How Porn Addiction Destroys Your Dating Life
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Date: 2024-07-04
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solitudeau8188
5: 07
Its not a lack of motivation;
Its a lack of experience and a substantial amount of fear
I saved my last partners life; and she cheated on me. Why would I go through that again when i can just rub one out
I haven't dated as an adult, so if by some miracle i end up in that space, I have basically zero idea what to do. My only partners essentially threw themselves at me OR i had advanced knowledge that they were interested so it made it slightly easier to do something (still nerve wracking though. I don't know how to pursue an opportunity if it ever actually showed itself. Parents didnt do any courting or anything, so i cant turn to them and anything online says to play it distant, but then she loses interest. If you go too hard, she thinks you're clingy/desperate. So whats a guy supposed to do
Now, im not trying to justify the addiction, but it won't put me through that. On the other side, i'm practically guarenteed to not experience what was prior to that incident. Not entirely because of the addiction, but again, fear. That and for some reason even above average/solid guys (not top 0. 5% but below that) are getting knocked back by, to put it bluntly, whales.
Thats why the private escort industry is blowing up. Cant get even an average woman normally, may as well pay for an above average/stunning one temporarily. At least then its understood whats happening.
Again; Im not trying to justify this shit. I for the first time in over a decade may have actually found someone decent and I will cross the hurdles in the video (granted this only really became some sort of problem since the pandemic. I can only explain my lived experience and where I sit.
TL: DR;
99% of women are chasing top guys. Average joes dont have a chance
Experienced extreme heart ache and trauma in last relationship, turned to special media
Why go through dating if escorts of all sorts are so freely available
I don't know where to go or how to break free
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5: 07
Its not a lack of motivation;
Its a lack of experience and a substantial amount of fear
I saved my last partners life; and she cheated on me. Why would I go through that again when i can just rub one out
I haven't dated as an adult, so if by some miracle i end up in that space, I have basically zero idea what to do. My only partners essentially threw themselves at me OR i had advanced knowledge that they were interested so it made it slightly easier to do something (still nerve wracking though. I don't know how to pursue an opportunity if it ever actually showed itself. Parents didnt do any courting or anything, so i cant turn to them and anything online says to play it distant, but then she loses interest. If you go too hard, she thinks you're clingy/desperate. So whats a guy supposed to do
Now, im not trying to justify the addiction, but it won't put me through that. On the other side, i'm practically guarenteed to not experience what was prior to that incident. Not entirely because of the addiction, but again, fear. That and for some reason even above average/solid guys (not top 0. 5% but below that) are getting knocked back by, to put it bluntly, whales.
Thats why the private escort industry is blowing up. Cant get even an average woman normally, may as well pay for an above average/stunning one temporarily. At least then its understood whats happening.
Again; Im not trying to justify this shit. I for the first time in over a decade may have actually found someone decent and I will cross the hurdles in the video (granted this only really became some sort of problem since the pandemic. I can only explain my lived experience and where I sit.
TL: DR;
99% of women are chasing top guys. Average joes dont have a chance
Experienced extreme heart ache and trauma in last relationship, turned to special media
Why go through dating if escorts of all sorts are so freely available
I don't know where to go or how to break free
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Antoni. D
Yeah so I am a porn addict and I have been fighting it (even managed to stay clean for almost a year) and I found out two things about myself in this whole journey:
#1: The more I started to consume it because I rarely change the supplier and I don't get that many new things so I get bored and don't watch anything (it doesn't work all the time because sometimes I masturbate to a video that I already watched)
#2: That even though I am addicted I don't seem to have a broken mind from the addiction (it appears that my beliefs and my own will in what I want in a relationship are much stronger than the addiction, I don't see women differently, I sometimes have some weird thoughts or I don't have a mental barrier and I do some things to them that are nothing to worry about it is just rubbing their hair)
I still don't think that porn is great and I fight with it but I think that I am some special way of person and I will be more likely to win this. Also, it seems that my own will is stronger than an addiction. But still with all this happening I can't find the one for me (but lately people that I meet are from the LGBTQ community idk why. It is maybe because I am young, but what do I know!
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Yeah so I am a porn addict and I have been fighting it (even managed to stay clean for almost a year) and I found out two things about myself in this whole journey:
#1: The more I started to consume it because I rarely change the supplier and I don't get that many new things so I get bored and don't watch anything (it doesn't work all the time because sometimes I masturbate to a video that I already watched)
#2: That even though I am addicted I don't seem to have a broken mind from the addiction (it appears that my beliefs and my own will in what I want in a relationship are much stronger than the addiction, I don't see women differently, I sometimes have some weird thoughts or I don't have a mental barrier and I do some things to them that are nothing to worry about it is just rubbing their hair)
I still don't think that porn is great and I fight with it but I think that I am some special way of person and I will be more likely to win this. Also, it seems that my own will is stronger than an addiction. But still with all this happening I can't find the one for me (but lately people that I meet are from the LGBTQ community idk why. It is maybe because I am young, but what do I know!
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l. c. 1042
Ngl, I think I also have some form of porn addiction although I'm not sure how severe it is. And the one thing that hits me a lot aside from the guilt is the effect on my self-confidence with regards to basically all aspects of myself, especially body image. That's why I have practiced to always judge porn like any other media, and put them in categories of realism and fantasy. Like how I judge a medical injury in an action movie and whether it were survivable or not. And with that, I basically turned down most genres of porn due to their unrealistic context and situations, though their plots are fun to poke at.
Maybe with time, I can step away from porn eventually, even those that do their best to mirror reality. My next problem would be masturbation as it has become a more appealing way of coping with problems and stress than other self-harm methods. Here's to hoping to someday have a healthy mind
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Ngl, I think I also have some form of porn addiction although I'm not sure how severe it is. And the one thing that hits me a lot aside from the guilt is the effect on my self-confidence with regards to basically all aspects of myself, especially body image. That's why I have practiced to always judge porn like any other media, and put them in categories of realism and fantasy. Like how I judge a medical injury in an action movie and whether it were survivable or not. And with that, I basically turned down most genres of porn due to their unrealistic context and situations, though their plots are fun to poke at.
Maybe with time, I can step away from porn eventually, even those that do their best to mirror reality. My next problem would be masturbation as it has become a more appealing way of coping with problems and stress than other self-harm methods. Here's to hoping to someday have a healthy mind
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anya1233
My boyfriends addiction ruined me. I try to act as positive and as motivating as possible but its eating me up from inside. I feel so incredibly ugly and worthless in his eyes. Catching him the first time made me angry and sad, but from the third time on i was just numb. Nothing makes me happy anymore, its like finding out sucked the soul out of me and turned me into a shell of a human being. This goes to every boy out there who is struggling with porn: please stop before its too late. I promise you, it doesn't matter how little your girlfriend cares. Inside, she's suffering. Yall cant imagine how often I have thought about just leaving him. If you can't change for them, you should leave because its only better for your loved one.
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My boyfriends addiction ruined me. I try to act as positive and as motivating as possible but its eating me up from inside. I feel so incredibly ugly and worthless in his eyes. Catching him the first time made me angry and sad, but from the third time on i was just numb. Nothing makes me happy anymore, its like finding out sucked the soul out of me and turned me into a shell of a human being. This goes to every boy out there who is struggling with porn: please stop before its too late. I promise you, it doesn't matter how little your girlfriend cares. Inside, she's suffering. Yall cant imagine how often I have thought about just leaving him. If you can't change for them, you should leave because its only better for your loved one.
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psych2go
As a teenager, I find porn good for me since in middle school, it was hard for me, and I’ve had a lot of stress from middle school. Suicidal thoughts and depression came from middle school. Now that I’m going into high school, I feel very good. Unfortunately, or fortunately, I’m moving, and I say unfortunately because it’s very stressful. Since it’s stressful, I watch porn compulsively, and can’t help it. I need help, and might get into therapy. If anyone is out there that can accept me for who I am, that would be great. Nobody would accept me for me. Much love. Peace!
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As a teenager, I find porn good for me since in middle school, it was hard for me, and I’ve had a lot of stress from middle school. Suicidal thoughts and depression came from middle school. Now that I’m going into high school, I feel very good. Unfortunately, or fortunately, I’m moving, and I say unfortunately because it’s very stressful. Since it’s stressful, I watch porn compulsively, and can’t help it. I need help, and might get into therapy. If anyone is out there that can accept me for who I am, that would be great. Nobody would accept me for me. Much love. Peace!
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horrificgrave
i wouldn’t say i was addicted to porn but i watched a A LOT. like when i was bored, in class, i would leave family gatherings to watch it just for fun. i was even watching it while i was dating my past boyfriend. i’m now in a new relationship, we’re been together for over 4 months abt to be 5. i haven’t watched it since i started dating him, i told him how i was and sometimes he teasingly makes fun of me. although mine wasn’t bad, recovery is possible and the right person will help you through it
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i wouldn’t say i was addicted to porn but i watched a A LOT. like when i was bored, in class, i would leave family gatherings to watch it just for fun. i was even watching it while i was dating my past boyfriend. i’m now in a new relationship, we’re been together for over 4 months abt to be 5. i haven’t watched it since i started dating him, i told him how i was and sometimes he teasingly makes fun of me. although mine wasn’t bad, recovery is possible and the right person will help you through it
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Miau622
its makes you weak and pathetic, it depleads your energy and testosterone. Your mental clearity and focus suffer greatly from it! And its one of the main reasons for directial disfunction, it even plays a big role in mental illnesses like depression or anxiety!
If you ignore these problems and dont try bettering yourself you deserve to be alone and unloved! Remember, its okay to be weak, but its not okay to stay weak. Better yourself every day a new! I belive in you, now you gotta belive in yourself!
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its makes you weak and pathetic, it depleads your energy and testosterone. Your mental clearity and focus suffer greatly from it! And its one of the main reasons for directial disfunction, it even plays a big role in mental illnesses like depression or anxiety!
If you ignore these problems and dont try bettering yourself you deserve to be alone and unloved! Remember, its okay to be weak, but its not okay to stay weak. Better yourself every day a new! I belive in you, now you gotta belive in yourself!
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ViroVV
I dunno. seems more like a service level issue. Basically like piracy.
If there was a better, more stable product available, porn would be pointless and redundant.
Do you really get more satisfaction paying 3$ more for a bottle of Coke compared to the 1. 25 bottle of RC or STORE BRAND
Or does that store brand afford you the opportunity to ensure your money is better spent elsewhere - Signed an old man who CHOSE to retire from the game a couple decades ago cause it just wasnt fun anymore.
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I dunno. seems more like a service level issue. Basically like piracy.
If there was a better, more stable product available, porn would be pointless and redundant.
Do you really get more satisfaction paying 3$ more for a bottle of Coke compared to the 1. 25 bottle of RC or STORE BRAND
Or does that store brand afford you the opportunity to ensure your money is better spent elsewhere - Signed an old man who CHOSE to retire from the game a couple decades ago cause it just wasnt fun anymore.
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GCBrawler
I’m trying to stop my addictionas time went on I started going to those websites more, up to 5 times during the day and many during the night. But as time went on I also learned how bad it wasI still watch it but now it’s at most 2 times a day, I try not to but the addiction is strong, so I do it at least once a daycompared to a year ago, I’ve made much progress. What makes it hard is how easy you can find things that show intriguing content on the internet, repeating the cycle once again
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I’m trying to stop my addictionas time went on I started going to those websites more, up to 5 times during the day and many during the night. But as time went on I also learned how bad it wasI still watch it but now it’s at most 2 times a day, I try not to but the addiction is strong, so I do it at least once a daycompared to a year ago, I’ve made much progress. What makes it hard is how easy you can find things that show intriguing content on the internet, repeating the cycle once again
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KWifler
Why can't women be asocial like me and have a high libido and not care that I'm disabled since childhood and never worked and I have no will to live because I need love
Why do I have to be so unique
Also porn just helps me finish faster. People who progress to freakier and freakier stuff are so strange to me. I can't even stand to see naked males. Only solo female for meee. Although now that I'm old 37 I don't need it every day anymore.
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Why can't women be asocial like me and have a high libido and not care that I'm disabled since childhood and never worked and I have no will to live because I need love
Why do I have to be so unique
Also porn just helps me finish faster. People who progress to freakier and freakier stuff are so strange to me. I can't even stand to see naked males. Only solo female for meee. Although now that I'm old 37 I don't need it every day anymore.
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troyjollimore4100
Shame. What now LOL!
Sure, it's an escape, like any vice. But when you know that the problems won't be solved (mine never will be) there isn't really an repercussion. I also have a history of low self-esteem and depression, so this doesn't make it any worse. It also has zero impact on my interpersonal Life and relationships (or lack there-of. It definitely pays to replace it with a more worthwhile pursuit or hobby, though!
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Shame. What now LOL!
Sure, it's an escape, like any vice. But when you know that the problems won't be solved (mine never will be) there isn't really an repercussion. I also have a history of low self-esteem and depression, so this doesn't make it any worse. It also has zero impact on my interpersonal Life and relationships (or lack there-of. It definitely pays to replace it with a more worthwhile pursuit or hobby, though!
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davids2096
For people who believe in spirituality and GOD, they say this activity is a major sin! I can understand why! It's pretty creepy, neferious, sinister, with no regard for people's feelings and situations! It's beyond frightening thinking about all the consequences that are too intense and severe for me to mention! Be kind to yourself and everyone else, because it seems like we're all connected in some way! Goodbye!
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For people who believe in spirituality and GOD, they say this activity is a major sin! I can understand why! It's pretty creepy, neferious, sinister, with no regard for people's feelings and situations! It's beyond frightening thinking about all the consequences that are too intense and severe for me to mention! Be kind to yourself and everyone else, because it seems like we're all connected in some way! Goodbye!
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ghostling9823
Relationships are expensive and time consuming. Porn is free and convenient. Both address the same issue, but relationships are way more costly and unreliable.
Is it really an addiction It seems to me that other men bend backwards, give up their freedom and spend so many resources just to fix a problem I can fix with a couple clicks. Thinking in terms of efficiency, who is really at a disadvantage here
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Relationships are expensive and time consuming. Porn is free and convenient. Both address the same issue, but relationships are way more costly and unreliable.
Is it really an addiction It seems to me that other men bend backwards, give up their freedom and spend so many resources just to fix a problem I can fix with a couple clicks. Thinking in terms of efficiency, who is really at a disadvantage here
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mihaipatrascu5304
They read me like a book. Unfortunately dating is so damaged these days, that imho there is no other choise than to revert to the actions decsribed in the videos and isolate yourself from the world. The fact that people have a plethora of options around the World thanks to apps and unrealistic expectations and standards makes the addiction stated above the new normal. Sad but true
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They read me like a book. Unfortunately dating is so damaged these days, that imho there is no other choise than to revert to the actions decsribed in the videos and isolate yourself from the world. The fact that people have a plethora of options around the World thanks to apps and unrealistic expectations and standards makes the addiction stated above the new normal. Sad but true
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GamingGreen21
I came to this video ready to comment You can't destroy what doesn't exist, but then I got to the shame. The deterrence, the demotivation. It was there from the beginning. Before my last relationship, before my best relationship, eating away at me for all those years until I realized what I fell into, but could never climb out of. It was destroyed after all.
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I came to this video ready to comment You can't destroy what doesn't exist, but then I got to the shame. The deterrence, the demotivation. It was there from the beginning. Before my last relationship, before my best relationship, eating away at me for all those years until I realized what I fell into, but could never climb out of. It was destroyed after all.
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davidwanc11
In my case, my lack of social interaction stems from years of being used and unappreciated by others. Being around others literally makes me want to blow my brains out. So I use off-brand to help get my pent-up frustration & aggression out so I don't act up in public. It's not the healthiest of coping mechanisms but I make do with what I've been dealt with.
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In my case, my lack of social interaction stems from years of being used and unappreciated by others. Being around others literally makes me want to blow my brains out. So I use off-brand to help get my pent-up frustration & aggression out so I don't act up in public. It's not the healthiest of coping mechanisms but I make do with what I've been dealt with.
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The17171
Yea, this video is very relevant to me cuz I’m currently in high school and I’ve been struggling with this addiction for a long time and I’m trying to get out of it so far I’ve gone almost almost a whole week and I’m not gonna lie I’ve had some of these affects such as lack of physical interaction with other people thank you so much for this
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Yea, this video is very relevant to me cuz I’m currently in high school and I’ve been struggling with this addiction for a long time and I’m trying to get out of it so far I’ve gone almost almost a whole week and I’m not gonna lie I’ve had some of these affects such as lack of physical interaction with other people thank you so much for this
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user-wk9qi4zs9i
Why would I not want an instant gratification and instead choose spending hours and hours in the dating world that just doesn't work anymore because of feminism birth control Most women these days are entitled, have unrealistic expectations and try to shame men for any attempt to approach them in person. Yeah. I'll stick with porn.
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Why would I not want an instant gratification and instead choose spending hours and hours in the dating world that just doesn't work anymore because of feminism birth control Most women these days are entitled, have unrealistic expectations and try to shame men for any attempt to approach them in person. Yeah. I'll stick with porn.
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amaya6091
I found that having someone in my life who i can pretty much just look forward to helps out a lot like someone really nice and stuff and cuddling and stuff, I tend to not be ahem as shulk would say Really Feeling It compares to when I just have the people who live with me (aka my family) and are just constantly screaming at me
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I found that having someone in my life who i can pretty much just look forward to helps out a lot like someone really nice and stuff and cuddling and stuff, I tend to not be ahem as shulk would say Really Feeling It compares to when I just have the people who live with me (aka my family) and are just constantly screaming at me
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RaggedGothic
Crusading puritanism by intolerant prudes who get their kicks by being judgemental against approved targets, in this case using a made up pop-psych disorder to attack behaviour which their fellow puritans have declared morally wrong (usually by appealing to the questionable authority of domineering religious dictates.
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Crusading puritanism by intolerant prudes who get their kicks by being judgemental against approved targets, in this case using a made up pop-psych disorder to attack behaviour which their fellow puritans have declared morally wrong (usually by appealing to the questionable authority of domineering religious dictates.
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