6 Things Trauma Survivors Can Relate To
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Wren
Uh. I guess I'll share what I went through. I relate to all those things except the last one. For me my healing process is with my online friends since I can't really relate much to those physically around me.
My boyfriend OD'ed on an illegal substance twice now. First time was awful, I was crying for days and I was constantly getting angry with him, disassociating, memory loss and all that fun stuff that your mind does to protect you. It continued like this for 1 and a half years since I don't have a safe space away from my trauma to heal properly. The second time it happened it was slightly easier but still distressing, this time it was mainly just me blaming myself for not being there even though I couldn't have known both times it happened since he didn't tell me. It was just alot of disassociating this time. He told me he wants to take that illegal substance again even after those two events and I essentially have to accept it because he is ridiculously stubborn. So my mind eventually reached the point where it has normalized this whole activity since there isn't anyway for me to stop it, it's alot less stress on me which I'm happy for but it's also kinda numbing me out a bit. One thing I don't think I'll ever get back from this, is all the memories I lost. The good and the bad memories. Anyways yeah, that's my story.
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Uh. I guess I'll share what I went through. I relate to all those things except the last one. For me my healing process is with my online friends since I can't really relate much to those physically around me.
My boyfriend OD'ed on an illegal substance twice now. First time was awful, I was crying for days and I was constantly getting angry with him, disassociating, memory loss and all that fun stuff that your mind does to protect you. It continued like this for 1 and a half years since I don't have a safe space away from my trauma to heal properly. The second time it happened it was slightly easier but still distressing, this time it was mainly just me blaming myself for not being there even though I couldn't have known both times it happened since he didn't tell me. It was just alot of disassociating this time. He told me he wants to take that illegal substance again even after those two events and I essentially have to accept it because he is ridiculously stubborn. So my mind eventually reached the point where it has normalized this whole activity since there isn't anyway for me to stop it, it's alot less stress on me which I'm happy for but it's also kinda numbing me out a bit. One thing I don't think I'll ever get back from this, is all the memories I lost. The good and the bad memories. Anyways yeah, that's my story.
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BookishEls
I'm struggling to know if what happened to me in my past is a kind of trauma. In primary school, I went to three different schools, and in the third one, I had this friend who I considered my second best friend (after someone from my first primary school who was a real friend. I slowly found out that she was fake (as well as everyone else that I thought was my friend at that school, but I keep thinking back to it and cringing and blaming myself for it and feel like I did things wrong, and that it was my fault. I still struggle to realise that it was her and not me. This has really damaged my self-esteem and I am now a lot more slow to open up to people and I still feel like no one knows the real me because I'm scared that they will dislike me because of it (it's worse than it used to be. I occasionally feel like it's impossible that my friends actually like me because of that situation in my primary school. At the same time, I feel like what happened to me is nothing compared to other people and I know bullying/fake friends are common.
Can you please tell me if this is a kind of trauma. Sorry for this long rambling comment.
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I'm struggling to know if what happened to me in my past is a kind of trauma. In primary school, I went to three different schools, and in the third one, I had this friend who I considered my second best friend (after someone from my first primary school who was a real friend. I slowly found out that she was fake (as well as everyone else that I thought was my friend at that school, but I keep thinking back to it and cringing and blaming myself for it and feel like I did things wrong, and that it was my fault. I still struggle to realise that it was her and not me. This has really damaged my self-esteem and I am now a lot more slow to open up to people and I still feel like no one knows the real me because I'm scared that they will dislike me because of it (it's worse than it used to be. I occasionally feel like it's impossible that my friends actually like me because of that situation in my primary school. At the same time, I feel like what happened to me is nothing compared to other people and I know bullying/fake friends are common.
Can you please tell me if this is a kind of trauma. Sorry for this long rambling comment.
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sunny. from. omori
//Vent//
In one of my school grades 4th 5th or 6th i was emotionally and mentally abused by my (ex)friend.
She would belittle my feeings and say, its nothing compared to mine.
I would feel confident for once and then she would say something along the lines of, you're to skinny or is that what you're wearing?
I would try and talk about my feelings and she would just respond with, omg you're just being dramatic.
She would ditch me alot in favor for other friends and when i would ask about it she would say, well you're not as important as them or UGH, you're so clingy let me hang out with other people for once
I basically never saw her and when i would it would just be those things.
She would even ignore me when we did hang out.
There wasn't much i could do because we were in the same class.
I didn't want to switch because she was the only mental support I had.
I'm not friends with her anymore but the experience left me with all my problems today.
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//Vent//
In one of my school grades 4th 5th or 6th i was emotionally and mentally abused by my (ex)friend.
She would belittle my feeings and say, its nothing compared to mine.
I would feel confident for once and then she would say something along the lines of, you're to skinny or is that what you're wearing?
I would try and talk about my feelings and she would just respond with, omg you're just being dramatic.
She would ditch me alot in favor for other friends and when i would ask about it she would say, well you're not as important as them or UGH, you're so clingy let me hang out with other people for once
I basically never saw her and when i would it would just be those things.
She would even ignore me when we did hang out.
There wasn't much i could do because we were in the same class.
I didn't want to switch because she was the only mental support I had.
I'm not friends with her anymore but the experience left me with all my problems today.
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Daniela
I would always tense my back when I would feel like the situation became to much for me to handle emotionally, up until two months ago when others asked me about what happened my back hurt and I felt sick (I haven't been able to throw up in about 6 years so I know it's directly related to that experience, after I talked to a friend about the experience I felt relived that they didn't think I was exaggerating, now I can talk about it a bit more, I get jumpy and nervous but it's a quick improvement in comparison with other people who aren't so lucky and don't have the right environment to heal; I wouldn't say my experience was the worst but it wasn't easy either I'm just glad I've been able to better my emotional state (Of course I still have things to solve before being able to say I'm truly fine but it's a small victory I cherish) and I hope others are able to find those small victories as well in the process of healing fully.
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I would always tense my back when I would feel like the situation became to much for me to handle emotionally, up until two months ago when others asked me about what happened my back hurt and I felt sick (I haven't been able to throw up in about 6 years so I know it's directly related to that experience, after I talked to a friend about the experience I felt relived that they didn't think I was exaggerating, now I can talk about it a bit more, I get jumpy and nervous but it's a quick improvement in comparison with other people who aren't so lucky and don't have the right environment to heal; I wouldn't say my experience was the worst but it wasn't easy either I'm just glad I've been able to better my emotional state (Of course I still have things to solve before being able to say I'm truly fine but it's a small victory I cherish) and I hope others are able to find those small victories as well in the process of healing fully.
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Val
ok I went through a couple awful experiences in the last year, and I always had a feeling that I was not handling my emotions well. I even considered that they might have been traumatic experiences when my therapist hinted it. Just last week I wrote down on a piece of paper what I'm feeling lately, and I kid you not, they were all things said in this video. I decided to watch it just because it came on my yt front page, without thinking about it very much. Then I related to the first thing, and I was like 'oh, ok ahah', then I related to the second one, and I was a bit confused/scared, then I related to the third, and the forth, and my smile dropped. And then the fifth and the sixth came, and, you guessed it, they described exactly what I'm feeling. I think it's time I call my therapist lol
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ok I went through a couple awful experiences in the last year, and I always had a feeling that I was not handling my emotions well. I even considered that they might have been traumatic experiences when my therapist hinted it. Just last week I wrote down on a piece of paper what I'm feeling lately, and I kid you not, they were all things said in this video. I decided to watch it just because it came on my yt front page, without thinking about it very much. Then I related to the first thing, and I was like 'oh, ok ahah', then I related to the second one, and I was a bit confused/scared, then I related to the third, and the forth, and my smile dropped. And then the fifth and the sixth came, and, you guessed it, they described exactly what I'm feeling. I think it's time I call my therapist lol
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sum414everuakn
Because I have difficulty identifying my emotions in general, I never knew what I was going through. My parents never believed me when I described my symptoms because I was too young, despite knowing I was bullied at school. Not sure how no one made the connection, but it took a long time to heal on my own and it was only because I traveled after finishing school (at a different high school) that I could really do that. I was even shamed for wanting to see a therapist by my mother. Thankfully, I had the opportunity and time to get better, but I never even knew what was wrong. I just thought I was depressed and honestly if's sad that no one teaches about mental health in school. Thank you for making information more accessible through these videos!
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Because I have difficulty identifying my emotions in general, I never knew what I was going through. My parents never believed me when I described my symptoms because I was too young, despite knowing I was bullied at school. Not sure how no one made the connection, but it took a long time to heal on my own and it was only because I traveled after finishing school (at a different high school) that I could really do that. I was even shamed for wanting to see a therapist by my mother. Thankfully, I had the opportunity and time to get better, but I never even knew what was wrong. I just thought I was depressed and honestly if's sad that no one teaches about mental health in school. Thank you for making information more accessible through these videos!
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Christian
In my childhood i've experience every single of this things, my family its not awfull but certainly not the best, and having issues whit domestic abuse from my dad and my mom dont make the situation better, now in this stage of my life i don't think the trauma its causing effects on me, my friend told me that i should go to the psychologist, and its the first time in my life that i have one avaliable, but i just have fear. My dad say's i have nothing and my mom say im crazy for that, my friend and i have a plan where he take me to the psychologist but i just have fear of that, various people told me that i don't need it and i started to think that what happen to me, is not big deal. Im just scared. Im sorry if i don't have good inglish
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In my childhood i've experience every single of this things, my family its not awfull but certainly not the best, and having issues whit domestic abuse from my dad and my mom dont make the situation better, now in this stage of my life i don't think the trauma its causing effects on me, my friend told me that i should go to the psychologist, and its the first time in my life that i have one avaliable, but i just have fear. My dad say's i have nothing and my mom say im crazy for that, my friend and i have a plan where he take me to the psychologist but i just have fear of that, various people told me that i don't need it and i started to think that what happen to me, is not big deal. Im just scared. Im sorry if i don't have good inglish
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Jurgita
Reaching out for help. blah blah blah
It's expensive. Really goid therapists charge $300 - to $500 per session. Then, in order to actually, start healing, you need multiple weekly sessions for a few years.
How many people can afford that?
Cheap ass therapists are mostly a waste of money.
So, reaching out for help is really all or nothing thing. If you dont have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spare, it's probably best to not reach out for help at all, because cheap ass therapists most likely won't help and you'll end up having wasted your precious money.
It's very painful to hear this advice to reach out for help, when you just don't have the money. It actually makes me feel even worse.
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Reaching out for help. blah blah blah
It's expensive. Really goid therapists charge $300 - to $500 per session. Then, in order to actually, start healing, you need multiple weekly sessions for a few years.
How many people can afford that?
Cheap ass therapists are mostly a waste of money.
So, reaching out for help is really all or nothing thing. If you dont have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spare, it's probably best to not reach out for help at all, because cheap ass therapists most likely won't help and you'll end up having wasted your precious money.
It's very painful to hear this advice to reach out for help, when you just don't have the money. It actually makes me feel even worse.
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Isa
I cant believe it. I never wanted to have a trauma, but I did. I wasnt thinking and did it right away, after a few days I started to feel scared and didnt like what I was doing. I asked him to stop and everything was fine, he did stop. I healed myself, but a few days from today he texted again. hey Isa, you already know what to do
I was scared to see his message, I was frightened. I politely asked him to stop, he threatened me to share my photos, luckily my friend was there and put an end to it.
Im better but still feel shame for what I have done.
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I cant believe it. I never wanted to have a trauma, but I did. I wasnt thinking and did it right away, after a few days I started to feel scared and didnt like what I was doing. I asked him to stop and everything was fine, he did stop. I healed myself, but a few days from today he texted again. hey Isa, you already know what to do
I was scared to see his message, I was frightened. I politely asked him to stop, he threatened me to share my photos, luckily my friend was there and put an end to it.
Im better but still feel shame for what I have done.
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Wendy
All of the above! Dissociation is a big one for me, mostly because my memory center is like a mirror that was broken, glued back together, jumped on, glued together again, dropped, then pieced together but not glued because, what's the point? I have memories from prior to the traumatic brain injury, and some of them are surprisingly accurate; those are the ones that feel like a memory of watching a home video of someone else's life. Other memories are verifiably false; those feel most like real memories to me.
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All of the above! Dissociation is a big one for me, mostly because my memory center is like a mirror that was broken, glued back together, jumped on, glued together again, dropped, then pieced together but not glued because, what's the point? I have memories from prior to the traumatic brain injury, and some of them are surprisingly accurate; those are the ones that feel like a memory of watching a home video of someone else's life. Other memories are verifiably false; those feel most like real memories to me.
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Crystal
Ive never been the same since my abusive relationship I was in 4 years ago. I still feel like I just left yesterday and Im numb all the time.
I just work and come home be a mother my son is 18 now,
I just like to stay home and watch YT or documentaries thats where I feel safe I dont have a social life because I dont want one.
Its very sad I medicate and sleep at least 10 hours that way I dont eat to much. so I stay skinny but I know its fked up.
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Ive never been the same since my abusive relationship I was in 4 years ago. I still feel like I just left yesterday and Im numb all the time.
I just work and come home be a mother my son is 18 now,
I just like to stay home and watch YT or documentaries thats where I feel safe I dont have a social life because I dont want one.
Its very sad I medicate and sleep at least 10 hours that way I dont eat to much. so I stay skinny but I know its fked up.
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Divine
It's hard when part of your trauma was/is still LITERALLY being told it's all your fault, in some way, constantly
(Thanks for the nasty trigger, friendwho tried to give me a book on how I'm an awful sinner that is being punished by God because I deserve it for not forgiving my abusers when/how THEY want me to or at all. Pro tip that's toxic advice and is not okay or true)
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It's hard when part of your trauma was/is still LITERALLY being told it's all your fault, in some way, constantly
(Thanks for the nasty trigger, friendwho tried to give me a book on how I'm an awful sinner that is being punished by God because I deserve it for not forgiving my abusers when/how THEY want me to or at all. Pro tip that's toxic advice and is not okay or true)
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Left
I think I get traumatized easily. I got trauma from graduating college late, got fired so early in my first job, bought a house bc my parents told me to while I wasn't even financially capable (it was the pandemic that made me be able to save money.
The biggest impact is that I hate taking risk for even smaller thing bc I'm scared those things will be happened again
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I think I get traumatized easily. I got trauma from graduating college late, got fired so early in my first job, bought a house bc my parents told me to while I wasn't even financially capable (it was the pandemic that made me be able to save money.
The biggest impact is that I hate taking risk for even smaller thing bc I'm scared those things will be happened again
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education
Thank you everyone in the comments, for making me believe that I'll get through this!
Passing on some kindness to everyone else who is feeling unstable and stuck in trauma today. :)
I hope that the serotonin passes on to you, and so you can love yourself and others!
Feel free to talk in the comments, I'm always there for you: )
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Thank you everyone in the comments, for making me believe that I'll get through this!
Passing on some kindness to everyone else who is feeling unstable and stuck in trauma today. :)
I hope that the serotonin passes on to you, and so you can love yourself and others!
Feel free to talk in the comments, I'm always there for you: )
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Soul
I can relate to too much here, but thank you for helping me identify what's going on when I break down, and to those who are going through things like that, sincerely, don't forget that all of that was strong, but you're showing how much stronger you are to still be alive after that, it's a blessing to know to have you guys around
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I can relate to too much here, but thank you for helping me identify what's going on when I break down, and to those who are going through things like that, sincerely, don't forget that all of that was strong, but you're showing how much stronger you are to still be alive after that, it's a blessing to know to have you guys around
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Red, Dragon4
Hi, I like the video. Thank you for the information. Thanks a lot. I have a question: substance abuse among family and social relationships that cause emotional harm to the child, and that child growing with family issues is not their fault! Is there any help I could seek help from or a video understand, please.
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Hi, I like the video. Thank you for the information. Thanks a lot. I have a question: substance abuse among family and social relationships that cause emotional harm to the child, and that child growing with family issues is not their fault! Is there any help I could seek help from or a video understand, please.
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Avery210
I don't have trauma.
My parents told me I don't because they didn't mean to (so it never happened) and it wasn't as bad as kids were treated 40 years ago.
But I did get verbally/physically abused by my parents every once and a while. I got help from Children's Aid, and my teacher, so I'm good (ish) now.
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I don't have trauma.
My parents told me I don't because they didn't mean to (so it never happened) and it wasn't as bad as kids were treated 40 years ago.
But I did get verbally/physically abused by my parents every once and a while. I got help from Children's Aid, and my teacher, so I'm good (ish) now.
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psych2go
Me who has gone through trauma for over 9 years and was almost never commferted and got guilt tripped every time I brought it up, but then at 11realised something was wrong so they then looked it up in secret and realised everything: yay! Aleast now I know it's not my fault. (I'm flipping 12)
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Me who has gone through trauma for over 9 years and was almost never commferted and got guilt tripped every time I brought it up, but then at 11realised something was wrong so they then looked it up in secret and realised everything: yay! Aleast now I know it's not my fault. (I'm flipping 12)
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Interstell_
The thing is that my trauma happened when I was 8 years old, but I didn't realize at the time that it was bad. It took my 5 years years to recall the events and understand what had happened. Recalling the memories is what's hardest because I didn't fight back. How could I have known.
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The thing is that my trauma happened when I was 8 years old, but I didn't realize at the time that it was bad. It took my 5 years years to recall the events and understand what had happened. Recalling the memories is what's hardest because I didn't fight back. How could I have known.
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Jayonetta
It is my experience as a trauma survivor that I share with you. Therefore, I will write about my story as something interesting to read about. It's not something everyone has heard before. My story will be out there one day for all people to read, and I hope you'll love it!
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It is my experience as a trauma survivor that I share with you. Therefore, I will write about my story as something interesting to read about. It's not something everyone has heard before. My story will be out there one day for all people to read, and I hope you'll love it!
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Lizzy
I realized that I relate to every single one of these signs, but I don't know what trauma I went through, is it possible to go through trauma and not realize it at all and to just disconnect without knowing why?
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I realized that I relate to every single one of these signs, but I don't know what trauma I went through, is it possible to go through trauma and not realize it at all and to just disconnect without knowing why?
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Joely
i didnt think what i experienced was considered trauma until i was in hospital for dissociation, when i got through what happened it went away, not completely but it stopped being and all day everyday thing
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i didnt think what i experienced was considered trauma until i was in hospital for dissociation, when i got through what happened it went away, not completely but it stopped being and all day everyday thing
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I'm
I think the most traumatic memory I had is when I got beaten in my grandma's hand by my own father just because I miss my mom so much that I went waiting for her when she's away through night
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I think the most traumatic memory I had is when I got beaten in my grandma's hand by my own father just because I miss my mom so much that I went waiting for her when she's away through night
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Jon
Out of all of these, I related most to the dissociation. When you're traumatized your mind tends to wander because it's your body's way of distracting itself from what's really going on.
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Out of all of these, I related most to the dissociation. When you're traumatized your mind tends to wander because it's your body's way of distracting itself from what's really going on.
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Ur
humans are so incredibly strong. life is a battle and it makes things a lot more better when you realize youre never alone. we are all going through tough times and thats okay
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humans are so incredibly strong. life is a battle and it makes things a lot more better when you realize youre never alone. we are all going through tough times and thats okay
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