5 Ways To Recover From Toxic Families
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Paz
I grow up in a family where my father made me suffer a lot. He was too strict, controller, rejecting, serious, unhappy, agressive. And he was blaming me without reason. He abused psychologicaly. I was kind to him. I was trying to do my best to fix the relationship. I forgived him. I learn how to understand my emotions, how to heal myself. I learnt a looot about yoga and meditation. I still don't understand why he was like that. He created intense pain in my life. Too much. I tried to live my own life by travelling. And I met very nice people, luckyly. And he was accussing me on being crazy. On having something against him. And he made me suffer a lot, a lot. He was being rude with my mother too. And it is very sad to me. He achieved to put me in a mental institution two times. When a pshychiatrist and a psychologist said that there is no reason, that I don't need that. And he tried to take out my freedom legally. He abused psychologically of me and then he abandoned me. Confused, without self-esteem, wounded, without money or job. It has been very hard to me. I was walking feeling guilty of actions I didn't did. In yoga and meditation I found a home. A sweet home. He separated of all my family and friends. But I've found a home. And now I am working. And starting to save money. And I am free of his abuse. And I have zero contact with him. And I want to live a beautiful life. And to respect others and love myself. I wanna live the beautiful life that is in my heart. I wish everyone to be safe, protected and happy. All of us deserve respect. Namaste. I wish all of us live a beautiful life. :)
About the struggles I'm finding in my process through recover. I believe negative ideas about me that are not realistic. Just because he said it. Low self esteem. And low self confidence. Also economic and employment difficoulties. Also sometimes I fear other people. Even when I deeply wish to connect with others, make friends and so on.
But, yoga and meditation set a safe sweet space for me. Where I find true healing and balance. And I am doing a good job. And I trust myself. :)
I wish all of us can find healing.
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I grow up in a family where my father made me suffer a lot. He was too strict, controller, rejecting, serious, unhappy, agressive. And he was blaming me without reason. He abused psychologicaly. I was kind to him. I was trying to do my best to fix the relationship. I forgived him. I learn how to understand my emotions, how to heal myself. I learnt a looot about yoga and meditation. I still don't understand why he was like that. He created intense pain in my life. Too much. I tried to live my own life by travelling. And I met very nice people, luckyly. And he was accussing me on being crazy. On having something against him. And he made me suffer a lot, a lot. He was being rude with my mother too. And it is very sad to me. He achieved to put me in a mental institution two times. When a pshychiatrist and a psychologist said that there is no reason, that I don't need that. And he tried to take out my freedom legally. He abused psychologically of me and then he abandoned me. Confused, without self-esteem, wounded, without money or job. It has been very hard to me. I was walking feeling guilty of actions I didn't did. In yoga and meditation I found a home. A sweet home. He separated of all my family and friends. But I've found a home. And now I am working. And starting to save money. And I am free of his abuse. And I have zero contact with him. And I want to live a beautiful life. And to respect others and love myself. I wanna live the beautiful life that is in my heart. I wish everyone to be safe, protected and happy. All of us deserve respect. Namaste. I wish all of us live a beautiful life. :)
About the struggles I'm finding in my process through recover. I believe negative ideas about me that are not realistic. Just because he said it. Low self esteem. And low self confidence. Also economic and employment difficoulties. Also sometimes I fear other people. Even when I deeply wish to connect with others, make friends and so on.
But, yoga and meditation set a safe sweet space for me. Where I find true healing and balance. And I am doing a good job. And I trust myself. :)
I wish all of us can find healing.
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Fox
I cant even move out because Im struggling to even find employment. (So far every application I put in was rejected and with the current economy things are only gonna be worse now.
There are certain things that I can't do without risking their ire because I still live with them.
For example I was told that eventhough Im 25 years old I wasn't allowed to own firearms because mom has an irrational fear of them (btw Im VERY pro 2nd amendment in part because I wanted to be able to take control over my own safety and security. I CAN be responsible with firearms, my grandpa taught me how to use them safely. And I firmly believe that getting as many people to be responsible gun owners as possible helps to enforce their rights and protect themselves from criminals. Making more laws designed to limit an innocent person's ability to protect themselves and that criminals won't abide by anyway is wrong, not to mention unconstitutional.
They got all mad at me for buying a powerline network system because I was having alot of problems being disconnected from the internet and wouldn't let me install an ethernet cable myself after we moved and they never had someone show up to install it for me.
And sometimes it hurts that even some of my friends just tell me Im being ungrateful for saying I was the scapegoat of the family and they didn't really respect my personal boundries.
I feel like I can't trust ANYONE without being judged for it either openly or secretly.
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I cant even move out because Im struggling to even find employment. (So far every application I put in was rejected and with the current economy things are only gonna be worse now.
There are certain things that I can't do without risking their ire because I still live with them.
For example I was told that eventhough Im 25 years old I wasn't allowed to own firearms because mom has an irrational fear of them (btw Im VERY pro 2nd amendment in part because I wanted to be able to take control over my own safety and security. I CAN be responsible with firearms, my grandpa taught me how to use them safely. And I firmly believe that getting as many people to be responsible gun owners as possible helps to enforce their rights and protect themselves from criminals. Making more laws designed to limit an innocent person's ability to protect themselves and that criminals won't abide by anyway is wrong, not to mention unconstitutional.
They got all mad at me for buying a powerline network system because I was having alot of problems being disconnected from the internet and wouldn't let me install an ethernet cable myself after we moved and they never had someone show up to install it for me.
And sometimes it hurts that even some of my friends just tell me Im being ungrateful for saying I was the scapegoat of the family and they didn't really respect my personal boundries.
I feel like I can't trust ANYONE without being judged for it either openly or secretly.
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Jessica
I only wish I saw this video sooner. I moved out of my mom's house nearly 12 years ago and wished I did it sometime between the ages of 14 and 17. My mom was so controlling and other relatives in her family are also completely toxic. I feel really sorry for my grandmother. She and my uncle are the only two I speak to. I don't speak with any of my aunts because I know I'm being punished for something my mom and sister did. I don't talk to my cousins either. I was never the favorite one in this family and was only seen as second best by many including my mother. Ironically, despite my mom showing a little more favoritism towards my older sister she also mistreated her too. Slowly but surely, I'm getting rid of things I had as a kid including an old pair of khaki pants I've probably had since I was a teenager. I also got rid of some old pajamas I received from someone I used to know during my teenage years as well. The next step for me would be possibly getting a new storage basket and finally moving out of my dad's house. I personally don't like it here because we're near my old house where the abuse first started. Maybe once I move out, my dad would get the guts to leave too. He's been here for 30 years. It is time to go.
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I only wish I saw this video sooner. I moved out of my mom's house nearly 12 years ago and wished I did it sometime between the ages of 14 and 17. My mom was so controlling and other relatives in her family are also completely toxic. I feel really sorry for my grandmother. She and my uncle are the only two I speak to. I don't speak with any of my aunts because I know I'm being punished for something my mom and sister did. I don't talk to my cousins either. I was never the favorite one in this family and was only seen as second best by many including my mother. Ironically, despite my mom showing a little more favoritism towards my older sister she also mistreated her too. Slowly but surely, I'm getting rid of things I had as a kid including an old pair of khaki pants I've probably had since I was a teenager. I also got rid of some old pajamas I received from someone I used to know during my teenage years as well. The next step for me would be possibly getting a new storage basket and finally moving out of my dad's house. I personally don't like it here because we're near my old house where the abuse first started. Maybe once I move out, my dad would get the guts to leave too. He's been here for 30 years. It is time to go.
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education
only problem i have with this video is at 3: 35 when she says that there is hope your family might reflect on their actions and realize how hurtful they've been. from mine and many others' experiences, that kind of hope can be detrimental. it is way more likely that they will never realize or care about how much they hurt you, because if they did it in the first place that shows how little they care. i held onto the hope for years that my family, after years and many miles apart, would realize how they hurt me. but if anything they sunk deeper into denial and used the space and time to try and gaslight me further
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only problem i have with this video is at 3: 35 when she says that there is hope your family might reflect on their actions and realize how hurtful they've been. from mine and many others' experiences, that kind of hope can be detrimental. it is way more likely that they will never realize or care about how much they hurt you, because if they did it in the first place that shows how little they care. i held onto the hope for years that my family, after years and many miles apart, would realize how they hurt me. but if anything they sunk deeper into denial and used the space and time to try and gaslight me further
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Jessusa
I can say, that I struggle with holding on to my love for my family, even though they treated me so horribly. There were a few good times, that I hyper-focused on to make myself feel better about still loving them, even if they never seemed to truly love me. I don't think they realize this truth, but they also have a very warped perception of what love especially familial love, is. I spoke with a therapist that stated that I seem to take up for them even though they are not even there, like playing my own devil's advocate even though they don't deserve defense.
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I can say, that I struggle with holding on to my love for my family, even though they treated me so horribly. There were a few good times, that I hyper-focused on to make myself feel better about still loving them, even if they never seemed to truly love me. I don't think they realize this truth, but they also have a very warped perception of what love especially familial love, is. I spoke with a therapist that stated that I seem to take up for them even though they are not even there, like playing my own devil's advocate even though they don't deserve defense.
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Random
I live with a narcissistic family. My father caused me psychological and physical damage. He is a narcissist who insults me in public in public places and many more. They are religious extremists. I have become distrustful of myself and see myself as worthless and worthy of anyone who loves me. They decide who I will marry and they do not let me choose the right person for me. I want to live away from them, but I do not have financial independence. Unfortunately, I tried to heal myself, but I could not.
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I live with a narcissistic family. My father caused me psychological and physical damage. He is a narcissist who insults me in public in public places and many more. They are religious extremists. I have become distrustful of myself and see myself as worthless and worthy of anyone who loves me. They decide who I will marry and they do not let me choose the right person for me. I want to live away from them, but I do not have financial independence. Unfortunately, I tried to heal myself, but I could not.
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3. KingsDetail
What I did since I was 5 years old is make my own decisions without caring what my parents thought. As simple as wanting to play with a kid I played with the week prior. When I was coming up to 18, I wanted to have my own family but I didnt think about doing it the successful way. After pushing them away with my own childhood issues and their own. I was never fully able to grasp the idea of long term thinking. Always with the fear of not waking up or not making it. It was really difficult.
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What I did since I was 5 years old is make my own decisions without caring what my parents thought. As simple as wanting to play with a kid I played with the week prior. When I was coming up to 18, I wanted to have my own family but I didnt think about doing it the successful way. After pushing them away with my own childhood issues and their own. I was never fully able to grasp the idea of long term thinking. Always with the fear of not waking up or not making it. It was really difficult.
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Naruto
No. No No NO. I'm sorry some people will never see that they're horrible. People who just don't actually care about their family, working together, encouraging, and while saying because i'm so how not on the streets they are good parents that's my doing though not theirs. I just feel so alone. My family has rejected me didn't doesn't matter how well i do in school, how many scholarships i win, the awards i get, I'm still not good enough. I just want a real family. We all want that
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No. No No NO. I'm sorry some people will never see that they're horrible. People who just don't actually care about their family, working together, encouraging, and while saying because i'm so how not on the streets they are good parents that's my doing though not theirs. I just feel so alone. My family has rejected me didn't doesn't matter how well i do in school, how many scholarships i win, the awards i get, I'm still not good enough. I just want a real family. We all want that
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Eta
My mother blamed me for moving out and going away from her but I told her that if she wasn't toxic and loved me like her child I will still be close to her but her toxicity drove me far away from her and broke our relationship and communication too. I had my own children and life moved on for us and I left my past behind and I made sure I didn't repeat same pattern with my own children and now we're best friends. As for my mother, she stayed out of our lives for good.
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My mother blamed me for moving out and going away from her but I told her that if she wasn't toxic and loved me like her child I will still be close to her but her toxicity drove me far away from her and broke our relationship and communication too. I had my own children and life moved on for us and I left my past behind and I made sure I didn't repeat same pattern with my own children and now we're best friends. As for my mother, she stayed out of our lives for good.
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Saniya
Living in a toxic family can be so hard. I am aware that their behaviour is something I don't want to have. But when I do sometimes behave like them, I realise how all this toxicity is affecting me. I still have some years to leave my family. They repeat same things during every fight and I am tired of hearing all this. They don't even realise how badly it is affecting me. I want to speak up but I don't want to involve myself in all this until I move out.
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Living in a toxic family can be so hard. I am aware that their behaviour is something I don't want to have. But when I do sometimes behave like them, I realise how all this toxicity is affecting me. I still have some years to leave my family. They repeat same things during every fight and I am tired of hearing all this. They don't even realise how badly it is affecting me. I want to speak up but I don't want to involve myself in all this until I move out.
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Buaya
My older brother always scold me with no reason, he always hurt me with his toxic word making me angry and made me feel hatred over myself and it's became uncontrol. but my family always support him and tell to me to be patient over his action. i already did it but i can't handle it anymore and he always manipulate me. i always become victim over situation, they always ingore me and they don't know how it feel get toxic by him.
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My older brother always scold me with no reason, he always hurt me with his toxic word making me angry and made me feel hatred over myself and it's became uncontrol. but my family always support him and tell to me to be patient over his action. i already did it but i can't handle it anymore and he always manipulate me. i always become victim over situation, they always ingore me and they don't know how it feel get toxic by him.
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Ardacan
Best way to leaving behind a trauma is conquering so conquer it instead of running from it make yourself belive that you're strongest person who lives under the heaven go to gym start martial arts do something that anger builded up by your parent or it will devour you read Philosophy especially Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Carl gustav jung and after that someday you realize those thoughts of family can't hurt you anymore
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Best way to leaving behind a trauma is conquering so conquer it instead of running from it make yourself belive that you're strongest person who lives under the heaven go to gym start martial arts do something that anger builded up by your parent or it will devour you read Philosophy especially Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Carl gustav jung and after that someday you realize those thoughts of family can't hurt you anymore
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Githmi
I did everything to make them happy. Like cooking, cleaning and everything I can. But they always scold me. They told me that I'm not a valuable even for me or for anyone. And even they say they give me food they give me clothes and I'm doing the opposite what they say when i say something to them when they truly hurt me. What can I DO? I'M still a school child. And in My country we can't even do a job as a child.
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I did everything to make them happy. Like cooking, cleaning and everything I can. But they always scold me. They told me that I'm not a valuable even for me or for anyone. And even they say they give me food they give me clothes and I'm doing the opposite what they say when i say something to them when they truly hurt me. What can I DO? I'M still a school child. And in My country we can't even do a job as a child.
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36
just remember: just because theyre your birth family doesnt mean youre tied to them. everyone deserves people they can truly call family whoever it might be. if its not your biological family then thats ok. its not ungrateful, its truthful. this isnt super relevant to the video specifically but its a fact that i just had to put out there
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just remember: just because theyre your birth family doesnt mean youre tied to them. everyone deserves people they can truly call family whoever it might be. if its not your biological family then thats ok. its not ungrateful, its truthful. this isnt super relevant to the video specifically but its a fact that i just had to put out there
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Xx_VengeanceQueen
I'm 32 years old female still living under my father's roof. With his controlling behavior. I haven't been able to do anything living in his house I've noticed that I'm being manipulated and being criticized. Even though I'll pay rent. And the past has always haunt me. Is there a way out our to be able to fix the problem?
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I'm 32 years old female still living under my father's roof. With his controlling behavior. I haven't been able to do anything living in his house I've noticed that I'm being manipulated and being criticized. Even though I'll pay rent. And the past has always haunt me. Is there a way out our to be able to fix the problem?
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unknown
In my family my mother is so toxic and my brother is toxic too like everyone!
Treats me like I'm the burden on them. They don't even allow me to speak and they never let me explain myself they control me in every way even what I eat, watch, speak, and even wear I'm just so done
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In my family my mother is so toxic and my brother is toxic too like everyone!
Treats me like I'm the burden on them. They don't even allow me to speak and they never let me explain myself they control me in every way even what I eat, watch, speak, and even wear I'm just so done
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education
My guardian never listens to me every time I ask her something she yells at me and over time all that yelling cause stress and depression Im 17 and cant wait to move out so this depression can go away no one listens to me so once I stop feeling sad I will never trust anyone again
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My guardian never listens to me every time I ask her something she yells at me and over time all that yelling cause stress and depression Im 17 and cant wait to move out so this depression can go away no one listens to me so once I stop feeling sad I will never trust anyone again
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sleepyniteowll2
It doesn't end in your head when you're out on your own unfortunately. I moved out at 21 and it was so scary at first but 1. 5 years later I feel like a new person, who I'm supposed to be. I still have all the memories but I feel so much stronger now.
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It doesn't end in your head when you're out on your own unfortunately. I moved out at 21 and it was so scary at first but 1. 5 years later I feel like a new person, who I'm supposed to be. I still have all the memories but I feel so much stronger now.
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Meo
I'm always told that if I don't help clean the house every day after work, I won't have a place to stay even tho I'm on the lease, and they said that if I don't act the way they want me to, I'll be forced to live with my verbally and emotionally abusive father.
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I'm always told that if I don't help clean the house every day after work, I won't have a place to stay even tho I'm on the lease, and they said that if I don't act the way they want me to, I'll be forced to live with my verbally and emotionally abusive father.
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Argha
My parents are treating me as I am not there own son. As a step son. I'm so much depressed and I want good parents who will support me. And a human who will love me. I'm so much helpless. I'm in extreme pain. And they are giving me more and more pain.
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My parents are treating me as I am not there own son. As a step son. I'm so much depressed and I want good parents who will support me. And a human who will love me. I'm so much helpless. I'm in extreme pain. And they are giving me more and more pain.
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lea
This is too relevant to me. My mental health is terrible and Im always struggling to live some sort of a normal life with a head full of awful memories and recent cuts from most of my family, suicide attempt and complete empty tank of self esteem.
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This is too relevant to me. My mental health is terrible and Im always struggling to live some sort of a normal life with a head full of awful memories and recent cuts from most of my family, suicide attempt and complete empty tank of self esteem.
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Killua_Zoldyck
0: 39 so uh. how do I get rid of sharp things? I can't get rid of anything sharp I'm surrounded by them and they trigger me
3: 24 - 3: 27 if only it was just pulling out a needle from my head that'd be to easy.
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0: 39 so uh. how do I get rid of sharp things? I can't get rid of anything sharp I'm surrounded by them and they trigger me
3: 24 - 3: 27 if only it was just pulling out a needle from my head that'd be to easy.
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antreas
What about the families that blame you for everything? Families who always tell you what to do? Families who always believe in others rather than yourself? Families who make you feeling guilty?
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What about the families that blame you for everything? Families who always tell you what to do? Families who always believe in others rather than yourself? Families who make you feeling guilty?
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The
I have a toxic family too, I can't wait for me and my other friends to move out, my toxic family don't accept me for who I am and they're mean and noisy and don't care that their noises upset me
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I have a toxic family too, I can't wait for me and my other friends to move out, my toxic family don't accept me for who I am and they're mean and noisy and don't care that their noises upset me
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Prashan
I wish that if people didnt have any families at all, then their lives would be completely normal. Sometimes, we all never know, their families may be either partially toxic or fully toxic.
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I wish that if people didnt have any families at all, then their lives would be completely normal. Sometimes, we all never know, their families may be either partially toxic or fully toxic.
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