Signs Your Anxiety Is Ruining Your Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Richard
Whether we recognize it or not, the majority of our thoughts are concerned with getting rewarded for our behaviour to pro-actively avoid the deficits and hardships we'd suffer without said reward. So, if any given individual is chasing after something they aren't going to get, they're effectively digging their own emotional graves thanks to dopamine being malleable; and the pieces of shit who are leading them on should be regarded with no less contempt than the average pedophile, telemarketer or over-entitled mass-shooter. But decent people have only themselves and each other to blame if the problem goes unacknowledged and we settle for knowing we had the right intentions. In other words, all the people you should rightly be cutting out of your life today will be more than happy/happy to ask you what you're doing tomorrow if you don't take the initiative to think and stand up for yourself.
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Whether we recognize it or not, the majority of our thoughts are concerned with getting rewarded for our behaviour to pro-actively avoid the deficits and hardships we'd suffer without said reward. So, if any given individual is chasing after something they aren't going to get, they're effectively digging their own emotional graves thanks to dopamine being malleable; and the pieces of shit who are leading them on should be regarded with no less contempt than the average pedophile, telemarketer or over-entitled mass-shooter. But decent people have only themselves and each other to blame if the problem goes unacknowledged and we settle for knowing we had the right intentions. In other words, all the people you should rightly be cutting out of your life today will be more than happy/happy to ask you what you're doing tomorrow if you don't take the initiative to think and stand up for yourself.
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Wind_Cursed
Ouch! The accuracy of this hurts so bad. My anxiety is so bad about relationships that I do both the dependent thing AND the aviodant thing. If I'm avoiding, the worry of hurting them or making them like me less because I'm avoiding telling them anything piles on top of all the other worries. If I'm being too dependent on them, the worry that they'll hate me because I'm not giving them enough room or something piles on top of the other worries. If I'm being honest, I'm not even in a romantic relationship, but because of my anxiety I have immense fear of getting in one or think I don't deserve one, despite whatever I want. Sometimes it's the anxiety itself, other times it's the fears the anxiety conjures up that makes me fear relationships. And the relationship anxieties mentioned in this video are 100% absolutely accurate PLUS more, so it really sucks
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Ouch! The accuracy of this hurts so bad. My anxiety is so bad about relationships that I do both the dependent thing AND the aviodant thing. If I'm avoiding, the worry of hurting them or making them like me less because I'm avoiding telling them anything piles on top of all the other worries. If I'm being too dependent on them, the worry that they'll hate me because I'm not giving them enough room or something piles on top of the other worries. If I'm being honest, I'm not even in a romantic relationship, but because of my anxiety I have immense fear of getting in one or think I don't deserve one, despite whatever I want. Sometimes it's the anxiety itself, other times it's the fears the anxiety conjures up that makes me fear relationships. And the relationship anxieties mentioned in this video are 100% absolutely accurate PLUS more, so it really sucks
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Sugar
For the past 3 months of my relationship, I've always been in this loop of running away from him, or wanting to always talk with him. It's because I don't want to seem like I'm dependent on him so I run away. But then I miss him too much, so I run right back. It's been making me very anxious and he's realized what I was doing and reccommended that we should go on a break. Honestly, it's been working! With our relationship to the side, I don't have to worry! I still love him, and he still loves me but with his reassurance, I've been able to get my thoughts straight and the things that I need done, done. :) I might update this soon, but if someone out there has a similar situation to mine, just know that you got this!
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For the past 3 months of my relationship, I've always been in this loop of running away from him, or wanting to always talk with him. It's because I don't want to seem like I'm dependent on him so I run away. But then I miss him too much, so I run right back. It's been making me very anxious and he's realized what I was doing and reccommended that we should go on a break. Honestly, it's been working! With our relationship to the side, I don't have to worry! I still love him, and he still loves me but with his reassurance, I've been able to get my thoughts straight and the things that I need done, done. :) I might update this soon, but if someone out there has a similar situation to mine, just know that you got this!
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nana
I cant afford therapy, my family doesnt know of my possible mental illnesses, and they honestly cant know about it. I need the help, genuinely, this video was just a literal description of my anxiety with my relationship, and I hate it (my anxiety) so much. I wish I could get help so that way, I wont affect things anymore. Not just that, my partner and I both have anxiety. So it would help a lot for me to understand it more, but again, I cant get or afford therapy. There isnt a free option either. Im just so slumped. I trust them, I really do, I just overthink a lot. I dont want him to feel as though I doubt them or I dont trust them: (
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I cant afford therapy, my family doesnt know of my possible mental illnesses, and they honestly cant know about it. I need the help, genuinely, this video was just a literal description of my anxiety with my relationship, and I hate it (my anxiety) so much. I wish I could get help so that way, I wont affect things anymore. Not just that, my partner and I both have anxiety. So it would help a lot for me to understand it more, but again, I cant get or afford therapy. There isnt a free option either. Im just so slumped. I trust them, I really do, I just overthink a lot. I dont want him to feel as though I doubt them or I dont trust them: (
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Angsty
Im in a relationship, Ive been with him since February 2022. Our relationship has been doing great, I mean I think so idk what he thinks about it. Which is one of the problems, what if he thinks Im to touchy? Or there are some times when I like to bother him What if he gets annoyed with me and doesnt want to be with me any more because of it? Ive also been afraid if he will ever get bored of me.
Im also really bad at confronting him about my feelings. Which is because Im afraid he will think of me as a crybaby that whines too much. Or he dont wanna be with someone who is being a negative Nancy, all the time(sorry for bad English)
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Im in a relationship, Ive been with him since February 2022. Our relationship has been doing great, I mean I think so idk what he thinks about it. Which is one of the problems, what if he thinks Im to touchy? Or there are some times when I like to bother him What if he gets annoyed with me and doesnt want to be with me any more because of it? Ive also been afraid if he will ever get bored of me.
Im also really bad at confronting him about my feelings. Which is because Im afraid he will think of me as a crybaby that whines too much. Or he dont wanna be with someone who is being a negative Nancy, all the time(sorry for bad English)
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ThatWildWelsh
I always struggled to understand why I did these things to my best friend, I have been like this for awhile and its only getting worse, to the point where my friend has gotten so upset she wont text me or even get in contact with me unless we are in school, I dont know what to do because I just feel like Im a burden and I just dont seem to be fitting her standards for a friend. I dont have diagnosed anxiety, or anything but its just annoying because I know I do this but when its happening I have no control and cant help myself which makes me more anxious. But this video is helping me understand a bit.
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I always struggled to understand why I did these things to my best friend, I have been like this for awhile and its only getting worse, to the point where my friend has gotten so upset she wont text me or even get in contact with me unless we are in school, I dont know what to do because I just feel like Im a burden and I just dont seem to be fitting her standards for a friend. I dont have diagnosed anxiety, or anything but its just annoying because I know I do this but when its happening I have no control and cant help myself which makes me more anxious. But this video is helping me understand a bit.
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Trasher
What sucks a lot is having both avoidance and dependency anxiety. like lemme catch a BREAK LMFAO. I avoid talking to my partner about my own problems as much as I can and I shut them quite often which ends up hurting us in the end and then I have anxiety about them leaving me or hurting me or cheating on me and I just end up waiting for something bad to happen. my partner is incredibly sweet and everything. Ive known them since we were kids and weve been on a off for the past few years and we both ended up reuniting again and trying to make it work this time. Does anyone have any advice?
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What sucks a lot is having both avoidance and dependency anxiety. like lemme catch a BREAK LMFAO. I avoid talking to my partner about my own problems as much as I can and I shut them quite often which ends up hurting us in the end and then I have anxiety about them leaving me or hurting me or cheating on me and I just end up waiting for something bad to happen. my partner is incredibly sweet and everything. Ive known them since we were kids and weve been on a off for the past few years and we both ended up reuniting again and trying to make it work this time. Does anyone have any advice?
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Melanie
I literally got into a relationship 2 days ago and it feels weird smh idk, I don't want to show the relationship to the outside not even my family, I only told my best friend wich was quite hard to do
I already feel like it's wrong and it won't work out it's stressful already and it's only been 2 days.
I figured because it's because I don't like showing my feelings and being vulnerable and I don't want to get weird reactions from people
It comes to the point where I'm embarrassed about them I can't find a word to describe this feeling other than annoying and weird
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I literally got into a relationship 2 days ago and it feels weird smh idk, I don't want to show the relationship to the outside not even my family, I only told my best friend wich was quite hard to do
I already feel like it's wrong and it won't work out it's stressful already and it's only been 2 days.
I figured because it's because I don't like showing my feelings and being vulnerable and I don't want to get weird reactions from people
It comes to the point where I'm embarrassed about them I can't find a word to describe this feeling other than annoying and weird
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Jamey
I know personally my anxiety type in this video is a dependency type i do find myself clinging to much to someone and believing they are basically the one and than i overthink absolutely every single thing that happens luckily i have been working on it slowly by trying to find ways to help myself believe that i dont need someone else all the time but i do still have that overthinking and still the dependency so hopefully in time i can actually work on those but i have taken some steps towards fixing it so i dont push more people away like i have been for a while due to it
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I know personally my anxiety type in this video is a dependency type i do find myself clinging to much to someone and believing they are basically the one and than i overthink absolutely every single thing that happens luckily i have been working on it slowly by trying to find ways to help myself believe that i dont need someone else all the time but i do still have that overthinking and still the dependency so hopefully in time i can actually work on those but i have taken some steps towards fixing it so i dont push more people away like i have been for a while due to it
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Anzion10
i don't know if this counts, but i actually recently broke up with my first ever realtionship, because everytime we would just be hanging around talking to each other, 5 or 6 people (not the same, different each time) (this is in a school setting) would just come and ask: are you guys together? '''what? why? thats weird. ' and it would just freak me the hell out and made me avoid my partner at times. i really feel bad and i might actually try and explain to her what happened, but i seriously also need to understand why i act like this. any ideas?
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i don't know if this counts, but i actually recently broke up with my first ever realtionship, because everytime we would just be hanging around talking to each other, 5 or 6 people (not the same, different each time) (this is in a school setting) would just come and ask: are you guys together? '''what? why? thats weird. ' and it would just freak me the hell out and made me avoid my partner at times. i really feel bad and i might actually try and explain to her what happened, but i seriously also need to understand why i act like this. any ideas?
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Wilavy
This really hit close to home. This is me, and after all these years. i was diagnosed at 24years old.
I relate being really dependent upon my partner. I feel the need to see him everyday or just to be physically close to him. And also thinking about the worst case scenarios in our relationship.
But i also relate on the avoidant type, because i push him away and just be gloomy all day but not telling him about whats wrong in my life.
I wanna change for the better. sometimes i think that this anxiety ruins a lot of things for me.
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This really hit close to home. This is me, and after all these years. i was diagnosed at 24years old.
I relate being really dependent upon my partner. I feel the need to see him everyday or just to be physically close to him. And also thinking about the worst case scenarios in our relationship.
But i also relate on the avoidant type, because i push him away and just be gloomy all day but not telling him about whats wrong in my life.
I wanna change for the better. sometimes i think that this anxiety ruins a lot of things for me.
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Cesspools0up
I feel like my anxiety ruined my relationship. I was struggling alot, couldn't hold down job, got a job but it shut down and I had to bus over an hour to get to work. ended up getting fired, stuff like that. I was stressed 24/7 and my partner was my rock. I think I just pout too much on him, and he felt that I wasn't putting enough effort to change. I wanted to change, but I was focused on just trying to survive. but either way, I did end up putting alot on him and. I do think my anxiety was a huge cause for our breakup.
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I feel like my anxiety ruined my relationship. I was struggling alot, couldn't hold down job, got a job but it shut down and I had to bus over an hour to get to work. ended up getting fired, stuff like that. I was stressed 24/7 and my partner was my rock. I think I just pout too much on him, and he felt that I wasn't putting enough effort to change. I wanted to change, but I was focused on just trying to survive. but either way, I did end up putting alot on him and. I do think my anxiety was a huge cause for our breakup.
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HeavenSlay2020
Supporting a partner with anxiety can be more emotionally taxing than people realize because there emotions fluctuate and ways we cant understand how can you help someone when you yourself dont know how? It just makes me feel so tired like why do I even try? I feel like Im being a complainer but it really does feel like there anxiety is keeping us from progressing I try but it feels like Im walking through a forest blind with a deaf person who doesnt know the way out
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Supporting a partner with anxiety can be more emotionally taxing than people realize because there emotions fluctuate and ways we cant understand how can you help someone when you yourself dont know how? It just makes me feel so tired like why do I even try? I feel like Im being a complainer but it really does feel like there anxiety is keeping us from progressing I try but it feels like Im walking through a forest blind with a deaf person who doesnt know the way out
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kya
im getting closer to this guy and we started getting intimate but when i get home, i get nauseous and cant breath properly for the next 2 days. the thing is, i do like him and im extremely comfortable with him. i dont know what im afraid of. it messes with my sleep and im so worried that its gonna make me not enjoy this special thing with him because of my anxiety. as i watched this, i cried coz of how much i resonate.
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im getting closer to this guy and we started getting intimate but when i get home, i get nauseous and cant breath properly for the next 2 days. the thing is, i do like him and im extremely comfortable with him. i dont know what im afraid of. it messes with my sleep and im so worried that its gonna make me not enjoy this special thing with him because of my anxiety. as i watched this, i cried coz of how much i resonate.
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Charles
If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
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If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
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Lunar
I cant really open up to my girlfriend about my anxiety-
Its that bad
I dont push her away I try to keep in contact all the time to ease the anxiety-
And I unfortunately cant get help by anyone else than just waiting for her to reply.
She helps me out more than she thinks and if I was alone I would be even more depressed than I am now-
But yet. this helped a bit
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I cant really open up to my girlfriend about my anxiety-
Its that bad
I dont push her away I try to keep in contact all the time to ease the anxiety-
And I unfortunately cant get help by anyone else than just waiting for her to reply.
She helps me out more than she thinks and if I was alone I would be even more depressed than I am now-
But yet. this helped a bit
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FamTheEvilCat
My Anxiety also ruins my growth in so many aspects of my life. I had a bad experience in schools and tuitions and now I avoid them. My parents did many arrangements but I still just can't focus. Anxiety really. Can be a life breaking Mental illness. Specially when you have habits of procrastination.
Could you please, make a video on how to overcome this?
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My Anxiety also ruins my growth in so many aspects of my life. I had a bad experience in schools and tuitions and now I avoid them. My parents did many arrangements but I still just can't focus. Anxiety really. Can be a life breaking Mental illness. Specially when you have habits of procrastination.
Could you please, make a video on how to overcome this?
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Glockenspheal
I feel I'm overly dependant, it's been some time since I've been on a relationship, but everything in this video speaks to me in a deeper level than usual. I've made some improvements ever since I first noticed how co-dependant I was, and I encourage anyone reading to seek help, it is a hard and long road ahead, but you are not alone, and you can do this.
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I feel I'm overly dependant, it's been some time since I've been on a relationship, but everything in this video speaks to me in a deeper level than usual. I've made some improvements ever since I first noticed how co-dependant I was, and I encourage anyone reading to seek help, it is a hard and long road ahead, but you are not alone, and you can do this.
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Gothic
I get really bad intrusive thoughts while snuggled up to my boyfriend. He's the best and never causes me stress, but my intrusive thoughts make me think I'm not in love anymore and make me question everything, it gives me a sick feeling to my stomach. I know I love him, on good days the love shows but now that I've had anxiety come back it's bad.
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I get really bad intrusive thoughts while snuggled up to my boyfriend. He's the best and never causes me stress, but my intrusive thoughts make me think I'm not in love anymore and make me question everything, it gives me a sick feeling to my stomach. I know I love him, on good days the love shows but now that I've had anxiety come back it's bad.
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XXXTSUKUYOMI
My exgirlfriend was a big support until she couldn't take it anymore. So in the end I lost her due to my anxiety and depression. Where I stand now is in constant battling with my negative thoughts fighting for a will to live on. Its very difficult. I just want to feel better. I miss you and love you Poppy. I'm trying to hold on for you.
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My exgirlfriend was a big support until she couldn't take it anymore. So in the end I lost her due to my anxiety and depression. Where I stand now is in constant battling with my negative thoughts fighting for a will to live on. Its very difficult. I just want to feel better. I miss you and love you Poppy. I'm trying to hold on for you.
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Joelle
Hey can I ask you something. if you send a message to someone and he didn't answer and you know that he have seen it but he is avoiding it do you feel bad the whole day and keep thinking if you said something bad or what did you do wrong.
I really want to know because That happens to me all the time and I can't shake this feeling of
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Hey can I ask you something. if you send a message to someone and he didn't answer and you know that he have seen it but he is avoiding it do you feel bad the whole day and keep thinking if you said something bad or what did you do wrong.
I really want to know because That happens to me all the time and I can't shake this feeling of
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slenderbro
My anxiety is making loose my lover and changing him in a way like he could be a puppet. This video is something I relate to a lot and I do need help I just dont how I could. I wanna see a therapist, I wanna open up to my boyfriend but Im just to scared to do so. How can I do better and for not only me but for my boyfriend? 3: 53
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My anxiety is making loose my lover and changing him in a way like he could be a puppet. This video is something I relate to a lot and I do need help I just dont how I could. I wanna see a therapist, I wanna open up to my boyfriend but Im just to scared to do so. How can I do better and for not only me but for my boyfriend? 3: 53
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BadJay
My anxiety was so bad that i didn't even got to school that much and i didn't do my work and I became socially isolated i started takin therapy with the psychologist of the school but I haven't had a friend in years and i can only talk to people true text or writing I still can't talk to people like I used to
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My anxiety was so bad that i didn't even got to school that much and i didn't do my work and I became socially isolated i started takin therapy with the psychologist of the school but I haven't had a friend in years and i can only talk to people true text or writing I still can't talk to people like I used to
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BadgerQueen
My anxiety is making me overthink things a LOT, and I just feel really overwhelmed all of the time. I dont know how to talk to or approach my partner with my issues, so this video helped a bunch! (Also I really like the videos you make! It really helps me re-adjust my life and recognize my problems! )
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My anxiety is making me overthink things a LOT, and I just feel really overwhelmed all of the time. I dont know how to talk to or approach my partner with my issues, so this video helped a bunch! (Also I really like the videos you make! It really helps me re-adjust my life and recognize my problems! )
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Shaniece
Watching this video actually made me find out how deep my anxiety actually is. It's like my first time dating and I keep on overthinking everything. Like how they won't love me sooner or later, or how I love them more. knowing that I'm not the only one really helped. So, thank you for that.
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Watching this video actually made me find out how deep my anxiety actually is. It's like my first time dating and I keep on overthinking everything. Like how they won't love me sooner or later, or how I love them more. knowing that I'm not the only one really helped. So, thank you for that.
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