8 Struggles of Being an Highly Intelligent Person
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Date: 2025-04-20
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9usuck0
I learned pretty early into my adult life that there is no right answer in most cases. Learned to just go off impulse in most decisions and have predetermined rules of engagement to go off in cases I knew were bad or good.
I also spent a lot of my 20s acting in a way that convinced anyone who didn't spend time with me a lot that I was not smart and useless. To the point where someone I lived with for years thought I was just the dumb attractive guy who was super friendly. She thought this for years until her friend who liked me was telling her, He's so deep and intelligent, and she started asking me questions. Helped that I grew up poor and never spoke well or read often, I learned a lot by talking with my teachers and friends/ partners who were in college before I started going.
I don't think I'm particularly intelligent, but I just like sharing that not everyone who seems dumb is. I got my AA like it was a breeze. My wife actually gets mad at me because I'm college. I'll do assignments last second with little to no set-up and get an A. But then ignore certain assignments if I can pass without it. My GPA isn't very high because of this, and she hates that. But my ism is animals and behavior. I have easily gotten As in any classes involving either of those.
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I learned pretty early into my adult life that there is no right answer in most cases. Learned to just go off impulse in most decisions and have predetermined rules of engagement to go off in cases I knew were bad or good.
I also spent a lot of my 20s acting in a way that convinced anyone who didn't spend time with me a lot that I was not smart and useless. To the point where someone I lived with for years thought I was just the dumb attractive guy who was super friendly. She thought this for years until her friend who liked me was telling her, He's so deep and intelligent, and she started asking me questions. Helped that I grew up poor and never spoke well or read often, I learned a lot by talking with my teachers and friends/ partners who were in college before I started going.
I don't think I'm particularly intelligent, but I just like sharing that not everyone who seems dumb is. I got my AA like it was a breeze. My wife actually gets mad at me because I'm college. I'll do assignments last second with little to no set-up and get an A. But then ignore certain assignments if I can pass without it. My GPA isn't very high because of this, and she hates that. But my ism is animals and behavior. I have easily gotten As in any classes involving either of those.
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psych2go
1. Are you convincing me that I'm intelligent I mean, lot of people say that but there's no one I know who hates his/herself more than I do to myself.
2. Yes but rather than saying I'm like this, I'd say I appreciate this kind of behaviour. Somehow, I don't speak someone just for the sake of saying and as a person with OCD and PTSD, I think this behaviour got amplified.
3. In that case I better KMS. I don't know but I've mood swings I guess. These psychiatrists aren't so transparent so can't say so.
4. With ______ as my witness ___________ I did not become a __________ to _____________
5. Yes but isn't it a disability after all Seriously, because (I might be referring to a stereotype and seriously wrong) isn't someone intelligent enough supposed to manage overall intelligence
6. OCD( - As well)
7. I was so dumb that I considered myself as a villain for being so proud to think this way and even get gaslight by the bullies and listen to them without showing no regard due to Christianity. I'm pretty sure that I'm smarter now because of not following it.
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1. Are you convincing me that I'm intelligent I mean, lot of people say that but there's no one I know who hates his/herself more than I do to myself.
2. Yes but rather than saying I'm like this, I'd say I appreciate this kind of behaviour. Somehow, I don't speak someone just for the sake of saying and as a person with OCD and PTSD, I think this behaviour got amplified.
3. In that case I better KMS. I don't know but I've mood swings I guess. These psychiatrists aren't so transparent so can't say so.
4. With ______ as my witness ___________ I did not become a __________ to _____________
5. Yes but isn't it a disability after all Seriously, because (I might be referring to a stereotype and seriously wrong) isn't someone intelligent enough supposed to manage overall intelligence
6. OCD( - As well)
7. I was so dumb that I considered myself as a villain for being so proud to think this way and even get gaslight by the bullies and listen to them without showing no regard due to Christianity. I'm pretty sure that I'm smarter now because of not following it.
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Doorgirl
Sometimes it feels like the average nerd has started to go extinct, I’m in a Computing course at my college and literally everyone there is just a bunch of dude-bros who only care about the most recent trend or latest personal gossip. I literally have 1 friend in the entire class and even then he’s self-centred and never actually puts the effort into learning more about anyone besides himself. Hell, we have a D&D group and that too is just full of dude bros! DUNGEONS & DRAGONS! I wouldn’t call myself smart in any capacity but it just kinda feels like theres no room in the world for people who think about deep emotional stuff and talk about things that mean a lot to them and not OMG, did you hear what ____ did on Wednesday or LOWWWW TAAAAPEEER FAAAAADE. I’m probably just whining because I’m lonely but it just kinda feels that way sometimes.
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Sometimes it feels like the average nerd has started to go extinct, I’m in a Computing course at my college and literally everyone there is just a bunch of dude-bros who only care about the most recent trend or latest personal gossip. I literally have 1 friend in the entire class and even then he’s self-centred and never actually puts the effort into learning more about anyone besides himself. Hell, we have a D&D group and that too is just full of dude bros! DUNGEONS & DRAGONS! I wouldn’t call myself smart in any capacity but it just kinda feels like theres no room in the world for people who think about deep emotional stuff and talk about things that mean a lot to them and not OMG, did you hear what ____ did on Wednesday or LOWWWW TAAAAPEEER FAAAAADE. I’m probably just whining because I’m lonely but it just kinda feels that way sometimes.
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321GhostRider123
I feel i can relate to a lot of this but i'm not sure if it is inteligence or just different symptom's from different mental illneses. I tryed to make my depression better by Canabis use and i hoped it might make me stupit as F so i might get less social awkward and find friends and maybe even have the luck to find someone that love's me after being singel my entire life. Well i feel pretty much the same after over a year of dayli use. The only side effect i expirience is i can't remember things good wich is a known side effect. But cause it was like that even befor i dayli used it and as Doctor's say'd it is normal when you have depression i can't say for certain if it is realy from to much weed or if it is from my depression getting worse. or both.
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I feel i can relate to a lot of this but i'm not sure if it is inteligence or just different symptom's from different mental illneses. I tryed to make my depression better by Canabis use and i hoped it might make me stupit as F so i might get less social awkward and find friends and maybe even have the luck to find someone that love's me after being singel my entire life. Well i feel pretty much the same after over a year of dayli use. The only side effect i expirience is i can't remember things good wich is a known side effect. But cause it was like that even befor i dayli used it and as Doctor's say'd it is normal when you have depression i can't say for certain if it is realy from to much weed or if it is from my depression getting worse. or both.
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PSYCLOPS-1
I have never felt more understood watching a video before. This was incredobly well-made, and it was surely written by a highly intelligent person.
Honestly, people really misunderstand these struggles, I cannot count how many times I have been told I am too complicated too quiet or not social enough while I really try my best to dumb down, to fit in. Being like this isn't being better than most, it's objectively being worse, it really is a curse and a burden.
Also, I love the use of LEGO here. I feel like many intelligent people really connect to the brand and its products due to their complexity and need for creativity. My personal favorite set I own is the Daily Bugle which was such an experiance to build!
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I have never felt more understood watching a video before. This was incredobly well-made, and it was surely written by a highly intelligent person.
Honestly, people really misunderstand these struggles, I cannot count how many times I have been told I am too complicated too quiet or not social enough while I really try my best to dumb down, to fit in. Being like this isn't being better than most, it's objectively being worse, it really is a curse and a burden.
Also, I love the use of LEGO here. I feel like many intelligent people really connect to the brand and its products due to their complexity and need for creativity. My personal favorite set I own is the Daily Bugle which was such an experiance to build!
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GalArcT1c
In my opinion this cant apply to everyone can it
think about it- not all intelligent people are socially awkward. IQ maybe inversly correlated with EQ, BUT theyre two separate things right im imagining a special needs kid who isnt intelligent and nobody talks to them. (well, low EQ in that case seems to be how far apart your IQ is from your general surroundings, low or high, but i went on a tangent)
and, if getting out is healthier, and healthier is better for the mind, then intelligent people should be getting out a lot too no
a lot of this seems like correlation not causation. you could just be having every single bad trait and no intelligence (like i do! :D)
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In my opinion this cant apply to everyone can it
think about it- not all intelligent people are socially awkward. IQ maybe inversly correlated with EQ, BUT theyre two separate things right im imagining a special needs kid who isnt intelligent and nobody talks to them. (well, low EQ in that case seems to be how far apart your IQ is from your general surroundings, low or high, but i went on a tangent)
and, if getting out is healthier, and healthier is better for the mind, then intelligent people should be getting out a lot too no
a lot of this seems like correlation not causation. you could just be having every single bad trait and no intelligence (like i do! :D)
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Kevinssecondacc
I can relate to the fourth problem. Due to my interests I am socially distant from most of my classmates, I miss a lot of birthday parties and events. My friends say that I am Too serious about academic performance. They're not wrong but it's just the constant need to satisfy my parents, my parents are happy whenever I do well in class, so I try my best to always be the best. In result of this, I spend most of my time reading books and studying. Whenever my classmates and friends invite me to play video games with them, I always ignore or refuse. I hate being called too smart or nerdy. I just want to be normal, like everyone else.
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I can relate to the fourth problem. Due to my interests I am socially distant from most of my classmates, I miss a lot of birthday parties and events. My friends say that I am Too serious about academic performance. They're not wrong but it's just the constant need to satisfy my parents, my parents are happy whenever I do well in class, so I try my best to always be the best. In result of this, I spend most of my time reading books and studying. Whenever my classmates and friends invite me to play video games with them, I always ignore or refuse. I hate being called too smart or nerdy. I just want to be normal, like everyone else.
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Daniel-jn7qt
Man, I'm so tired of media always be talking about the freaking struggles of having high IQ, how about having a low IQ Like below 85, that to my eyes. is a REAL curse. as a person who always have had below average IQ cuz of the co-occurence from my autism, it impacts my life in so many ways, I've always been super incompetent with school, it led to poor decision making because I wasn't really capable of making logical, and reasonable decisions, and had poor common sense.
I really would've loved to be able to be good at school academically, be smart, but sadly, that isn't gonna happen because of lack of intellect.
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Man, I'm so tired of media always be talking about the freaking struggles of having high IQ, how about having a low IQ Like below 85, that to my eyes. is a REAL curse. as a person who always have had below average IQ cuz of the co-occurence from my autism, it impacts my life in so many ways, I've always been super incompetent with school, it led to poor decision making because I wasn't really capable of making logical, and reasonable decisions, and had poor common sense.
I really would've loved to be able to be good at school academically, be smart, but sadly, that isn't gonna happen because of lack of intellect.
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Dorothy-k8w
This is so relatable. I’m not an extreme smart person, but people say I am. I have a lot of problems going on, but ppl think I’m happy enough. I’m gifted in almost all ways, from IQ to EQ, so I can either be someone’s tutor or someone’s therapist. It’s not fair. At least I have a buddy that’s rlly smart in IQ, with the same interests I have. He is a great person to hang to. But sometimes bc he’s smart, he has alot of complex competitions to attend to, with the teachers pressuring him to get a good score. He tells me he’s super pressured, and jst wants to live a normal life. I feel so bad for him.
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This is so relatable. I’m not an extreme smart person, but people say I am. I have a lot of problems going on, but ppl think I’m happy enough. I’m gifted in almost all ways, from IQ to EQ, so I can either be someone’s tutor or someone’s therapist. It’s not fair. At least I have a buddy that’s rlly smart in IQ, with the same interests I have. He is a great person to hang to. But sometimes bc he’s smart, he has alot of complex competitions to attend to, with the teachers pressuring him to get a good score. He tells me he’s super pressured, and jst wants to live a normal life. I feel so bad for him.
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Unknwnisfrbaka
I am truly felt by your research! Truly. All of them are kinda relate so i think u researched it all wrong as it is normal with evryone, I think I am not smart and u are just lying to people, I think i should not relate to the things of highly iq person, after all i should not.
But to tell you the truth, I was raised in a family of geniuses, all our family are smart, like once we checked our iq's, and our iq's were above 120. My bro's had like 120 and 126 i guess, but i had a bit too high, I had 144, so I think 100 to 150 is avrge, and I am not smart, u are sugarcoating.
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I am truly felt by your research! Truly. All of them are kinda relate so i think u researched it all wrong as it is normal with evryone, I think I am not smart and u are just lying to people, I think i should not relate to the things of highly iq person, after all i should not.
But to tell you the truth, I was raised in a family of geniuses, all our family are smart, like once we checked our iq's, and our iq's were above 120. My bro's had like 120 and 126 i guess, but i had a bit too high, I had 144, so I think 100 to 150 is avrge, and I am not smart, u are sugarcoating.
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MegaManNeo
I'd gladly trade bits of my IQ for more EQ, it is a struggle when others expect you to be clever with no one second asking what's up with my social life actually.
In other words, I can relate to all that and sometimes, I feel like just to play along and chitchat about yesterday's football (as in soccer) game, just not to feel fully isolated. I can't do this very often since it is exhausting too but when I'm dry and seek for interaction, this feels better than nothing. And ironically enough, I don't even consider myself very intelligent, I'm just thoughtful and quiet.
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I'd gladly trade bits of my IQ for more EQ, it is a struggle when others expect you to be clever with no one second asking what's up with my social life actually.
In other words, I can relate to all that and sometimes, I feel like just to play along and chitchat about yesterday's football (as in soccer) game, just not to feel fully isolated. I can't do this very often since it is exhausting too but when I'm dry and seek for interaction, this feels better than nothing. And ironically enough, I don't even consider myself very intelligent, I'm just thoughtful and quiet.
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Itzme_Shinyyy
Timestamps:
1: 09 you get bored with small talk
1: 47 you're careful with your words
2: 20 you're socially awkward
3: 07 you struggle to make good friends
3: 51 you don't get out much
4: 23 you're overly analytical
5: 01 your mind constantly craves excercise
5: 32 you're always feeling the pressure to succeed
And can't forget how everyone says intelligent people have it way easier. I don't think I am an intelligent person, but I was treated like one for some reason. And everyone thinks that my life is easier.
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Timestamps:
1: 09 you get bored with small talk
1: 47 you're careful with your words
2: 20 you're socially awkward
3: 07 you struggle to make good friends
3: 51 you don't get out much
4: 23 you're overly analytical
5: 01 your mind constantly craves excercise
5: 32 you're always feeling the pressure to succeed
And can't forget how everyone says intelligent people have it way easier. I don't think I am an intelligent person, but I was treated like one for some reason. And everyone thinks that my life is easier.
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peppertuna
Another thing that I think might come from being intelligent is never being happy with what successes you have, always wanting to do better than you already have. It ties in with the constant feeling of there being pressure to succeed. Also does the term for struggling to socialise being a lack of emotional intelligence feel offensive to anyone else cuz I think I have ok open-mindedness to the whys of people's ways even if I don't know for certain or can't really understand how it makes sense.
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Another thing that I think might come from being intelligent is never being happy with what successes you have, always wanting to do better than you already have. It ties in with the constant feeling of there being pressure to succeed. Also does the term for struggling to socialise being a lack of emotional intelligence feel offensive to anyone else cuz I think I have ok open-mindedness to the whys of people's ways even if I don't know for certain or can't really understand how it makes sense.
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Daniel-jn7qt
Honestly I'm opposite. I do have below average IQ due to my co-occurence of autism and if anything I'd really much rather and wish I was highly intelligent. Being the opposite of high intelligent comes with lot of down sides like having very limited career options, hard time grasping concepts, etc.
I'm so tired of people talking about how it's difficult being high IQ but how about being low IQ This is something that almost no one seems to talk about and acknowledge.
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Honestly I'm opposite. I do have below average IQ due to my co-occurence of autism and if anything I'd really much rather and wish I was highly intelligent. Being the opposite of high intelligent comes with lot of down sides like having very limited career options, hard time grasping concepts, etc.
I'm so tired of people talking about how it's difficult being high IQ but how about being low IQ This is something that almost no one seems to talk about and acknowledge.
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jax7715
I don't mind some small talk if it kick-starts conversation, I just can't stand 'gossipy' small talk. See the 2nd about careful what to say. can that include being so detailed If so you should see my work emails or forms. I am so descriptive its nuts lol. Very particular about wording in typing to Departments etc, and how I speak in general. very much so in Work. Lol lol. I can relate to all of these in forms but I would not call myself highly intelligent. nu uh Xx
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I don't mind some small talk if it kick-starts conversation, I just can't stand 'gossipy' small talk. See the 2nd about careful what to say. can that include being so detailed If so you should see my work emails or forms. I am so descriptive its nuts lol. Very particular about wording in typing to Departments etc, and how I speak in general. very much so in Work. Lol lol. I can relate to all of these in forms but I would not call myself highly intelligent. nu uh Xx
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PoojaVarshney
OMG. i was nodding YES YES YES from 1 to 8 but it was #6 that got the crazy big nod. gosh i always thought why am i like this why i hate small talk why i dont hv a big friend circle and tried even dumbing down my intellectual response at times to try to be at same level at others and always felt odd one out.
But sooo glad n happy you made this video. and i am so proud of myself now. I wont do anything anove again in future.
Thank you sooo much
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OMG. i was nodding YES YES YES from 1 to 8 but it was #6 that got the crazy big nod. gosh i always thought why am i like this why i hate small talk why i dont hv a big friend circle and tried even dumbing down my intellectual response at times to try to be at same level at others and always felt odd one out.
But sooo glad n happy you made this video. and i am so proud of myself now. I wont do anything anove again in future.
Thank you sooo much
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RatKirby
It also triggers my imposter syndrome because claiming this also makes me worry that its arrogant to claim I'm intelligent and if I really was as smart as others think, why am I still so unhappy in life Why do I struggle to connect with others so much when I SHOULD understand that a lot more Clearly if I don't understand then I'm not as smart as people say right Even though I already know that's conflating IQ and EQ which is wrong. and and and-
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It also triggers my imposter syndrome because claiming this also makes me worry that its arrogant to claim I'm intelligent and if I really was as smart as others think, why am I still so unhappy in life Why do I struggle to connect with others so much when I SHOULD understand that a lot more Clearly if I don't understand then I'm not as smart as people say right Even though I already know that's conflating IQ and EQ which is wrong. and and and-
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shawnemmons5842
I have dyslexia. And had a monstrous IQ. That I let rot for many years because of abuse. I've never understood social interaction. And have only one really friend. My last cognitive and IQ testing ended with me receiving an N/A do to correct to many questions. As well as setting fast patterns to complete some thought puzzles. Though these abilities are still limited and makes it a joy to see others skills that I do not possess.
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I have dyslexia. And had a monstrous IQ. That I let rot for many years because of abuse. I've never understood social interaction. And have only one really friend. My last cognitive and IQ testing ended with me receiving an N/A do to correct to many questions. As well as setting fast patterns to complete some thought puzzles. Though these abilities are still limited and makes it a joy to see others skills that I do not possess.
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HalloweenR5
I had a doctor once tell me that being smart and depressed is difficult because you constantly analyze why you're depressed (environmental factors, genetic factors, etc) but it doesn't solve the depression. But, on the opposite side, I used to work with people with developmental disabilities, and one of my clients had depression and she would burst out into tears randomly and not know why. I don't know which is worse.
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I had a doctor once tell me that being smart and depressed is difficult because you constantly analyze why you're depressed (environmental factors, genetic factors, etc) but it doesn't solve the depression. But, on the opposite side, I used to work with people with developmental disabilities, and one of my clients had depression and she would burst out into tears randomly and not know why. I don't know which is worse.
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AyeshaShakil-zz9bi
I thought I was intelligent cause I score the highest without even studying. But I can relate to only four of them. Lol. I don't give a shit to succeed or do good in studies. Neither do I want to work. The three of them I can relate are 1. Get bored with small talks 2. Socially awkward 3. Struggle to make good friends 4. Overly analytical. I used to not like going out but I changed this about myself.
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I thought I was intelligent cause I score the highest without even studying. But I can relate to only four of them. Lol. I don't give a shit to succeed or do good in studies. Neither do I want to work. The three of them I can relate are 1. Get bored with small talks 2. Socially awkward 3. Struggle to make good friends 4. Overly analytical. I used to not like going out but I changed this about myself.
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