Why Making Friends Feel Impossible The Older You Get
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Date: 2025-05-31
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TheGoldNinja101
There's also my communication issues, so I can't just Strike up a conversation in person. There's this feeling that's described Shouldn't talk until being talked to, which is very limiting relative to communication in person.
The worst thing is, My parents lets me play video games a lot since I was a child. You'd ask, How are video games a bad thing Truth is, they're not, but some reasons SHOULD include HINTS of the speaker's past. I never communicated with people a lot in person, not even my family. The only thing I'm used to is I'm being ignored because I'm autistic for trying to communicate with them.
This video is okay, given the experience of being ignored a lot in the past in person. I kept asking, Did I do something wrong to deserve this I don't know why, but self isolation seems like a punishment phase in depression. There's no free will in that phase. I really wish I had a friend to hang out with, but here's a few problems. As I said, I have communication issues, and no one wants to be friends with someone who has communication issues. I have also dependency issues, which I'll try to reduce that, but I'll need a friend to help me to get through this. There are some issues I can't go through on my own.
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There's also my communication issues, so I can't just Strike up a conversation in person. There's this feeling that's described Shouldn't talk until being talked to, which is very limiting relative to communication in person.
The worst thing is, My parents lets me play video games a lot since I was a child. You'd ask, How are video games a bad thing Truth is, they're not, but some reasons SHOULD include HINTS of the speaker's past. I never communicated with people a lot in person, not even my family. The only thing I'm used to is I'm being ignored because I'm autistic for trying to communicate with them.
This video is okay, given the experience of being ignored a lot in the past in person. I kept asking, Did I do something wrong to deserve this I don't know why, but self isolation seems like a punishment phase in depression. There's no free will in that phase. I really wish I had a friend to hang out with, but here's a few problems. As I said, I have communication issues, and no one wants to be friends with someone who has communication issues. I have also dependency issues, which I'll try to reduce that, but I'll need a friend to help me to get through this. There are some issues I can't go through on my own.
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sewen1237
4: 12 that’s also a very true point. It’s hard even for an introvert but i can assure you that if you tried to do that you would get the relationship you crave so badly. And another point is that friendships are not easy to build. It’s true they’re hard but trust me it’s something you will be grateful for your life. Having this deep connection with someone after you tried harder to it is just a great feeling. If you’re an extrovert and see this comment please remember. Sometimes introverts needs some time to be social or even open with you and don’t force them in any social situation unless they want to. I know you care about this person and want him to be more connected but they just need time and some space. And also if you gain their trust you will have a very loyal and loving person. And one last thing. If they refused to talk to you that doesn’t mean they don’t want you or anything they need some time to recharge. I hope this comment helps you understand some of us introverts and hopefully you be more understanding about them. Have a wonderful day and stay hydrated
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4: 12 that’s also a very true point. It’s hard even for an introvert but i can assure you that if you tried to do that you would get the relationship you crave so badly. And another point is that friendships are not easy to build. It’s true they’re hard but trust me it’s something you will be grateful for your life. Having this deep connection with someone after you tried harder to it is just a great feeling. If you’re an extrovert and see this comment please remember. Sometimes introverts needs some time to be social or even open with you and don’t force them in any social situation unless they want to. I know you care about this person and want him to be more connected but they just need time and some space. And also if you gain their trust you will have a very loyal and loving person. And one last thing. If they refused to talk to you that doesn’t mean they don’t want you or anything they need some time to recharge. I hope this comment helps you understand some of us introverts and hopefully you be more understanding about them. Have a wonderful day and stay hydrated
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WirolfFolvert
I relate with this so much, I'm 25 years old and I barely have 3 friend, which sometimes we play some games together online, but recently this is becoming shallow
I stay silent most of the time, afraid to speak and open up, we know each other for over 8 years, but they barely know me, they don't even know that I'm a furry (one of them find out and been extremely cold, and that's mostly my fault
Each of them have their own group of friends, I don't fit in, I pretended to, but I had enough, I hardly do anything when we were together and I quit
So I'm basically someone to play with online time to time, and honestly I don't know why they still consider me.
It scares me to open up, for example whenever I play a game that I liked or watch a movie that I enjoyed, I keep that for myself if I don't know what they think about it first to avoid to be insulted, I can't keep going like that
I hope one day to meet someone I won't be afraid to be myself with, as a furry and as an artist
thanks for reading my rambling thoughts
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I relate with this so much, I'm 25 years old and I barely have 3 friend, which sometimes we play some games together online, but recently this is becoming shallow
I stay silent most of the time, afraid to speak and open up, we know each other for over 8 years, but they barely know me, they don't even know that I'm a furry (one of them find out and been extremely cold, and that's mostly my fault
Each of them have their own group of friends, I don't fit in, I pretended to, but I had enough, I hardly do anything when we were together and I quit
So I'm basically someone to play with online time to time, and honestly I don't know why they still consider me.
It scares me to open up, for example whenever I play a game that I liked or watch a movie that I enjoyed, I keep that for myself if I don't know what they think about it first to avoid to be insulted, I can't keep going like that
I hope one day to meet someone I won't be afraid to be myself with, as a furry and as an artist
thanks for reading my rambling thoughts
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sewen1237
1: 47 yes i absolutely agree with it. That’s one of the main reasons why i don’t have friends or even get any emotional support or even a little of connection. Not everyone is actually have enough time to talk to me or their loved ones because they’re too busy. It’s hurtful but it’s not that big of a deal with me. I’ve become so numb to it that i just expect it every time. But if you read this comment just know that. We all want a close and comfortable friendship with someone and i know this person is hard to find but i believe and I’m confident that you will find this someone you need in your life. Don’t give up on yourself your life your soul your presence in the life is as important as others. If you ever want to vent in with someone you have do it for the sake of yours and the other person. Maybe you encourage them to talk about their emotions. Stay hydrated and i hope i helped you out
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1: 47 yes i absolutely agree with it. That’s one of the main reasons why i don’t have friends or even get any emotional support or even a little of connection. Not everyone is actually have enough time to talk to me or their loved ones because they’re too busy. It’s hurtful but it’s not that big of a deal with me. I’ve become so numb to it that i just expect it every time. But if you read this comment just know that. We all want a close and comfortable friendship with someone and i know this person is hard to find but i believe and I’m confident that you will find this someone you need in your life. Don’t give up on yourself your life your soul your presence in the life is as important as others. If you ever want to vent in with someone you have do it for the sake of yours and the other person. Maybe you encourage them to talk about their emotions. Stay hydrated and i hope i helped you out
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MegaChriz
I've managed to make a few new friends in my 30's by joining groups with the same interest and coming together physically. But it did indeed take a lot longer than as a child. I think it is important to come together as a group often. I formed new friendships in a group in which I attend activities twice a month. In two other groups that I'm participating in, I've only got acquaintances so far. For one of them, there are activities twice a week (and only join once a month, so I could try to attend these more often to maybe form more new friendships. The other group is mostly online with only a few physical activities a year, so I guess it's harder to make real friends there.
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I've managed to make a few new friends in my 30's by joining groups with the same interest and coming together physically. But it did indeed take a lot longer than as a child. I think it is important to come together as a group often. I formed new friendships in a group in which I attend activities twice a month. In two other groups that I'm participating in, I've only got acquaintances so far. For one of them, there are activities twice a week (and only join once a month, so I could try to attend these more often to maybe form more new friendships. The other group is mostly online with only a few physical activities a year, so I guess it's harder to make real friends there.
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SuperGoose42
I am so blessed with my coworkers. I work at a restaurant/brewery. My bosses specifically hire people who are cheerful, outgoing and silly. As a result, we all get along very well, and I genuinely consider a couple of my coworkers to be friends. I look forward to work parties, we're always updating each other on our lives and goals, we play pranks on each other (bosses included, bake cookies and bring leftovers for each other. I know it sounds cliche and often isn't true, but my workplace genuinely feels like a family. And I think that is incredibly rare, and valuable. You'd have to pay me a lot to quit this job, it brings me genuine joy and fulfillment.
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I am so blessed with my coworkers. I work at a restaurant/brewery. My bosses specifically hire people who are cheerful, outgoing and silly. As a result, we all get along very well, and I genuinely consider a couple of my coworkers to be friends. I look forward to work parties, we're always updating each other on our lives and goals, we play pranks on each other (bosses included, bake cookies and bring leftovers for each other. I know it sounds cliche and often isn't true, but my workplace genuinely feels like a family. And I think that is incredibly rare, and valuable. You'd have to pay me a lot to quit this job, it brings me genuine joy and fulfillment.
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psych2go
Not too long ago, I heard someone calling my name and it was someone I went to middle school with. I mean most people would be happy knowing someone remembered them, but I knew that person only remembered me for the wrong reasons because back then I wasn’t like the popular kid. I was that weird kid that everyone made fun of. Now as I’m in therapy, I understand I was the way I was back then because I have autism. So when people remember me, I wonder if they’re just remembering the kid they made fun of. I just wish they knew I wasn’t trying to be weird. I was just doing my best, even if it didn’t look like it.
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Not too long ago, I heard someone calling my name and it was someone I went to middle school with. I mean most people would be happy knowing someone remembered them, but I knew that person only remembered me for the wrong reasons because back then I wasn’t like the popular kid. I was that weird kid that everyone made fun of. Now as I’m in therapy, I understand I was the way I was back then because I have autism. So when people remember me, I wonder if they’re just remembering the kid they made fun of. I just wish they knew I wasn’t trying to be weird. I was just doing my best, even if it didn’t look like it.
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psych2go
I always had a hard time making friends as I was always that weird kid that everyone stayed away from, but I do agree that it is easier to make friends as a kid compared to now as an adult. As time goes by, life happens and people have their own lives now. Also, it seems that your more susceptible to judgment, like even if you’re a little weird, people just weed you out. I do feel like I missed out, and I do have my regrets. But it’s never too late, I still try and I keep showing up. At least that’s my quiet strength.
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I always had a hard time making friends as I was always that weird kid that everyone stayed away from, but I do agree that it is easier to make friends as a kid compared to now as an adult. As time goes by, life happens and people have their own lives now. Also, it seems that your more susceptible to judgment, like even if you’re a little weird, people just weed you out. I do feel like I missed out, and I do have my regrets. But it’s never too late, I still try and I keep showing up. At least that’s my quiet strength.
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psych2go
Am I picky VERY! But I don't believe that's a bad thing. But that's probably my issue. Honestly i dont want to settle down. That sounds awful to me. Thinking about seeing the same people for the next 20 to 40 years gives me an existential crisis
My tribe I believe, is a group of free spirited people. And people that just love to be alive and enjoy nature and love their hobbies. In this world probably not many BUT I believe there are some.
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Am I picky VERY! But I don't believe that's a bad thing. But that's probably my issue. Honestly i dont want to settle down. That sounds awful to me. Thinking about seeing the same people for the next 20 to 40 years gives me an existential crisis
My tribe I believe, is a group of free spirited people. And people that just love to be alive and enjoy nature and love their hobbies. In this world probably not many BUT I believe there are some.
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AmericaChavez17
The worst part about adulthood is that you have no friends in any place you go. The person you talk to in class is not a friend but a classmate. The person you work on a project together in a workplace is simply a colleague. And the person that helps you get something is simply a situational ally. It's funny how a simple hi or what are you doing question might probably the longest conversation anyone can have with someone they like
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The worst part about adulthood is that you have no friends in any place you go. The person you talk to in class is not a friend but a classmate. The person you work on a project together in a workplace is simply a colleague. And the person that helps you get something is simply a situational ally. It's funny how a simple hi or what are you doing question might probably the longest conversation anyone can have with someone they like
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gianar6653
My teacher has to hear this, she can be friends with the Eas she works with. She has two kids, that are small like early toddlers. If she would like and puts in an effort, but up to her. Just thought I’d share, to any adult you can! I believe you have it in you, be you. Make friends enjoy life, don’t let your schedule take over your life. Even if it’s hard or feels impossible at first, you got this keep going. You already are
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My teacher has to hear this, she can be friends with the Eas she works with. She has two kids, that are small like early toddlers. If she would like and puts in an effort, but up to her. Just thought I’d share, to any adult you can! I believe you have it in you, be you. Make friends enjoy life, don’t let your schedule take over your life. Even if it’s hard or feels impossible at first, you got this keep going. You already are
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JackalopeVegas
You forgot one. Mental disorders sometimes make a difference as well. Having Asperger's, it was difficult for me to make friends. Those that I did make was because of my brother making them in the first place. It's because my disorder makes me miss social cues which then becomes a barrier. Perhaps you should add that as an addendum to this video.
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You forgot one. Mental disorders sometimes make a difference as well. Having Asperger's, it was difficult for me to make friends. Those that I did make was because of my brother making them in the first place. It's because my disorder makes me miss social cues which then becomes a barrier. Perhaps you should add that as an addendum to this video.
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psych2go
As a kid I wasn’t the most social person to begin with, but I remember easily being able to ask people if they were playing a game if I was free to join and they’d usually say yes. I still remember almost everyone’s names I ever had classes with, but as soon as middle school hit and you weren’t with the same people all year round everything changed
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As a kid I wasn’t the most social person to begin with, but I remember easily being able to ask people if they were playing a game if I was free to join and they’d usually say yes. I still remember almost everyone’s names I ever had classes with, but as soon as middle school hit and you weren’t with the same people all year round everything changed
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derkeckvomeck2574
My best friend was somone living 650km away so justan online friend she was the best and really made me feel happy
We had our highs and lows and still were friendly loving each other but now she is happy and got a boyfriemd and lives her life and i kinda got left behind but im happy for her and i will try to stay in contact
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My best friend was somone living 650km away so justan online friend she was the best and really made me feel happy
We had our highs and lows and still were friendly loving each other but now she is happy and got a boyfriemd and lives her life and i kinda got left behind but im happy for her and i will try to stay in contact
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gibson587
I've had the same group of friends from my military boarding school days. We kept in touch after school. Some of them went to the same college as me. Now, we're in our early 30s, most of them are married but we make time for a meet up every month or so.
Unfortunately, I have only made a few friends outside of this particular group.
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I've had the same group of friends from my military boarding school days. We kept in touch after school. Some of them went to the same college as me. Now, we're in our early 30s, most of them are married but we make time for a meet up every month or so.
Unfortunately, I have only made a few friends outside of this particular group.
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KameCrush
Although I’m not an adult yet but close, this video makes me curious about my future, whether it’ll be somewhat bright or if it’ll be dark. I imagine my future as a flickering light in the distance far from reach, however the closer and closer I get, soon the light will eventually fade into darkness.
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Although I’m not an adult yet but close, this video makes me curious about my future, whether it’ll be somewhat bright or if it’ll be dark. I imagine my future as a flickering light in the distance far from reach, however the closer and closer I get, soon the light will eventually fade into darkness.
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kayleighdriessen
Many of us we're told we should have lots of friends and eventually a spouse too, but were not taught enough on hiw to maintain our relationships with these people and that jobs and raising children are not the only things there to life. No wonder this species is going through a loneliness epidemic.
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Many of us we're told we should have lots of friends and eventually a spouse too, but were not taught enough on hiw to maintain our relationships with these people and that jobs and raising children are not the only things there to life. No wonder this species is going through a loneliness epidemic.
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Dimon12321
Unfortunately, it's not enough to leave your comfort zone. You are more dependant on both the situation you meet new people in and the people themselves, as most of them are not as friendly as they used to be in their childhood. At least, this is actual for the Eastern Europe
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Unfortunately, it's not enough to leave your comfort zone. You are more dependant on both the situation you meet new people in and the people themselves, as most of them are not as friendly as they used to be in their childhood. At least, this is actual for the Eastern Europe
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danmorley8116
Very true. I've struggled to build connections as an adult. You are right to point out the effects of social media and remote work. I enjoy the informal socializing at work and missed it when we didn't go to the office. Meetup groups can be good if you can find them.
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Very true. I've struggled to build connections as an adult. You are right to point out the effects of social media and remote work. I enjoy the informal socializing at work and missed it when we didn't go to the office. Meetup groups can be good if you can find them.
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4real17
Being the quiet kid growing up I never really had a lot of friends. Weird how now I'm in my 30's and I've made more friends and close connections than I have before. Putting yourself out there does help, it just takes meeting the right people which can take time.
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Being the quiet kid growing up I never really had a lot of friends. Weird how now I'm in my 30's and I've made more friends and close connections than I have before. Putting yourself out there does help, it just takes meeting the right people which can take time.
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