5 Stages Of Friendship, Most People Stop At 3
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Date: 2024-11-10
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FableTheWolf
I have a friend who until the past year I thought was going to be a lifelong friend. Same age, she moved when we were just starting school as kids to a new city hours away and I only saw her when she came back to visit. I went without seeing or hearing from her for years at multiple points in life but always knew that she was still out there. She moved farther away eventually but when it came time for uni we both ended up at the same place. Every time we would meet up again after not seeing each other it always felt like no time had passed, yet it had. We would trade stories of how our lives were going and then knowingly disappear again.
Now after living in the same place and stable for the past five years, like we always hoped for I think we're farther apart than we ever have been. She seems to have a lot more in common with my husband than me and they chat consistently when I havent spoken to her in weeks. I know in the end we had different upbringings and experiences and therefore value different things, but the part that hurts is that it has never mattered before. I'm torn between she's always been there, fight for it and you have to accept she's become someone else, move on. She's not a bad person at all either, just different than me. On top of all that she has a health condition where I am going to lose her in my lifetime either way and we probably don't have time for this fencesitting. The only thing I can do is respect her decision to spend her time elsewhere and hope we can reconvene somewhere down the road like we have before.
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I have a friend who until the past year I thought was going to be a lifelong friend. Same age, she moved when we were just starting school as kids to a new city hours away and I only saw her when she came back to visit. I went without seeing or hearing from her for years at multiple points in life but always knew that she was still out there. She moved farther away eventually but when it came time for uni we both ended up at the same place. Every time we would meet up again after not seeing each other it always felt like no time had passed, yet it had. We would trade stories of how our lives were going and then knowingly disappear again.
Now after living in the same place and stable for the past five years, like we always hoped for I think we're farther apart than we ever have been. She seems to have a lot more in common with my husband than me and they chat consistently when I havent spoken to her in weeks. I know in the end we had different upbringings and experiences and therefore value different things, but the part that hurts is that it has never mattered before. I'm torn between she's always been there, fight for it and you have to accept she's become someone else, move on. She's not a bad person at all either, just different than me. On top of all that she has a health condition where I am going to lose her in my lifetime either way and we probably don't have time for this fencesitting. The only thing I can do is respect her decision to spend her time elsewhere and hope we can reconvene somewhere down the road like we have before.
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Khush-iy3tv
Imagine finding out your best friends think of you as a burden and hate it when you vert and rant to them. They all hate somethint about you. Imagine that they hate that you're sometimes sad and cold and dont reply as happily as you always do to them and instead if asking whats wrong they just assume you hate them. When you clarify that, they still blame you.
Imagine friends who would immediately make it over and turn the script on you over a small misunderstanding, but if someone from the same friend group makes the same level of messed up mistake, they forgive them and make excuses for them. Imagine friends who'll hate you when you show anger and madness, not defend you, but immediately defend someone you're angry with and call them oh ny babygirl, oh my cinnamon roll even though youve known each other longer.
Idk what you guys think bout all this but i really feel like these have shown me where i stand in the lives of these people. They'd forgo our friendship immediately And They'd gang together immediately against me Over a small misunderstanding.
Yeah
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Imagine finding out your best friends think of you as a burden and hate it when you vert and rant to them. They all hate somethint about you. Imagine that they hate that you're sometimes sad and cold and dont reply as happily as you always do to them and instead if asking whats wrong they just assume you hate them. When you clarify that, they still blame you.
Imagine friends who would immediately make it over and turn the script on you over a small misunderstanding, but if someone from the same friend group makes the same level of messed up mistake, they forgive them and make excuses for them. Imagine friends who'll hate you when you show anger and madness, not defend you, but immediately defend someone you're angry with and call them oh ny babygirl, oh my cinnamon roll even though youve known each other longer.
Idk what you guys think bout all this but i really feel like these have shown me where i stand in the lives of these people. They'd forgo our friendship immediately And They'd gang together immediately against me Over a small misunderstanding.
Yeah
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JovitaA. -zl2eo
5: 23 i have a friend that we met at a game aka roblox, we slowly talk together without we notice, we slowly became friends and sometimes play together. We realize that we are very different mostly at age, but we don't care about it and still be friends. He got my trust completely, but he drift away by playing a game that i can't join because its not available for phone. I always wait. and wait. And wait. Until i gave up and let him go away from me. I do feel sad and wanted to cry, even its a year ago i still feel sad right now, but suddenly i forgot about him and my mom said that i have reset my phone, so i put some of the accounts to my backup except my roblox account, even worse i forgot whats my roblox password. Ive tried everything and didn't work and now its hurting me even more, i made new account and still miss him. I wish he saw this and i was about to put my account name so he knows about this, but i don't think is a good idea. And It made my depression worse.
Thank you for letting me vent. Love you
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5: 23 i have a friend that we met at a game aka roblox, we slowly talk together without we notice, we slowly became friends and sometimes play together. We realize that we are very different mostly at age, but we don't care about it and still be friends. He got my trust completely, but he drift away by playing a game that i can't join because its not available for phone. I always wait. and wait. And wait. Until i gave up and let him go away from me. I do feel sad and wanted to cry, even its a year ago i still feel sad right now, but suddenly i forgot about him and my mom said that i have reset my phone, so i put some of the accounts to my backup except my roblox account, even worse i forgot whats my roblox password. Ive tried everything and didn't work and now its hurting me even more, i made new account and still miss him. I wish he saw this and i was about to put my account name so he knows about this, but i don't think is a good idea. And It made my depression worse.
Thank you for letting me vent. Love you
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boingyboop4960
I feel like friendships are not as valued as they used to be. If I want to make plans to meet up with any of my friends, it has to be at least a month in advance in order to have any chance of happening, and even then 95% of the time, those plans will get cancelled within 24 hours of when they are supposed to happen. It’s so hard to see people these days. Everyone just seems to want to sit at home by themselves all the time, and even if they’ve gone out of their way to clear their schedule to see a friend, they’ll just wake up in the morning, decide they’re too tired to go out and cancel. And then they’ll be super busy all day every day for the next 6 months.
As an extrovert who is constantly craving social interaction, this makes me quite sad. I can never find any enjoyment in anything I do by myself. The experience _has_ to be shared, otherwise it’s no fun. I just want to see people and create long lasting bonds, but no one ever has any time anymore.
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I feel like friendships are not as valued as they used to be. If I want to make plans to meet up with any of my friends, it has to be at least a month in advance in order to have any chance of happening, and even then 95% of the time, those plans will get cancelled within 24 hours of when they are supposed to happen. It’s so hard to see people these days. Everyone just seems to want to sit at home by themselves all the time, and even if they’ve gone out of their way to clear their schedule to see a friend, they’ll just wake up in the morning, decide they’re too tired to go out and cancel. And then they’ll be super busy all day every day for the next 6 months.
As an extrovert who is constantly craving social interaction, this makes me quite sad. I can never find any enjoyment in anything I do by myself. The experience _has_ to be shared, otherwise it’s no fun. I just want to see people and create long lasting bonds, but no one ever has any time anymore.
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jarmoliebrand2005
I’m not someone who makes a lot of friends. I used to a bit more, but I think I have gotten more socially anxious as I grew up into the eighteen year old I am now. I hear a lot of people talking about friend groups. Plural! I couldn’t care less about that. All those relationships will be relatively superficial. I’m more so of a quality over quantity type of person. I’d love new friends around me, but it goes against my nature to initiate the necessary steps. And I still want to maintain a similar level of quality, if I’m to up the quantity. My three best friends either approached me, or we were nudged towards one another by a teacher. I appreciate that I’ve been friends with one of them for twelve years now. More than two thirds of my life. I’ve picked up these friends in different stages of my life and they met one another through my birthdays. Now, we’re the friend group. The boys, so to speak.
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I’m not someone who makes a lot of friends. I used to a bit more, but I think I have gotten more socially anxious as I grew up into the eighteen year old I am now. I hear a lot of people talking about friend groups. Plural! I couldn’t care less about that. All those relationships will be relatively superficial. I’m more so of a quality over quantity type of person. I’d love new friends around me, but it goes against my nature to initiate the necessary steps. And I still want to maintain a similar level of quality, if I’m to up the quantity. My three best friends either approached me, or we were nudged towards one another by a teacher. I appreciate that I’ve been friends with one of them for twelve years now. More than two thirds of my life. I’ve picked up these friends in different stages of my life and they met one another through my birthdays. Now, we’re the friend group. The boys, so to speak.
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nyxiethepixie3083
When I was in a really rough spot in life, my best friend, my family (although I didn't know it at the time really stuck with me) He was joking about how antisocial he was, and the he didn't really need friends, this kind of made me a bit sad so I said, then what are we aren't we friends he laughed and shook his head, Pshh, what are you talking about you're not my friend, you're family. I cried. A lot. And another best friend I have, that I met a couple of years after the first one said something similar after I expressed that I was worried we were drifting apart and he was spending less and less time with me, he said, People come and go, but not you, you're permanent. and we immediately made plans for a day of the week where we'd hangout, just us. I'm very thankful for all the wonderful people I have in my life. I don't deserve them ahah
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When I was in a really rough spot in life, my best friend, my family (although I didn't know it at the time really stuck with me) He was joking about how antisocial he was, and the he didn't really need friends, this kind of made me a bit sad so I said, then what are we aren't we friends he laughed and shook his head, Pshh, what are you talking about you're not my friend, you're family. I cried. A lot. And another best friend I have, that I met a couple of years after the first one said something similar after I expressed that I was worried we were drifting apart and he was spending less and less time with me, he said, People come and go, but not you, you're permanent. and we immediately made plans for a day of the week where we'd hangout, just us. I'm very thankful for all the wonderful people I have in my life. I don't deserve them ahah
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balintApizza
Venting warning, if you're not emotionally ready to hear a venting session just don't read more.
I have somebody that I have been friends with since I was like 2 years old (they are kinda a family friend) and I have grown up with him. We are definitely in stage 4, but I came out to him (as bi) but he is still kinda homophobic and says mean things about the queer community (like the I identify as insert ridiculous object here jokes. But like we are still friends, but I think he just ignores that part of me while also not changing his queerfobic views, because we have that connection and it feels like a 2nd type with mental chains, so we don't share really intimate secrets anymore but we still don't drift apart.
Why am I telling this Feels good to have a vent session online without people knowing more.
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Venting warning, if you're not emotionally ready to hear a venting session just don't read more.
I have somebody that I have been friends with since I was like 2 years old (they are kinda a family friend) and I have grown up with him. We are definitely in stage 4, but I came out to him (as bi) but he is still kinda homophobic and says mean things about the queer community (like the I identify as insert ridiculous object here jokes. But like we are still friends, but I think he just ignores that part of me while also not changing his queerfobic views, because we have that connection and it feels like a 2nd type with mental chains, so we don't share really intimate secrets anymore but we still don't drift apart.
Why am I telling this Feels good to have a vent session online without people knowing more.
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HarmonyMoonbeam024
Turns out my bestie is a lvl 4 then, and I’m extremely glad for it: 3 No matter what time of the day it is, if either of us get a text from the other saying Hey, can you talk it’s drop everything and basically become a therapist. We’ve only been friends a little over 4 years but out of the hundreds of people I’ve met in my life, we have the deepest emotional connection on the planet and I’m so freakin’ grateful to have her in my life. Even if we live in two completely different states at the moment, we will find our way back to each other once we’re old enough to live on our own and we are gonna have the best gosh dang reunion party in history
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Turns out my bestie is a lvl 4 then, and I’m extremely glad for it: 3 No matter what time of the day it is, if either of us get a text from the other saying Hey, can you talk it’s drop everything and basically become a therapist. We’ve only been friends a little over 4 years but out of the hundreds of people I’ve met in my life, we have the deepest emotional connection on the planet and I’m so freakin’ grateful to have her in my life. Even if we live in two completely different states at the moment, we will find our way back to each other once we’re old enough to live on our own and we are gonna have the best gosh dang reunion party in history
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orion88127
I have a friend that I've known since our first school day when we were five. Her home was my second home growing up, I called her parents mom and dad. I was by her side when her dad died, she was by my side when I was in my deepest depression and wanted to give up on life, and when I came out as trans and was scared to be myself. I love her so much. We currently haven't spoken in a few months and haven't seen eachother in 2 years because life got in the way. But I'm not worried, this has happened before and every single time I see her we're as comfortable as we ever were, no matter how much we changed. I should send her a text and see how she's been doing!
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I have a friend that I've known since our first school day when we were five. Her home was my second home growing up, I called her parents mom and dad. I was by her side when her dad died, she was by my side when I was in my deepest depression and wanted to give up on life, and when I came out as trans and was scared to be myself. I love her so much. We currently haven't spoken in a few months and haven't seen eachother in 2 years because life got in the way. But I'm not worried, this has happened before and every single time I see her we're as comfortable as we ever were, no matter how much we changed. I should send her a text and see how she's been doing!
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thamashadevindi
I am so happy right now because of this video. I've lived in a boarding school for 5 years and that time I've met a lot of friends. Because we grew up together like a family, still the most of us are very close friends. And from there I have 3 friends and outside the hostel I have 2 friends that I consider as best friends. Sometimes I truly have hardships because of my family and the best things I got is these friendships. I felt sooo lucky after watching this. And the most beautiful phrase I heard lately is 'deep platonic love'. That is the most precious thing to me. Thank you for making this and thank you for congratulating
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I am so happy right now because of this video. I've lived in a boarding school for 5 years and that time I've met a lot of friends. Because we grew up together like a family, still the most of us are very close friends. And from there I have 3 friends and outside the hostel I have 2 friends that I consider as best friends. Sometimes I truly have hardships because of my family and the best things I got is these friendships. I felt sooo lucky after watching this. And the most beautiful phrase I heard lately is 'deep platonic love'. That is the most precious thing to me. Thank you for making this and thank you for congratulating
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s. shreya7694
I have this one friend who I am really close to. If I have to be honest she is probably the only person whom I'll call a bestie. we have been friends for more than 10 years right now we both are in different continents and timezones but despite that we still talk to eachother for an hour or two. She is basically like a family or a twin to me. we made this absurd promise when we were kids that we will move to Australia and we both will live together there with a lot of animal friends. Currently she is in Australia and I'm planning to do my masters there and i guess our childhood dreams will come true.
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I have this one friend who I am really close to. If I have to be honest she is probably the only person whom I'll call a bestie. we have been friends for more than 10 years right now we both are in different continents and timezones but despite that we still talk to eachother for an hour or two. She is basically like a family or a twin to me. we made this absurd promise when we were kids that we will move to Australia and we both will live together there with a lot of animal friends. Currently she is in Australia and I'm planning to do my masters there and i guess our childhood dreams will come true.
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psych2go
I had a cousin (we still talk now) and we were best friends since from where I couldn't remember. We live in different states but just a single call on a laptop or phone would create the best memories of us. And when we meet in person there are literally little to no conflict as if we fight its VERY RARE to see us fight. 1 year older than her and I'm considered the bigger one as I give unpaid therapy, emotional support, and more! Its just really fun to play with my cousin. And each time a year passes, its the more time we have anniversaries of how long we've been close for. And I will never let go
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I had a cousin (we still talk now) and we were best friends since from where I couldn't remember. We live in different states but just a single call on a laptop or phone would create the best memories of us. And when we meet in person there are literally little to no conflict as if we fight its VERY RARE to see us fight. 1 year older than her and I'm considered the bigger one as I give unpaid therapy, emotional support, and more! Its just really fun to play with my cousin. And each time a year passes, its the more time we have anniversaries of how long we've been close for. And I will never let go
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GaryGeat28
When I was in high school, I had a lot of friends. I wasn't a popular kid but had a small group of friends. Fast forward 21 years. I only kept in touch with two people I went to high school with. I consider them my most cherished friends. In 2019 I lost my dearest friend. She was going through a rough patch after her divorce. I've tried to contact her but have had no luck. The last time I saw her was at my mom's funeral in 2014. Losing a friend who was there for me during my best times and my worst times is what hurt the most. She was like a sister to me.
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When I was in high school, I had a lot of friends. I wasn't a popular kid but had a small group of friends. Fast forward 21 years. I only kept in touch with two people I went to high school with. I consider them my most cherished friends. In 2019 I lost my dearest friend. She was going through a rough patch after her divorce. I've tried to contact her but have had no luck. The last time I saw her was at my mom's funeral in 2014. Losing a friend who was there for me during my best times and my worst times is what hurt the most. She was like a sister to me.
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kienzohan3492
Me and my buddy don't have that much intimacy but our connection is still very strong even after being separated by college for so long. It just seemed like we never even had any distance at all in the first place, the lack of intimacy may be because we treat each other like homies or it's simply because we're both having a hard time accepting intimacy but she and i are both undoubtedly at 5th stage. It just worked somehow, although i do wanna know what y'all think about this.
. No snot-nosed replies please, ty.
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Me and my buddy don't have that much intimacy but our connection is still very strong even after being separated by college for so long. It just seemed like we never even had any distance at all in the first place, the lack of intimacy may be because we treat each other like homies or it's simply because we're both having a hard time accepting intimacy but she and i are both undoubtedly at 5th stage. It just worked somehow, although i do wanna know what y'all think about this.
. No snot-nosed replies please, ty.
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kayleighdriessen
It's so sad how many people think friendships are inherently low-maintainance and casual therefor never moving past the third step keeping them as friendly acquaintaceships at best even though true pure meaningful friendship (the kind of friendship I always longed for instead of settling for the bare minimum that's why I spend more time in solitude cause I'm my own best friend) requires you to want to commit to being friends in deep platonic love with someone much like committing to a romantic partner.
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It's so sad how many people think friendships are inherently low-maintainance and casual therefor never moving past the third step keeping them as friendly acquaintaceships at best even though true pure meaningful friendship (the kind of friendship I always longed for instead of settling for the bare minimum that's why I spend more time in solitude cause I'm my own best friend) requires you to want to commit to being friends in deep platonic love with someone much like committing to a romantic partner.
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da3riuschew
Ive lost one after 5 years of close friendship due to my wrong actions towards him (not death) and ngl, it still kinda hurts to think it back now. But im glad that idgaf anymore and we went through our separate ways. I though he was one real homie because we make a lot of memories and i even cared about him when he felt he had depression. But now, he is going against me and i totally deserve it for what ive done to him. I'll learn from this mistake and hopefully find better friends towards my journey
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Ive lost one after 5 years of close friendship due to my wrong actions towards him (not death) and ngl, it still kinda hurts to think it back now. But im glad that idgaf anymore and we went through our separate ways. I though he was one real homie because we make a lot of memories and i even cared about him when he felt he had depression. But now, he is going against me and i totally deserve it for what ive done to him. I'll learn from this mistake and hopefully find better friends towards my journey
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chels8412
i literally just had a conversation with my best friend explaining to her how detached i felt from myself and consequently from her, i apologized for changing so dramatically, what she said to me made me realize that I've found my life long friend. any and every version of you i will make it work.
we've been through the stage of drifting apart due to life circumstances and then ultimately rekindling our friendship. I hope everybody finds that one person they can be their complete self with!
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i literally just had a conversation with my best friend explaining to her how detached i felt from myself and consequently from her, i apologized for changing so dramatically, what she said to me made me realize that I've found my life long friend. any and every version of you i will make it work.
we've been through the stage of drifting apart due to life circumstances and then ultimately rekindling our friendship. I hope everybody finds that one person they can be their complete self with!
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deresfer1525
I'm sure one of my friends is the life-long one. Remember that one day when he came over to donate blood to one of his relatives to my city, we've walked around the place all day, I showed him places and we shared some good food. Then we went to the hospital and donated blood together. It was quite a fun experience actualy. And even though we rarely see each other due to living in different cities, I surely enjoy every moment we can meet up on Cristmas or any other special occasion.
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I'm sure one of my friends is the life-long one. Remember that one day when he came over to donate blood to one of his relatives to my city, we've walked around the place all day, I showed him places and we shared some good food. Then we went to the hospital and donated blood together. It was quite a fun experience actualy. And even though we rarely see each other due to living in different cities, I surely enjoy every moment we can meet up on Cristmas or any other special occasion.
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TheOneAndOnlyNari
You probably won’t read this, but it’d make my day if you would make a video about why and how to stop envying my partner in a relationship. I envy everything about her, and sometimes it makes me feel better if she loses something she was proud of. If she got on honors in school and then lost it. It makes me feel good that she doesn’t have something that I want. I feel so selfish and I don’t know what to do. Please, can you make a video about this
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You probably won’t read this, but it’d make my day if you would make a video about why and how to stop envying my partner in a relationship. I envy everything about her, and sometimes it makes me feel better if she loses something she was proud of. If she got on honors in school and then lost it. It makes me feel good that she doesn’t have something that I want. I feel so selfish and I don’t know what to do. Please, can you make a video about this
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Tactical_sandwich
A few interesing friendships I had were some that seemed like casual friendships and still do but there were moments when the other person starts sharing some stuff about relationships and I share some too so it doesn't look like I don't care becocue I do. Another interesting thing that has happened is becoming almost strangers with someone who you used to talk a lot.
Edit: Maybe I am just not good at holding onto friendships
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A few interesing friendships I had were some that seemed like casual friendships and still do but there were moments when the other person starts sharing some stuff about relationships and I share some too so it doesn't look like I don't care becocue I do. Another interesting thing that has happened is becoming almost strangers with someone who you used to talk a lot.
Edit: Maybe I am just not good at holding onto friendships
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