How To Heal From Betrayal Trauma
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Date: 2025-03-02
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psych2go
I had my ex of 2 1/2 years tried to reconnect with me because a family member in Florida told her she was the best thing I had. We have been broken up for at least 4 years. I felt betrayed by her for having 4 abortions and not telling me. The family member that told her that was the family member that covered up my dad's cheating on mom. I confronted that family member that told my ex that and was told by that person I need to get out of my own way and be with someone who knows me. I am 33 I know what I want in a partner I told that person. I feel betrayed again with that family member I just want to be left alone and that person is putting our disagreement out to the family and now I am the bad guy. I feel like I should be happy. I forgiven those 2 people for what they did I will not respond to them for giving me hell for years. Since I am the middle child I was always compared to every cousin I had by that family member. Sad to say that family member is my Grandmother from my dad's side. She gave me hell for not liking my mom. I can't choose that I know but never felt so free cutting her and all who deal with her out.
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I had my ex of 2 1/2 years tried to reconnect with me because a family member in Florida told her she was the best thing I had. We have been broken up for at least 4 years. I felt betrayed by her for having 4 abortions and not telling me. The family member that told her that was the family member that covered up my dad's cheating on mom. I confronted that family member that told my ex that and was told by that person I need to get out of my own way and be with someone who knows me. I am 33 I know what I want in a partner I told that person. I feel betrayed again with that family member I just want to be left alone and that person is putting our disagreement out to the family and now I am the bad guy. I feel like I should be happy. I forgiven those 2 people for what they did I will not respond to them for giving me hell for years. Since I am the middle child I was always compared to every cousin I had by that family member. Sad to say that family member is my Grandmother from my dad's side. She gave me hell for not liking my mom. I can't choose that I know but never felt so free cutting her and all who deal with her out.
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LinhTea_
Loved this video. Although, I don't think I can heal because of what it takes to do so. I hold on to my fears and betrayals because I know remembering and not forgetting them protects me from ever experiencing them again. I have really bad abandonment issues because of friends I thought were true but weren't. They would come clean and complain about my personality, looks, my race, etc. And it happened all from when I was young, elementary school to be exact. Then there was an incident on a family camping trip where my own dad attacked me when we got into an argument that I tried to end civilly. I was tackeled to the ground and put in a chokehold for what seemed like minutes. Now, our relationship has never been the same. And he hasn't tried to TRULY apologize, and my mom has taken his side on the matter. Even the night when it happened, my mom tried to make me forgive him. But I can't. And I never will. Even though I do love him. I know, deep down, I hate him more.
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Loved this video. Although, I don't think I can heal because of what it takes to do so. I hold on to my fears and betrayals because I know remembering and not forgetting them protects me from ever experiencing them again. I have really bad abandonment issues because of friends I thought were true but weren't. They would come clean and complain about my personality, looks, my race, etc. And it happened all from when I was young, elementary school to be exact. Then there was an incident on a family camping trip where my own dad attacked me when we got into an argument that I tried to end civilly. I was tackeled to the ground and put in a chokehold for what seemed like minutes. Now, our relationship has never been the same. And he hasn't tried to TRULY apologize, and my mom has taken his side on the matter. Even the night when it happened, my mom tried to make me forgive him. But I can't. And I never will. Even though I do love him. I know, deep down, I hate him more.
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Hazelinflux
idk what to feel. This is not the right video to talk about right now but i just had a big argument with my parents. the reason is me not studying enough and not doing my homework. So i got mad and told them some things i shouldnt have. I wanted to say sorry but then my dad came into my room and started to hit me and my mother only watched and did nothing. Also in 8th of march this weekend its my birthday but i learned they are not gonna celebrate it. Also i heared my mom say 15 years of her life have gone to waste bc of who i am and how i act. I didnt meant to upset them. i never wanted my mother to see me as a dissapoinment or a waste of time. i have no one to talk. im an only child with no cousin, aunt or uncle. I have no pets. I have 2 friends but if i talk about this to them i know they will think i am a freak. I have no one now. I just wanna end it all.
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idk what to feel. This is not the right video to talk about right now but i just had a big argument with my parents. the reason is me not studying enough and not doing my homework. So i got mad and told them some things i shouldnt have. I wanted to say sorry but then my dad came into my room and started to hit me and my mother only watched and did nothing. Also in 8th of march this weekend its my birthday but i learned they are not gonna celebrate it. Also i heared my mom say 15 years of her life have gone to waste bc of who i am and how i act. I didnt meant to upset them. i never wanted my mother to see me as a dissapoinment or a waste of time. i have no one to talk. im an only child with no cousin, aunt or uncle. I have no pets. I have 2 friends but if i talk about this to them i know they will think i am a freak. I have no one now. I just wanna end it all.
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LuckyBlast1
Boy I have been promised a whole lot, and then those promises ended up not working out. Let me explain my situation so nobody hopefully has to go through this. If you're friends with someone who makes promises and almost always (9 times out of 10) breaks them, you shouldn't stay in that friendship no matter how strong it is. Since at some point they'll just ignore you, or make even more promises that they'll break, and then if you confront them about it, they just say that you don't understand their life or some bs like that. That's basically what I've been through, and hopefully no one here has to go through my experiance, just to let you know, if someone's most of the time breaking promises that they've made towards you, that doesn't mean you should still be friends with them. That's only hurting you, so you should leave the friendship
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Boy I have been promised a whole lot, and then those promises ended up not working out. Let me explain my situation so nobody hopefully has to go through this. If you're friends with someone who makes promises and almost always (9 times out of 10) breaks them, you shouldn't stay in that friendship no matter how strong it is. Since at some point they'll just ignore you, or make even more promises that they'll break, and then if you confront them about it, they just say that you don't understand their life or some bs like that. That's basically what I've been through, and hopefully no one here has to go through my experiance, just to let you know, if someone's most of the time breaking promises that they've made towards you, that doesn't mean you should still be friends with them. That's only hurting you, so you should leave the friendship
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juliabrnssr
This has always been difficult for me. I think the first issue I had was spending a good chunk of my life with people who betrayed me (My Parent's and Siblings. When you are a kid you want people to listen to you, and only adults will listen to other adults. As such I found strength from Grudges, Anger, and Unforgiveness. It gave me what I needed for that day I would become and adult, and they would finally have to listen to me. The longer I held these feeling the sweeter revenge tasted. Of course this is when I was betrayed as a child. Being betrayed as an adult by other adults usually involves breaking contact. I get no sense of closure from this, and I always blame myself for trusting people.
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This has always been difficult for me. I think the first issue I had was spending a good chunk of my life with people who betrayed me (My Parent's and Siblings. When you are a kid you want people to listen to you, and only adults will listen to other adults. As such I found strength from Grudges, Anger, and Unforgiveness. It gave me what I needed for that day I would become and adult, and they would finally have to listen to me. The longer I held these feeling the sweeter revenge tasted. Of course this is when I was betrayed as a child. Being betrayed as an adult by other adults usually involves breaking contact. I get no sense of closure from this, and I always blame myself for trusting people.
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ChickenGoogleSoup
I've been betrayed by several groups and individuals over my entire life.
I've gained 2 stalkers as well who try and make sure I never heal from my trauma. I cannot seem to catch a break, but I've definitely been following this advice.
Yet i still have a target on my back. people placed it on me despite the fact I never done anything wrong. I've prepared myself to get doxxed at this point. people are actively targeting me and threatening to end me.
It's not a relationship problem for me. It's people who I thought were my friends suddenly hating me and are now after my life.
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I've been betrayed by several groups and individuals over my entire life.
I've gained 2 stalkers as well who try and make sure I never heal from my trauma. I cannot seem to catch a break, but I've definitely been following this advice.
Yet i still have a target on my back. people placed it on me despite the fact I never done anything wrong. I've prepared myself to get doxxed at this point. people are actively targeting me and threatening to end me.
It's not a relationship problem for me. It's people who I thought were my friends suddenly hating me and are now after my life.
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UnHookLineAndRise
In some cases its not intentional but its good to realize that we all have some trauma & many things to learn about love. At my worst I wish justice & let the natural balance get them back. The only way they will get back the boomerang of their own in/actions is by turning the other cheek & not allow them to make me act out as badly as they did towards me. I cant get them back like God/karma can & if you leave it to them then they’ll have a good chance of realizing where they went wrong, who’s actually got your back & how they are bigger than them & their networks.
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In some cases its not intentional but its good to realize that we all have some trauma & many things to learn about love. At my worst I wish justice & let the natural balance get them back. The only way they will get back the boomerang of their own in/actions is by turning the other cheek & not allow them to make me act out as badly as they did towards me. I cant get them back like God/karma can & if you leave it to them then they’ll have a good chance of realizing where they went wrong, who’s actually got your back & how they are bigger than them & their networks.
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MorgueInTheVoid
People say forgive the person who hurt you because it will make you feel free. Hot take, but i dont agree with this. They dont deserve my forgiveness unless they ask for forgiveness. If they have no remorse for what they did to me, im sorry but why should i forgive this action that changed me on a cellular level I can prioritize myself and I can acknowledge that the pain they caused is not my fault. But forgiving them will not free me. Cutting them off to show them they dont deserve my forgiveness or my presence will free me.
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People say forgive the person who hurt you because it will make you feel free. Hot take, but i dont agree with this. They dont deserve my forgiveness unless they ask for forgiveness. If they have no remorse for what they did to me, im sorry but why should i forgive this action that changed me on a cellular level I can prioritize myself and I can acknowledge that the pain they caused is not my fault. But forgiving them will not free me. Cutting them off to show them they dont deserve my forgiveness or my presence will free me.
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mikesgamelab6369
1: 15 echoes something I’ve repeated to myself often. Snakes bite, and it hurts. But at some point, you can’t be mad at a snake for biting you. When I was betrayed, I was in a bad place for months, and years later, I’m still healing in some ways. My initial reaction could’ve cost me my freedom or even my life, and to be honest, I badly wanted revenge for a while. I’m so grateful to the friends who reached out and helped me through it. There are still some tough days, but I’ve come so far from back then.
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1: 15 echoes something I’ve repeated to myself often. Snakes bite, and it hurts. But at some point, you can’t be mad at a snake for biting you. When I was betrayed, I was in a bad place for months, and years later, I’m still healing in some ways. My initial reaction could’ve cost me my freedom or even my life, and to be honest, I badly wanted revenge for a while. I’m so grateful to the friends who reached out and helped me through it. There are still some tough days, but I’ve come so far from back then.
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Ammo. dgafaybs
Hi pysch2go! Love your videos, they bring out a lot of esucation and awareness. I was wondering if you could help me understand this one thing that had been bothing me for a while
So I've heard from many people that our brain purposesfully forgets traumatic things that had happened in our childhood, but i cant help but wonder why my brain also forgets the happy memories Is it because I'm selfish to think they're happy, did i actually forget them, did my brain lock it away, or did i just not have any happy memories
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Hi pysch2go! Love your videos, they bring out a lot of esucation and awareness. I was wondering if you could help me understand this one thing that had been bothing me for a while
So I've heard from many people that our brain purposesfully forgets traumatic things that had happened in our childhood, but i cant help but wonder why my brain also forgets the happy memories Is it because I'm selfish to think they're happy, did i actually forget them, did my brain lock it away, or did i just not have any happy memories
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vp9348
Forgive them - Because they weren’t cut out to be your soulmate.
Forgive them - Because, they honestly do not know better (literally; they don’t know how to treat you how you treat them - Relationships Skills aren’t in their skill set - Listening and Communication.
Forgive yourself - Because you don’t deserve to feel the pain that you’re feeling. A promise you didn’t break, they broke their end.
You know who you want to be; don’t let their actions define You in your place in life.
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Forgive them - Because they weren’t cut out to be your soulmate.
Forgive them - Because, they honestly do not know better (literally; they don’t know how to treat you how you treat them - Relationships Skills aren’t in their skill set - Listening and Communication.
Forgive yourself - Because you don’t deserve to feel the pain that you’re feeling. A promise you didn’t break, they broke their end.
You know who you want to be; don’t let their actions define You in your place in life.
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jasp5846
Got cheated on 2 times and in my first 2 relationships too. The first time was hard, but the second time. she told me that she now knows why my previous partner cheated on me and that hurt somewhere very deep. Now in my last relationship i noticed my trauma and the axiety attacks Ive got from jelousy and deep trust issues. we sadly split up, because i wasnt ready and still had to get over my trauma, but we keep in touch and maybe ignite the spark again, as we both try to heal and grow
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Got cheated on 2 times and in my first 2 relationships too. The first time was hard, but the second time. she told me that she now knows why my previous partner cheated on me and that hurt somewhere very deep. Now in my last relationship i noticed my trauma and the axiety attacks Ive got from jelousy and deep trust issues. we sadly split up, because i wasnt ready and still had to get over my trauma, but we keep in touch and maybe ignite the spark again, as we both try to heal and grow
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Find safety 0: 53
2. Mourn the loss 1: 30
3. Take it day by day 2: 13
4. Forgive when you're ready 2: 47
5. Try the Hawaiian practice of ho'oponopono 3: 49
6. Calm your nervous system 4: 42
7. Stay connected to the world 5: 24
8. Gradually rebuild trust 6: 12
9. What has this taught me about myself or my values 6: 25
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Please note point 6 title is shown twice but the audio is for a point 7.
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Timestamps
1. Find safety 0: 53
2. Mourn the loss 1: 30
3. Take it day by day 2: 13
4. Forgive when you're ready 2: 47
5. Try the Hawaiian practice of ho'oponopono 3: 49
6. Calm your nervous system 4: 42
7. Stay connected to the world 5: 24
8. Gradually rebuild trust 6: 12
9. What has this taught me about myself or my values 6: 25
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Please note point 6 title is shown twice but the audio is for a point 7.
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tajwaradil9846
What if you loved something when you were young and start getting afraid and fearful of it when you get older. And that afraidness makes it very hard to move on. You don't want anyone to force you for it and scare you more for it. And what if people think that your fear and afraidness are minor Whilst it is actually major. How will I cope with that and move on How do I make that fear go away, and how do I turn that fear around and be happy again Be sure to lemme know psych2go
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What if you loved something when you were young and start getting afraid and fearful of it when you get older. And that afraidness makes it very hard to move on. You don't want anyone to force you for it and scare you more for it. And what if people think that your fear and afraidness are minor Whilst it is actually major. How will I cope with that and move on How do I make that fear go away, and how do I turn that fear around and be happy again Be sure to lemme know psych2go
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carotee7918
Know I'm 16, young and dumb, but about 6 months after my betrayal I finally found a new girl, looked promising, and then she betrayed me too. Never even said goodbye, a catalyst for the first trauma, just when I thought I'd finally moved on. shit hurts cuz everyone else expects you to move on, forgets about it, yet that hurt sneaks up on you randomly and at random intensities, it's just. there.
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Know I'm 16, young and dumb, but about 6 months after my betrayal I finally found a new girl, looked promising, and then she betrayed me too. Never even said goodbye, a catalyst for the first trauma, just when I thought I'd finally moved on. shit hurts cuz everyone else expects you to move on, forgets about it, yet that hurt sneaks up on you randomly and at random intensities, it's just. there.
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psych2go
I am unsure whether my childhood friend is a good one or not.
They have lied to me multiple times:
One of these lies are that they said they over heared one of their friends say the friendship with them was fake. But they are friends with that friend again.
They have also left me on read purely ignored me through text and come up with invalid excuses why they did these actions.
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I am unsure whether my childhood friend is a good one or not.
They have lied to me multiple times:
One of these lies are that they said they over heared one of their friends say the friendship with them was fake. But they are friends with that friend again.
They have also left me on read purely ignored me through text and come up with invalid excuses why they did these actions.
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jgoodloe4986
Took me years to figure it out, I'm stuck with the bad while trying to find ways to make it flow like water, and it still hurts especially since I have long term memory it's way more worse than ever, I'm still trying to understand it, now I just use the hurt to research new things to build up knowledge, learn new exercise techniques, and try to get back to my roots (drawing)
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Took me years to figure it out, I'm stuck with the bad while trying to find ways to make it flow like water, and it still hurts especially since I have long term memory it's way more worse than ever, I'm still trying to understand it, now I just use the hurt to research new things to build up knowledge, learn new exercise techniques, and try to get back to my roots (drawing)
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widlysala
i can never forgive that person because from my pov it means that they have done something i think i’m capable of doing as well if conditions are right, but i know i could never rape a person or use anyone for intimacy so forgiving for me is basically a betraying of my own moral principles. i dont hold on it, i let it go, but i didnt and will never forgive em
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i can never forgive that person because from my pov it means that they have done something i think i’m capable of doing as well if conditions are right, but i know i could never rape a person or use anyone for intimacy so forgiving for me is basically a betraying of my own moral principles. i dont hold on it, i let it go, but i didnt and will never forgive em
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Musicandfilms7
I'm 46 and I'm dealing with a 20 year old betrayal wound. It was my father mainly, but also my entire family system. My dad put my life upside down, I can't get back on my feet financially and emotionally speaking. I've been in therapy all these years but I can't heal. Meanwhile he's resting in peace since 2013. Do better than me.
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I'm 46 and I'm dealing with a 20 year old betrayal wound. It was my father mainly, but also my entire family system. My dad put my life upside down, I can't get back on my feet financially and emotionally speaking. I've been in therapy all these years but I can't heal. Meanwhile he's resting in peace since 2013. Do better than me.
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natan380
Thank you for this, 3 months ago I've come to discover I've been cheated on multiple times by the person I already bought the rings I'd use to ask them in marriage. I had never felt such pain in my life. I even got to the point of contemplating the possibility of ending it all. I'm slowly recovering now, but still not ready to move on.
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Thank you for this, 3 months ago I've come to discover I've been cheated on multiple times by the person I already bought the rings I'd use to ask them in marriage. I had never felt such pain in my life. I even got to the point of contemplating the possibility of ending it all. I'm slowly recovering now, but still not ready to move on.
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