes from his care for me, and i do my best to respond positively to when he does communicate well with me.
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Annie
I relate to this when I was in the relationship but only because I was trying to prevent him from cheating again, I know that this wasn t healthy to begin with, we grew up together pretty much since 5th/6th grade on an off till we got to high school. Dated 3 years and then spent almost 10 years apart and dated 5 years got married an separated 5 years later an now divorced. The reason I tell you this is no matter how hard either of us try to move on an ignore eachother we always come back to each other and not dating but just being friendly to each other. I feel stuck bc literally i don t have friends and family to lean on an distract me from having to talk to him. Finally my question why do we still try to lean on eachother what is this called if it has a name? Is there anything I can do? Please help
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I relate to this when I was in the relationship but only because I was trying to prevent him from cheating again, I know that this wasn t healthy to begin with, we grew up together pretty much since 5th/6th grade on an off till we got to high school. Dated 3 years and then spent almost 10 years apart and dated 5 years got married an separated 5 years later an now divorced. The reason I tell you this is no matter how hard either of us try to move on an ignore eachother we always come back to each other and not dating but just being friendly to each other. I feel stuck bc literally i don t have friends and family to lean on an distract me from having to talk to him. Finally my question why do we still try to lean on eachother what is this called if it has a name? Is there anything I can do? Please help
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John
I realized not long ago that I might be overly attracted to a friend I made through my ex. She's helped me deal with my ex and has been there listening and helping me through it. I love who this person is, she's down to earth, she's not overly exaggerated and doesn't pretend to be someone else, she's kind and she's fun to be around. It's only been 3 months but she's been one of my favorite people to be around, even compared to my old best friend. But I'm concerned that I put them on a pedestal without realizing it. Part of me can't tell how I feel about her, I can't tell if I love her as a friend or as a potential partner. But regardless, I think I would be happy either way. I honestly just want the best for her and for her to be happy.
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I realized not long ago that I might be overly attracted to a friend I made through my ex. She's helped me deal with my ex and has been there listening and helping me through it. I love who this person is, she's down to earth, she's not overly exaggerated and doesn't pretend to be someone else, she's kind and she's fun to be around. It's only been 3 months but she's been one of my favorite people to be around, even compared to my old best friend. But I'm concerned that I put them on a pedestal without realizing it. Part of me can't tell how I feel about her, I can't tell if I love her as a friend or as a potential partner. But regardless, I think I would be happy either way. I honestly just want the best for her and for her to be happy.
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education
My childhood best friend whom I distanced myself from when I started becoming social (she refused when we asked her several times to join us and she wanted everything her way) and when we started to reconnect in middle school right after my popularity era, she followed me around, didn't leave me alone, and that made people literally distance themselves from me because she would kinda be my shadow and criticize everyone and everything for shit. Had to rebuild my reputation entirely. It was hell. I honestly can't have respect or not lash out on overly attached people anymore because it's been the reality of my entire life (I'm like the shoulder to cry on for 10+ I know) and I'm sick of it.
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My childhood best friend whom I distanced myself from when I started becoming social (she refused when we asked her several times to join us and she wanted everything her way) and when we started to reconnect in middle school right after my popularity era, she followed me around, didn't leave me alone, and that made people literally distance themselves from me because she would kinda be my shadow and criticize everyone and everything for shit. Had to rebuild my reputation entirely. It was hell. I honestly can't have respect or not lash out on overly attached people anymore because it's been the reality of my entire life (I'm like the shoulder to cry on for 10+ I know) and I'm sick of it.
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crossxfuse
I'm friends with a girl that has like a million friends. I've known her for a long time before she got so popular with everyone and I've always thought of her as a close friend. However over the years she's periodically ignored me for long periods of time and it's really hurt me. She hasn't done that in years though but I always get the feeling she'd rather spend time with anyone else but me. I feel like it's a struggle all the time to get her to talk to me or want to spend time with me when she talks to so many other people already. I don't understand people like that who wants a million friends. It just sucks
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I'm friends with a girl that has like a million friends. I've known her for a long time before she got so popular with everyone and I've always thought of her as a close friend. However over the years she's periodically ignored me for long periods of time and it's really hurt me. She hasn't done that in years though but I always get the feeling she'd rather spend time with anyone else but me. I feel like it's a struggle all the time to get her to talk to me or want to spend time with me when she talks to so many other people already. I don't understand people like that who wants a million friends. It just sucks
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notamused
honestly, being overly attached is something thats not a big problem if it handled correctly. This feeling most of the time stem from the desire to be loved by other, so its humane to feel that. however, ifyou have this feeling, always remind yourself to never do anything that bring harm to the other person. always try to communicate with them the thing that make them uncomfortable. and then, try to love them step by step, thats way they dont feel uncomfortable with you. also, make sure to do something that bring them benefit, not just shower them with feeling, that will make them easier receiving your love.
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honestly, being overly attached is something thats not a big problem if it handled correctly. This feeling most of the time stem from the desire to be loved by other, so its humane to feel that. however, ifyou have this feeling, always remind yourself to never do anything that bring harm to the other person. always try to communicate with them the thing that make them uncomfortable. and then, try to love them step by step, thats way they dont feel uncomfortable with you. also, make sure to do something that bring them benefit, not just shower them with feeling, that will make them easier receiving your love.
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mier_inc
yes i feel that, all the time last week i broke the cycle by breaking up with him. after four years i now feel so free but so vulnerable. i m now overthinking too much by every step i take towards my friends and the people i like. i always think they re better off without me, but i m a (unhealthy) people pleaser who loves to have people around me. i m a big people person even though i m an introvert. it s a balance i have to find, but it s so difficult. i m an idealist who likes to put all of my effort in just one person. romanticising, idealising has always been a part of that and yes it s crushing you.
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yes i feel that, all the time last week i broke the cycle by breaking up with him. after four years i now feel so free but so vulnerable. i m now overthinking too much by every step i take towards my friends and the people i like. i always think they re better off without me, but i m a (unhealthy) people pleaser who loves to have people around me. i m a big people person even though i m an introvert. it s a balance i have to find, but it s so difficult. i m an idealist who likes to put all of my effort in just one person. romanticising, idealising has always been a part of that and yes it s crushing you.
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Dragonmoon8526
This is why it's so important to love yourself before dating. Or in the very least like yourself. By loving yourself, knowing yourself, understanding yourself, you are better able to express who you truely are. Then find someone your compatible with, and supplements you and your life. Further your potential can male their own similar assessment. Therefore creating a strong, honest, healthy relationship.
Instead of codependent, toxic, or abusive relationships, you can more likely see early red flags, but more important precceive green ones. And not lose yourself in love.
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This is why it's so important to love yourself before dating. Or in the very least like yourself. By loving yourself, knowing yourself, understanding yourself, you are better able to express who you truely are. Then find someone your compatible with, and supplements you and your life. Further your potential can male their own similar assessment. Therefore creating a strong, honest, healthy relationship.
Instead of codependent, toxic, or abusive relationships, you can more likely see early red flags, but more important precceive green ones. And not lose yourself in love.
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StuffBuddy
Thanks, I really needed this video. Ive been having issues with overattachment with a certain person, and it's been taking a toll on me. But i didnt know how bad I actually had it until now. I tick all the boxes of the points you've brought up.
The relationship is so unbalanced. I put so much time and effort in supporting her and trying to look after her needs, but she just doesn't do the same. It hurts so much knowing she doesnt care about me as much as I do about her. Thanks for the video. It's time I start getting over her.
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Thanks, I really needed this video. Ive been having issues with overattachment with a certain person, and it's been taking a toll on me. But i didnt know how bad I actually had it until now. I tick all the boxes of the points you've brought up.
The relationship is so unbalanced. I put so much time and effort in supporting her and trying to look after her needs, but she just doesn't do the same. It hurts so much knowing she doesnt care about me as much as I do about her. Thanks for the video. It's time I start getting over her.
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paboyahgoya
im wildly over attached to someone, and i m well aware of how bad it is, but it s weird because we don t even talk that much anymore but i still cannot stop thinking of her. i do have a crush on her but she s way more than just a crush, we ve been friends since 1st grade and now we re almost done with high school. so it feels like i m losing a part of myself. i don t know what to do. i cannot get over her but i also cant keep thinking about her this much, it s destroying me. ughhhhh being a human is so hard.
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im wildly over attached to someone, and i m well aware of how bad it is, but it s weird because we don t even talk that much anymore but i still cannot stop thinking of her. i do have a crush on her but she s way more than just a crush, we ve been friends since 1st grade and now we re almost done with high school. so it feels like i m losing a part of myself. i don t know what to do. i cannot get over her but i also cant keep thinking about her this much, it s destroying me. ughhhhh being a human is so hard.
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education
What Are the Signs of Healthy Emotional Attachment?
If you are experiencing healthy emotional attachment within your relationship, you should feel:
Close and connected to that person
Comfortable with being vulnerable, open, and trusting towards that person
That you can rely on that person to be responsive and available to your needs
Confident in your ability of self-expression within the relationship
Secure in the relationship
You don't need to be together 24/7
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What Are the Signs of Healthy Emotional Attachment?
If you are experiencing healthy emotional attachment within your relationship, you should feel:
Close and connected to that person
Comfortable with being vulnerable, open, and trusting towards that person
That you can rely on that person to be responsive and available to your needs
Confident in your ability of self-expression within the relationship
Secure in the relationship
You don't need to be together 24/7
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Z77
I know I have these issues, so despite my down bad literally delusional crushes, I won t get into a relationship because I don t wanna ruin the other person. And it s hard cuz I really do have a bad habit of basing my self worth off of what men tell me, and I get super sad when I see a cute guy cuz I know it s really not gonna work out. So later down the road, I m just gonna get therapy, unpack all my shit, and learn how to let love come to me instead of me going out my way for it and stuff.
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I know I have these issues, so despite my down bad literally delusional crushes, I won t get into a relationship because I don t wanna ruin the other person. And it s hard cuz I really do have a bad habit of basing my self worth off of what men tell me, and I get super sad when I see a cute guy cuz I know it s really not gonna work out. So later down the road, I m just gonna get therapy, unpack all my shit, and learn how to let love come to me instead of me going out my way for it and stuff.
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TeddiBearx
my boyfriend broke up with me after a 2 year relationship only to take a break for a bit. i grew up with him and it s almost been 11 years that we ve known eachother. he made promises saying he d always love me but last night he told me he wouldn t always love me and he didn t care about the future we planned together. i dont know what to do i feel so empty without him. all i can do is cry knowing he doesn t love me but i love him.
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my boyfriend broke up with me after a 2 year relationship only to take a break for a bit. i grew up with him and it s almost been 11 years that we ve known eachother. he made promises saying he d always love me but last night he told me he wouldn t always love me and he didn t care about the future we planned together. i dont know what to do i feel so empty without him. all i can do is cry knowing he doesn t love me but i love him.
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Patrick
I am overly attached to my girlfriend. Make no mistake, I love her with all my heart. But, yeah, when it gets too far, I can become overly attached. A breakup isn't a solution to this, right? About over idealization, avoiding being alone, constant validation, weak sense of self, and inability to function. okay, I can fix it by myself. It's my own healing journey.
But how do we balance the unbalanced dynamic?
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I am overly attached to my girlfriend. Make no mistake, I love her with all my heart. But, yeah, when it gets too far, I can become overly attached. A breakup isn't a solution to this, right? About over idealization, avoiding being alone, constant validation, weak sense of self, and inability to function. okay, I can fix it by myself. It's my own healing journey.
But how do we balance the unbalanced dynamic?
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MeIanie
I watch these videos frequently. I cannot relate to this one, but I did send it to my older sister. We are very close, and I realized this sounded like her. I wanted to make sure her relationships would be alright, but instead she took it as an insult. She got mad, yelling at me. I'm not sure what to do. Did I do something wrong? Should I apologize? Or did I do something right? Please give suggestions.
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I watch these videos frequently. I cannot relate to this one, but I did send it to my older sister. We are very close, and I realized this sounded like her. I wanted to make sure her relationships would be alright, but instead she took it as an insult. She got mad, yelling at me. I'm not sure what to do. Did I do something wrong? Should I apologize? Or did I do something right? Please give suggestions.
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Nickolas
I was once like this, I always had to attach myself to other people because I feared faci g myself. I eventually learned that I was never going to escape myself so I did face myself with the help of learning psychology for myself to become my own therapist. Because of dealing with myself I have become a much better version of myself and could start moving forward instead of holding myself back.
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I was once like this, I always had to attach myself to other people because I feared faci g myself. I eventually learned that I was never going to escape myself so I did face myself with the help of learning psychology for myself to become my own therapist. Because of dealing with myself I have become a much better version of myself and could start moving forward instead of holding myself back.
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AnimeKitten07
I know I get attached to people too easily and too much. I've also been able to see it more since the one I was closest to got a boyfriend. After that, I lost what to do with myself for, like, 2 days. And me being so attached to people also makes me clingy because I really don't want to be alone, so I tend to be with those I know as much as possible
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I know I get attached to people too easily and too much. I've also been able to see it more since the one I was closest to got a boyfriend. After that, I lost what to do with myself for, like, 2 days. And me being so attached to people also makes me clingy because I really don't want to be alone, so I tend to be with those I know as much as possible
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Whatever
As someone with anxious attachment I m always worried if I m being to clingy with my partner and I m well aware how that can be too much and even overwhelming your videos help remind me that most of the time I m doing good about not being too much but instead should remember to try being more affectionate and open with them. Thank you!
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As someone with anxious attachment I m always worried if I m being to clingy with my partner and I m well aware how that can be too much and even overwhelming your videos help remind me that most of the time I m doing good about not being too much but instead should remember to try being more affectionate and open with them. Thank you!
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Ocean
That can happen between people who are friends too. I had someone who was overly attached to me. It was a complete drain, and I always felt like I'd be the mean one if I pulled away. This person was constantly worried about losing me, and through half the time we knew each other, I did want out.
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That can happen between people who are friends too. I had someone who was overly attached to me. It was a complete drain, and I always felt like I'd be the mean one if I pulled away. This person was constantly worried about losing me, and through half the time we knew each other, I did want out.
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Game
I'm well aware I'm overly attatched to someone. I was hoping that there could be a video soon on how to deal with such feelings because this is something I'm desperately struggling with as I'm someone who struggles with being by myself, etc. and kind of rely on others a bit more than I should.
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I'm well aware I'm overly attatched to someone. I was hoping that there could be a video soon on how to deal with such feelings because this is something I'm desperately struggling with as I'm someone who struggles with being by myself, etc. and kind of rely on others a bit more than I should.
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