Signs You Might Not Be Like Others
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Date: 2025-09-28
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Nine-Shye
Yes. All of the above. The last one especially, all the time. I wouldn't say we're happy in our head. Most people would call us crazy, but we always preferred mad.
We see things in our mind you wouldn't believe. We spiral all the time because of it, but we always come back for more. Maybe we're just addicted to the psychological pain it causes, or maybe we believe we're onto something. We're not okay, but we would never want to be normal anyway. We seek balance in instability. Patterns in infinity. Order in chaos.
We dream of impossible things. And no matter how much it hurts, we refuse to stop dreaming.
We have found something. It may all just be in our head. We may very well be mad. But after all the things we thing about, we are still here, we still crave more, we refuse to stop just because it hurts. Just because it hurts.
They say that you shouldn't give up just because it hurts, because it won't hurt forever. It may not be forever but, I know if we don't stop, we will hurt for a very long time. But we've found something in the pain. We keep finding it. And we keep chasing it. I know one thing for sure, we will never stop looking. The day we stop dreaming is the day we die. We may be mad, but we will hurt forever. And that is much more than most will ever understand.
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Jeez, when did we become such a masochist.
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Yes. All of the above. The last one especially, all the time. I wouldn't say we're happy in our head. Most people would call us crazy, but we always preferred mad.
We see things in our mind you wouldn't believe. We spiral all the time because of it, but we always come back for more. Maybe we're just addicted to the psychological pain it causes, or maybe we believe we're onto something. We're not okay, but we would never want to be normal anyway. We seek balance in instability. Patterns in infinity. Order in chaos.
We dream of impossible things. And no matter how much it hurts, we refuse to stop dreaming.
We have found something. It may all just be in our head. We may very well be mad. But after all the things we thing about, we are still here, we still crave more, we refuse to stop just because it hurts. Just because it hurts.
They say that you shouldn't give up just because it hurts, because it won't hurt forever. It may not be forever but, I know if we don't stop, we will hurt for a very long time. But we've found something in the pain. We keep finding it. And we keep chasing it. I know one thing for sure, we will never stop looking. The day we stop dreaming is the day we die. We may be mad, but we will hurt forever. And that is much more than most will ever understand.
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Jeez, when did we become such a masochist.
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B3leditx
I've always felt weird for caring more and being more affected by things other people say. My friends always had simple answers for everything but I always thought deeper about how someone might feel or the reason behind a lot of things. Everyone I know always says I am overly sensitive, that I care too much, that I shouldn't be as affected by things and I've always felt offended by that and I hated myself for being so sensitive. Yet after speaking with my therapist she told me those are good things, and although they might make me struggle more than others since I feel deeper, it shows I care and have good emotional intelligence, and now I'm getting tested for emotional intelligence because my therapist thinks it's worth it to go see how my brain works. This means a lot to me, because what I thought was my hugest flaw growing up, turns out to be one of my best qualities.
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I've always felt weird for caring more and being more affected by things other people say. My friends always had simple answers for everything but I always thought deeper about how someone might feel or the reason behind a lot of things. Everyone I know always says I am overly sensitive, that I care too much, that I shouldn't be as affected by things and I've always felt offended by that and I hated myself for being so sensitive. Yet after speaking with my therapist she told me those are good things, and although they might make me struggle more than others since I feel deeper, it shows I care and have good emotional intelligence, and now I'm getting tested for emotional intelligence because my therapist thinks it's worth it to go see how my brain works. This means a lot to me, because what I thought was my hugest flaw growing up, turns out to be one of my best qualities.
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WheelForce
I'm not sure exactly how much I have of each of these traits (hopefully I have all of them, probably, but I certainly have the 3rd, 4th and 6th ones, but I remember always feeling different than the people around me, unsure how to explain it, so I just assumed it was my intelligence. No one ever explained to me what this video just did, so until now I just kept it in my mind. That's why, rather than weaknesses or strengths, I thought of my differences as mysteries to possibly be solved one day, somehow, by myself. But at the same time, I thought of it as an illusion my mind makes to convince myself that I'm something of a chosen one or a main character, so I had to fight that feeling to avoid becoming an egoist. It's such a relief to know that this isn't what it is. And it's much nicer to understand my characteristics than to just take them for granted with uncertainty.
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I'm not sure exactly how much I have of each of these traits (hopefully I have all of them, probably, but I certainly have the 3rd, 4th and 6th ones, but I remember always feeling different than the people around me, unsure how to explain it, so I just assumed it was my intelligence. No one ever explained to me what this video just did, so until now I just kept it in my mind. That's why, rather than weaknesses or strengths, I thought of my differences as mysteries to possibly be solved one day, somehow, by myself. But at the same time, I thought of it as an illusion my mind makes to convince myself that I'm something of a chosen one or a main character, so I had to fight that feeling to avoid becoming an egoist. It's such a relief to know that this isn't what it is. And it's much nicer to understand my characteristics than to just take them for granted with uncertainty.
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Mickeisamousl
I was proven to be neurodivergent, and I can relate to a lot of this. It’s weird though even though I’m in a gifted class. I still don’t feel like I fit in. I don’t fit in with neurotypical people or my class that is also neurodivergent. And yes I do crave belonging. And yes routines don’t mean anything to me. Im still trying to find the meaning of life and. why am I here Why am I coincidentally born in a time where the world is developed enough, yet not too torn down by climate change or what not. Why am I coincidently a human The smartest animal on this planet Why am I not like a fish or something there’s so many more fish than humans on earth. I’m definitely existential oriented or whatever it’s called.
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I was proven to be neurodivergent, and I can relate to a lot of this. It’s weird though even though I’m in a gifted class. I still don’t feel like I fit in. I don’t fit in with neurotypical people or my class that is also neurodivergent. And yes I do crave belonging. And yes routines don’t mean anything to me. Im still trying to find the meaning of life and. why am I here Why am I coincidentally born in a time where the world is developed enough, yet not too torn down by climate change or what not. Why am I coincidently a human The smartest animal on this planet Why am I not like a fish or something there’s so many more fish than humans on earth. I’m definitely existential oriented or whatever it’s called.
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damox2573
4: 06 Honestly, I think this point is what describes me the most. I recently discovered a thing about myself and it's that I hate working for someone else. I like taking things my own way and with my own pace while also ensuring that what project I'm doing is truly mine. I don't know if that's just laziness but I really struggle to find a job because of this. Nothing really feel like it can suit me, not because I don't like what they do, but it's mostly on how they do it: following standards, strict times (which I think are even stricter now thanks to AI, they just fill me up in stress and inadequacy. Sometimes I just wish to be a normal person, since maybe, that way, I wouldn't overthink all of this.
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4: 06 Honestly, I think this point is what describes me the most. I recently discovered a thing about myself and it's that I hate working for someone else. I like taking things my own way and with my own pace while also ensuring that what project I'm doing is truly mine. I don't know if that's just laziness but I really struggle to find a job because of this. Nothing really feel like it can suit me, not because I don't like what they do, but it's mostly on how they do it: following standards, strict times (which I think are even stricter now thanks to AI, they just fill me up in stress and inadequacy. Sometimes I just wish to be a normal person, since maybe, that way, I wouldn't overthink all of this.
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psych2go
Ooh video idea. It’s a loaded idea.
1. Why is it that the people who tell you to be straight up and blunt get the most butt hurt when you are
2. Why, when you’re neurodivergent, and just pause a program to listen to whatever is being asked or told people get so angry at you Maybe apply that to more than just that. I guess the psychology of why people get mad when you end explained a condition or whatever and for whatever reason they still get annoyed. I think it’s in the idea of something is ok if we do it but then somebody else does it and upsets us because you’re looking at yourself in that moment.
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Ooh video idea. It’s a loaded idea.
1. Why is it that the people who tell you to be straight up and blunt get the most butt hurt when you are
2. Why, when you’re neurodivergent, and just pause a program to listen to whatever is being asked or told people get so angry at you Maybe apply that to more than just that. I guess the psychology of why people get mad when you end explained a condition or whatever and for whatever reason they still get annoyed. I think it’s in the idea of something is ok if we do it but then somebody else does it and upsets us because you’re looking at yourself in that moment.
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caticus1470
I related to all of these to a degree, but I feel like the two that I most relate to are seeing things others don't see, which makes me better at problem solving, and over analyzing social interactions. I take time at night to process conversations that I've had that day, and think of things that I did wrong, or topics the other party wasn't interested in. I then try to adapt my conversation methods for the future. I almost feel like a computer learning or gathering new data points and consistently improving as I converse more with people.
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I related to all of these to a degree, but I feel like the two that I most relate to are seeing things others don't see, which makes me better at problem solving, and over analyzing social interactions. I take time at night to process conversations that I've had that day, and think of things that I did wrong, or topics the other party wasn't interested in. I then try to adapt my conversation methods for the future. I almost feel like a computer learning or gathering new data points and consistently improving as I converse more with people.
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kayleighdriessen
Since I was a child I've always looked at modern society with curiosity and therefor often confusion over why some things are done or seen the way they do and I don't instantly conform to every single thing I feel pressured to do like fill that marriage-contract or be a parent, this strangeness about me has both isolated me but also gave me a greater understanding about life & death and everything in between, I will never know everything there is to know but there's always room to discover & learn about more and I'm happy with that
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Since I was a child I've always looked at modern society with curiosity and therefor often confusion over why some things are done or seen the way they do and I don't instantly conform to every single thing I feel pressured to do like fill that marriage-contract or be a parent, this strangeness about me has both isolated me but also gave me a greater understanding about life & death and everything in between, I will never know everything there is to know but there's always room to discover & learn about more and I'm happy with that
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Finnkiller4147
I was one told, by someone who understands me from not me, that I’m inconsiderate and a parasite by others, by the way I act, which never always made sense I usually worked myself to the bone when it came to analyzing others and I always put myself after others, and I did it too much. It just never really helped that such hurtful words were put toward to me when I truly care others feel, and I just realized that this person was not helpful nor telling the truth, and I understand now that I just can’t seem to think like others.
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I was one told, by someone who understands me from not me, that I’m inconsiderate and a parasite by others, by the way I act, which never always made sense I usually worked myself to the bone when it came to analyzing others and I always put myself after others, and I did it too much. It just never really helped that such hurtful words were put toward to me when I truly care others feel, and I just realized that this person was not helpful nor telling the truth, and I understand now that I just can’t seem to think like others.
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ArcaneMagic
Honestly i overanalize things, it most occurs in games. When i play games i think long term like: whos more likely to kill me Which item is more versitile for the situation im going in Whats my main plan or sub plan if it fails And which spot can i get the most utility from my playstyle. I brushed it off as paranoia since i usually get killed often but this also helped me predict things better, heck, it even helps me predict real life events like fire drils or stuff like that. Must be why i love chess so much
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Honestly i overanalize things, it most occurs in games. When i play games i think long term like: whos more likely to kill me Which item is more versitile for the situation im going in Whats my main plan or sub plan if it fails And which spot can i get the most utility from my playstyle. I brushed it off as paranoia since i usually get killed often but this also helped me predict things better, heck, it even helps me predict real life events like fire drils or stuff like that. Must be why i love chess so much
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KameCrush
I know this sounds almost exactly like some other comments you’ve read here but I tend to be very distant from my friends, to the point where I feel like I don’t belong anywhere and often times think I’m just your average person (if one exists) yet I tend to feel things that others are oblivious to, think about what my purpose in life is and just help others with their needs. But no matter how much I do, in the end, it never seems to matter because I’m often ignored by others
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I know this sounds almost exactly like some other comments you’ve read here but I tend to be very distant from my friends, to the point where I feel like I don’t belong anywhere and often times think I’m just your average person (if one exists) yet I tend to feel things that others are oblivious to, think about what my purpose in life is and just help others with their needs. But no matter how much I do, in the end, it never seems to matter because I’m often ignored by others
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ryanmyers8335
I’m basically 16 (I’m about to be 17 in 2 days) and I’ve always felt different from everyone. When I go to parties, while everyone is having fun, I’m sitting in my chair watching everyone while having my goals and what I want to accomplish in the long term. I have always been labeled weird for sitting by myself and also having that thought come from my own head. I’m just waiting for the right crowd and that right woman girl that will come along the way.
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I’m basically 16 (I’m about to be 17 in 2 days) and I’ve always felt different from everyone. When I go to parties, while everyone is having fun, I’m sitting in my chair watching everyone while having my goals and what I want to accomplish in the long term. I have always been labeled weird for sitting by myself and also having that thought come from my own head. I’m just waiting for the right crowd and that right woman girl that will come along the way.
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Jog_l
As someone who could be described as chronic overthinker, I can especially relate to asking big questions that seem to defie human logic. People have told me to stop as it's not worth losing time and energy over such things. (Luckily) I just can't help it. If you can come up with a meaningful question, the answer usually arises on its own.
I can't live next to a box that might contain gold, a poor cat, or a hydrogen bomb. I have to look
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As someone who could be described as chronic overthinker, I can especially relate to asking big questions that seem to defie human logic. People have told me to stop as it's not worth losing time and energy over such things. (Luckily) I just can't help it. If you can come up with a meaningful question, the answer usually arises on its own.
I can't live next to a box that might contain gold, a poor cat, or a hydrogen bomb. I have to look
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jimna205
i can relate to this one cause i would rather choose peace rather than surrounding with crowded people that drained me at no cost at all. but i realized that the people around me don't have the same mindset as me and it's rare to find those people nowadays. it's useless if we're the only ones doing the thing without any common bond. im glad u talking bout this kind of topic cause its very rare nowadays. anyway im an intp person.
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i can relate to this one cause i would rather choose peace rather than surrounding with crowded people that drained me at no cost at all. but i realized that the people around me don't have the same mindset as me and it's rare to find those people nowadays. it's useless if we're the only ones doing the thing without any common bond. im glad u talking bout this kind of topic cause its very rare nowadays. anyway im an intp person.
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giovanim9338
Almost all of those traits describe Introverted Intuition (Ni, and all of them converge into the INFJ. Along with INTJ, social belonging was always a problem - analytics and knowledge might lead to foresights, and sharply accurate. As an INTJ myself, and perhaps an INFJ on chat may confirm, younger life as an Ni-dom cannot be worse than ours: social outsiders and stabbed by life more times we can count on fingers.
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Almost all of those traits describe Introverted Intuition (Ni, and all of them converge into the INFJ. Along with INTJ, social belonging was always a problem - analytics and knowledge might lead to foresights, and sharply accurate. As an INTJ myself, and perhaps an INFJ on chat may confirm, younger life as an Ni-dom cannot be worse than ours: social outsiders and stabbed by life more times we can count on fingers.
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KkRocks
Thanks to Psych2go, I now know that struggling to fit in should not be viewed as a weakness, but as a desire for belonging. I’ve experienced this for quite a few stages in my life, but I have found friends whom I feel I can trust for them to accept me as I am (belonging! I don’t really have a large circle of friends (group of friends, rather I’m friends with many individuals. Hey, quality over quantity, right
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Thanks to Psych2go, I now know that struggling to fit in should not be viewed as a weakness, but as a desire for belonging. I’ve experienced this for quite a few stages in my life, but I have found friends whom I feel I can trust for them to accept me as I am (belonging! I don’t really have a large circle of friends (group of friends, rather I’m friends with many individuals. Hey, quality over quantity, right
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psych2go
If these traits are strengths tell me why there is no community or group I can truly belong I am autistic and i am a nice person but different and no matter what I get people bullying me or giving up on me and hurting me. No matter how well meaning I am it’s not enough for others. Is there a community that does want people like me because I don’t know if that exists
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If these traits are strengths tell me why there is no community or group I can truly belong I am autistic and i am a nice person but different and no matter what I get people bullying me or giving up on me and hurting me. No matter how well meaning I am it’s not enough for others. Is there a community that does want people like me because I don’t know if that exists
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Sifu_Black
Being a divergent thinker and having purpose really stood out. I'm currently writing a book, but have all six planned books outlined (with an idea for three additional books after that. My sense of purpose is so important to me that I never gave up until I was working full time and fully self employed (I just made that transition this year! Great video!
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Being a divergent thinker and having purpose really stood out. I'm currently writing a book, but have all six planned books outlined (with an idea for three additional books after that. My sense of purpose is so important to me that I never gave up until I was working full time and fully self employed (I just made that transition this year! Great video!
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psych2go
I don't know if my trauma has made me look at every little sign or my depression. This video hits hard for me. I saw a coworker of mine at a job I quit I told people he will get someone hurt the first week I worked with him. Fast forward about 5 years later it happened like I said. Some of the people I know in the town now think I am weird and stay away
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I don't know if my trauma has made me look at every little sign or my depression. This video hits hard for me. I saw a coworker of mine at a job I quit I told people he will get someone hurt the first week I worked with him. Fast forward about 5 years later it happened like I said. Some of the people I know in the town now think I am weird and stay away
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psych2go
Japp. As INFJ I feel this. Especially the thinking about purpose, life and how I contribute my creativity to create a more balanced world. Emotional intelligence is so important these days, but sometimes I get the feeling that many people just run blindly through life, letting others dictate things to them and losing sight of what's important.
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Japp. As INFJ I feel this. Especially the thinking about purpose, life and how I contribute my creativity to create a more balanced world. Emotional intelligence is so important these days, but sometimes I get the feeling that many people just run blindly through life, letting others dictate things to them and losing sight of what's important.
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