What Abuse Does To Your Brain
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Date: 2025-03-21
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psych2go
Am i abused Like i was physically getting hit whenever i: anger him, point out his mistakes in an argument, make mistakes theres also perfectionism where i cant make mistakes, say bad words, get into fights, fight back to people when they started the fight, i must always listen, i will share my things if told to otherwise that thing will be either destroyed or taken away from me, dont touch things from family or strangers, accidents are a reason to punish me i grew up to be the perfect child all those aside you could say that he spoils me
My mom also have a set of unspoken rules a bit lighter that my dad but he always buts in so i cant even resist not to mention my cousins and my aunt and uncles that is constantly being a pain that i cant avoid because my mom invites them and i cant make them leave and i just suffer from their annoying behaviors and i have nothing ever to have help, my grandma is my emotional support but she left for a few years only coming home christmas and i am forced to bear all of it, the timeline, my cousins where my dad will punish me whenever i get angry and lash out and the reason being that I'm the oldest and they just let it be and the other one where my grandma left and another different cousins are making my life a living hell but at least the intensity of my punishments decreased
And i turned 13-14(pandemic f2f) and im in highschool i got a phone for the first time, and my annoying cousins that made m life a living hell started visiting less and i got to grade 9 and they rarely or never come, 8-9 grade is the time i started isolating myself, i never got out of my room, im always in my phone, and i got left alone my parents didn't pester me summer breaks is the one that really trapped me, being raised like a perfect child, my grades are good, im good at most things and to others, im the perfect golden child, and i started being bored, arrogant, i started having thoughts of dying for the fun of it, there is nothing left to do. i got to grade 10 and everything just shocked me, everyone is back to acting before the pandemic the section i was in have the most extroverted people we barely even knew each other and yet my personal space has been invaded multiple countless times, unlike grade 8-9 where i avoid people they avoid me, my g10 classmates are not like that, i started getting interested, i stopped being depressed because of boredom, im pretty sure this is how magical healing it
Actually the side effect of all those suffering is that im irritable, i stay away from things that remind me of my cousins, but g10 helped me, my irritable behavior is decreased i think and im starting to approach those unapproachable things
NOTE: i said my dad spoils me as long as those are not done because he's a perfectionist introvert that cares about public image more than anything, i pretty much inherited that but i inherited my mother's traits too, he's actually a perfect golden child to others too, when i was a child i was so innocent so we get along Right now even if we talk and stuff i still feel disgusted and just dont consider him as someone i would love, i also have some unusual behaviors, like my head would feel uncomfortable when im irritated, I cant handle strong odors and i cant look at people without being irritated, being touched by people makes me uncomfortable, hearing people makes me irritable, the odor and people got healed when g10 shocking event happened but i still have a weakened version of touch and hear problem, i just hate the existence of human beings so much, if you look at me at an irritable state you would think i have some kind of mental disorder like tourette, but its just some movement i do to reduce the uneasyness uncomfortable unbearable thing i feel in my head and entire body
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Am i abused Like i was physically getting hit whenever i: anger him, point out his mistakes in an argument, make mistakes theres also perfectionism where i cant make mistakes, say bad words, get into fights, fight back to people when they started the fight, i must always listen, i will share my things if told to otherwise that thing will be either destroyed or taken away from me, dont touch things from family or strangers, accidents are a reason to punish me i grew up to be the perfect child all those aside you could say that he spoils me
My mom also have a set of unspoken rules a bit lighter that my dad but he always buts in so i cant even resist not to mention my cousins and my aunt and uncles that is constantly being a pain that i cant avoid because my mom invites them and i cant make them leave and i just suffer from their annoying behaviors and i have nothing ever to have help, my grandma is my emotional support but she left for a few years only coming home christmas and i am forced to bear all of it, the timeline, my cousins where my dad will punish me whenever i get angry and lash out and the reason being that I'm the oldest and they just let it be and the other one where my grandma left and another different cousins are making my life a living hell but at least the intensity of my punishments decreased
And i turned 13-14(pandemic f2f) and im in highschool i got a phone for the first time, and my annoying cousins that made m life a living hell started visiting less and i got to grade 9 and they rarely or never come, 8-9 grade is the time i started isolating myself, i never got out of my room, im always in my phone, and i got left alone my parents didn't pester me summer breaks is the one that really trapped me, being raised like a perfect child, my grades are good, im good at most things and to others, im the perfect golden child, and i started being bored, arrogant, i started having thoughts of dying for the fun of it, there is nothing left to do. i got to grade 10 and everything just shocked me, everyone is back to acting before the pandemic the section i was in have the most extroverted people we barely even knew each other and yet my personal space has been invaded multiple countless times, unlike grade 8-9 where i avoid people they avoid me, my g10 classmates are not like that, i started getting interested, i stopped being depressed because of boredom, im pretty sure this is how magical healing it
Actually the side effect of all those suffering is that im irritable, i stay away from things that remind me of my cousins, but g10 helped me, my irritable behavior is decreased i think and im starting to approach those unapproachable things
NOTE: i said my dad spoils me as long as those are not done because he's a perfectionist introvert that cares about public image more than anything, i pretty much inherited that but i inherited my mother's traits too, he's actually a perfect golden child to others too, when i was a child i was so innocent so we get along Right now even if we talk and stuff i still feel disgusted and just dont consider him as someone i would love, i also have some unusual behaviors, like my head would feel uncomfortable when im irritated, I cant handle strong odors and i cant look at people without being irritated, being touched by people makes me uncomfortable, hearing people makes me irritable, the odor and people got healed when g10 shocking event happened but i still have a weakened version of touch and hear problem, i just hate the existence of human beings so much, if you look at me at an irritable state you would think i have some kind of mental disorder like tourette, but its just some movement i do to reduce the uneasyness uncomfortable unbearable thing i feel in my head and entire body
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psych2go
Excellent video. Should be compulsory viewing for playground bullies of all ages. Especially those who say Why do you have to be such a victim Can't you see we were just joking around
What this video says about things getting better with support and working on yourself is true. It does take time but things do slowly but surely improve. And what you have been through not only makes you a wise and emotionally mature person but also gives you gold in being able to help others who have been through terrible trauma themselves.
One thing about trauma from abuse is that it is very very personal in the depth and ways it manifests itself. It is not a case that after a certain amount of time you should have got over it or it was't as if I was in a war zone so why can't I just act normal (unless you were in a war zone that is)
Remember to be very kind and very very loving to yourself and take things one step at a time. A really good resource is a fantastic lady called Kristen Neff and Self Compassion. This is very different from self indulgence. War veterans are on her programs. It is not a soppy option - and it works.
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Excellent video. Should be compulsory viewing for playground bullies of all ages. Especially those who say Why do you have to be such a victim Can't you see we were just joking around
What this video says about things getting better with support and working on yourself is true. It does take time but things do slowly but surely improve. And what you have been through not only makes you a wise and emotionally mature person but also gives you gold in being able to help others who have been through terrible trauma themselves.
One thing about trauma from abuse is that it is very very personal in the depth and ways it manifests itself. It is not a case that after a certain amount of time you should have got over it or it was't as if I was in a war zone so why can't I just act normal (unless you were in a war zone that is)
Remember to be very kind and very very loving to yourself and take things one step at a time. A really good resource is a fantastic lady called Kristen Neff and Self Compassion. This is very different from self indulgence. War veterans are on her programs. It is not a soppy option - and it works.
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NickNappi-j5o
I suffered mental, psychological, physical abuse for most of my life and from being tortured and hurt most of my life I definitely struggle with my memory and I am guilty of emotional disconnect and blunting a lot of the time. Honestly still to this day I work on my trauma and the symptoms of what I went through with my trauma therapist and I was not always able to talk about it. I am lucky to have a therapist that specializes in domestic abuse and helping people who have c-ptsd and a lot of trauma. I definitely struggle with memories of trauma coming randomly and I hate having flashbacks. It’s one of the worst feelings because I don’t only remember I relive the pain in my body and I don’t want to say any more because I am starting to feel it and I don’t want that. Hope my experience will help someone.
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I suffered mental, psychological, physical abuse for most of my life and from being tortured and hurt most of my life I definitely struggle with my memory and I am guilty of emotional disconnect and blunting a lot of the time. Honestly still to this day I work on my trauma and the symptoms of what I went through with my trauma therapist and I was not always able to talk about it. I am lucky to have a therapist that specializes in domestic abuse and helping people who have c-ptsd and a lot of trauma. I definitely struggle with memories of trauma coming randomly and I hate having flashbacks. It’s one of the worst feelings because I don’t only remember I relive the pain in my body and I don’t want to say any more because I am starting to feel it and I don’t want that. Hope my experience will help someone.
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maezimain
My father was abusive when I was younger. I remember he and my mom yelling and throwing things at each other, the night he got arrested I was screaming and crying, he touched me inappropriately in his sleep which woke me up. All of that before 8 y/o. I was spanked till 11 y/o, compared to my mother in a tone that put me down, laughed at by him about my appearance. Then when I stopped coming around after moving away he had the audacity to question why I didn’t come around anymore. I don’t know if I have Anxiety/Depression caused by ADHD anymore the more I learn about our brains, then I saw this and thought maybe I do have CPTSD and need to talk to a specialist.
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My father was abusive when I was younger. I remember he and my mom yelling and throwing things at each other, the night he got arrested I was screaming and crying, he touched me inappropriately in his sleep which woke me up. All of that before 8 y/o. I was spanked till 11 y/o, compared to my mother in a tone that put me down, laughed at by him about my appearance. Then when I stopped coming around after moving away he had the audacity to question why I didn’t come around anymore. I don’t know if I have Anxiety/Depression caused by ADHD anymore the more I learn about our brains, then I saw this and thought maybe I do have CPTSD and need to talk to a specialist.
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Rocketdog299
I recognise a lot of the symptoms described here in myself, even though I don’t really know what ultimately caused it. I have definitely experienced some abuse in the past (mostly from bullying by so-called friends’ or people who just took advantage of my lack of assertiveness, but whenever I compare my experiences to those of others, I always end up realising that things could have been much, much worse. My guess is that my ASD plays a role in my anxiety too. I tend to be extremely sensitive and I have a hard time dealing with setbacks or nasty interactions with other people; even a single bad experience can linger on in my memory for literally decades.
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I recognise a lot of the symptoms described here in myself, even though I don’t really know what ultimately caused it. I have definitely experienced some abuse in the past (mostly from bullying by so-called friends’ or people who just took advantage of my lack of assertiveness, but whenever I compare my experiences to those of others, I always end up realising that things could have been much, much worse. My guess is that my ASD plays a role in my anxiety too. I tend to be extremely sensitive and I have a hard time dealing with setbacks or nasty interactions with other people; even a single bad experience can linger on in my memory for literally decades.
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desiree2086
Ironically, Moonlight Sonata was one of the first songs I taught myself as a kid and played it on the piano after my father put his hands on me. I don’t remember much about my childhood except I loved playing this song and being scared. Today, my father doesn’t even know I play piano. So many parents only see us as an extension of themselves, or an accessory, or a punching bag. instead of unique human beings. It’s sad and shocking how extremely common cptsd is. We all deserve to be loved for who we are. I know you probably don’t feel like it but you are unique, beautiful and worthy of love. What has happened was not your fault.
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Ironically, Moonlight Sonata was one of the first songs I taught myself as a kid and played it on the piano after my father put his hands on me. I don’t remember much about my childhood except I loved playing this song and being scared. Today, my father doesn’t even know I play piano. So many parents only see us as an extension of themselves, or an accessory, or a punching bag. instead of unique human beings. It’s sad and shocking how extremely common cptsd is. We all deserve to be loved for who we are. I know you probably don’t feel like it but you are unique, beautiful and worthy of love. What has happened was not your fault.
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psych2go
Is your parents not talking to you for longer periods because they are mad at you for something and them telling you bad stuff about yourself and saying that we are wrong in so many ways without appreciation also abuse
And is it also abuse for a partner to go away without a reason and them just saying that they can’t change the way they are and they think that they are not good for us
Is that abnormal cause I read something about verbal and emotional abuse too
I’m sorry but I don’t really know the psychological definition of abuse
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Is your parents not talking to you for longer periods because they are mad at you for something and them telling you bad stuff about yourself and saying that we are wrong in so many ways without appreciation also abuse
And is it also abuse for a partner to go away without a reason and them just saying that they can’t change the way they are and they think that they are not good for us
Is that abnormal cause I read something about verbal and emotional abuse too
I’m sorry but I don’t really know the psychological definition of abuse
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animextv700
I just want to know how to like use good abuse. What I mean is in today's generation kids and even youth do not understand certain things. And if we are serious with them in a way they take that in a abusive manner. And we have to be Harsh with them in many ways to make them understand the things maybe even go in the road of abusive being abusive to them. Let's say an example that we have to make them stop smoking it is an example and we know that there is nothing happening in their life we know exactly so in that manner I am asking
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I just want to know how to like use good abuse. What I mean is in today's generation kids and even youth do not understand certain things. And if we are serious with them in a way they take that in a abusive manner. And we have to be Harsh with them in many ways to make them understand the things maybe even go in the road of abusive being abusive to them. Let's say an example that we have to make them stop smoking it is an example and we know that there is nothing happening in their life we know exactly so in that manner I am asking
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OneOnOne1162
The do not hesitate to seek out help from loved ones I have to admit doesn't hit the same when the abuse was by the people who are supposed to be loved ones like both of your parents. And my social anxiety and depression got so severe that I have no one else in my life. I believe I'm stuck and will never be ok again. Maybe I could've healed at least partially if things had gone differently. But they didn't. Nobody was there to help me get better and be a reliable, loving presence in my life. And no one ever will be.
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The do not hesitate to seek out help from loved ones I have to admit doesn't hit the same when the abuse was by the people who are supposed to be loved ones like both of your parents. And my social anxiety and depression got so severe that I have no one else in my life. I believe I'm stuck and will never be ok again. Maybe I could've healed at least partially if things had gone differently. But they didn't. Nobody was there to help me get better and be a reliable, loving presence in my life. And no one ever will be.
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InsigniaSeven
I hate to say it but I think abuse was always a result of how I was born. If I grew up to be worth something I wouldn't have been abused. My dad knew I had little potential after learning about my mental handicap being autism and asperger's. At that point he could care less about how I felt because I couldn't even think properly.
Now I understand why people at every business I work(ed) for could care less about what I had to say. I'm a born degen. Who tf cares what the retard has to say
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I hate to say it but I think abuse was always a result of how I was born. If I grew up to be worth something I wouldn't have been abused. My dad knew I had little potential after learning about my mental handicap being autism and asperger's. At that point he could care less about how I felt because I couldn't even think properly.
Now I understand why people at every business I work(ed) for could care less about what I had to say. I'm a born degen. Who tf cares what the retard has to say
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jagritikumari4012
As someone who's been through physical abuse in the name of parental discipline, constant emotional & physical scars inflicted by both parents & teachers, faced minor bullying & loneliness in all of my school - life & finally, someone who herself relates to this video; I have already detected most of what is stated here. However, to listen from some other person that my feelings are valid, just makes me more confident about myself & I'm healing myself.
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As someone who's been through physical abuse in the name of parental discipline, constant emotional & physical scars inflicted by both parents & teachers, faced minor bullying & loneliness in all of my school - life & finally, someone who herself relates to this video; I have already detected most of what is stated here. However, to listen from some other person that my feelings are valid, just makes me more confident about myself & I'm healing myself.
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Shailja__borahae
5 years ago when i was getting abused both physically and mentally by my ex partner I never thought I'd get out the trauma he caused me. My PTSD still triggers me but I'm getting better from loathing my body to liking it, from Sucidal thoughts to wanting to live my life at fullest, from not intresting in everything and bottling myself to enjoying music even social gatherings. Thankfully I never gave up on myself and I improved a lot.
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5 years ago when i was getting abused both physically and mentally by my ex partner I never thought I'd get out the trauma he caused me. My PTSD still triggers me but I'm getting better from loathing my body to liking it, from Sucidal thoughts to wanting to live my life at fullest, from not intresting in everything and bottling myself to enjoying music even social gatherings. Thankfully I never gave up on myself and I improved a lot.
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LilyOlivia-p3s
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, l've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why l am saying this here.
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Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, l've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why l am saying this here.
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sandiletwala3001
Honestly as someone who has endured verbal abuse, gaslighting, manipulations and physical abuses, I just learned to bottle everything on the inside and just feel numb to the point where I just get used to every type of abuse without reacting or anything. So whether you hurt me or abuse me it's just another day at the office for me honestly. I don't care.
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Honestly as someone who has endured verbal abuse, gaslighting, manipulations and physical abuses, I just learned to bottle everything on the inside and just feel numb to the point where I just get used to every type of abuse without reacting or anything. So whether you hurt me or abuse me it's just another day at the office for me honestly. I don't care.
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val38294
As someone who has been through physical abuse from my parents, I would write things down in a journal but always thought that I'd never forget all the horrible things that happened to me. Later, I reread my journals and realized I had forgotten some of it, but when I read my journal the memories came back in disconnected pieces.
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As someone who has been through physical abuse from my parents, I would write things down in a journal but always thought that I'd never forget all the horrible things that happened to me. Later, I reread my journals and realized I had forgotten some of it, but when I read my journal the memories came back in disconnected pieces.
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Neil. exe. 100
one of my friends sometimes says to me that her mom hits her and she always says its for dicipline and because she comes from india its normal there but i tell her many times that that is not normal and being hit for dicipline is the worst way to learn your errors, i sent this video to her and hope she will understand
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one of my friends sometimes says to me that her mom hits her and she always says its for dicipline and because she comes from india its normal there but i tell her many times that that is not normal and being hit for dicipline is the worst way to learn your errors, i sent this video to her and hope she will understand
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halland25
TIMESTAMPS:
0: 00 Firstly, intro the video
1) 0: 37 The Brain Under Stress
2) 1: 25 Memory and Learning
3) 2: 14 Emotional Blunting
4) 2: 56 Emotional Dysregulartion
5) 3: 44 Inplusive Decision-Making
6) 4: 43 Depression and Anxiety
5: 43 Outro video.
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TIMESTAMPS:
0: 00 Firstly, intro the video
1) 0: 37 The Brain Under Stress
2) 1: 25 Memory and Learning
3) 2: 14 Emotional Blunting
4) 2: 56 Emotional Dysregulartion
5) 3: 44 Inplusive Decision-Making
6) 4: 43 Depression and Anxiety
5: 43 Outro video.
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psych2go
Wow. You just explained my whole life. 29 years of severe abuse. And here I thought my memory and emotional issues were from just not being able to find help to medicate my adhd.
Damn. Abuse can ruin someone's entire life. Even long after the abuser is gone.
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Wow. You just explained my whole life. 29 years of severe abuse. And here I thought my memory and emotional issues were from just not being able to find help to medicate my adhd.
Damn. Abuse can ruin someone's entire life. Even long after the abuser is gone.
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MRC5981
Even just that beep sound representing the graphic of the brain with a red dot caused my fight-or-flight response to kick in. Lol Dhe laughs nervously. And oh yeah, Moonlight Sonata in the background doesn’t help. Guess I’m in the right place.
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Even just that beep sound representing the graphic of the brain with a red dot caused my fight-or-flight response to kick in. Lol Dhe laughs nervously. And oh yeah, Moonlight Sonata in the background doesn’t help. Guess I’m in the right place.
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jerryoliver5306
It's been tricky. Trying to take care of being more careful. I want to keep believing in healthy choices and good habits but why do I insist on acting on the liberties that I've earned Even to my hurt
( I don't think that I'm reckless)
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It's been tricky. Trying to take care of being more careful. I want to keep believing in healthy choices and good habits but why do I insist on acting on the liberties that I've earned Even to my hurt
( I don't think that I'm reckless)
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