5 Things People Whove Been Mentally Abused Do
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Frances
My ex wife after a five years of toxic marriage, one day faked a beating (she made it by herself) and here in italy i got arrested for two years and four months, spent both in prison and on house arrest. Now my 7 yo daughter is living and raised by her. Nobody believes me and im scared af that my daughter will hate me or becoming like my ex wife (she is repulsed by the male figure. By now im free since 4 mounths and i have to contact a lawyer for my father rights but im in a sort of comfort zone, just waiting for my depression go away, i have PTS disorder and i am scared that my daughter may see me like a bad person. I am scared about the law, i feel empty and angry. I was a good father and now i dont trust her anymore, i think she can hurt (mentally and physically) my daughter, and in prison someone told me that she can fake a beating another time but on my child, and point the finger against me again. I think about suicide at least 5 days a week, after my mother died of cancer im all alone in this situation, living in the house of my father ( he is a narcissitic person and doesnt believe me about the story) so i dont know what to do. I cant kill my self I love my daugter so much but its like she is on another planet or i feel like trapped in a bubble in the middle of nowhere. Sorry for my english btw, and any advice, tips will be good. I hate myself for letting her abuse me. Im a dumb, five years and never noticed she was like a serial killer, or a sociopath behind a facade. Now everything is crystal clear, i was gaslighted all the time. I miss my daughter so much that sometimes i wonder if this is the hell or even just a nightmare.
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My ex wife after a five years of toxic marriage, one day faked a beating (she made it by herself) and here in italy i got arrested for two years and four months, spent both in prison and on house arrest. Now my 7 yo daughter is living and raised by her. Nobody believes me and im scared af that my daughter will hate me or becoming like my ex wife (she is repulsed by the male figure. By now im free since 4 mounths and i have to contact a lawyer for my father rights but im in a sort of comfort zone, just waiting for my depression go away, i have PTS disorder and i am scared that my daughter may see me like a bad person. I am scared about the law, i feel empty and angry. I was a good father and now i dont trust her anymore, i think she can hurt (mentally and physically) my daughter, and in prison someone told me that she can fake a beating another time but on my child, and point the finger against me again. I think about suicide at least 5 days a week, after my mother died of cancer im all alone in this situation, living in the house of my father ( he is a narcissitic person and doesnt believe me about the story) so i dont know what to do. I cant kill my self I love my daugter so much but its like she is on another planet or i feel like trapped in a bubble in the middle of nowhere. Sorry for my english btw, and any advice, tips will be good. I hate myself for letting her abuse me. Im a dumb, five years and never noticed she was like a serial killer, or a sociopath behind a facade. Now everything is crystal clear, i was gaslighted all the time. I miss my daughter so much that sometimes i wonder if this is the hell or even just a nightmare.
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Yuri
Thank the heavens for my best friend. She's so patient and supportive despite the endless times I've called her just to ask her if I'm gonna be okay or not. I never really got the you're good at this, believe in yourself kind of thing from my late parents. It's only my best friend who kept on telling me those things. Encouraging me. When my parents died and my half-brother (who broke away from our dad because of how awful our dad was) came to become my legal guardian, he's so confused as to why I barely speak up unless someone orders me to. As to why I always stay away from crowds. As to why I suck at making friends (it's my best friend who first made the first move with the hi's and hello's when we first met. As to why I refuse to let my ideas or everything else. When I told him everything. from the harsh words to the endless spanking to the breaking of my favorite childhood toys to the unjust slapping, he simply told me to forgive our late dad and just move on.
Forgive? Pfft. How can I? He hurt me. Our dad hurt me. And my late mom did nothing but turn a blind eye towards everything. I've hated them ever since. Even after their lives came to an end. I still hate them. I always smile at everyone, but I always cry whenever I'm alone. The nasty part? THEY'RE BOTH TOTAL ANGELS TO EVERYONE UNRELATED TO US. SMILING. HELPING. LAUGHING. But to me? THEY'RE TOTAL HELLISH SPAWNS. HOLLERING. BEATING. SLAPPING. CURSING. All of it. All of it. My best friend knows, and she's been my personal psychiatrist ever since, as I am to her.
Love you, Jennica. You're the best non biological sister that I could ever ask for.
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Thank the heavens for my best friend. She's so patient and supportive despite the endless times I've called her just to ask her if I'm gonna be okay or not. I never really got the you're good at this, believe in yourself kind of thing from my late parents. It's only my best friend who kept on telling me those things. Encouraging me. When my parents died and my half-brother (who broke away from our dad because of how awful our dad was) came to become my legal guardian, he's so confused as to why I barely speak up unless someone orders me to. As to why I always stay away from crowds. As to why I suck at making friends (it's my best friend who first made the first move with the hi's and hello's when we first met. As to why I refuse to let my ideas or everything else. When I told him everything. from the harsh words to the endless spanking to the breaking of my favorite childhood toys to the unjust slapping, he simply told me to forgive our late dad and just move on.
Forgive? Pfft. How can I? He hurt me. Our dad hurt me. And my late mom did nothing but turn a blind eye towards everything. I've hated them ever since. Even after their lives came to an end. I still hate them. I always smile at everyone, but I always cry whenever I'm alone. The nasty part? THEY'RE BOTH TOTAL ANGELS TO EVERYONE UNRELATED TO US. SMILING. HELPING. LAUGHING. But to me? THEY'RE TOTAL HELLISH SPAWNS. HOLLERING. BEATING. SLAPPING. CURSING. All of it. All of it. My best friend knows, and she's been my personal psychiatrist ever since, as I am to her.
Love you, Jennica. You're the best non biological sister that I could ever ask for.
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Rose
This explains a lot to me. Example is actually a work relationship. My work for years been nothing but abusive and manipulative. So when I get this new job, despite how much I try to tell myself Its a new life, a new leaf its not easy and I can see that now. I lost my name badge on my second day of work. I honestly thought I was going to get yelled at and told how much money it cost to make them and how I was wasting money for the company. I honestly was terrified to go up to my new boss to ask for a new name tag. I remember walking in, my anxiety was high and I honestly thought I was going to get let go. I told him I lostmy name. tag. Im sorry I really am! I dont know what happened! I swore I thought I put it in my bag but its not there! He told me its ok and asked if I seriously thought I was in trouble for loosing a name tag. I told him yes and thought I was going to get fired. His face basically read nothing but sad.
Abuse on this level happens everywhere and every day. Some of us unfortunately go though more of it. But no matter how much or where it comes from, its still a problem we all face in todays world.
As a survivor of it myself, Iv seen the ugly but also the good. Just know out there, there is good people. Even though its hard and almost impossible to even believe, your not alone and I hope that this video and message helps those that are struggling too. There is hope and there is love out there.
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This explains a lot to me. Example is actually a work relationship. My work for years been nothing but abusive and manipulative. So when I get this new job, despite how much I try to tell myself Its a new life, a new leaf its not easy and I can see that now. I lost my name badge on my second day of work. I honestly thought I was going to get yelled at and told how much money it cost to make them and how I was wasting money for the company. I honestly was terrified to go up to my new boss to ask for a new name tag. I remember walking in, my anxiety was high and I honestly thought I was going to get let go. I told him I lostmy name. tag. Im sorry I really am! I dont know what happened! I swore I thought I put it in my bag but its not there! He told me its ok and asked if I seriously thought I was in trouble for loosing a name tag. I told him yes and thought I was going to get fired. His face basically read nothing but sad.
Abuse on this level happens everywhere and every day. Some of us unfortunately go though more of it. But no matter how much or where it comes from, its still a problem we all face in todays world.
As a survivor of it myself, Iv seen the ugly but also the good. Just know out there, there is good people. Even though its hard and almost impossible to even believe, your not alone and I hope that this video and message helps those that are struggling too. There is hope and there is love out there.
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Gabby
All points apply to me. No 5 still does happens all the time. I was lucky though that I have a friend now who fought tooth and nail to be my friend. I made their lives miserable in the beginning because I was just too broken to let people close to me. This person understands me now and I am thankful that they are my friend. I still have problems from my mental abuse, but with a lot of introspection and coming to a stand that some of the things that were done to me are not my fault and won't allow that to affect me anymore. I just come to terms that, the people that mentally abused me are either bad people or have been raised like that by their own parents, siblings or friends. I always try to see the other side of the mirror, the one looking and not the one looking back.
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All points apply to me. No 5 still does happens all the time. I was lucky though that I have a friend now who fought tooth and nail to be my friend. I made their lives miserable in the beginning because I was just too broken to let people close to me. This person understands me now and I am thankful that they are my friend. I still have problems from my mental abuse, but with a lot of introspection and coming to a stand that some of the things that were done to me are not my fault and won't allow that to affect me anymore. I just come to terms that, the people that mentally abused me are either bad people or have been raised like that by their own parents, siblings or friends. I always try to see the other side of the mirror, the one looking and not the one looking back.
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Indrid
It is impossible for me to be mentally abused nor to ever mentally abuse someone. I deleted my social existence 8 August 2000 to assure I could never be hurt emotionally again. The video says the truth. I trust nobody, nor will I ever trust anybody again. But this is a self defense mechanism. If I only trust myself and never make friends again, this makes it impossible for me to ever be hurt again. I would have learned nothing from my treatment if I did nothing proactive to avoid a repeat of the events of 1999 to mid 2000. The rewards of being social are nowhere near the benefits and safety of social isolation. I have had no friends, nor a girlfriend, since 8 August 2000 at 18: 34 and have lived successfully without a social life. Why endanger myself again?
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It is impossible for me to be mentally abused nor to ever mentally abuse someone. I deleted my social existence 8 August 2000 to assure I could never be hurt emotionally again. The video says the truth. I trust nobody, nor will I ever trust anybody again. But this is a self defense mechanism. If I only trust myself and never make friends again, this makes it impossible for me to ever be hurt again. I would have learned nothing from my treatment if I did nothing proactive to avoid a repeat of the events of 1999 to mid 2000. The rewards of being social are nowhere near the benefits and safety of social isolation. I have had no friends, nor a girlfriend, since 8 August 2000 at 18: 34 and have lived successfully without a social life. Why endanger myself again?
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education
Some of my experiences
1. Im constantly apologizing
2. I need constantly reassurance and validation
3. If I do something wrong I beg people to get mad at me
4. I dont question if others get toxic, I question myself and apologizing for every little thing that I might see as toxic-
5. Say Im okey, when I finally do say how I feel Ill feel guilty and say it was a joke-
6. Im a ball of rage and anxiety-
7. I put everyone over myself
8. Im always scared people hate me but feel selfish for thinking people care enough to have such strong feelings towards me-
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Some of my experiences
1. Im constantly apologizing
2. I need constantly reassurance and validation
3. If I do something wrong I beg people to get mad at me
4. I dont question if others get toxic, I question myself and apologizing for every little thing that I might see as toxic-
5. Say Im okey, when I finally do say how I feel Ill feel guilty and say it was a joke-
6. Im a ball of rage and anxiety-
7. I put everyone over myself
8. Im always scared people hate me but feel selfish for thinking people care enough to have such strong feelings towards me-
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Andy
Number four is the hardest one I have to see constantly. She was severely abused in a previous relationship and now completely melts down over something as simple as misplacing something in the kitchen. I've spent too much time trying to comfort the kids when she starts screaming and breaking things and although she always explains it later, I don't know how to stop her when she gets this way. I worry for her mental well being but I don't want the little ones thinking that behavior is normal. The toxicity she endured is being taken out on us now. What can I do?
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Number four is the hardest one I have to see constantly. She was severely abused in a previous relationship and now completely melts down over something as simple as misplacing something in the kitchen. I've spent too much time trying to comfort the kids when she starts screaming and breaking things and although she always explains it later, I don't know how to stop her when she gets this way. I worry for her mental well being but I don't want the little ones thinking that behavior is normal. The toxicity she endured is being taken out on us now. What can I do?
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UNFAIR
The thing is my dad hid me from the world he wanted me to not act like myself become a preppy teacher pet even though I was not. I thought I had to please him and was stripped away from people I could've became friends and ended up alone and my older brother is the same he just thinks he's not alone are mom is not bad to talk to but in a subject about my father and 1 tiny things is something she don't like she starts stopping trying to help and deny help or just be stuck so now I need people to talk to instead someone who would manipulate me for anything
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The thing is my dad hid me from the world he wanted me to not act like myself become a preppy teacher pet even though I was not. I thought I had to please him and was stripped away from people I could've became friends and ended up alone and my older brother is the same he just thinks he's not alone are mom is not bad to talk to but in a subject about my father and 1 tiny things is something she don't like she starts stopping trying to help and deny help or just be stuck so now I need people to talk to instead someone who would manipulate me for anything
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Alexandra
Don't assume these are only in personal relationships. I worked in a male dominated field for 30 years, being the only woman in the room regularly. A majority of my colleagues would ignore when other men degraded me in meetings, in emails, etc. That abuse was devastating and took years to figure out, because you keep telling yourself you have to work harder. If you show all these signs due to workplace mental abuse, get out. No amount of money is worth being someone's punching bag.
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Don't assume these are only in personal relationships. I worked in a male dominated field for 30 years, being the only woman in the room regularly. A majority of my colleagues would ignore when other men degraded me in meetings, in emails, etc. That abuse was devastating and took years to figure out, because you keep telling yourself you have to work harder. If you show all these signs due to workplace mental abuse, get out. No amount of money is worth being someone's punching bag.
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Mike
Growing up with an uncaring brutal stepfather, a completely absent father and a very toxic narcissist mother I can identify with each and every one of these symptoms and a thousand other bits of emotional scarring. It's taken a ton of work to rid myself of some of them, but if I can live another 66 years and continue to diligently work at getting better I think I can get halfway there.
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Growing up with an uncaring brutal stepfather, a completely absent father and a very toxic narcissist mother I can identify with each and every one of these symptoms and a thousand other bits of emotional scarring. It's taken a ton of work to rid myself of some of them, but if I can live another 66 years and continue to diligently work at getting better I think I can get halfway there.
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Mip
3 is weird for me, those remarks don't actually bother me at all, I guess I don't care what people have to say or think about me, I only find issue from people when they do something deeply and explicitly wrong, make fun of my if you want I couldn't care less, in school this was because I was emotionally numb, nowadays it's because I'm over it.
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3 is weird for me, those remarks don't actually bother me at all, I guess I don't care what people have to say or think about me, I only find issue from people when they do something deeply and explicitly wrong, make fun of my if you want I couldn't care less, in school this was because I was emotionally numb, nowadays it's because I'm over it.
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sirdyy
i did a lot of these today without realizing it. especially #4, i brought a stuffed animal i just got to school just because i wanted to cuddle it when i sleep in class and whenever someone took it to hold it and didnt give it back i got mad and i started crying. it really wasn't a big deal but it still made me upset.
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i did a lot of these today without realizing it. especially #4, i brought a stuffed animal i just got to school just because i wanted to cuddle it when i sleep in class and whenever someone took it to hold it and didnt give it back i got mad and i started crying. it really wasn't a big deal but it still made me upset.
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Callie
I felt every one of these. My father was a narcissist and found fault with almost everything I did. What's worse is: because that's what's familiar to me, I keep ending up in abusive friendships and relationships. I don't even know what a healthy relationship looks like, and I don't know if I could function in one.
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I felt every one of these. My father was a narcissist and found fault with almost everything I did. What's worse is: because that's what's familiar to me, I keep ending up in abusive friendships and relationships. I don't even know what a healthy relationship looks like, and I don't know if I could function in one.
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Playboy
I'm mentally abusing y'all as GOD the most interesting thing is can't get enough of the truth. Vulnerable is the the problem of this one young and old people's who are aware that abused why act like kids and retardation. Saying the same things everyday. Limit on vocabulary
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I'm mentally abusing y'all as GOD the most interesting thing is can't get enough of the truth. Vulnerable is the the problem of this one young and old people's who are aware that abused why act like kids and retardation. Saying the same things everyday. Limit on vocabulary
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Gecko
I: Always say sorry, basically abuse my own face over stress (beating it against the wall, scratching it, Can't sleep, have ADHD, make up stories in my head to mentally hurt me, create horrific drawings, get yelled at by the teacher. I don't know what's wrong. ..
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I: Always say sorry, basically abuse my own face over stress (beating it against the wall, scratching it, Can't sleep, have ADHD, make up stories in my head to mentally hurt me, create horrific drawings, get yelled at by the teacher. I don't know what's wrong. ..
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womp
if you look for the positives in everything there can never be any negatives. my life has been shitty, yeah, I'll admit that. but I'm not going to let other people and my past change how I feel or how I act. every day is a learning experience, even the bad ones.
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if you look for the positives in everything there can never be any negatives. my life has been shitty, yeah, I'll admit that. but I'm not going to let other people and my past change how I feel or how I act. every day is a learning experience, even the bad ones.
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YuJee! n
I just realized, when I was talking with my sister, I told her since 1st grade I get beat up whenever I get low grades. She said she feels sorry for me and says I don't deserve that, but my response was It was my fault, I should've studied harder.
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I just realized, when I was talking with my sister, I told her since 1st grade I get beat up whenever I get low grades. She said she feels sorry for me and says I don't deserve that, but my response was It was my fault, I should've studied harder.
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GweenTea
the spilled drink scene actually hits home for me, if I spilled my drink my mom would get absolutely enraged and yell at me, so when I spill drinks I tend to get really upset and frustrated and my boyfriend has to talk me down bc I'm overreacting
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the spilled drink scene actually hits home for me, if I spilled my drink my mom would get absolutely enraged and yell at me, so when I spill drinks I tend to get really upset and frustrated and my boyfriend has to talk me down bc I'm overreacting
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education
My dad abused me, he hurt my mom and she still has a spot on her head where he ripped a chunk of her hair out. As soon as she got a nightshift job at the hospital he started abusing me, I couldn't escape. It felt like a maze that never-ended
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My dad abused me, he hurt my mom and she still has a spot on her head where he ripped a chunk of her hair out. As soon as she got a nightshift job at the hospital he started abusing me, I couldn't escape. It felt like a maze that never-ended
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education
Definitely can relate. My dad was an abuser and crazy as it seems I married an abusive woman. I guess it familiar and its what you expect. If only a younger me had this information to make wiser choices. Thanks for sharing this wisdom.
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Definitely can relate. My dad was an abuser and crazy as it seems I married an abusive woman. I guess it familiar and its what you expect. If only a younger me had this information to make wiser choices. Thanks for sharing this wisdom.
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Psych2Go
We hope this video create awareness and voice the signs on mentally abused. The topic doesn't get talked enough. Please help us share this video to get the message out there moreComment if you have any encouragement messages to share
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We hope this video create awareness and voice the signs on mentally abused. The topic doesn't get talked enough. Please help us share this video to get the message out there moreComment if you have any encouragement messages to share
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Jesse
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship and am struggling to love myself, and convince myself that I will find someone who loves me and cares about me, but all these comments help so much. We can get through this together.
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I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship and am struggling to love myself, and convince myself that I will find someone who loves me and cares about me, but all these comments help so much. We can get through this together.
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Athene
Made to be the odd one.
Know all the signs, came out of it, now i have to go through this again thanks to a toxic at work.
She wants me to go but if i go she only will slowly kill someone else just like she does with me.
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Made to be the odd one.
Know all the signs, came out of it, now i have to go through this again thanks to a toxic at work.
She wants me to go but if i go she only will slowly kill someone else just like she does with me.
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Gothginger
Shout out to mom for losing her mind and calling me horrible names everytime I spilled or dropped something. In my adult life, I have a panic attack everytime it happens and say things about myself she used to say to me.
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Shout out to mom for losing her mind and calling me horrible names everytime I spilled or dropped something. In my adult life, I have a panic attack everytime it happens and say things about myself she used to say to me.
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adrienne
About women who are not attractive enough: It's not long before any woman with at least a normal general IQ starts to notice that GUY'S DONT CARE ABOUT THAT GODDESS TAYLOR SWIFT no matter how good she looks either.
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About women who are not attractive enough: It's not long before any woman with at least a normal general IQ starts to notice that GUY'S DONT CARE ABOUT THAT GODDESS TAYLOR SWIFT no matter how good she looks either.
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