Signs It’s Time to Remove Toxic People & How To
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Date: 2024-02-10
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Zoleankico4267
I just ended a new friendship, before it could get too close. I know I have some toxic issues, and that’s part of why I prefer to not get into new close relationships.
But I did it again! We were talking about politics, (because at our age, and this time in history, all the problems seem to lead there. Well I snickered at something she said.
She said, you laughed at me, and you did it before, when I had to go out in the cold. I honestly don’t remember laughing about the cold, but I was quickly made aware, and told, if we’re going to be friends, you have to respect my choices! I agreed and apologized profusely! Over the next 2 days other things transpired, and the guilt I was feeling, from laughing at her, and not answering her call, (that she pointed out, was so overwhelming; as well as the anger from just doing her bidding, that I caused a tiny blemish on my ear, to become a full on staph infection! The relentless, ruminating thoughts, and disruption of sleep, contributed to rage, that was so intense at one point, that I called her and told her that I just couldn’t be friends! It’s too much! (But I was really freaking out! Like I NEEDED HER TO HEAR ME!
I can barely stand talking on the phone, and she doesn’t text. I don’t have time to sit on the phone for two hours, listening to someone that I disagree with almost EVERYTHING THEY SAY! Now I see her at work, and she looks at me like she feels sorry for me.
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I just ended a new friendship, before it could get too close. I know I have some toxic issues, and that’s part of why I prefer to not get into new close relationships.
But I did it again! We were talking about politics, (because at our age, and this time in history, all the problems seem to lead there. Well I snickered at something she said.
She said, you laughed at me, and you did it before, when I had to go out in the cold. I honestly don’t remember laughing about the cold, but I was quickly made aware, and told, if we’re going to be friends, you have to respect my choices! I agreed and apologized profusely! Over the next 2 days other things transpired, and the guilt I was feeling, from laughing at her, and not answering her call, (that she pointed out, was so overwhelming; as well as the anger from just doing her bidding, that I caused a tiny blemish on my ear, to become a full on staph infection! The relentless, ruminating thoughts, and disruption of sleep, contributed to rage, that was so intense at one point, that I called her and told her that I just couldn’t be friends! It’s too much! (But I was really freaking out! Like I NEEDED HER TO HEAR ME!
I can barely stand talking on the phone, and she doesn’t text. I don’t have time to sit on the phone for two hours, listening to someone that I disagree with almost EVERYTHING THEY SAY! Now I see her at work, and she looks at me like she feels sorry for me.
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RegularInvader
My sister's been so toxic to the point where I had to move back into my parents' house to get away from her because she called constantly berated me for every little thing that wasn't even a big deal to begin. She never respected my own boundaries and practically took over the house the way she wanted it and not once considered how unfair it made me feel. She never cared for the most part when she knew I had a few more college semesters to go (after switching majors) and that it was more challenging when I got hired at my local Stater Bros. Staying away from her has practically made me happy because I accomplished all sorts of positve moments that obviously would never have happened if I still lived with her. I practically don't even speak to her at this point but I occasionally see her during family gatherings. Even during those moments I stay away from her because there's nothing for us to talk about. My mom keeps hinting every now and then that we should do a group thing like old time sakes but I really don't see that happening because she's made me feel broken with her toxic behavior and acts like she didn't do anything. I normally feel like my mom doesn't want to respect the reality that siblings don't have to stay close just because we're in the same family and that she doesn't want to admit that I've been doing a lot better by staying away from her.
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My sister's been so toxic to the point where I had to move back into my parents' house to get away from her because she called constantly berated me for every little thing that wasn't even a big deal to begin. She never respected my own boundaries and practically took over the house the way she wanted it and not once considered how unfair it made me feel. She never cared for the most part when she knew I had a few more college semesters to go (after switching majors) and that it was more challenging when I got hired at my local Stater Bros. Staying away from her has practically made me happy because I accomplished all sorts of positve moments that obviously would never have happened if I still lived with her. I practically don't even speak to her at this point but I occasionally see her during family gatherings. Even during those moments I stay away from her because there's nothing for us to talk about. My mom keeps hinting every now and then that we should do a group thing like old time sakes but I really don't see that happening because she's made me feel broken with her toxic behavior and acts like she didn't do anything. I normally feel like my mom doesn't want to respect the reality that siblings don't have to stay close just because we're in the same family and that she doesn't want to admit that I've been doing a lot better by staying away from her.
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eeveescrown
i had a toxic friend when i was still in school, college actually. i and other people had told her multiple times that what she did and how she acted wasn’t okay. she was mean, lying & manipulative. i even told my mentor. i really wanted to leave but it was hard. so when i graduated i literally just kept ghosting her. she didn’t get the memo. so i blocked her. never heard from her again and i know this might not be the right way to do it but it seemed like the only option left. but as soon as i left i literally felt so good that i don’t have contact with her anymore
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i had a toxic friend when i was still in school, college actually. i and other people had told her multiple times that what she did and how she acted wasn’t okay. she was mean, lying & manipulative. i even told my mentor. i really wanted to leave but it was hard. so when i graduated i literally just kept ghosting her. she didn’t get the memo. so i blocked her. never heard from her again and i know this might not be the right way to do it but it seemed like the only option left. but as soon as i left i literally felt so good that i don’t have contact with her anymore
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songbirdrebel5895
When the toxic person are family members who are with you 24/7, boundary setting and walking away are a lot easier said than done. Especially when you're feeling isolated/trapped and have little to no choice/control over your own life. For those who feel like completely resigning to the fate handed to you. I know it may seem impossible to keep your head above water when it's easier to just give up and allow yourself to sink, but please don't give up on yourself and hang in there. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel.
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When the toxic person are family members who are with you 24/7, boundary setting and walking away are a lot easier said than done. Especially when you're feeling isolated/trapped and have little to no choice/control over your own life. For those who feel like completely resigning to the fate handed to you. I know it may seem impossible to keep your head above water when it's easier to just give up and allow yourself to sink, but please don't give up on yourself and hang in there. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel.
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tai3461
How about this sort of stonewalling:
Iplayed a game with a friend and while playing he usually talk a lot, and today he didnt. I asked why and he was just blocking off by saying: what should I have said
Aber aber my answer he made a stufpid and hurting sentence, so i blocked him out and left him alone. My body/feelings couldnt explain why, but had to shut down. It Always feels like having to right myself. Whatever. I hope you do well
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How about this sort of stonewalling:
Iplayed a game with a friend and while playing he usually talk a lot, and today he didnt. I asked why and he was just blocking off by saying: what should I have said
Aber aber my answer he made a stufpid and hurting sentence, so i blocked him out and left him alone. My body/feelings couldnt explain why, but had to shut down. It Always feels like having to right myself. Whatever. I hope you do well
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JohnnyWaow
Signs someone is toxic:
0: 26 - What is a toxic person
0: 55 - Walking on eggshells.
1: 43 - Stonewalling.
2: 41 - Inconsistency.
3: 19 - You feel guilty.
3: 55 - Problems but no solutions.
What to do about it:
5: 20 - Talk to them about your concerns.
5: 49 - Limit your time around them.
6: 20 - Set boundaries.
7: 15 - Walk away.
That's all. Thank you psych2go and stay safe everyone.
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Signs someone is toxic:
0: 26 - What is a toxic person
0: 55 - Walking on eggshells.
1: 43 - Stonewalling.
2: 41 - Inconsistency.
3: 19 - You feel guilty.
3: 55 - Problems but no solutions.
What to do about it:
5: 20 - Talk to them about your concerns.
5: 49 - Limit your time around them.
6: 20 - Set boundaries.
7: 15 - Walk away.
That's all. Thank you psych2go and stay safe everyone.
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deltapk2343
It's kinda problem if it's your sibling, sometimes parents and grandparents you can't talk to them, because they will never admit their fault. In this family have almost never been said those words: , I'm sorry
So i had to learn it on my own to admit my fault And to say ' I'm sorry', so i can be better, but i will never say it to them, because they take it as a weakness and use it against you
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It's kinda problem if it's your sibling, sometimes parents and grandparents you can't talk to them, because they will never admit their fault. In this family have almost never been said those words: , I'm sorry
So i had to learn it on my own to admit my fault And to say ' I'm sorry', so i can be better, but i will never say it to them, because they take it as a weakness and use it against you
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OracleNerdRichie
I’ve had this experience before. There was one person we knew, who acted like they cared about us, but since we disconnected from them, they were nothing but vengeful and spiteful and kept stalking us.
I’m honestly glad we left that person behind. My life has never felt better. Toxic people need help to adjust their behavior, but there are some that don’t, and won’t, get it.
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I’ve had this experience before. There was one person we knew, who acted like they cared about us, but since we disconnected from them, they were nothing but vengeful and spiteful and kept stalking us.
I’m honestly glad we left that person behind. My life has never felt better. Toxic people need help to adjust their behavior, but there are some that don’t, and won’t, get it.
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psych2go
I'm glad I only see the toxic people in my life at holidays and birthdays, and that's becoming just a phone call or a text as the years go on. I'm glad I recognized all the toxic habits I picked up from them and didn't pass it to my son the way my family did to me. I used to stay toxic though, so much so that I think Brittany wrote a song for me.
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I'm glad I only see the toxic people in my life at holidays and birthdays, and that's becoming just a phone call or a text as the years go on. I'm glad I recognized all the toxic habits I picked up from them and didn't pass it to my son the way my family did to me. I used to stay toxic though, so much so that I think Brittany wrote a song for me.
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jentheaxolotl
What if the person doesn’t know they’re being toxic and genuinely thinks you’re good friends Breaking off that friendship might make it seem like you’re ending it for no reason, or blowing it out off proportion. Or if you genuinely think theyre a good person but they just don’t realize they’re toxic
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What if the person doesn’t know they’re being toxic and genuinely thinks you’re good friends Breaking off that friendship might make it seem like you’re ending it for no reason, or blowing it out off proportion. Or if you genuinely think theyre a good person but they just don’t realize they’re toxic
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Amei_Alansgf
I have a really toxic bff and I try to talk to her but she keeps lying saying she likes me and them I still keep hearing that she actually gossips of how much she hates me and I don't know what to do she's giving me mad silent treatment making me feel bad for her problems and talks only to her new bff
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I have a really toxic bff and I try to talk to her but she keeps lying saying she likes me and them I still keep hearing that she actually gossips of how much she hates me and I don't know what to do she's giving me mad silent treatment making me feel bad for her problems and talks only to her new bff
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Aleafplayz
One of my classmates has all these qualities. It's about time i stop talking to him. He doesn't care about what happens to me. He just uses me to make himself look superior. Once i told the teacher, and he doubled using me.
I've made my decision. I'm gonna stop being the support in his life.
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One of my classmates has all these qualities. It's about time i stop talking to him. He doesn't care about what happens to me. He just uses me to make himself look superior. Once i told the teacher, and he doubled using me.
I've made my decision. I'm gonna stop being the support in his life.
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zouipl6181
Wait. Having to control mood of other person.
I mean now that you say it b-but.
I learned to look out for it since I remember. I.
Parents can be nervous, so keeping their mood in mind is just preventing them from lashing out-. Not causing problems.
I don't know.
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Wait. Having to control mood of other person.
I mean now that you say it b-but.
I learned to look out for it since I remember. I.
Parents can be nervous, so keeping their mood in mind is just preventing them from lashing out-. Not causing problems.
I don't know.
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AyaKira15
I had a toxic friend stonewall me for years after an argument over FB.
He now wants to be friends again like nothing happened. Lol nope.
How about actually taking responsibility for throwing away our friendship of 13yrs and apologizing like you mean it.
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I had a toxic friend stonewall me for years after an argument over FB.
He now wants to be friends again like nothing happened. Lol nope.
How about actually taking responsibility for throwing away our friendship of 13yrs and apologizing like you mean it.
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lavendertease
After having to experience gaslighting, emotional manipulation, the constant complaining, the victim complex, etc, i walked away from my best friend of 20 years. What immediately came to my mind afterwards was Dr. King's quote free at last free at last
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After having to experience gaslighting, emotional manipulation, the constant complaining, the victim complex, etc, i walked away from my best friend of 20 years. What immediately came to my mind afterwards was Dr. King's quote free at last free at last
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Icebot7
I have a coworker (higher ranking job than me) who is very bossy and it feels toxic. She gave me a hard time about working overtime that my supervisor approved. She also called me at home and stressed the importance of something while I was off the clock.
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I have a coworker (higher ranking job than me) who is very bossy and it feels toxic. She gave me a hard time about working overtime that my supervisor approved. She also called me at home and stressed the importance of something while I was off the clock.
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psych2go
Ive been trying my best but its like i can still feel the toxic pain and i feel like giving up because everything i try they take it out on me and blame certain things on me and they avoid the situation by changing the subject and realizing how hurt i am
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Ive been trying my best but its like i can still feel the toxic pain and i feel like giving up because everything i try they take it out on me and blame certain things on me and they avoid the situation by changing the subject and realizing how hurt i am
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nataliapidduda8114
Hey psych2go. Don't take it as a callout, but do you know, that most of your viewers are either pseudointellectual loners, or sad teenage girls I am too, a pseudointellectual loner, I know I'm biased, but if you think about it, it's true
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Hey psych2go. Don't take it as a callout, but do you know, that most of your viewers are either pseudointellectual loners, or sad teenage girls I am too, a pseudointellectual loner, I know I'm biased, but if you think about it, it's true
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OLadyO
After many years of being in a toxic relationship, I found out tonight I'm escaping a very toxic relationship next week. I think they sense something because they have been love bombing me for a couple of weeks. I haven't been me for over 10 years.
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After many years of being in a toxic relationship, I found out tonight I'm escaping a very toxic relationship next week. I think they sense something because they have been love bombing me for a couple of weeks. I haven't been me for over 10 years.
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p3arl-luk1
Stonewalling is what my last friend did before cutting me off. They made it really confusing and hard for me to understand what was going on and this video helped give me some clarity of what might’ve been happening. Thanks psych!
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Stonewalling is what my last friend did before cutting me off. They made it really confusing and hard for me to understand what was going on and this video helped give me some clarity of what might’ve been happening. Thanks psych!
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