6 Ways to Get People to Respect You (Avoid Being Taken Advantage Of)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Chris
Oh, one more thought that has worked for me: I've politely but assertively sat down with them one on one by said 1) there's something important I'd like to ask you. It's critical to get their attention. 2) Literally ask them directly, Why do you (state the specific thing that makes you feel disrespected) to me? Resist saying anything else. They will invariably squirm but keep pressing until they give you an actual answer. This is the ONLY way to get them to truly realize how (what they keep doing) makes you feel and forces them to really take in it. This SHOULD make them uncomfortable and it is CRITICAL that they do. You'll likely feel awkward at 1st too but if you remain stong, it WILL make YOU feel better about yourself. This has worked for me almost every time. Doing this avoids carelessly tossing away friendships which are hard to find and unsually changes it for the better. Now if they keep disrespecting you, THEN walk away and have NO GUILT. Far more often, it WILL gain their repect. No matter what, YOU will gain confidence and that feels great!
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Oh, one more thought that has worked for me: I've politely but assertively sat down with them one on one by said 1) there's something important I'd like to ask you. It's critical to get their attention. 2) Literally ask them directly, Why do you (state the specific thing that makes you feel disrespected) to me? Resist saying anything else. They will invariably squirm but keep pressing until they give you an actual answer. This is the ONLY way to get them to truly realize how (what they keep doing) makes you feel and forces them to really take in it. This SHOULD make them uncomfortable and it is CRITICAL that they do. You'll likely feel awkward at 1st too but if you remain stong, it WILL make YOU feel better about yourself. This has worked for me almost every time. Doing this avoids carelessly tossing away friendships which are hard to find and unsually changes it for the better. Now if they keep disrespecting you, THEN walk away and have NO GUILT. Far more often, it WILL gain their repect. No matter what, YOU will gain confidence and that feels great!
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Cookies
dang, I do amost every single one of these things, but I still get taken advantage of.
essentially, I'm used as a sort of social lifejacket. I think it's because I have such a loud/confidennt presence most of the time, that people just sort of assume they can hang around me. This leads to people being clingy and overly sensitive and angry when I'm feeling tired or not my usual self, even if I don't even consider them a friend. And because highschool do be like that, a lot of people have social anxiety and hate being alone/being seen alone. So, this means that sometimes when I'm having a nice dandy conversation with my friends, people spawn out of nowhere and follow me around all the flipping time because they assume i got my crap together, and I seem approachable and friendly enough to be fine with anything. the only thing I don't do, and that is probably the reason why i have so many shadows, is that i dont set clear boundries with strangers. I do it with friends, just not random people.
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dang, I do amost every single one of these things, but I still get taken advantage of.
essentially, I'm used as a sort of social lifejacket. I think it's because I have such a loud/confidennt presence most of the time, that people just sort of assume they can hang around me. This leads to people being clingy and overly sensitive and angry when I'm feeling tired or not my usual self, even if I don't even consider them a friend. And because highschool do be like that, a lot of people have social anxiety and hate being alone/being seen alone. So, this means that sometimes when I'm having a nice dandy conversation with my friends, people spawn out of nowhere and follow me around all the flipping time because they assume i got my crap together, and I seem approachable and friendly enough to be fine with anything. the only thing I don't do, and that is probably the reason why i have so many shadows, is that i dont set clear boundries with strangers. I do it with friends, just not random people.
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Nomo
Listen being nice is often somebodys own definition that we are filtering by. Because they want you to BE CONTROLable focus on bein cool with people instead of nice. And know when to cut off interaction with peoole who arent compatable, not everybody out here in these streets is goin to require you to know them for multiple interactions if you simply aint feeling theur vibe thats reason enough yo remove yourself if they are having a lot of negative undertones. Because the reality is in front of the president they would know how to act so you hold them to that standard so long as you aint donling nothing to impose on them in any type of manner. And if they disrespected you in the past DO NOT MAKE as much time for them, have would now be in the zone to have to EARN your time them back from that point on if it was blatant.
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Listen being nice is often somebodys own definition that we are filtering by. Because they want you to BE CONTROLable focus on bein cool with people instead of nice. And know when to cut off interaction with peoole who arent compatable, not everybody out here in these streets is goin to require you to know them for multiple interactions if you simply aint feeling theur vibe thats reason enough yo remove yourself if they are having a lot of negative undertones. Because the reality is in front of the president they would know how to act so you hold them to that standard so long as you aint donling nothing to impose on them in any type of manner. And if they disrespected you in the past DO NOT MAKE as much time for them, have would now be in the zone to have to EARN your time them back from that point on if it was blatant.
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Person
Y'know I often feel too much for someone like the example of being overly nice. Regardless of gender or racial, I am just a human being. Right now I'm going through the struggle of looking for the work that I'm interested. But the rejections letters just keep piling up. I wonder what makes the other candidate better than me. It's just that, when you see someone being accepted and you're not. It's pretty hurtful. Even so, talk about the circumstance where the first person take the first chance and got the most error on their side. The next person sees and understand what's going on and learn from it. From my perspective, when someone favors the second person and forget the first one. Then the situation becomes unfair.
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Y'know I often feel too much for someone like the example of being overly nice. Regardless of gender or racial, I am just a human being. Right now I'm going through the struggle of looking for the work that I'm interested. But the rejections letters just keep piling up. I wonder what makes the other candidate better than me. It's just that, when you see someone being accepted and you're not. It's pretty hurtful. Even so, talk about the circumstance where the first person take the first chance and got the most error on their side. The next person sees and understand what's going on and learn from it. From my perspective, when someone favors the second person and forget the first one. Then the situation becomes unfair.
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Masum
While staying at hostle with two roommate, I thought of their comfort and never spoke about mine. And they started taking over phone the whole day and night, keeping the light on the whole night and never did room cleaning. I have never spoke to them about it and they took advantages all the time. But during my exams, I told them once to be quite and the next moment they started talking like that they sacrificed a lot for me and now they cant even take breath for me. They told everyone that I am abusing them. But luckily everybody knew that what they used to do in the room so many of them supported me. I immediately changed my room and learned a lesson for lifetime. I think its good to be able to say no.
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While staying at hostle with two roommate, I thought of their comfort and never spoke about mine. And they started taking over phone the whole day and night, keeping the light on the whole night and never did room cleaning. I have never spoke to them about it and they took advantages all the time. But during my exams, I told them once to be quite and the next moment they started talking like that they sacrificed a lot for me and now they cant even take breath for me. They told everyone that I am abusing them. But luckily everybody knew that what they used to do in the room so many of them supported me. I immediately changed my room and learned a lesson for lifetime. I think its good to be able to say no.
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Rhonda
I'm learning to respect myself by saying, No, but it is hard not to feel guilty for asserting myself. I usually get punished by those that I say no to. They pout, stop talking or ask me whats wrong or say that I have change. Change is the point. Too often I have let people steer me into doing what they want no matter how tired, inconvenient or manipulative that they are. My family has gotten use to me going along to get along but they have no problem saying no even if they've just received assistance from me.
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I'm learning to respect myself by saying, No, but it is hard not to feel guilty for asserting myself. I usually get punished by those that I say no to. They pout, stop talking or ask me whats wrong or say that I have change. Change is the point. Too often I have let people steer me into doing what they want no matter how tired, inconvenient or manipulative that they are. My family has gotten use to me going along to get along but they have no problem saying no even if they've just received assistance from me.
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Loreal
I hear a lot of people in public say Im sorry for the simplest nonsensical things like crossing my path, didnt get my name right, etc. These are the kind of things that are red flags to me about the other person. Personally, Ive learned to deal with my boundary issues as Ive matured. Its become a lot easier once I started saying no, no, thank you, etc. You are never required to give an explanation. You can if you want, but its not necessary. Im still progressing and feel better than ever.
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I hear a lot of people in public say Im sorry for the simplest nonsensical things like crossing my path, didnt get my name right, etc. These are the kind of things that are red flags to me about the other person. Personally, Ive learned to deal with my boundary issues as Ive matured. Its become a lot easier once I started saying no, no, thank you, etc. You are never required to give an explanation. You can if you want, but its not necessary. Im still progressing and feel better than ever.
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Soumya
im literally so tired of being everyone's second option. my so called 'friends' use me to get their homework done and dont even act like they owe me something. it now feels like its my duty to give them my nb and its just so frustating. im the topper of my class and thus people talk to me only when they need something from me. i dont have many friends in this class, but even those limited friends are making me feel like im their second option. im so sick of this.
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im literally so tired of being everyone's second option. my so called 'friends' use me to get their homework done and dont even act like they owe me something. it now feels like its my duty to give them my nb and its just so frustating. im the topper of my class and thus people talk to me only when they need something from me. i dont have many friends in this class, but even those limited friends are making me feel like im their second option. im so sick of this.
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Sweet
I always feel like one of my friend take advantage of me once i tried to talk to her about it and she yelled at my face with her escuses so i decided that's when she's say something not to reply or just saying it in a bored way since the rest of my friends still talk to her and then I found out that she wrote a mean note about me for not replying like why would I reply plus im scared if i say something she will scream at my face that my experience
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I always feel like one of my friend take advantage of me once i tried to talk to her about it and she yelled at my face with her escuses so i decided that's when she's say something not to reply or just saying it in a bored way since the rest of my friends still talk to her and then I found out that she wrote a mean note about me for not replying like why would I reply plus im scared if i say something she will scream at my face that my experience
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Alyssa
I do all of this and my family still doesnt respect me- they dont respect my boundaries when I ask them not to touch things I have bought myself then villanize me and make me seem like Im crazy for asking them not to use something of mine, at least without asking! They literally say if they cant use something of mine to hide it from them wth kind of living is that? They cant refrain themselves? I just have a messed up group of people I live with.
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I do all of this and my family still doesnt respect me- they dont respect my boundaries when I ask them not to touch things I have bought myself then villanize me and make me seem like Im crazy for asking them not to use something of mine, at least without asking! They literally say if they cant use something of mine to hide it from them wth kind of living is that? They cant refrain themselves? I just have a messed up group of people I live with.
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#13
The fact that you hit me in very angle like not respecting oneself, don't know how to say no, understand not to be nice all the time, not speaking up, don't over-apologize, avoid eye-contact, and cold glare. I was told I look angry all the time because of that and I need to change so much so thanks. I have no time for myself and my solitude so I feel burned out every day. This actually opened my eyes.
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The fact that you hit me in very angle like not respecting oneself, don't know how to say no, understand not to be nice all the time, not speaking up, don't over-apologize, avoid eye-contact, and cold glare. I was told I look angry all the time because of that and I need to change so much so thanks. I have no time for myself and my solitude so I feel burned out every day. This actually opened my eyes.
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Pawan
Literally my bestfriend told me that, From now on, you have to learn to say NO or else people will take advantage of you. She is right but I always think what if I'm in their shoes asking something from someone and they say no to me how would I feel. That's why I never said NO to anyone but now I learnt to say NO without feeling guilty! and I'm proud of myself
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Literally my bestfriend told me that, From now on, you have to learn to say NO or else people will take advantage of you. She is right but I always think what if I'm in their shoes asking something from someone and they say no to me how would I feel. That's why I never said NO to anyone but now I learnt to say NO without feeling guilty! and I'm proud of myself
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Josue
i needed help the other time to be able to sleep and i tried to sleep outside but the woman let the dog loose and i had to come back inside dog wont let me sleep, then next day had a conversation and she felt i lack respect, to day i dont understand what she means and im not gonna ask
now i sleep good and hopefully i go away from people
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i needed help the other time to be able to sleep and i tried to sleep outside but the woman let the dog loose and i had to come back inside dog wont let me sleep, then next day had a conversation and she felt i lack respect, to day i dont understand what she means and im not gonna ask
now i sleep good and hopefully i go away from people
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IRL
With good confident body language. While someone's talking to you or want to fight you its good to keep eye contact. But dont keep eye contact with rabdom people when walking specially dont keep too much eye contact and stare at them that will invite them to beef with you or unwanted fights in stead you have to do is look staright up
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With good confident body language. While someone's talking to you or want to fight you its good to keep eye contact. But dont keep eye contact with rabdom people when walking specially dont keep too much eye contact and stare at them that will invite them to beef with you or unwanted fights in stead you have to do is look staright up
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education
But how. how do I stop doing all of this? It has become a habit since I'm a little child, how to I change that? I'm lost and Idk how to do the steps you adiced. You speak my mind and know exactly how I feel and what happened even though you don't know me. I am so thankful but I just don't know HOW to do it.
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But how. how do I stop doing all of this? It has become a habit since I'm a little child, how to I change that? I'm lost and Idk how to do the steps you adiced. You speak my mind and know exactly how I feel and what happened even though you don't know me. I am so thankful but I just don't know HOW to do it.
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dump
how to get respect as a man
step 1. have a handsome face
step 2. be tall
step 3. don't be ugly and short
and if you are average, prepare to learn every trick in the book to compensate (intelligence, character, humor, charisma, fitness, wealth, confidence) like a clown
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how to get respect as a man
step 1. have a handsome face
step 2. be tall
step 3. don't be ugly and short
and if you are average, prepare to learn every trick in the book to compensate (intelligence, character, humor, charisma, fitness, wealth, confidence) like a clown
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Yulia
I have been treated as an option and nobody has ever valued now i realise that itbis their problem not mine some people make us florish other destroy us. I have been naive and allowed people to use and destroy me now I have lost my kindness and beauty and gained wisdom)
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I have been treated as an option and nobody has ever valued now i realise that itbis their problem not mine some people make us florish other destroy us. I have been naive and allowed people to use and destroy me now I have lost my kindness and beauty and gained wisdom)
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Salma
I can not respect myself but I am trying to respect others and u am trying to respect myself at the same time too I just can not calm down I just like not to sit and calm but I like to move alot and people ignore me and they always think I am a lier
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I can not respect myself but I am trying to respect others and u am trying to respect myself at the same time too I just can not calm down I just like not to sit and calm but I like to move alot and people ignore me and they always think I am a lier
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Patrick
This video says: don't smile when you don't feel like it.
Other videos say you have to fake smile, if you do it long enough it will become real.
My point: you can do whatever, if you genuinly believe it will make you feel better, it will.
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This video says: don't smile when you don't feel like it.
Other videos say you have to fake smile, if you do it long enough it will become real.
My point: you can do whatever, if you genuinly believe it will make you feel better, it will.
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Scott
Wait, Don't say sorry all the time, but this is a requirement of being Canadian! It is a social expectation that we do this one. But there are different ways of saying sorry. And they carry different meanings in the context and way its said.
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Wait, Don't say sorry all the time, but this is a requirement of being Canadian! It is a social expectation that we do this one. But there are different ways of saying sorry. And they carry different meanings in the context and way its said.
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alex
Don't be afraid when you fail overcome no matter what get stand and take micro steps you will become much more stronger once you rebuild yourself. Unfortunately we are not in heaven today's life and society its honestly like a battlefield
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Don't be afraid when you fail overcome no matter what get stand and take micro steps you will become much more stronger once you rebuild yourself. Unfortunately we are not in heaven today's life and society its honestly like a battlefield
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renee
Some people see you as respecting yourself as a reason to tear your down. Don't let them. Stop them in their tracks A. S. A. P. and by any means necessary (i. e. if you have to call the police, change your phone number and e mail do so.
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Some people see you as respecting yourself as a reason to tear your down. Don't let them. Stop them in their tracks A. S. A. P. and by any means necessary (i. e. if you have to call the police, change your phone number and e mail do so.
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Natalie
can you make a video for ''how to know if your being used by friends'' or ''differant ways you could be hurt? '' I have a friend who I am not sure to trutst, to hang out with, or to even be around due to things they have said about me
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can you make a video for ''how to know if your being used by friends'' or ''differant ways you could be hurt? '' I have a friend who I am not sure to trutst, to hang out with, or to even be around due to things they have said about me
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Sanjana
Im nice but if anyone does something I dont like I just tell them whatever they did is not good and I tell them about my boundaries some men are unbelievable, they keep talking nonsense stuff even though you set boundaries.
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Im nice but if anyone does something I dont like I just tell them whatever they did is not good and I tell them about my boundaries some men are unbelievable, they keep talking nonsense stuff even though you set boundaries.
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Mitch
I have zero self esteem and always did. I think very lowly of myself for certain reasons and I feel like it's too late now (nearing fifty years old. Whatever disrespect I have experienced before will get worse as I age.
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I have zero self esteem and always did. I think very lowly of myself for certain reasons and I feel like it's too late now (nearing fifty years old. Whatever disrespect I have experienced before will get worse as I age.
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