Can Obsessively Loving Someone Ruin You
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Date: 2024-10-20
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David-vn2id
With all my research and experience, I have found it all boils down to programs. In our upbringing at an early age, we develop a set of programs around love and what we learn love is. If we are brought up in an unhealthy/dysfunctional way and we download unhealthy programs based on those experiences, we are going to have a flawed concept of what love is and what it truly means. I have discovered the only way we heal from our trauma and bad experiences/programs is to reparent ourselves. This is the most difficult thing to do but not impossible. To reprogram our psyche's dysfunctional programing, we need to get our psyche on board with a new conscious understanding of the corrections (reprogramming) needed to make the shift. Our psyche will fight tooth and nail the whole way not to want to be swayed by any new or different programs that don't align with all it knows and believes. This is where patients and gentle treatment of our psyche/wounded child within is necessary. Just know your parents did the best they could considering their own difunctional obstacles, and there is no better time than the present to realize you can embark on a new journey of healing and rediscovery. Understand that your psyche is wounded and delicate, but with patients and understanding you can become the new parent with better nurturing parenting skills to reparent your wounded child (psyche) within. I mention reparent repetitively for a reason. Our interior dialog that unfolds in real time especially during emotional experiences are based on our understanding of our strong programs from childhood. If they do not serve us, we need to change that dialog. That voice we hear are basically our parents teachings that we continue to parent ourselves with when our parents are not around. If we decide to focus on those programs, hold on to the ones that serve us and discard the ones that don't, we can slowly reparent ourselves in a way that makes sense to our wounded child within. Traumas are released and new understanding and programs are learned. Levels of conscious awareness increases and joy, piece of mind and happiness fallows. I am 57 years old and still adamantly working on my journey. I have come a long way but still have a long road ahead. It's never too late to improve and experience new levels of contentment towards piece, joy, happiness, fulfillment and all those other emotional state of being we are all truly yearning for.
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With all my research and experience, I have found it all boils down to programs. In our upbringing at an early age, we develop a set of programs around love and what we learn love is. If we are brought up in an unhealthy/dysfunctional way and we download unhealthy programs based on those experiences, we are going to have a flawed concept of what love is and what it truly means. I have discovered the only way we heal from our trauma and bad experiences/programs is to reparent ourselves. This is the most difficult thing to do but not impossible. To reprogram our psyche's dysfunctional programing, we need to get our psyche on board with a new conscious understanding of the corrections (reprogramming) needed to make the shift. Our psyche will fight tooth and nail the whole way not to want to be swayed by any new or different programs that don't align with all it knows and believes. This is where patients and gentle treatment of our psyche/wounded child within is necessary. Just know your parents did the best they could considering their own difunctional obstacles, and there is no better time than the present to realize you can embark on a new journey of healing and rediscovery. Understand that your psyche is wounded and delicate, but with patients and understanding you can become the new parent with better nurturing parenting skills to reparent your wounded child (psyche) within. I mention reparent repetitively for a reason. Our interior dialog that unfolds in real time especially during emotional experiences are based on our understanding of our strong programs from childhood. If they do not serve us, we need to change that dialog. That voice we hear are basically our parents teachings that we continue to parent ourselves with when our parents are not around. If we decide to focus on those programs, hold on to the ones that serve us and discard the ones that don't, we can slowly reparent ourselves in a way that makes sense to our wounded child within. Traumas are released and new understanding and programs are learned. Levels of conscious awareness increases and joy, piece of mind and happiness fallows. I am 57 years old and still adamantly working on my journey. I have come a long way but still have a long road ahead. It's never too late to improve and experience new levels of contentment towards piece, joy, happiness, fulfillment and all those other emotional state of being we are all truly yearning for.
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Josh_1312
I used to suffer a lot from obsessive love. In fact some symptoms are still there, but the personal growth I'm still undergoing really helps with the matter.
Some of my crush's actions can still provoke anxiety. For example one day she's cheerful and smiling at me and the next day she's more cold and distant. However, considering the previous signs of interest she's shown, she might just be jealous. What doesn't help is that We're seemingly both emotionally unavailable and socially anxious, therefore both trying to play it safe. I know for a fact I suck at eye contact and smiling. But I'm tired of making presumptions about her, tired of being afraid, so I'm slowly but surely making moves towards her.
What helps me a lot is switching my focus to other things. I try not to ignore my deadlines at the university, sometimes I read a book. I do still daydream about her quite often, but always interupt myself and remember that I have to keep grinding to never come back to my former life style.
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I used to suffer a lot from obsessive love. In fact some symptoms are still there, but the personal growth I'm still undergoing really helps with the matter.
Some of my crush's actions can still provoke anxiety. For example one day she's cheerful and smiling at me and the next day she's more cold and distant. However, considering the previous signs of interest she's shown, she might just be jealous. What doesn't help is that We're seemingly both emotionally unavailable and socially anxious, therefore both trying to play it safe. I know for a fact I suck at eye contact and smiling. But I'm tired of making presumptions about her, tired of being afraid, so I'm slowly but surely making moves towards her.
What helps me a lot is switching my focus to other things. I try not to ignore my deadlines at the university, sometimes I read a book. I do still daydream about her quite often, but always interupt myself and remember that I have to keep grinding to never come back to my former life style.
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Psych2go
At some point, many of us have felt an overwhelming attachment to someone, leading to behaviors that aren’t healthywhether it's constantly seeking their attention or going to extremes to stay connected. This kind of obsession can take a toll on our mental health, sometimes leading to things like substance abuse or distorted thinking.
We hope this video sheds light on these experiences and creates a space where we can openly share our stories, support one another, and encourage healing. If this message resonates with you, please consider sharing the video to help spread awareness. This could possibly save a life.
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At some point, many of us have felt an overwhelming attachment to someone, leading to behaviors that aren’t healthywhether it's constantly seeking their attention or going to extremes to stay connected. This kind of obsession can take a toll on our mental health, sometimes leading to things like substance abuse or distorted thinking.
We hope this video sheds light on these experiences and creates a space where we can openly share our stories, support one another, and encourage healing. If this message resonates with you, please consider sharing the video to help spread awareness. This could possibly save a life.
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icttam-smg
this video was super helpful bc i was tryna find out if my bf was rlly obsessed w me or js rlly cares. turns out its option 1 shouldve expected it tho. i know hes rly insecure abt stuff and especially abt me leaving him since weve broken up like 3 or 4 times already (the 3-4 times being his fault if ill be honest) so maybe hes js rly worried abt that he also kinda blows up my phone if i dont answer for a little and tends to get extremely jealous of who i talk to or who talks to me or who i hang out w. this really helped and im so glad i finally know what kinda guy he is, thank you psych2go!
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this video was super helpful bc i was tryna find out if my bf was rlly obsessed w me or js rlly cares. turns out its option 1 shouldve expected it tho. i know hes rly insecure abt stuff and especially abt me leaving him since weve broken up like 3 or 4 times already (the 3-4 times being his fault if ill be honest) so maybe hes js rly worried abt that he also kinda blows up my phone if i dont answer for a little and tends to get extremely jealous of who i talk to or who talks to me or who i hang out w. this really helped and im so glad i finally know what kinda guy he is, thank you psych2go!
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psych2go
I'm honestly struggling over an ex who doesn't love me anymore and moved on with another person. Been with this person for 2 years and thought what we had was special until it happened. I really tried to move on, but I feel like I'm really obsessed with my ex that it really took a toll on me and it's been several months. But I still love her very much and just feel like I can't move on just like that. Just simply waiting for her to come back, even tho I know she will never come back to me ever again.
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I'm honestly struggling over an ex who doesn't love me anymore and moved on with another person. Been with this person for 2 years and thought what we had was special until it happened. I really tried to move on, but I feel like I'm really obsessed with my ex that it really took a toll on me and it's been several months. But I still love her very much and just feel like I can't move on just like that. Just simply waiting for her to come back, even tho I know she will never come back to me ever again.
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nikovol555
Interesing thing is. I thought that I were here just to learn about how someone else behave, and I wanted to know it just in case, but. Now I just realised that i am the obsessed person, though not to absurd degree, gotta respect people's personal boundaries after all, but for the rest, it's actually me, and that creeps me out. Don't know if someone could ever relate to that, but if someone does relate - i wish you all good luck (and to everyone else too)
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Interesing thing is. I thought that I were here just to learn about how someone else behave, and I wanted to know it just in case, but. Now I just realised that i am the obsessed person, though not to absurd degree, gotta respect people's personal boundaries after all, but for the rest, it's actually me, and that creeps me out. Don't know if someone could ever relate to that, but if someone does relate - i wish you all good luck (and to everyone else too)
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kuroazrem5376
I am experiencing obsessive love over a friend of mine. My life was sht before I met her, and ever since I've been obsessed over her, ignoring her boundaries and always being worried about her safety and general well-being. This costed me her friendship. This break-up nearly drove to end my life (I still struggle with those thoughts, but I need to learn to respect her boundaries and sense of independence. Still, it is extremely difficult.
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I am experiencing obsessive love over a friend of mine. My life was sht before I met her, and ever since I've been obsessed over her, ignoring her boundaries and always being worried about her safety and general well-being. This costed me her friendship. This break-up nearly drove to end my life (I still struggle with those thoughts, but I need to learn to respect her boundaries and sense of independence. Still, it is extremely difficult.
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CrystalPlays12122.
For timestamps for people who don't have time, and wanna know how to spot obsessive love:
1: 12 Constant Thoughts
1: 17 Needing Constant Contact
1: 22 Jealousy
1: 26 Controlling
1: 30 Worrying about safety
1: 36 Ignoring Boundaries
1: 42 Sensitivity to Rejection
1: 48 Difficulty with Rejection
1: 54 Monitoring Behaviour
2: 00 Invading Space
Hope I helped!
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For timestamps for people who don't have time, and wanna know how to spot obsessive love:
1: 12 Constant Thoughts
1: 17 Needing Constant Contact
1: 22 Jealousy
1: 26 Controlling
1: 30 Worrying about safety
1: 36 Ignoring Boundaries
1: 42 Sensitivity to Rejection
1: 48 Difficulty with Rejection
1: 54 Monitoring Behaviour
2: 00 Invading Space
Hope I helped!
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psych2go
I'm not obsessed with the girl i like, i give her space and i respect boundaries. She's my bestest friend, and sometimes i think to myself, there will never be a woman like her again in my life. She makes me happy and comfortable. She's a good friend and person. We met 9 years ago and our friendship is still strong
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I'm not obsessed with the girl i like, i give her space and i respect boundaries. She's my bestest friend, and sometimes i think to myself, there will never be a woman like her again in my life. She makes me happy and comfortable. She's a good friend and person. We met 9 years ago and our friendship is still strong
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Dead_Ceausescu
What you're describing is the first part of falling in love with someone. It's supposed to be like that and it's one of the best feelings in the world. You're trying to make it seem like it's another mental illness that you can recommend some of your endless bs to. Shame on you, smh
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What you're describing is the first part of falling in love with someone. It's supposed to be like that and it's one of the best feelings in the world. You're trying to make it seem like it's another mental illness that you can recommend some of your endless bs to. Shame on you, smh
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Manzlaughterr
I think that obsessive love should be a recognized disorder, obviously I don’t have any licenses in psychology but, it ruined my life, and still affects it now. I managed to partially get out of it but I still think about that person at least once every few days.
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I think that obsessive love should be a recognized disorder, obviously I don’t have any licenses in psychology but, it ruined my life, and still affects it now. I managed to partially get out of it but I still think about that person at least once every few days.
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lizzZoO0
many ppl seem to fantasize abt this like i want an obsessive gf/bf but the truth is, theyre immature once they realize the cons of having it, but many ppl seem to have issues of being obsessive the other way too, my personal experience
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many ppl seem to fantasize abt this like i want an obsessive gf/bf but the truth is, theyre immature once they realize the cons of having it, but many ppl seem to have issues of being obsessive the other way too, my personal experience
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Sascha-n4z
Ok guys, can you make an vid on how to atract such people if i'm bad at interacting with people Like, that it literally what i want. I don't care about the negatives, i have my own shit to worry about.
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Ok guys, can you make an vid on how to atract such people if i'm bad at interacting with people Like, that it literally what i want. I don't care about the negatives, i have my own shit to worry about.
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3lfruler
Butterflies aren't happiness it's a warning sign. Movies romanticize butterflies and whatnot. But unfortunately there's not as much truth in movies as we would hope.
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Butterflies aren't happiness it's a warning sign. Movies romanticize butterflies and whatnot. But unfortunately there's not as much truth in movies as we would hope.
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psych2go
My ex bf was SO obsessive to the point where it scared me. Like we were only dating for 2 months and he was already so obsessed with me.
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My ex bf was SO obsessive to the point where it scared me. Like we were only dating for 2 months and he was already so obsessed with me.
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AC-ni4gt
This fits what the Japanese call Yandere. It doesn't matter what gender the yandere is. The yandere is an obsessive love-sick person.
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This fits what the Japanese call Yandere. It doesn't matter what gender the yandere is. The yandere is an obsessive love-sick person.
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psych2go
As a Japan fan, I love the _Mirai Nikki_ anime reference in your thumbnail because it is also about obsessive love. You guys rock!
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As a Japan fan, I love the _Mirai Nikki_ anime reference in your thumbnail because it is also about obsessive love. You guys rock!
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wolfthewerido
Not toga being in the video lol, this is very useful thank you being out there and telling everyone who might need this info!
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Not toga being in the video lol, this is very useful thank you being out there and telling everyone who might need this info!
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YunixPlay
When i fell in love for the first time, it was a real obsessive love and i got ditched 0_0, so dont ask me how i recovered lol.
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When i fell in love for the first time, it was a real obsessive love and i got ditched 0_0, so dont ask me how i recovered lol.
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psych2go
yesss possessive thoughts w my ex! - justyin it's unhealthy sometimes hard; to break patterns.
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yesss possessive thoughts w my ex! - justyin it's unhealthy sometimes hard; to break patterns.
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