4 Forms Of Love - Which One Are You?
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Date: 2023-08-20
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iSimply
funny how i think i have literally experienced all of these types except the independent one.
after going from a codependency (being the people pleaser) to a interdependency in my current relationship, was like finding a real life angel and that is exactly how i would describe my current gf.
she not only is the sweetest and kindest person i have ever met, but she understands me fully and i feel like i can truly be myself with her. she doesnt expect me to do anything for her, she just likes being with me and doing stuff with me. of course, i would do anything for her and she knows that too.
she allows me to explore my hobbies without complaining, and even takes interest in them. she also allows me space and knows that when i do my hobbies i tend to get hyper-focused and understands that.
after what i experienced with the other relationship, its the best feeling to know i have someone like her. someone who completely understands me and who i can talk to openly without any little issue.
love is real, you just have to find it and make sure its real.
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funny how i think i have literally experienced all of these types except the independent one.
after going from a codependency (being the people pleaser) to a interdependency in my current relationship, was like finding a real life angel and that is exactly how i would describe my current gf.
she not only is the sweetest and kindest person i have ever met, but she understands me fully and i feel like i can truly be myself with her. she doesnt expect me to do anything for her, she just likes being with me and doing stuff with me. of course, i would do anything for her and she knows that too.
she allows me to explore my hobbies without complaining, and even takes interest in them. she also allows me space and knows that when i do my hobbies i tend to get hyper-focused and understands that.
after what i experienced with the other relationship, its the best feeling to know i have someone like her. someone who completely understands me and who i can talk to openly without any little issue.
love is real, you just have to find it and make sure its real.
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AcidA$h
I think this is spot on but I wouldnt always label a dependent person as not being able to make decisions for themselves or need their partner to control everything in their life. As a person who tends to be dependent in a relationship I still have enough confidence to make my own choices in life. I love to give my partner space and try not to get clingy. However as long as I dont come across as helpless its kinda nice to rely on your partner for some things. Not in a toxic way more so telling my partner what food Id like before we go out to eat because I get shy. Small stuff like that. I think dependency can be toxic in some circumstances but being a dependent person isnt always a bad thing as long as you are balanced with it.
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I think this is spot on but I wouldnt always label a dependent person as not being able to make decisions for themselves or need their partner to control everything in their life. As a person who tends to be dependent in a relationship I still have enough confidence to make my own choices in life. I love to give my partner space and try not to get clingy. However as long as I dont come across as helpless its kinda nice to rely on your partner for some things. Not in a toxic way more so telling my partner what food Id like before we go out to eat because I get shy. Small stuff like that. I think dependency can be toxic in some circumstances but being a dependent person isnt always a bad thing as long as you are balanced with it.
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Celestial
1. -2. My Trans dad almost killed themself with this love style. Not gonna down everyone who has it or kind of likes playing the role of being a romantic knight for someone. But this relationship symptom is usually very toxic and one not to take likelty for the sake of your own mental health.
I'm Independent but do give people chances IF they can prove themselves. Been let down by so many people but don't have the exact same mind-set of ' Other Indepency Love Individuals' had seen a therapist and been working on most of my old triggers from what has caused them. Some of my patterns were from being a bit of a Hungary ghost for something that doesn't seem Real in a Friendship or a Romantic One at that.
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1. -2. My Trans dad almost killed themself with this love style. Not gonna down everyone who has it or kind of likes playing the role of being a romantic knight for someone. But this relationship symptom is usually very toxic and one not to take likelty for the sake of your own mental health.
I'm Independent but do give people chances IF they can prove themselves. Been let down by so many people but don't have the exact same mind-set of ' Other Indepency Love Individuals' had seen a therapist and been working on most of my old triggers from what has caused them. Some of my patterns were from being a bit of a Hungary ghost for something that doesn't seem Real in a Friendship or a Romantic One at that.
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Roehdawg
I had a 2 year relationship with a dependent person who was very sweet and kind, but couldnt make decisions on her own. I tried very hard to make the big decisions and help her as much as I could. I didnt mind it then, but eventually she started to feel like she could do things on her own and we broke up. I know I didnt do anything WRONG per se, but in retrospect I probably should have tried to help her feel less dependent through the relationship rather than solve all the issues for her. I think she walked out on a relationship with incredible potential, but now I know to look for someone with a stronger sense of self and individuality
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I had a 2 year relationship with a dependent person who was very sweet and kind, but couldnt make decisions on her own. I tried very hard to make the big decisions and help her as much as I could. I didnt mind it then, but eventually she started to feel like she could do things on her own and we broke up. I know I didnt do anything WRONG per se, but in retrospect I probably should have tried to help her feel less dependent through the relationship rather than solve all the issues for her. I think she walked out on a relationship with incredible potential, but now I know to look for someone with a stronger sense of self and individuality
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Freyaiplier
Im independent Im like a leader sometimes my lover is independent too I think and we are still together we are in a virtual relationship but we will go together in person I just idk when that will happen me and bf are obviously clingy towards each other but thankfully none of us is obsessive at all my bf isnt a narcissist I believe he isnt one no signs of being a narcissist my bf has depression and ocd I think he has some anxiety he does have pstd from a abusive love one I cant say more but my bf more independent then me I think I not totally sure I think and Im interdependency Im sure of it
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Im independent Im like a leader sometimes my lover is independent too I think and we are still together we are in a virtual relationship but we will go together in person I just idk when that will happen me and bf are obviously clingy towards each other but thankfully none of us is obsessive at all my bf isnt a narcissist I believe he isnt one no signs of being a narcissist my bf has depression and ocd I think he has some anxiety he does have pstd from a abusive love one I cant say more but my bf more independent then me I think I not totally sure I think and Im interdependency Im sure of it
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Kaitlynn
This is exactly why my friendship with my best friend ended beginning of this year I was no. 1 (dependent) she was no. 3 (independent) and our friendship was no. 2 (codependent. It ended terribly and Im still recovering and feeling a lot of hurt and still not totally understanding what happened. I know Im too dependent - Im still trying to discover my sense of self. But loneliness is daunting and its hard not to want to people please and be dependent on them. Do you have any videos on how to cope with these feelings and how to become a healthy level of independent?
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This is exactly why my friendship with my best friend ended beginning of this year I was no. 1 (dependent) she was no. 3 (independent) and our friendship was no. 2 (codependent. It ended terribly and Im still recovering and feeling a lot of hurt and still not totally understanding what happened. I know Im too dependent - Im still trying to discover my sense of self. But loneliness is daunting and its hard not to want to people please and be dependent on them. Do you have any videos on how to cope with these feelings and how to become a healthy level of independent?
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education
Imho fwiw if ya seeing htis and ya feel like it then perhaps hwy not for a random or sidenote ref: see Bill Daughtrieve as a reference of what not to do generally speaking for a basic place to start from for a first off peice of advice at least afaict and afaic ykwis; D not that its much help ik but still. it is a true statement and it may be some aspect or another of which you find yourself stuck in for example a rut.
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Imho fwiw if ya seeing htis and ya feel like it then perhaps hwy not for a random or sidenote ref: see Bill Daughtrieve as a reference of what not to do generally speaking for a basic place to start from for a first off peice of advice at least afaict and afaic ykwis; D not that its much help ik but still. it is a true statement and it may be some aspect or another of which you find yourself stuck in for example a rut.
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Cashy
So, like independency, what about the refusal thereof? Like if somebody pushes others away not because they are self centered, but because they care about others, instead of only trusting themselves, being so UNtrusting of yourself that you feel like not being in a relationship is saving the other person from you? Would that fall under the same idea of independency, or would that be an entirely different thing?
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So, like independency, what about the refusal thereof? Like if somebody pushes others away not because they are self centered, but because they care about others, instead of only trusting themselves, being so UNtrusting of yourself that you feel like not being in a relationship is saving the other person from you? Would that fall under the same idea of independency, or would that be an entirely different thing?
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camron
Im confused. Your defining coodependance with a description that matches your first type where one depends on the other. To me that doesnt sound like coodependance, if i may, i would describe coodependance moreso as 2 internally weak individuals that rely on one anothers reassurances but with no real progress within the self of either the relationship is often weak as a result
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Im confused. Your defining coodependance with a description that matches your first type where one depends on the other. To me that doesnt sound like coodependance, if i may, i would describe coodependance moreso as 2 internally weak individuals that rely on one anothers reassurances but with no real progress within the self of either the relationship is often weak as a result
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DHAZE
I definitely identify with and want the interdependency love. Im a person who has a good idea what they like n dislike but I dont want to always do this alone this world and am willing to help with balance. I fear this type of love is rare to find and why it is partially the reason why I havent found it very often when it comes to looking for romantic partners.
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I definitely identify with and want the interdependency love. Im a person who has a good idea what they like n dislike but I dont want to always do this alone this world and am willing to help with balance. I fear this type of love is rare to find and why it is partially the reason why I havent found it very often when it comes to looking for romantic partners.
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Indrid
One type of love is missed in the video. It is the love that almost everyone has for someone else. It is fake love. The users, traitors, and abusers exercise this type of love extremely effectively. They fool millions of people a day. I, myself, fell victim to one of these social predators. She used fake love to lure me into her trap.
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One type of love is missed in the video. It is the love that almost everyone has for someone else. It is fake love. The users, traitors, and abusers exercise this type of love extremely effectively. They fool millions of people a day. I, myself, fell victim to one of these social predators. She used fake love to lure me into her trap.
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lilpoo22
Wow the first one is really spot on! My ex was dependent of me and it really finished like it said. I break up with him caused I just needed to breath. I just couldn't go on anymore. It took 6years for me to reach that point but seriously it's the best decision I've made.
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Wow the first one is really spot on! My ex was dependent of me and it really finished like it said. I break up with him caused I just needed to breath. I just couldn't go on anymore. It took 6years for me to reach that point but seriously it's the best decision I've made.
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sparkle
I dont ever think I can become less independent, ive tried but it makes it worse, trusting people, is the worst thing ive ever done in the past, and I see it as a weakness.
this is why I have no friends or at least real friends.
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I dont ever think I can become less independent, ive tried but it makes it worse, trusting people, is the worst thing ive ever done in the past, and I see it as a weakness.
this is why I have no friends or at least real friends.
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LRR
So according to psych2go, I'm on a one way trip to a potential death crash and i need to swerve semi-blindly to survive, not there words exactly but thats my analogy, so ima take it and do with it what i must
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So according to psych2go, I'm on a one way trip to a potential death crash and i need to swerve semi-blindly to survive, not there words exactly but thats my analogy, so ima take it and do with it what i must
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Lucid
Black Star: The narcissist
Tsubaki: The dependent
Psych2Go: The relationship between a narcissist and a dependent is abusive.
Soul Eater Fans: Ship. I ship. They ship. We ship. It ship. Ship.
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Black Star: The narcissist
Tsubaki: The dependent
Psych2Go: The relationship between a narcissist and a dependent is abusive.
Soul Eater Fans: Ship. I ship. They ship. We ship. It ship. Ship.
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goofygoober
Wow, Im very glad I have a interdependency relationship: ) Thank you for this video! It really cleared some things up for me. Wishing all the people good luck on finding your person
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Wow, Im very glad I have a interdependency relationship: ) Thank you for this video! It really cleared some things up for me. Wishing all the people good luck on finding your person
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Rain
Ok I just have to say though l love how helpful these are also has anyone else noticed how they use anime characters for some of the animation I really like it also the animation is cute
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Ok I just have to say though l love how helpful these are also has anyone else noticed how they use anime characters for some of the animation I really like it also the animation is cute
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education
Nailed it. I'm #3. Forged by trauma
Also, I thought that you wrote shave instead of share in that basket and thought to myself Wow, I'm not supposed to shave by myself? Lol
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Nailed it. I'm #3. Forged by trauma
Also, I thought that you wrote shave instead of share in that basket and thought to myself Wow, I'm not supposed to shave by myself? Lol
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Kamren
Ive been through so much trauma idek how to give my trust away. I dont mean it as a middle finger to people, I just dont want to feel like Ive felt many times before
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Ive been through so much trauma idek how to give my trust away. I dont mean it as a middle finger to people, I just dont want to feel like Ive felt many times before
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NetMoverSitan
2: 04 - Wait. was THAT Asriel and Chara! 4: 20 - Vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broken and alone Sylvester Stallone.
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2: 04 - Wait. was THAT Asriel and Chara! 4: 20 - Vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broken and alone Sylvester Stallone.
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spd7693
To sum this up - stand your ground, but compromise. The question is finding the balance. That is the only problem I have - I'm not a good diplomat.
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To sum this up - stand your ground, but compromise. The question is finding the balance. That is the only problem I have - I'm not a good diplomat.
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FlamingMcshizzle
3: 18 is that Kenma and Kuroo from Haikyu? love how yall use fandoms to reach people who need the advice most. keep up the good work: D
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3: 18 is that Kenma and Kuroo from Haikyu? love how yall use fandoms to reach people who need the advice most. keep up the good work: D
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eenie
1st form: one person is a burden
2nd form: mentally abusive to the other
3rd form: reject EVERYBODY
4th form: the only valid form of love
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1st form: one person is a burden
2nd form: mentally abusive to the other
3rd form: reject EVERYBODY
4th form: the only valid form of love
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Martin
being independent is not that bad is it is portrayed in the video, you can certainly be happy and content with life even if you are independent
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being independent is not that bad is it is portrayed in the video, you can certainly be happy and content with life even if you are independent
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Daniel
If a woman is independent to the point that the man doesn't feel needed, he will leave. A woman must to some extent be dependant on the man.
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If a woman is independent to the point that the man doesn't feel needed, he will leave. A woman must to some extent be dependant on the man.
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