How to Get Over Someone
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Date: 2024-10-21
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dontlookatme-sr
Idk if anyone has so in my friend's situation. If everyone is struggling with getting over someone, my friend is one of the case that can't get over her inner demon. She sees no reason to live but has no urge to die. her loved ones she tried to ask for help either be silent or state she should be strong or she is being irresponsible/ unsympathetic. How about pain for others or death is painful, that's what they say. To her, live and dead is the same, either way someone will suffer, either way they will never accept her true feelings. She is so drowned emotionally and detached by now that she just want to commit suicide so she can be free and at least reduce her burden put on her loved ones. She told me she is totally covered in deep void of the abyss, doesn't even know where I am, just simply know that it is some kind of space. My case is completely helpless now. You know, I was considered an attention seeker who just tell some sob-story and spoil everyone's joy. They fear me, they feel like they drown whenever they with me. I don't want to be a burden, I just want to be good for both sides. Please, I just want to asleep forever
I have tried year after year for us to work out a solution for her but there seems no way out, can anyone help me please. I fear she will commit suicide by anytime now and this is my last attempt to save her
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Idk if anyone has so in my friend's situation. If everyone is struggling with getting over someone, my friend is one of the case that can't get over her inner demon. She sees no reason to live but has no urge to die. her loved ones she tried to ask for help either be silent or state she should be strong or she is being irresponsible/ unsympathetic. How about pain for others or death is painful, that's what they say. To her, live and dead is the same, either way someone will suffer, either way they will never accept her true feelings. She is so drowned emotionally and detached by now that she just want to commit suicide so she can be free and at least reduce her burden put on her loved ones. She told me she is totally covered in deep void of the abyss, doesn't even know where I am, just simply know that it is some kind of space. My case is completely helpless now. You know, I was considered an attention seeker who just tell some sob-story and spoil everyone's joy. They fear me, they feel like they drown whenever they with me. I don't want to be a burden, I just want to be good for both sides. Please, I just want to asleep forever
I have tried year after year for us to work out a solution for her but there seems no way out, can anyone help me please. I fear she will commit suicide by anytime now and this is my last attempt to save her
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portalwake9762
How do I remind myself the bad tbings about her when there literally wasnt anything, or at least I never saw anything bad about her I The only thing putting me off her at points or putting me off asking her to be partners with me was my anxiety, nothing more. I am slowly moving on and I'm not as upset about it as I used to be but I asked her 10 months ago and for whatever reason I'm still not completely over her. Not only that but I ended up crushing on her after only 3 months of knowing her and not seeing her outside classes, I swear something's wrong with me. It doesn't help that my anxiety makes it hard for me to even try and make close friends. That's why I'm trying to break the ice between her and I, at first we felt awkward but now I know that she only felt awkward and didn't talk to me as much not because she didn't wanna be friends but because she felt bad for me and was worried she'd upset me. Now we find it a lot easier to talk to each other and I feel less awkward and more happy around her as a result but is that really helping The person who broke you can't heal you Do I need to avoid even talking to her and try and make close friends in order to truly get over her
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How do I remind myself the bad tbings about her when there literally wasnt anything, or at least I never saw anything bad about her I The only thing putting me off her at points or putting me off asking her to be partners with me was my anxiety, nothing more. I am slowly moving on and I'm not as upset about it as I used to be but I asked her 10 months ago and for whatever reason I'm still not completely over her. Not only that but I ended up crushing on her after only 3 months of knowing her and not seeing her outside classes, I swear something's wrong with me. It doesn't help that my anxiety makes it hard for me to even try and make close friends. That's why I'm trying to break the ice between her and I, at first we felt awkward but now I know that she only felt awkward and didn't talk to me as much not because she didn't wanna be friends but because she felt bad for me and was worried she'd upset me. Now we find it a lot easier to talk to each other and I feel less awkward and more happy around her as a result but is that really helping The person who broke you can't heal you Do I need to avoid even talking to her and try and make close friends in order to truly get over her
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joshclark44
I thought i found love in a girl who, for the first time in my life, acted like she liked me and hung out with me and let me flirt, etc. She never did like me and she told me that. It was never an actual relationship, but i kept treating it like one because i kept telling myself they were just too afraid to say it. I've never had a love like that before or since, and im 30 years old, almost 31. The closest thing I've ever had to a relationship was a lie i told myself because i wanted it so badly. That, and the fact i had no closure, were the hardest parts of it. I never got to date in my teens or my 20s. I highly doubt i would suddenly find someone now when I couldn't before with so many more opportunities. I'm tired of telling myself it might happen only to be crushed by another I just see you as a friend. Love, for me, costs more than it ever seems to promise. More people need to encourage others to give up than to burn themselves out. She won't change her mind. They never do. They never liked you in the first place, and they never will. The sooner people accept that and stop trying the better imo.
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I thought i found love in a girl who, for the first time in my life, acted like she liked me and hung out with me and let me flirt, etc. She never did like me and she told me that. It was never an actual relationship, but i kept treating it like one because i kept telling myself they were just too afraid to say it. I've never had a love like that before or since, and im 30 years old, almost 31. The closest thing I've ever had to a relationship was a lie i told myself because i wanted it so badly. That, and the fact i had no closure, were the hardest parts of it. I never got to date in my teens or my 20s. I highly doubt i would suddenly find someone now when I couldn't before with so many more opportunities. I'm tired of telling myself it might happen only to be crushed by another I just see you as a friend. Love, for me, costs more than it ever seems to promise. More people need to encourage others to give up than to burn themselves out. She won't change her mind. They never do. They never liked you in the first place, and they never will. The sooner people accept that and stop trying the better imo.
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Play-All-The-Games
I have been on this road for 20 months now. It's getting better, bit by bit. But words, no matter how well delivered, will never do justice to the pain you will feel on this journey. Reach out. To old friends, to new friends, go make friends! Comment here if you need to. The internet is a surprisingly good place to find others who have gone what you are going through. I write this to the person who following in my foot steps. I would hug you if I could, this too will pass. I'm sorry for the pain you are in. And your pain is valid and real. Never let anyone take it from you. You can't forget it, but it can make you stronger. It just takes time, and I know how frustrating it is to here those words. I'm still sick of waiting for it all to be better. But there is another end to this dark tunnel. I'll be waiting for you on the other side.
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I have been on this road for 20 months now. It's getting better, bit by bit. But words, no matter how well delivered, will never do justice to the pain you will feel on this journey. Reach out. To old friends, to new friends, go make friends! Comment here if you need to. The internet is a surprisingly good place to find others who have gone what you are going through. I write this to the person who following in my foot steps. I would hug you if I could, this too will pass. I'm sorry for the pain you are in. And your pain is valid and real. Never let anyone take it from you. You can't forget it, but it can make you stronger. It just takes time, and I know how frustrating it is to here those words. I'm still sick of waiting for it all to be better. But there is another end to this dark tunnel. I'll be waiting for you on the other side.
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Abby529
3: 56 for the longest time ppl always told me getting over someone takes time and the heartache will go away it never made me feel validated bc i’ve been grieving the breakup of a guy when i was never really in a relationship but very emotionally and physically entangled, i’ve been grieving him since april of 2023 he’s the only person i think abt, now don’t get me wrong i have talked to other ppl and i’ve lived my life, but every night i lay my head on that pillow it’s always him, the feelings aren’t as strong as when the heartache began but it’s pretty damn close to feeling like it it’s been over a year and those feeling have not gone away, they are still very much there. what do i do if i CANNOT get over someone and still grieve him and how
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3: 56 for the longest time ppl always told me getting over someone takes time and the heartache will go away it never made me feel validated bc i’ve been grieving the breakup of a guy when i was never really in a relationship but very emotionally and physically entangled, i’ve been grieving him since april of 2023 he’s the only person i think abt, now don’t get me wrong i have talked to other ppl and i’ve lived my life, but every night i lay my head on that pillow it’s always him, the feelings aren’t as strong as when the heartache began but it’s pretty damn close to feeling like it it’s been over a year and those feeling have not gone away, they are still very much there. what do i do if i CANNOT get over someone and still grieve him and how
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OO0RI
Insane timing. Still getting over a relationship. Ultimately I think we were meant to be friends, as we had met. He liked the idea of love but not the consequence, so once we went long distance for school I basically became invisible and it hurt. There were ups and downs and I’m not innocent either, but he because emotionally toxic and I needed to split for my own sake, it drove me to my worst.
The hardest part of getting over it is that I look back at the fond moments. I know it won’t happen again, but I’m not no-contact either, and the little things bother me here and there. I just hope one day someone can love me better and love me as much as I love them, and make me feel worth it. I’ve been very alone as of late.
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Insane timing. Still getting over a relationship. Ultimately I think we were meant to be friends, as we had met. He liked the idea of love but not the consequence, so once we went long distance for school I basically became invisible and it hurt. There were ups and downs and I’m not innocent either, but he because emotionally toxic and I needed to split for my own sake, it drove me to my worst.
The hardest part of getting over it is that I look back at the fond moments. I know it won’t happen again, but I’m not no-contact either, and the little things bother me here and there. I just hope one day someone can love me better and love me as much as I love them, and make me feel worth it. I’ve been very alone as of late.
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jamesmoffett135
I have a friend the thing is this is relevant but not relevant it felt like she was the one that hurt me by how she was honest and open about how my first impression was over a month after it came out when I felt to clingy and apologized she admitted I was I got more open and she did to in how some of her views but now I realized if there wasn't at least a friendship there which is all I know now we wouldn't of gotten this close and open and it was more my past mental scars that was in my way I kind of been depressed but i also more aware it my past events from years before we met and I just think this helps understand me and how I view and she views me better and it is just gonna be better to take it slow
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I have a friend the thing is this is relevant but not relevant it felt like she was the one that hurt me by how she was honest and open about how my first impression was over a month after it came out when I felt to clingy and apologized she admitted I was I got more open and she did to in how some of her views but now I realized if there wasn't at least a friendship there which is all I know now we wouldn't of gotten this close and open and it was more my past mental scars that was in my way I kind of been depressed but i also more aware it my past events from years before we met and I just think this helps understand me and how I view and she views me better and it is just gonna be better to take it slow
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darlingyouidiot
great video guys (my stubborn ass will never move on, and it's okay. i still see them in my dreams. they might tell me they don't love me anymore in those dreams, and maybe it's true, maybe i'm even receiving signals from other universes. but i still wait for them to show up whenever i close my eyes, secretly holding on to the delusional hope that it's just some terrible mishap and it'll either work out by some miracle or i'll wake up next to them in the future and realize it has all been some weird nightmare. i don't pursue other people either, as i just know that no one else will quite fill the gap. it's unhealthy, but it's okay. i chose this path)
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great video guys (my stubborn ass will never move on, and it's okay. i still see them in my dreams. they might tell me they don't love me anymore in those dreams, and maybe it's true, maybe i'm even receiving signals from other universes. but i still wait for them to show up whenever i close my eyes, secretly holding on to the delusional hope that it's just some terrible mishap and it'll either work out by some miracle or i'll wake up next to them in the future and realize it has all been some weird nightmare. i don't pursue other people either, as i just know that no one else will quite fill the gap. it's unhealthy, but it's okay. i chose this path)
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xatiesloco7461
My ex emotionally abused me, used and manipulated me. yet i brushed it off as a phase, he promised me so many things, a future, moving in together. accepted my proposal. later he admitted that he stayed out of companionship, not love. for 2 years (relationship was 3 years. the discard was 7 months ago, said i know i have treated you like shit but YOU cant give me what i need and replaced me instantly with someone else. i still cant really move on, my life is a mess, i dream about him and wake up crying, cant really enjoy anything anymore. everything feels just. empty. got diagnosed with cptsd from this relationship.
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My ex emotionally abused me, used and manipulated me. yet i brushed it off as a phase, he promised me so many things, a future, moving in together. accepted my proposal. later he admitted that he stayed out of companionship, not love. for 2 years (relationship was 3 years. the discard was 7 months ago, said i know i have treated you like shit but YOU cant give me what i need and replaced me instantly with someone else. i still cant really move on, my life is a mess, i dream about him and wake up crying, cant really enjoy anything anymore. everything feels just. empty. got diagnosed with cptsd from this relationship.
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JetSetVogue
It’s been almost a year now since my so called perfect boyfriend broke up with me. We were dating since 8 years. He broke up without giving me any proper reason or explanation. I thought it was temporary and he will come back. But he didn’t. I m in his block list now.
This is what I did on my part to heal/get over the pain and suffering.
1) started therapy & took it very seriously
2) traveled around (2 solo trips)
3) made new friends & reconnected with old ones
4) fell in love with myself again.
I don’t think about him a-lot nowadays anymore. I have closed that chapter now.
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It’s been almost a year now since my so called perfect boyfriend broke up with me. We were dating since 8 years. He broke up without giving me any proper reason or explanation. I thought it was temporary and he will come back. But he didn’t. I m in his block list now.
This is what I did on my part to heal/get over the pain and suffering.
1) started therapy & took it very seriously
2) traveled around (2 solo trips)
3) made new friends & reconnected with old ones
4) fell in love with myself again.
I don’t think about him a-lot nowadays anymore. I have closed that chapter now.
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vergonzoso5
The first point about break ups being compared to as withdrawals, that is absolute true! I spent what a whole year brooding over a breakup, what went wrong, my faults, regretting and wondering what could have been. I'd get real emotional reminiscing the memories. But all of this stopped as soon as it crossed the one year mark, it all stopped hurting. It's quite magical how but somehow i managed to get my mind off of him wholly. So to all reading, moving on is a gradual process, the wounds that are kept exposed to the salt will stop hurting somehow. Nothing lasts forever. Keep the faith YOU CAN DO IT!
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The first point about break ups being compared to as withdrawals, that is absolute true! I spent what a whole year brooding over a breakup, what went wrong, my faults, regretting and wondering what could have been. I'd get real emotional reminiscing the memories. But all of this stopped as soon as it crossed the one year mark, it all stopped hurting. It's quite magical how but somehow i managed to get my mind off of him wholly. So to all reading, moving on is a gradual process, the wounds that are kept exposed to the salt will stop hurting somehow. Nothing lasts forever. Keep the faith YOU CAN DO IT!
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andrewgunawan4502
It’s been 4 years for me, grieving a relationship that never started, but in some ways existed.
The first half of the video was ok, but when it came to finding negative aspects of her or the relationship, it just doesn’t work. My life is in no way better without her. And she wasn’t toxic. She was the kindest, most loving person I know. She made me feel genuinely loved.
She was like the embodiment of reassurance that I could actually be loved for who I am. I didn’t need to pretend around her. And she felt safe with me too. She just didn’t love me the same way.
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It’s been 4 years for me, grieving a relationship that never started, but in some ways existed.
The first half of the video was ok, but when it came to finding negative aspects of her or the relationship, it just doesn’t work. My life is in no way better without her. And she wasn’t toxic. She was the kindest, most loving person I know. She made me feel genuinely loved.
She was like the embodiment of reassurance that I could actually be loved for who I am. I didn’t need to pretend around her. And she felt safe with me too. She just didn’t love me the same way.
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2k_wrld738
for me it was just a talking stage and we met only few time (2 hangouts) and 3 other times for college, and she said shes not ready for a relationship and a day after she posted a story with a guy and even made a highlight for him, well in our talking stage we matched pfps and keychains posted me on close friends story, and my friends told me that its another guy why she said that and after that i saw her once before knowing abt the guy and i got nervous and i saw her again with the guy and my heart was hitting the redline fr and i unfollowed her on everything
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for me it was just a talking stage and we met only few time (2 hangouts) and 3 other times for college, and she said shes not ready for a relationship and a day after she posted a story with a guy and even made a highlight for him, well in our talking stage we matched pfps and keychains posted me on close friends story, and my friends told me that its another guy why she said that and after that i saw her once before knowing abt the guy and i got nervous and i saw her again with the guy and my heart was hitting the redline fr and i unfollowed her on everything
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AngelPlayz_II
There are different types of heartbreak.
Yesterday, I came back home to text my best friend online as usual, only to find out she had blocked me without reason. She never said anything, we didn't even argue earlier, we were playing and goofing around as usual.
It just feels as if this happens too often to me. I mean, I like to think I'm a loyal and supportive friend, but, if the people I meet always end up leaving me with little to no explanation (ghosting, now I'm left wondering. Am I doing something wrong Or am I just meeting the wrong people
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There are different types of heartbreak.
Yesterday, I came back home to text my best friend online as usual, only to find out she had blocked me without reason. She never said anything, we didn't even argue earlier, we were playing and goofing around as usual.
It just feels as if this happens too often to me. I mean, I like to think I'm a loyal and supportive friend, but, if the people I meet always end up leaving me with little to no explanation (ghosting, now I'm left wondering. Am I doing something wrong Or am I just meeting the wrong people
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Akane_with_anime
I have a doubt, Sir I am in 12th this year, I have exams next year. I am telling you the truth that I don't think I will be able to pass this exam because I have tried a lot of new things this year like language learning, I have learnt 3 languages very well this year English, Japanese, Spanish. And I am very good at coding. I am telling the truth if I read 12th books then I feel like I am wasting my time. That's why I am not able to study. What should I do, my parents are not even understanding what I want. I have become completely demotivated.
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I have a doubt, Sir I am in 12th this year, I have exams next year. I am telling you the truth that I don't think I will be able to pass this exam because I have tried a lot of new things this year like language learning, I have learnt 3 languages very well this year English, Japanese, Spanish. And I am very good at coding. I am telling the truth if I read 12th books then I feel like I am wasting my time. That's why I am not able to study. What should I do, my parents are not even understanding what I want. I have become completely demotivated.
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idk_nanmolla_14
The timing is crazy because yesterday my ex told me he immediately moved on after the break up. After two months of the break up he visited my friend who he had a crush on in the past and they just meet after 5 years of friendship. Knowing these informations hit me and I felt I was being used by both of them
BUT I dodged a bullet and I ended the friendship because my friend didn’t respect my feelings and I am slowly healing
You all can do this! Just focus on yourself and it will be better - I promise you
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The timing is crazy because yesterday my ex told me he immediately moved on after the break up. After two months of the break up he visited my friend who he had a crush on in the past and they just meet after 5 years of friendship. Knowing these informations hit me and I felt I was being used by both of them
BUT I dodged a bullet and I ended the friendship because my friend didn’t respect my feelings and I am slowly healing
You all can do this! Just focus on yourself and it will be better - I promise you
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_thebigsteve
3 years and counting I haven't fully gotten over it and at this point I'm not sure I ever will completely. I have come to an understanding of a lot of the wrongs but ultimately I'm just so disappointed in her. For a while I was disappointed in aspects of what I had done too, but by the end I was open and held myself accountable while I'm not sure she ever will. I hope there is someone out there for me but I have no idea where to even begin to look and in the mean time I persevere as thats all I know to do.
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3 years and counting I haven't fully gotten over it and at this point I'm not sure I ever will completely. I have come to an understanding of a lot of the wrongs but ultimately I'm just so disappointed in her. For a while I was disappointed in aspects of what I had done too, but by the end I was open and held myself accountable while I'm not sure she ever will. I hope there is someone out there for me but I have no idea where to even begin to look and in the mean time I persevere as thats all I know to do.
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flashpoint5292
It's been 3 years since we broke up and it's always felt more like they died instead. I wasn't great, I was actually pretty awful. Reflecting on it hurts and it's impossible to forget. This video showed me that I can't go back, I can't fix it. I can try to move on but I don't think I can. Pain like this has always stood with me even after a similar event 15 years ago. I doubt I'll ever be ready to be with someone else for fear of history repeating. It's something I've not been able to escape
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It's been 3 years since we broke up and it's always felt more like they died instead. I wasn't great, I was actually pretty awful. Reflecting on it hurts and it's impossible to forget. This video showed me that I can't go back, I can't fix it. I can try to move on but I don't think I can. Pain like this has always stood with me even after a similar event 15 years ago. I doubt I'll ever be ready to be with someone else for fear of history repeating. It's something I've not been able to escape
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lindaalvarez8855
My husband passed away on April 22nd, '24 & I can't get passed his being gone permanently. I'm having a very difficult time moving on with my life. He was my everything in my life. This video did not add when people you Love are no longer in your life due to death how to stop Obsessing about that person. I Loved him more than anything. No one is 100% PERFECT. Now, I have no one & I cry all the time. I have a difficult time being happy without him in my life.
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My husband passed away on April 22nd, '24 & I can't get passed his being gone permanently. I'm having a very difficult time moving on with my life. He was my everything in my life. This video did not add when people you Love are no longer in your life due to death how to stop Obsessing about that person. I Loved him more than anything. No one is 100% PERFECT. Now, I have no one & I cry all the time. I have a difficult time being happy without him in my life.
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Posi2Mind
Really helpful advice on getting over someone! Key takeaways for me:
1. (01: 11)- Love as Addiction: Breakups can feel like withdrawal.
2. (01: 47)- Breaking the Lies: Remind yourself why you’re better off without them.
3. (02: 22)- The Truth: Someone better will come along.
4. (03: 25)- Grieve and Feel: It’s okay to feel everything; the pain is temporary.
5. (04: 41)- Focus on You: Rediscover what makes you happy.
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Really helpful advice on getting over someone! Key takeaways for me:
1. (01: 11)- Love as Addiction: Breakups can feel like withdrawal.
2. (01: 47)- Breaking the Lies: Remind yourself why you’re better off without them.
3. (02: 22)- The Truth: Someone better will come along.
4. (03: 25)- Grieve and Feel: It’s okay to feel everything; the pain is temporary.
5. (04: 41)- Focus on You: Rediscover what makes you happy.
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