6 Signs Your Crush is Not Meant to Be
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Date: 2024-06-29
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Vessels-Psyce
Since I was a child asking what’s so different about me, and why am I unable to communicate like, understand, or play with the other people/kids like everyone else. Trying to understand what’s so different, and what is it that I wasn’t getting. How is everyone else able to interact with each other, and do the whole back, and fourth interaction thing. Why am I in the corner by myself with some books while everyone else is interacting, and building little houses for the caterpillars while everyone else is able to do the whole interaction thing. What questions do I ask, or what words do I utilize in conversation to have a conversation, and make friends. Sometimes nonverbal, and not understanding those around me with a very extensive vocabulary for my age equal, or even more than that of the adults around me. Often very bored, very tedious in schools with such basic/boring knowledge. Wanting to learn something for once that I didn’t already know. I would sometimes be losing my mind at the sheer incompetency of adults, and for trying to explore the world around me locked into a little room by myself with nothing but a time magazine of the 10, 000 year old mummy frozen in ice for hours as punishment for not being like the rest of the kids. I would be hit, isolated, ignored, and abused for being myself wanting to learn, and ask questions. Turned away from anyone who would be able to help me, meds kept away from me, religion trying to replace medical care, turned away from getting help from police, school counselors, medical care, any type of help, and even not allowed to speak about to Therapist’s whilst the first part of my life having to live in silence, controlled, or taken advantage of by many. Not even able to get legal assistance, or a social worker to help explain things to me in terms I’d be able to understand, keeping me quiet, complacent, and trying to dictate my life demonizing my conditions. Always trying to cure, abuse, cover up my symptoms of ADHD, and Autistic/Asperger’s was called gifted, or exceptional abilities in certain areas, while even receiving medical trauma being strapped to tables, and it being conducted in what was supposed to be just routine testing, and procedures whilst just being curious asking questions wanting to know what was going to be done to me. A lot of bullying going towards the adults who were supposed to be there to help me, but as soon as I was getting assaulted, and things became physical I fought back hurting 3 kids on the bus one day after just keeping to myself going about life. This was after a multitude of months of me letting people know what was going on, and I was the one to be punished. Even getting bullied, and harassed by adults as a child that just simply hated me for existing. Teen years I tried to end my own life twice, and once as an adult, but I ended up surviving each encounter. My handwriting isn’t the best so there was a feminist teacher who just inherently hated guy’s that would mark all of my answers wrong for not being able to draw a perfect dot even though the answers were correct. The bullying got worse by schools, counselors, medical staff, some law enforcement, police brutality, discrimination, and in home. There was no place that I was able to get help, be safe, or get any help, and answers. Just kept getting told I’m making excuses, later on learning that it was others making excuses for not wanting to help any, and expecting me to be normal as I was continuously harassed being made to feel bad for just existing not going along with whatever I was being told. Constantly being turned away from any sort of help, or assistance, and with heavy pressure from huge organizations like certain catholic groups being forced to be a certain way I would be forcibly isolated despite being a decent, kind, loving, caring, and understanding person. Some of the things you spoke about resinated with me, and not really knowing what to do during certain meltdowns unable to think, or process certain things during certain situations when the brain is overloaded, and is unable to even start to think about what to say, or do. Some people saw me as dangerous, a burden, or even a nuisance. I’m not a very buff dude, and have taken multiple classes in martial arts mainly defensive styles only, not being allowed to even know about my own conditions while trying to confuse me, or lie to me making certain assumptions, and like certain things it wasn’t. Constantly filling my mind with doubts, or trying to be sneaky, and really shady about things only talking in ways that were kind of the exact opposite of how my brain works. I’ll spare some details about a lot of other things that went on, but I’ve struggled so much to try to understand this world, have just been trying to survive, and learned to speak neurotypical to blend in out of constant fear. It goes back to a book from my childhood Amongst The Hidden plus The Giving Tree it’s like we have to be like everyone or else Autistic people being demonized for being different, and punished for just existing, not understanding the world like the rest, different thinkers, minds, unique, honest, and authentic. It was very strange having eye Dr’s, random teachers, addicts, certain police officers, raver’s, students, strangers, and random people throughout my life noticing certain things that the Dr’s, and Nurses wouldn’t even tell me, or noticed certain traits. Like all of these mental, traumatic, and neurological conditions were such a bad thing when I am not myself.
Thanks for sharing your experience, and story by the way. What’s a way to go about this type of situation I’m reaching out for help, and advice, but not really sure what to do about all of this. I know what was being done to me was wrong, and I’m just unsure who to go to about this anymore, or who I’m able to trust. I’ve been listening, and some of things on here have been pretty on point.
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Since I was a child asking what’s so different about me, and why am I unable to communicate like, understand, or play with the other people/kids like everyone else. Trying to understand what’s so different, and what is it that I wasn’t getting. How is everyone else able to interact with each other, and do the whole back, and fourth interaction thing. Why am I in the corner by myself with some books while everyone else is interacting, and building little houses for the caterpillars while everyone else is able to do the whole interaction thing. What questions do I ask, or what words do I utilize in conversation to have a conversation, and make friends. Sometimes nonverbal, and not understanding those around me with a very extensive vocabulary for my age equal, or even more than that of the adults around me. Often very bored, very tedious in schools with such basic/boring knowledge. Wanting to learn something for once that I didn’t already know. I would sometimes be losing my mind at the sheer incompetency of adults, and for trying to explore the world around me locked into a little room by myself with nothing but a time magazine of the 10, 000 year old mummy frozen in ice for hours as punishment for not being like the rest of the kids. I would be hit, isolated, ignored, and abused for being myself wanting to learn, and ask questions. Turned away from anyone who would be able to help me, meds kept away from me, religion trying to replace medical care, turned away from getting help from police, school counselors, medical care, any type of help, and even not allowed to speak about to Therapist’s whilst the first part of my life having to live in silence, controlled, or taken advantage of by many. Not even able to get legal assistance, or a social worker to help explain things to me in terms I’d be able to understand, keeping me quiet, complacent, and trying to dictate my life demonizing my conditions. Always trying to cure, abuse, cover up my symptoms of ADHD, and Autistic/Asperger’s was called gifted, or exceptional abilities in certain areas, while even receiving medical trauma being strapped to tables, and it being conducted in what was supposed to be just routine testing, and procedures whilst just being curious asking questions wanting to know what was going to be done to me. A lot of bullying going towards the adults who were supposed to be there to help me, but as soon as I was getting assaulted, and things became physical I fought back hurting 3 kids on the bus one day after just keeping to myself going about life. This was after a multitude of months of me letting people know what was going on, and I was the one to be punished. Even getting bullied, and harassed by adults as a child that just simply hated me for existing. Teen years I tried to end my own life twice, and once as an adult, but I ended up surviving each encounter. My handwriting isn’t the best so there was a feminist teacher who just inherently hated guy’s that would mark all of my answers wrong for not being able to draw a perfect dot even though the answers were correct. The bullying got worse by schools, counselors, medical staff, some law enforcement, police brutality, discrimination, and in home. There was no place that I was able to get help, be safe, or get any help, and answers. Just kept getting told I’m making excuses, later on learning that it was others making excuses for not wanting to help any, and expecting me to be normal as I was continuously harassed being made to feel bad for just existing not going along with whatever I was being told. Constantly being turned away from any sort of help, or assistance, and with heavy pressure from huge organizations like certain catholic groups being forced to be a certain way I would be forcibly isolated despite being a decent, kind, loving, caring, and understanding person. Some of the things you spoke about resinated with me, and not really knowing what to do during certain meltdowns unable to think, or process certain things during certain situations when the brain is overloaded, and is unable to even start to think about what to say, or do. Some people saw me as dangerous, a burden, or even a nuisance. I’m not a very buff dude, and have taken multiple classes in martial arts mainly defensive styles only, not being allowed to even know about my own conditions while trying to confuse me, or lie to me making certain assumptions, and like certain things it wasn’t. Constantly filling my mind with doubts, or trying to be sneaky, and really shady about things only talking in ways that were kind of the exact opposite of how my brain works. I’ll spare some details about a lot of other things that went on, but I’ve struggled so much to try to understand this world, have just been trying to survive, and learned to speak neurotypical to blend in out of constant fear. It goes back to a book from my childhood Amongst The Hidden plus The Giving Tree it’s like we have to be like everyone or else Autistic people being demonized for being different, and punished for just existing, not understanding the world like the rest, different thinkers, minds, unique, honest, and authentic. It was very strange having eye Dr’s, random teachers, addicts, certain police officers, raver’s, students, strangers, and random people throughout my life noticing certain things that the Dr’s, and Nurses wouldn’t even tell me, or noticed certain traits. Like all of these mental, traumatic, and neurological conditions were such a bad thing when I am not myself.
Thanks for sharing your experience, and story by the way. What’s a way to go about this type of situation I’m reaching out for help, and advice, but not really sure what to do about all of this. I know what was being done to me was wrong, and I’m just unsure who to go to about this anymore, or who I’m able to trust. I’ve been listening, and some of things on here have been pretty on point.
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Notyouraveragename
Honestly great video! We all go through life and sometimes the sparks light and fade. But these seem like very healthy mentalities to bring in. Anyone with a healthy mindset and healthy body might not fit in with the one, and maybe i've been going through some reverse end heartbreak with one, heart mending with another who im happy with. As they say, Sometimes your heart is broken, the one you wanted, didn't want to stay. Sometimes your heart is broken, plan C made you happier than A ever did, but life moves on. People aren't fantasies and you want someone who's the right match, at the right place, at the right time!
Even if one doesn't work, that doesn't mean one of the many hundred millions of people out there couldn't. Meshing and partner compatibility is great! We don't always get a 0. 1%er 500k a year 6 pack hercules einstein EL thor.
Sometimes it's the best offer available we have. Or some people need time to heal or to move on or work on themselves. That's alright. Finding the right match can be just as, if not more important than longing for the one. As they say, sometimes it's just not the right time, not the wrong person. Some people are and would be great catches at any other time, some of us just are working through things or working on establishing ourselves in the world, finding ourselves, working and repairing/examining / trying to remove or fix/cover up baggage. And also wanting to fix it before we enter into a relationship.
To avoid hurting someone from undeserved aftermaths or messes of what came before.
Sometimes a person could be a great catch, just not the right place/time/financial condition. But that's alright though. You don't want a red green flag relationship. But these are all great green flags here! Respecting boundaries, space, people's healing, desires, people as people with thoughts, emotions, lifestyles and own invisible needs and personal needs, etc. And desires, clear communication and life goals.
Great stuff here, remember, just because your 1/10000 crush might have seen you as their 0/10 / 0/100. That doesn't mean that there might be someone that could sees you as their 1/100000. Find stuff that would make people want you in a healthy manner, dress sharp, have a good personality, have a healthy weight, be fit, take care of yourself, have healthy mindsets or try to. and try to work on improvement.
It can be easy to sit and slop in self loathing, but people will come to you if you think you could be a treat. But you want people good for you in your life, not bad or looking to exploit/take advantage of you! Who'll geniunely build it up, right place, right time, right mindset, right chemistry, not rip it apart, right: D
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Honestly great video! We all go through life and sometimes the sparks light and fade. But these seem like very healthy mentalities to bring in. Anyone with a healthy mindset and healthy body might not fit in with the one, and maybe i've been going through some reverse end heartbreak with one, heart mending with another who im happy with. As they say, Sometimes your heart is broken, the one you wanted, didn't want to stay. Sometimes your heart is broken, plan C made you happier than A ever did, but life moves on. People aren't fantasies and you want someone who's the right match, at the right place, at the right time!
Even if one doesn't work, that doesn't mean one of the many hundred millions of people out there couldn't. Meshing and partner compatibility is great! We don't always get a 0. 1%er 500k a year 6 pack hercules einstein EL thor.
Sometimes it's the best offer available we have. Or some people need time to heal or to move on or work on themselves. That's alright. Finding the right match can be just as, if not more important than longing for the one. As they say, sometimes it's just not the right time, not the wrong person. Some people are and would be great catches at any other time, some of us just are working through things or working on establishing ourselves in the world, finding ourselves, working and repairing/examining / trying to remove or fix/cover up baggage. And also wanting to fix it before we enter into a relationship.
To avoid hurting someone from undeserved aftermaths or messes of what came before.
Sometimes a person could be a great catch, just not the right place/time/financial condition. But that's alright though. You don't want a red green flag relationship. But these are all great green flags here! Respecting boundaries, space, people's healing, desires, people as people with thoughts, emotions, lifestyles and own invisible needs and personal needs, etc. And desires, clear communication and life goals.
Great stuff here, remember, just because your 1/10000 crush might have seen you as their 0/10 / 0/100. That doesn't mean that there might be someone that could sees you as their 1/100000. Find stuff that would make people want you in a healthy manner, dress sharp, have a good personality, have a healthy weight, be fit, take care of yourself, have healthy mindsets or try to. and try to work on improvement.
It can be easy to sit and slop in self loathing, but people will come to you if you think you could be a treat. But you want people good for you in your life, not bad or looking to exploit/take advantage of you! Who'll geniunely build it up, right place, right time, right mindset, right chemistry, not rip it apart, right: D
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redheadbelle
I’m confused. The thing is: I love to text & connect, but also having time for myself. I need someone who doesn’t take things too personally as I’ve made the experience that everything I do is measured by interested or rejection. This is an emotional rollercoaster. I want a healthy relationship where there is the trust that both people can live their life without the fear of loss. For me, I of course have my own opinions and life choices which have nothing to do with my crush. It’s ok if they want to heal and aren’t ready to start something. This can be communicated. For me, transparency, honesty and not taking everything too personal is key. As it’s impossible to be perfect. I adore my crush as they are. It’s frustrating when there is insecurity involved in the way where I can’t be myself without being judged or coming off giving mixed signals. Iam also a fan of dates in person so online misunderstandings cannot happen. So you can check the vibe right away. Having to guess is draining at some point.
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And: Iam a person who needs time for myself also. I can’t be texting 24/7. I want a healthy balance
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I’m confused. The thing is: I love to text & connect, but also having time for myself. I need someone who doesn’t take things too personally as I’ve made the experience that everything I do is measured by interested or rejection. This is an emotional rollercoaster. I want a healthy relationship where there is the trust that both people can live their life without the fear of loss. For me, I of course have my own opinions and life choices which have nothing to do with my crush. It’s ok if they want to heal and aren’t ready to start something. This can be communicated. For me, transparency, honesty and not taking everything too personal is key. As it’s impossible to be perfect. I adore my crush as they are. It’s frustrating when there is insecurity involved in the way where I can’t be myself without being judged or coming off giving mixed signals. Iam also a fan of dates in person so online misunderstandings cannot happen. So you can check the vibe right away. Having to guess is draining at some point.
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And: Iam a person who needs time for myself also. I can’t be texting 24/7. I want a healthy balance
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psych2go
And don’t forget, a lot of these things can be self-perceived or invented issues. For an example, not being able to be yourself. You could just have a low self-esteem, be self conscious, or have a bad grasp of your crush’s character. (Whereas they’d actually be okay with real you, and even prefer it)
So, before bailing and claiming it’d all be for nothing, give it a shot to prove yourself wrong.
I used to be a pessimist in these situations, but trust me. Assuming something as a fact before letting go of insecurities, or not being communicative in your concerns, is usually not a good idea.
Walking away is always the safe option, but being Safe is not always necessarily the best, and most fulfilling option.
No one will seem perfect. So take a risk, whereas if you don’t, you’ll be the distant, seemingly uninterested type that you’re trying to avoid, by trying to preserve yourself.
Remember that, communication is important for these reasons.
Nobody ever catches any good fish, without risking their boat over deep waters.
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And don’t forget, a lot of these things can be self-perceived or invented issues. For an example, not being able to be yourself. You could just have a low self-esteem, be self conscious, or have a bad grasp of your crush’s character. (Whereas they’d actually be okay with real you, and even prefer it)
So, before bailing and claiming it’d all be for nothing, give it a shot to prove yourself wrong.
I used to be a pessimist in these situations, but trust me. Assuming something as a fact before letting go of insecurities, or not being communicative in your concerns, is usually not a good idea.
Walking away is always the safe option, but being Safe is not always necessarily the best, and most fulfilling option.
No one will seem perfect. So take a risk, whereas if you don’t, you’ll be the distant, seemingly uninterested type that you’re trying to avoid, by trying to preserve yourself.
Remember that, communication is important for these reasons.
Nobody ever catches any good fish, without risking their boat over deep waters.
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vampirewolfmoon
i feel like my situation is more complicated than whats ever talked about on videos. like i recently had my first crush (im really late cause im 26) and my crush fits a lot of what i want but i feel its hard to find. -. like hes older and a gentleman but he also gives me attention sometimes which i dont get attention from older men (or any men tbh) so i guess it went to my head. its hard cause i didnt know he was unavailable when i first started crushing on him and months later i found out and i felt guilty cause i still have a crush on him kinda. but i know he never likes me. -. also its hard cause he is kinda like my friend and i see him at work very often like sometimes we message online or he likes my posts sometimes and i think that makes it harder to get over. i dont have interactions with him all the time but hes so nice that it makes it difficult to ignore: / like now i know to never persue him or anything, but its still hard to see them everyday and ignore it idk. _.
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i feel like my situation is more complicated than whats ever talked about on videos. like i recently had my first crush (im really late cause im 26) and my crush fits a lot of what i want but i feel its hard to find. -. like hes older and a gentleman but he also gives me attention sometimes which i dont get attention from older men (or any men tbh) so i guess it went to my head. its hard cause i didnt know he was unavailable when i first started crushing on him and months later i found out and i felt guilty cause i still have a crush on him kinda. but i know he never likes me. -. also its hard cause he is kinda like my friend and i see him at work very often like sometimes we message online or he likes my posts sometimes and i think that makes it harder to get over. i dont have interactions with him all the time but hes so nice that it makes it difficult to ignore: / like now i know to never persue him or anything, but its still hard to see them everyday and ignore it idk. _.
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idan. 5316
The last one remknds me of my ex. I couldn't be myself completely, and felt like I couldn't be myself 100% around him. Couldn't even talk to him about anything since it was a high chance of him discarding my feelings and worries, either if it was about the relationship or aomething else. Whenever I suggested that we did something, for example go to another country, a road trip to somewhere, or just something in the area we lived in, he would just turn me down and come with excuses not to. The 2 most common excuses were like I have to work and It's to warm. I do get that some places is to warm, but there is other places that have similar weather conditions like Norway. Don't get me wrong, there is good to have a job and earn some money to pay for food, bills, clothes etc. But sometimes it's good to do something else for a bit, even if it's just a weekend trip somewhere or camping or something for a few days. It doesn't have to be expensive
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The last one remknds me of my ex. I couldn't be myself completely, and felt like I couldn't be myself 100% around him. Couldn't even talk to him about anything since it was a high chance of him discarding my feelings and worries, either if it was about the relationship or aomething else. Whenever I suggested that we did something, for example go to another country, a road trip to somewhere, or just something in the area we lived in, he would just turn me down and come with excuses not to. The 2 most common excuses were like I have to work and It's to warm. I do get that some places is to warm, but there is other places that have similar weather conditions like Norway. Don't get me wrong, there is good to have a job and earn some money to pay for food, bills, clothes etc. But sometimes it's good to do something else for a bit, even if it's just a weekend trip somewhere or camping or something for a few days. It doesn't have to be expensive
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jonathanbranum8976
The title should be, knowing you have the right people in your life. this was basic101 human interaction 'stuff'; let alone Crushing on someone, which entails winning their affection/attention so they will Not Always reciprocate anything and may be stand-off'ish and guarded/reserved. if you want to share with them, you must prove to them you are worthy to be in their circle. otherwise we're just back to; how to know you have the right people in your life! punto y Final. :) sounds click worthy though, so here I am being told basic relationship with other human beings, not crushing on someone, which is very different and utilizes different tactics and reasoning. nice try though, like my dad, at least you tried.
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The title should be, knowing you have the right people in your life. this was basic101 human interaction 'stuff'; let alone Crushing on someone, which entails winning their affection/attention so they will Not Always reciprocate anything and may be stand-off'ish and guarded/reserved. if you want to share with them, you must prove to them you are worthy to be in their circle. otherwise we're just back to; how to know you have the right people in your life! punto y Final. :) sounds click worthy though, so here I am being told basic relationship with other human beings, not crushing on someone, which is very different and utilizes different tactics and reasoning. nice try though, like my dad, at least you tried.
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whitelichmage7004
Crushing on someone who you know you can't have can be a painful and unpleasant experience. However it can also be a good learning experience to help you better understand yourself and chemistry with the other person. As it is if they're together with someone else because they have similar values, interests and goals then just take that as a hint that they clearly aren't the right match for you. If you have to be someone you aren't just to get them to leave their current relationship you're going to have a miserable relationship on your hands. It's better to be with the right person who compliments you for who you are than to be someone you aren't with the wrong person.
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Crushing on someone who you know you can't have can be a painful and unpleasant experience. However it can also be a good learning experience to help you better understand yourself and chemistry with the other person. As it is if they're together with someone else because they have similar values, interests and goals then just take that as a hint that they clearly aren't the right match for you. If you have to be someone you aren't just to get them to leave their current relationship you're going to have a miserable relationship on your hands. It's better to be with the right person who compliments you for who you are than to be someone you aren't with the wrong person.
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psych2go
THANK YOU so much for this video Psych2Go! There's this friend I've known for most of my life, and I was debating whether or not I had a crush on them, or if it was just a really strong friendship. This vid really helped me reflect on my relationship with them. Also, I have a video suggestion: Signs it's time to let go of your best friend Lately I feel like my best friend and I have been disconnected, we haven't really been on the same page. I'm usually the one who puts in the effort, and they barely talk to me anymore. It would be nice to get some advice, because I've known them for so long, and it's difficult to let go of someone who I've once shared a strong bond with.
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THANK YOU so much for this video Psych2Go! There's this friend I've known for most of my life, and I was debating whether or not I had a crush on them, or if it was just a really strong friendship. This vid really helped me reflect on my relationship with them. Also, I have a video suggestion: Signs it's time to let go of your best friend Lately I feel like my best friend and I have been disconnected, we haven't really been on the same page. I'm usually the one who puts in the effort, and they barely talk to me anymore. It would be nice to get some advice, because I've known them for so long, and it's difficult to let go of someone who I've once shared a strong bond with.
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thedevanthar1132
I dont know if this is the commentsection is the place to ask for advice, but oh well. I have (or had now) a crush on someone, and she on me. It was online with no physical irl connection possible due to distance. The moment she told me she found someone else closer to her, well. (insert sad crying face. When you said in the video about leaving her on READ, I might have done so on some occasions. Not that I dont want to talk, because I do, I just had my focus somewhere else, and long conversation are for me mentally draining. I dont know anymore.
Also, again with the perfect time Psych. get out of my room, you
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I dont know if this is the commentsection is the place to ask for advice, but oh well. I have (or had now) a crush on someone, and she on me. It was online with no physical irl connection possible due to distance. The moment she told me she found someone else closer to her, well. (insert sad crying face. When you said in the video about leaving her on READ, I might have done so on some occasions. Not that I dont want to talk, because I do, I just had my focus somewhere else, and long conversation are for me mentally draining. I dont know anymore.
Also, again with the perfect time Psych. get out of my room, you
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sararatliff7707
I saw Amy Rose on the thumbnail and thought yes, this is perfect! The powers that be at Sega should never have let her carry on the way she did for 20 years. It was so painfully OBVIOUS that Sonic was not into her, and she just got creepier and more weirdly possessive of him. She may be perpetually 12 years old, but come on. The joke was old after Adventure 2, and Sonic looked genuinely scared for his life whenever she was around. Now that they've FINALLY written her that she got the hint, she can be her own person, make her own life, and possibly find someone who will be into her.
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I saw Amy Rose on the thumbnail and thought yes, this is perfect! The powers that be at Sega should never have let her carry on the way she did for 20 years. It was so painfully OBVIOUS that Sonic was not into her, and she just got creepier and more weirdly possessive of him. She may be perpetually 12 years old, but come on. The joke was old after Adventure 2, and Sonic looked genuinely scared for his life whenever she was around. Now that they've FINALLY written her that she got the hint, she can be her own person, make her own life, and possibly find someone who will be into her.
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ogshotglass9291
When you mentioned about letting people be and giving them space to heal, as a guy in my 20's, when I do that, it's surprising to me how quickly the girls I like end up in another relationship. I think it's partly because at my age, there's a lot of pressure that you HAVE to have a relationship. And for girls, you HAVE to start having babies before your prime time ends. And because of that, I've seen many of my friends keep getting in a revolving door of abusive or bad relationships.
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When you mentioned about letting people be and giving them space to heal, as a guy in my 20's, when I do that, it's surprising to me how quickly the girls I like end up in another relationship. I think it's partly because at my age, there's a lot of pressure that you HAVE to have a relationship. And for girls, you HAVE to start having babies before your prime time ends. And because of that, I've seen many of my friends keep getting in a revolving door of abusive or bad relationships.
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jwanie366
Met someone at work last year who I gradually developed a crush on. She was in a relationship at the time but I still wanted to get to know her better as a friend, especially after she broke up with her partner. Unfortunately she found someone else not too long afterwards and has already discussed marriage with her current partner. We've become good friends though, and maybe it's better this way because we don't seem very compatible for a relationship based on our personalities
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Met someone at work last year who I gradually developed a crush on. She was in a relationship at the time but I still wanted to get to know her better as a friend, especially after she broke up with her partner. Unfortunately she found someone else not too long afterwards and has already discussed marriage with her current partner. We've become good friends though, and maybe it's better this way because we don't seem very compatible for a relationship based on our personalities
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fmcg5364
I listen to this and it tells the story of my life, my mother was very unsupportive, she made disparaging remarks about my looks all my life, told me guys didn't like me and then when you go to junior high the bane of the unattractive girl's existence. I was and still am terrified about relationships with men. I did most of the things above in relationships. I finally ran across a man that hurt me so deeply that I just gave up, it just isn't for me.
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I listen to this and it tells the story of my life, my mother was very unsupportive, she made disparaging remarks about my looks all my life, told me guys didn't like me and then when you go to junior high the bane of the unattractive girl's existence. I was and still am terrified about relationships with men. I did most of the things above in relationships. I finally ran across a man that hurt me so deeply that I just gave up, it just isn't for me.
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DaDMonDCB
I'm a bit worried about this. On one hand, we aren't sure about us. They know I love them, and I'm happy being their best friend. Which isn't necessarily the best thing for a relationship, even if they're open to things changing in the future.
On the other, none of these signs apply to us, we've known each other for 12 years, and we're open and communicative with each other. Certainly the best connection I've ever had.
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I'm a bit worried about this. On one hand, we aren't sure about us. They know I love them, and I'm happy being their best friend. Which isn't necessarily the best thing for a relationship, even if they're open to things changing in the future.
On the other, none of these signs apply to us, we've known each other for 12 years, and we're open and communicative with each other. Certainly the best connection I've ever had.
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umbra9029
It's so frustrating when someone is initially interested in you and shows signs of attraction, only to suddenly lose interest and disregard your existence. It's hard not to feel like they're doing this intentionally. people aren't toys. If you're going to be hot and cold with someone, don't expect them to always be understanding and reciprocate your interest. You reap what you sow.
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It's so frustrating when someone is initially interested in you and shows signs of attraction, only to suddenly lose interest and disregard your existence. It's hard not to feel like they're doing this intentionally. people aren't toys. If you're going to be hot and cold with someone, don't expect them to always be understanding and reciprocate your interest. You reap what you sow.
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ib2028
Signs:
1. Lack of reciprocation: you are the one mostly initiating
2. They send mixed signals: they make you feel a rollercoaster of emotions
3. Unavailability: they are not emotionally available/not ready
4. Different values & goals
5. Inability to be yourself: u feel like you are working hard to please, can’t be authentic or hide some parts of you.
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Signs:
1. Lack of reciprocation: you are the one mostly initiating
2. They send mixed signals: they make you feel a rollercoaster of emotions
3. Unavailability: they are not emotionally available/not ready
4. Different values & goals
5. Inability to be yourself: u feel like you are working hard to please, can’t be authentic or hide some parts of you.
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NeverToMuch21
The way I see it is I don't give my hopes up like if I just met this person imma keep it at the same level of energy they are giving me, I want to keep the same level plain field until I see them making a big move and I'll respond back and they would think, Oh my, this person is trying but where I'm from, is not a good place to find anyone lol.
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The way I see it is I don't give my hopes up like if I just met this person imma keep it at the same level of energy they are giving me, I want to keep the same level plain field until I see them making a big move and I'll respond back and they would think, Oh my, this person is trying but where I'm from, is not a good place to find anyone lol.
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maybenaught
I haven't had enough partners to know what I want in one. Though, I also don't know what I want for myself, generally. I think I missed out on a good guy because of timing, anxiety, performance, incompleteness, and inexperience. But you don't get do-overs, and people move on, and I have to figure out how to stop it from distracting me.
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I haven't had enough partners to know what I want in one. Though, I also don't know what I want for myself, generally. I think I missed out on a good guy because of timing, anxiety, performance, incompleteness, and inexperience. But you don't get do-overs, and people move on, and I have to figure out how to stop it from distracting me.
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RiseofNationslover
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1st: Why So we cannot Be near those Hateful People.
2nd: Not to Adapt their Hateful Ideologies, And how to Avoid them
3rd: How to deal With Them Peacefully
Hopefully you Can Accept, My Recommendations \(. )/
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I have 1 Recommendations
Recommendation: ___ Ways to Recognize a Racist Person, Reasons:
1st: Why So we cannot Be near those Hateful People.
2nd: Not to Adapt their Hateful Ideologies, And how to Avoid them
3rd: How to deal With Them Peacefully
Hopefully you Can Accept, My Recommendations \(. )/
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