You Have Fear of Abandonment, Not Just LONELINESS
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Date: 2024-02-27
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Midnight6780
i have a avoidant attachment style i can't understand my emotions nor good as controlling my emotions more recently only because i have been avoiding my familial/friendships for 4 years. Now where as i have been able to get my emotions running again instead of lacking emotions and feeling numb physically and mentally around from a young age around 7-12 can't really tell/remember hence it being kinda out there by a 5 year difference.
With these kind of emotions i have had now since early 2022 I've found it difficult to understand these bursting emotions even tho they could just be a normal/weird amount of emotions (typed weird because nothing is normal and everything is different from each other no matter what) i find myself trying to go back to not feeling my emotions in due to it being easier to manage life without feeling crippled from anxiety and longing to do sumthing more but can't/could not /will not doing anything because I am scared of being my true self. i can't trust myself i can't trust anyone around me i can only wait to actually do something instead of being at a standstill like being frozen in the winter of 2019
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i have a avoidant attachment style i can't understand my emotions nor good as controlling my emotions more recently only because i have been avoiding my familial/friendships for 4 years. Now where as i have been able to get my emotions running again instead of lacking emotions and feeling numb physically and mentally around from a young age around 7-12 can't really tell/remember hence it being kinda out there by a 5 year difference.
With these kind of emotions i have had now since early 2022 I've found it difficult to understand these bursting emotions even tho they could just be a normal/weird amount of emotions (typed weird because nothing is normal and everything is different from each other no matter what) i find myself trying to go back to not feeling my emotions in due to it being easier to manage life without feeling crippled from anxiety and longing to do sumthing more but can't/could not /will not doing anything because I am scared of being my true self. i can't trust myself i can't trust anyone around me i can only wait to actually do something instead of being at a standstill like being frozen in the winter of 2019
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mdhakeem4466
Imagine. JUST IMAGINE if I (or any other man) would be able to tell my girlfriend that I have a fear of abandonment without being judged and ultimately abandoned. ironic isn’t it I guess I’m just gonna live with this heartache till the end
And please, for any lady who want to deny that, just take a moment and imagine YOUR man coming to you and saying I’ve been abused by my parents and always watched them fight and now I have this resentful feeling that no matter what happened I’m gonna end up alone see how the mere image of that happening is so pathetic Exactly what I mean
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Imagine. JUST IMAGINE if I (or any other man) would be able to tell my girlfriend that I have a fear of abandonment without being judged and ultimately abandoned. ironic isn’t it I guess I’m just gonna live with this heartache till the end
And please, for any lady who want to deny that, just take a moment and imagine YOUR man coming to you and saying I’ve been abused by my parents and always watched them fight and now I have this resentful feeling that no matter what happened I’m gonna end up alone see how the mere image of that happening is so pathetic Exactly what I mean
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OnCloudMind
I had a dear friend who has ghosted me for 6 years, without any explanations. No matter how hard I tried to reach to her, she always kept silence and ignored me. Well, it did leave me a deep wound. But I've learned that, only true friends stay with me no matter what happens. And if they left, well, it's just a stage of life, when the feeling is not the same anymore. If they want to go, let them, free your mind and believe that eventually, you still can be happy with or without them. Thank you for the video. I wish all of us can be happy
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I had a dear friend who has ghosted me for 6 years, without any explanations. No matter how hard I tried to reach to her, she always kept silence and ignored me. Well, it did leave me a deep wound. But I've learned that, only true friends stay with me no matter what happens. And if they left, well, it's just a stage of life, when the feeling is not the same anymore. If they want to go, let them, free your mind and believe that eventually, you still can be happy with or without them. Thank you for the video. I wish all of us can be happy
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kevinhumm4560
I have the anxious attachment style, I'm in a long distance relationship and whenever she doesn't text me back within a few hours I start to get really anxious and think she's not interested in me anymore and going to leave me, I have told her my fear once and she reassured me that she will never leave me and that she loves me and wants a future with me but I'm still scared and think what if. I've been cheated on and left abandoned in every relationship I had. :(
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I have the anxious attachment style, I'm in a long distance relationship and whenever she doesn't text me back within a few hours I start to get really anxious and think she's not interested in me anymore and going to leave me, I have told her my fear once and she reassured me that she will never leave me and that she loves me and wants a future with me but I'm still scared and think what if. I've been cheated on and left abandoned in every relationship I had. :(
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PokeJoltz
It's like constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop yet never being surprised when it inevitably does. It hurts every time but you always know what's coming. One of the worst parts is holding on to toxic people in your life out of the fear of being alone. Everyone thinks you're pathetic or secretly love the drama but it's the fear of loosing that connection if it started off good and/or they were someone you'd known for a long time.
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It's like constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop yet never being surprised when it inevitably does. It hurts every time but you always know what's coming. One of the worst parts is holding on to toxic people in your life out of the fear of being alone. Everyone thinks you're pathetic or secretly love the drama but it's the fear of loosing that connection if it started off good and/or they were someone you'd known for a long time.
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psych2go
I have this. I wasn't over someone else yet, and another person sucked me in. I confided in them my fears that people always abandon me because im Weird and can't pursue a romance with, and then they forced my trauma on me by acting it out just like I asked them not too at the start by dumping with with a text saying both of those things. Like, what happened to, Its not you, its me. Feels like a direct attack on me.
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I have this. I wasn't over someone else yet, and another person sucked me in. I confided in them my fears that people always abandon me because im Weird and can't pursue a romance with, and then they forced my trauma on me by acting it out just like I asked them not too at the start by dumping with with a text saying both of those things. Like, what happened to, Its not you, its me. Feels like a direct attack on me.
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davec3651
Everyone I've ever been close to is now gone from my life, mostly by their choice. I'm at a time in my life where I seem to have given up trying to make new connections. I'm old now and have no faith in successfully forming new connections, much less having them last. This solitary life is meaningless and is slowly killing me, but it's like I've resigned myself to it indefinitely.
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Everyone I've ever been close to is now gone from my life, mostly by their choice. I'm at a time in my life where I seem to have given up trying to make new connections. I'm old now and have no faith in successfully forming new connections, much less having them last. This solitary life is meaningless and is slowly killing me, but it's like I've resigned myself to it indefinitely.
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chisaten
This and other videos that have come out recently make me feel invalidated. I see something in the title or the list of time stamps that I can relate to, but referring to childhood trauma invalidates everything. Most of my mental problems started after getting TBI from brain surgery, and my childhood didn't have major trauma besides some racism from extended family when I was young.
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This and other videos that have come out recently make me feel invalidated. I see something in the title or the list of time stamps that I can relate to, but referring to childhood trauma invalidates everything. Most of my mental problems started after getting TBI from brain surgery, and my childhood didn't have major trauma besides some racism from extended family when I was young.
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BlaineMelv
I NEVER speak to my mother because her and my father went through a divorce, she told my brother and sister that your father doesn’t love you, she is manipulative and she wants me to respect her when she doesn’t respect me. I sometimes feel like If I died my mother wouldn’t care because she loved me, I feel she would only care because I’m her firstborn.
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I NEVER speak to my mother because her and my father went through a divorce, she told my brother and sister that your father doesn’t love you, she is manipulative and she wants me to respect her when she doesn’t respect me. I sometimes feel like If I died my mother wouldn’t care because she loved me, I feel she would only care because I’m her firstborn.
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VI_VA.
When my fears of being abandoned attack I try to remind myself that, if there are no concrete proof that people are leaving me (not telling me directly, or ignoring my messages completely, etc) then its most likely they are not secretely planning on abandoning me
To quote a Steven Universe's song, Here comes a thought, But it was only that, It was just a thought
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When my fears of being abandoned attack I try to remind myself that, if there are no concrete proof that people are leaving me (not telling me directly, or ignoring my messages completely, etc) then its most likely they are not secretely planning on abandoning me
To quote a Steven Universe's song, Here comes a thought, But it was only that, It was just a thought
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NlNDE
This is a fear that I have.
I don't know how to get rid of this fear, it just keeps me sad.
Even when I'm happy, this fear ruins it.
Ive been thru a lot, mental hospital n everything. Thankfully Im no longer there. Ive recovered from depression, but the fear of attatchment will most likely stay with me forever.
Thank you for this video
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This is a fear that I have.
I don't know how to get rid of this fear, it just keeps me sad.
Even when I'm happy, this fear ruins it.
Ive been thru a lot, mental hospital n everything. Thankfully Im no longer there. Ive recovered from depression, but the fear of attatchment will most likely stay with me forever.
Thank you for this video
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jordanguy4241
I really appreciate all of your videos!
I do not watch them to improve myself, I am actually actively working on becoming a worse person and your videos give me a lot of insight on people’s doubts, fears, and weaknesses and how to exploit them. As well as how to improve my own manipulative behavior! Thank you so much for what you do
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I really appreciate all of your videos!
I do not watch them to improve myself, I am actually actively working on becoming a worse person and your videos give me a lot of insight on people’s doubts, fears, and weaknesses and how to exploit them. As well as how to improve my own manipulative behavior! Thank you so much for what you do
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seren1996seren
Disorganised is never talked about I get it, it’s only 5% of us and it stems from experiencing heavy and frequent trauma throughout childhood thus making it an extremely sensitive and heavy topic buttttt why are we ignored in a video like this if you’re doing a video like this
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Disorganised is never talked about I get it, it’s only 5% of us and it stems from experiencing heavy and frequent trauma throughout childhood thus making it an extremely sensitive and heavy topic buttttt why are we ignored in a video like this if you’re doing a video like this
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Psych2go
Do you have fear of abandonment Watch this video till the end to learn how fear of abandonment affects your life and ways to cope at the end of the video. As always, we encourage anyone who is struggling to always seek out for qualified mental health profession to support your journey.
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Do you have fear of abandonment Watch this video till the end to learn how fear of abandonment affects your life and ways to cope at the end of the video. As always, we encourage anyone who is struggling to always seek out for qualified mental health profession to support your journey.
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psych2go
I'm honestly unsure if I can or not relate to it- but I do honestly try to avoid getting close to people, it feels as though everyone who I get super close to I lose in some way, or they just completely change and I have to cut it off. But it's fine, I'm just used to it at this point-
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I'm honestly unsure if I can or not relate to it- but I do honestly try to avoid getting close to people, it feels as though everyone who I get super close to I lose in some way, or they just completely change and I have to cut it off. But it's fine, I'm just used to it at this point-
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JL15545
It’s like you’re bracing your for the inevitable, knowing deep down that people in your life will come and go, even if you don’t want them to. Everyone is always on their way out, and you’re dreading the idea that you will soon be left navigating the void all alone.
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It’s like you’re bracing your for the inevitable, knowing deep down that people in your life will come and go, even if you don’t want them to. Everyone is always on their way out, and you’re dreading the idea that you will soon be left navigating the void all alone.
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BlackjackMain
Some things that have helped in my fear of abandonment, and I got a doosy of that fear, is the development of self reliant skills, contemplating what and why my needs are, and how they can get met, and practicing as much self love/care as my schedule allows.
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Some things that have helped in my fear of abandonment, and I got a doosy of that fear, is the development of self reliant skills, contemplating what and why my needs are, and how they can get met, and practicing as much self love/care as my schedule allows.
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chrisoconnor7110
Surprise they didn't talk about dismissive or disorganized, this is where I live, want love but cannot trust others, not sure how I made a 10 yr relationship work but I know to how make it crumble and fail, oh well it's my one and only
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Surprise they didn't talk about dismissive or disorganized, this is where I live, want love but cannot trust others, not sure how I made a 10 yr relationship work but I know to how make it crumble and fail, oh well it's my one and only
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angel. simp0001
This is definitely one of my fears. I’ve had a lot of people leave me in my life, and I’m not sure how deal with this fear. This video definitely helped, and so does my therapy, so hopefully I learn how to manage it soon: )
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This is definitely one of my fears. I’ve had a lot of people leave me in my life, and I’m not sure how deal with this fear. This video definitely helped, and so does my therapy, so hopefully I learn how to manage it soon: )
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